Sex and the most selfish sign you've been with

O.H. M.Y. G.O.D. My Cap FWB is so selfish when it comes to sex. I know for a fact most guys aren't like him and I've only been with him.

Cap is all about "me...Me...ME!!!". And I was the virgin and he wasn't. I tell him the things I want him to do and want to do to him and it goes through one ear and comes out of the other.

I'm going to drop him like a hot potato if it doesn't improve. I've never heard of a 19 year old guy that barely knows anything about sex. He admitted it. I feel like a perv 😢

There's probably going to be generalizations here buuuuut...

***The most selfish partner you've had, what sign were they?***

Leo. Wasn't selfish but he was just AWFUL. Like he was so boring and slow. I swear you could hear the crickets.


Haha your not a perv. Lost of men don't know anything. 🙂

The most selfish? Hmmm, I'd say Taurus. And here's why. Taurus males feel it is very important to please their partners BUT the catch is, if their partners are more spontaneous or have bigger cravings for unusual & un-routine sex drives, Taurus will not debate or change his "routineness" about his sex. Taurus believes that "what you see is what you get." When you tell a Taurus that you want the sex to be in more exciting or more spontaneous places, he'll only agree with you AND act on that request if HE has already thought about it himself. But if you're requesting something from him that he doesn't agree with or is too afraid to explore with you, then he won't do it & will try harder to make the routine sex more better. And to the woman, she's not asking for more better "basic" sex. She's asking to take sex to a new level & away from all the "basic-ness" & he won't understand this b/c in his mind, he already assumed he was fulfilling your cravings already.

Taurus IS good & bed but the boundaries of which how far they are willing to take things in order to please their partners is very small. Taurus likes to master the "basics" & if you're lucky, then they'll try all the new stuff you brought to the table. But they are so busy focusing on mastering & becoming experts in the "basic" that they can sometimes forget the big picture of what his partner wants: MORE than basic, & way beyond basic

OH MY GOD. I so agree with you about Taurus thing. Yuck.

I don't know actually. I'm so inexperienced. :/

"Leo. Wasn't selfish but he was just AWFUL. Like he was so boring and slow. I swear you could hear the crickets.

Haha your not a perv. Lost of men don't know anything."

LOL!! I sure feel like one. He told me, "You really like sex, don't you??" Well, I'm just frustrated and want to make you better!!! (He's also horrible, not only selfish).

This Cap's lack of interest in learning and giving (I'm the giver, it's about 90/10, seriously) is a MASSIVE turn-off (I'm realizing this now btw). If I were to date him, I'd probably stray, no doubt in my mind. And the only reason I keep him as my FB is because it's convenient. He lives right on the next block lol.

OMG, Krysrenee, that sounds EXACTLY like my Cap. He wants to making the already-boring routine better. What an old man. I'm going to find myself a fire sign or a Scorpio.

I feel kind of sorry for him now. He really...SUCKS lol. I wouldn't tell him that though. He's too sensitive.

😉 And that's the thing. It's not like Taurus sex isn't good at all. Oh it is but to keep doing the same thing over & over again & being close-minded about opening up to new things will eventually lead to me not being pleased at all.

It's kind of like when you see someone who is really beautiful on the outside, but once you get to truly know them & see how "ugly" they are on the inside, it makes you not think they are as beautiful anymore.

cap and sag

don't blink!!! you'll miss it lol.

^^rofl!!

"What an old man." LOL!! " I'm going to find myself a fire sign or a Scorpio." Haha nice, yeah the aqua man I dated was amazing in bed and never boring so I'm sure your bored to tears over there lol.

"Haha nice, yeah the aqua man I dated was amazing in bed and never boring so I'm sure your bored to tears over there lol."

YOU HAVE NO IDEA. I thought it would get better. Cap = dead fish. I can't wait to find myself a naughty little fire sign or Scorpio. He's going to have a fun ride on the roller coast known as Aquasun. WOO HOO!!

We're going to meet up on Friday and I started this topic today after we had planned it and he seemed kind of put off after I requested something (so ridiculously harmless in comparison to full blown sex I can't even say it. And he said, "maybe" (that's code for "No", so obvious)after I asked him, "Is that a yes?". Then I had an "Ah-Ha" moment: "Wait a minute, what about me?? What a selfish prude!!"). Ridiculous.

"Cap = dead fish" LOL I dated a virgo guy he was pretty plain too. It was kinda "uh..uh...uh..there we go..and release." Ha!

" He's going to have a fun ride on the roller coast known as Aquasun. WOO HOO!!" Haha you go girl!

" I can't wait to find myself a naughty little fire sign or Scorpio." I so know what you mean! I want a scorpio man so bad! Or an aries. I knew two awesome ones but I let them get away! Dammit!😢


"What a selfish prude!!"). Ridiculous." For real. Prude men can kiss my ass! Oh wait, they wouldn't.

Saggy but maybe that was because we were married for soooo long. But yeah just there for their own pleasure!

Prior to that 20 years ago guys were all in it for themselves, it's only these days that guys think to please the women first or that's what they are all saying anyway...maybe just bull butter!

gotta be Leo first, then Cancer, close 2nd.

My best was aries, mostly cuz the spontaneity. Aquas damn good too.

Scorps are just messed. It's more a headgame arousal.

^^^ lol yea most guys think it was great --- if they only knew how much girls faked it 🙂

I think the Taurus thing is compatibility issue like GB says... yes taurus take comfort/security but that's how they do everything else, because you give it up, you expect miracles to happen or want them to change for you? 🙂
to be open-minded means to do it someone else's way... so I think everyone's being equally self-interested and mud-slinging

compatibility is key... in or out of bed...

Virgo and Leo... both selfish and boring---no romance or imagination---blah!

the only selfish man (in sex matters) I met was an Aries/Taurus cusp.

Taurus was the most selfish but it didn't matter because he was so good that i was ALWAYS more than pleased in the process

With caps you have to take control, boss them around in the bedroom, etc and they will happily comply and excel at it, they do aim to please...

Taurus was excellent in bed. Felt like we were rutting in the earth every time, loved it. But he absolutely refused to go down on me, and if I didn't get mine during the sex, that was too bad for me.

I also found my one cancer guy to be really really selfish, or lame, or both. He just didn't really care about how it felt for me and finished too soon and didn't even mention it as he rolled over and fell asleep.

I'm going to avoid earth signs for suuuure. Blah. They're good for relationships (Cap and Taurus) but probably not for sex. Ughh...

They're good for relationships (Cap and Taurus) but probably not for sex. Ughh...

lol - so you would have sex elsewhere but go in a relationship with them? 😕

selfish=> me

if something isn't going to last, i rarely stick around...even if everything seems to be good...if i see no future, i bolt. but i'd rather call it self-preservation

"lol - so you would have sex elsewhere but go in a relationship with them?"

No. They're known for being loyal and stable but that doesn't mean *I* want them.

"Thats an aqua for you ma dear..they're a hopeless bunch"

Rofl. You really can't stand being one of the most hated signs can you?

Scratch that, I do want them BUT that means I'll have to take the good with the bad.

lmao

funny how not one person mentioned libra , they're like the safest bet in bed 😉

no one has mentioned pisces. so i guess we're very giving in bed.

never had any selfish sex yet

wow this topic makes me wanna sleep with a cappy

i've only been with 2 ppl, one was a cancer and the other a libra... i'd have to definitely say that the cancer was selfish and rather boring. i'm not ultra-kinky but i appreciate a master of his trade (know what i mean?). my libra lover was utterly selfless and was a total pleaser. the only problem he had was that he wanted to skip foreplay entirely and get right down to it. he was pretty aggressive and would do anything that turned me on (i prefer being more submissive in the bedroom and i'm a leo!). the cancer guy was all about getting his and didn't seem to care what i was getting out of it.

i'm waiting on a cap guy and i hear they are not too adventurous but very skilled at what they can do. i'm ok if he's more of the taker in the bedroom because i enjoy being the giver much more! i know what i like, where my spots are, and i know how to reach my big O just fine. it doesn't take much for me. honestly, my g-spot is hit best with the boring, old-fashioned missionary style .

Definitely capricorn and virgo.....must be the earth sign thing LOL

Best were Gemini and Leo....must be the fire sign thing 😛

Havn't had any selfish lovers, not trying too.

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Posted by No1delete2

Virgo, selfish??

No way! We'll do just about anything you want us to...

I agree! But at first you'll ask a girl to brush her teeth and to scrub herself in a burning hot shower. Just to make sure you don't get any of her germs on you. 😛

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I find this crazy, the Virgo I am so crazy about, he use to say how he "loved having me on him"....? WOW, really? He is/was a clean freak, could have eaten off his floors and yes, he was sure to shower prior to us having sex, but after, NOPE, he wanted to wear "ME"......

Oh, I almost forgot the question...duh, I had a blond moment there, most selfish Aqua, he rocked in the bedroom dont get me wrong, but he was by far the most selfish.

two of them come to think of it......yep, AQUA

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Posted by No1delete2

Virgo, selfish??

No way! We'll do just about anything you want us to...

I agree! But at first you'll ask a girl to brush her teeth and to scrub herself in a burning hot shower. Just to make sure you don't get any of her germs on you. 😛

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Silly.

That's just our master plan to get you naked and either join you in the shower or have you after you get out!

Plans within plans

this thread is so funny!

First husband. Capricorn. He was quick, horrible, selfish AND boring in bed. I never learned to fake orgasm because he KNEW that I couldn't come in 30 to 60 seconds, and wouldn't try ANYTHING new. First few times, it was flattering. ("Oh, baby - you just turn me on SO MUCH that I can't help myself! I'll make it up to you, I swear!) But that gets old really FAST! And apparently, he's not improved over the years, according to his second.. and third.. wives.
😉

Posted by Nefer
First husband. Capricorn. He was quick, horrible, selfish AND boring in bed. I never learned to fake orgasm because he KNEW that I couldn't come in 30 to 60 seconds, and wouldn't try ANYTHING new. First few times, it was flattering. ("Oh, baby - you just turn me on SO MUCH that I can't help myself! I'll make it up to you, I swear!) But that gets old really FAST! And apparently, he's not improved over the years, according to his second.. and third.. wives.
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DAMN IT! Sucks to be him or the second, third, or fourth wife.......or YOU! LOL, sorry but NO WAY!

I had the exact same issues with my Cap fwb.

He was the first guy I'd ever done anything with.



Now, I'm with a Cancer...
I'm used to being the one who has to do everything. (I'm a Pisces, I'd only been with a Cap.)
It's so weird for me now. Because my Cancer likes making sure I'm taken care of, but almost so much as where I feel like a dead fish. @___@

It is really hard to target one sign because I have had a bad and good with a Virgo and Taurus. Those top my list of worst sex.

#1 Virgo - The last virgo I was with seemed so selfish, it was all about him .....and he was an ass. Than there was college bf in my 20's where we had great sex every where and any where including in the woods where we got caught. 😛

#2 Taurus - My ex-husband was just okay. We did it enough times to produce two kids. Than after divorcing him I met this amazing Taurus ...a bit psycho ....but a bull in the sack ...huba bubba 🙂

#3 Capricorn - I don't think this one really counts ....the only issue is size was just too much for me to handle .....it was simply just painful. I was also very young 😢

#4 Pisces - Cannot keep up with my libido.

Wow ....earth signs seem to top my list. Sorry earthy men. 😢

My worst was an Aqua. His idea of foreplay was the walk up the stairs to his room (he couldn't bear the idea of having sex anywhere else either).

My best is probably a Cappy, the sexual tension was immense, I'd think about sex with him all the time, but we weren't that compatible outside the bedroom. But he was very giving, would focus on me most of the time. A Gem I dated was pretty good too actually.

The only thing I can't bear in a sexual relationship is routine. Yeah, sometimes it's nice to have sex in the 'normal' way, like when you're ill or not feeling great, but seriously, there is more than 2 positions. I like sex to be something that takes me out of the routine and mundane, I get enough of that in normal life what with working and cleaning my house :p

Aries has been the most selfish. It's good but it's all about him for the most part. We still struggle for power and it gets pretty wild sometimes.
I'm not going to say who was the best because it'll just piss me off. 😛

I find that the more I take control of things the better it is. You have to make it fun if it sucks. The "dead fish" so to speak will really liven up if you start getting REALLY heated (little bites, a bit of nails generally a bit more wild) 😉 ..... yes been there done that. It took a little work on my part but it turned out to be a little bit better then "bad".

haha Can't believe you people bumped this.



Interesting replies.


Let's just say I'm keeping away from earth signs as lovers. Sounds likes a trend and I don't want to be involved in any way.




I'm craving a fire sign right now but I'm finding myself to be extremely picky. Oh well.

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Posted by No1delete2

Virgo, selfish??

No way! We'll do just about anything you want us to...

I agree! But at first you'll ask a girl to brush her teeth and to scrub herself in a burning hot shower. Just to make sure you don't get any of her germs on you. 😛

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LMAO!! Sorry that was some funny crap right there!

Okay worst.... Taurus only because he was too routine and NOT open minded for change at all, so it became extremely boring. Second, Aqua... he was fun to party with and loved to have sex AND thought he was a porn star... sadly.... he wasnt all that!

My last bf was a Cancer... very selfish and not interested in pleasing me. He didn't even like to initiate sex, I had to. He also had trouble getting it up or keeping it up. Very frustrating!

The flip side of that though is that I'm definitely a selfish lover, I want a man who wants to please me. I do my fair share though and would not consider myself dull or a bore (maybe its because I like to talk dirty and experiment). But, a man who enjoys making me get off over and over again is a keeper in my book. (hmmm... that would be Mr. Pisces)

Posted by AquaSun
O.H. M.Y. G.O.D. My Cap FWB is so selfish when it comes to sex. I know for a fact most guys aren't like him and I've only been with him.

1. FWB is selfish sex .. that is it's definition.

2. How would a person to whom this is their first time know "for a fact" anything when it comes to sex?


lol ... kids think they know everything .... they really know nothing, not even what they say.

Wow @ libra. They usually seem like good partners.





Friends with benefits seems like one of the best social structures EVER. Now I have to do is find the right one.






And "for a fact" was an exaggeration. I was fed up when I wrote that.


But he was AWFUL, AWFUL, AWFUL. My cousin is in one right now (and has had a couple) and she's happy with it and has been for over 4 months. WTF.

hey there, a bit new here..


anyway i'd like to say that so far the most selfish sign i've been with is this sag dude who always gets off right away! like, after just a minute of it in there, boom he's already done. what gives?

and to think he's a fire sign.

well they say 1 in every 3 men have premature ejaculation problems so it probably isn't a sign thing when it comes to cumming too soon. i have even read that most men, at some point in their lives, will experience PE at least once.

i just wanted to kinda change my answer now that this thread found its way back to the top again.

cancer is still, by far, the most selfish sign i've been with!

i would also like to add that i feel soooo lucky to have a raging hot, experimental, and kinky taurus man! he can last as long as i want him to (which could be anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour). he's down for trying anything new. he wants to hear what would turn me on. there is all sorts of movement with us! we are NEVER still. it's like a cardio work out with him. that boy wears me out! no one has ever worn me out before!

Hey Leos should top this list! We're great at selfish sex 😛

Shouldn't Leos be crowned as the best lovers of the zodiac! Since we are depended on YOUR feedback we'll try harder than any other sign!

But seriousely, you'll know how much your Leo cares for you once you share bed sheets together. You'll also know if you're the love of his life or if you're replaceable. As a ground rule, we give in love and take in FWB.

"i would also like to add that i feel soooo lucky to have a raging hot, experimental, and kinky taurus man! he can last as long as i want him to (which could be anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour). he's down for trying anything new. he wants to hear what would turn me on. there is all sorts of movement with us! we are NEVER still. it's like a cardio work out with him. that boy wears me out! no one has ever worn me out before!"

i'm with you Ninja, Mna, my Taurus mission in life was to master sex and his endurance. Maybe it's the amount of gemini in his chart but he is so imaginative it's crazy. His drive matches mine it's unbeliveable how he knows and understands a womans body. NEVER boring. He isn't spontaneous so he leaves that up to me. But it's so adorable, our sex indicator is COFFE!!! it's hilarious. I get home from work early, so if i want it.. i make a pot of coffee so when he comes home, he knows it's on!!! hahaha we also flirt all day. I definitely do more asking and leading, but as soon as it's on, he is definitely the leader of activities and it's incredible how long he has trained himself to last. I was kinda almost put off how long he can ccontrol himself. Not many women was a man that can really last for hours and hours. I have to tell him..come on.. already which is hard for me cuz i'm used to just destroying men in bed. So i finally have met my match with him in bed.

The worst most selfish in my expereince is definitely Lebra men. Ya'll need to buy some books and try to at least in some way give a woman what she wants or what she doesn't evven know she wants yet!!