She cheated, and she feels bad.

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Motsureru
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Ok so my best friend was dating this one guy and apparently she really cared for him and everything. But for about a year now she's actually been crushing on one of her closer male friends. (Though I've hated him since as long as I can remember)

Then so not long ago her close male friend asks her if she'll help him babysit these kids, (The lazy butt doesn't even have a job) and her liking him so much agreed to. One thing led to another, and they end up making out.

Her close male friend then went onto MSN or something to tell...I can't remember, who, all about it. He also wrote about and told somebody else, who happens to be my and my best friends friend. So being our friend she showed us what he wrote, which made my BFF cry. (she's still crying about it actually)

We all told her she should be honest about what she did, and that her male friend was an arsehole. Agreeing to be honest she phoned her BF and told him everything, he yelled at her, called her a slut, and the waterworks began again.

Now their not together anymore, and all my friends are pretty much pissed as hell at her male friend who so rudely decided to 'kiss and tell'
I told her she did the right thing about being honest, regardless of the consequences, and that if she was smart, she'd have learned her lesson and wouldn't do it again. I also told her it was ok to hate her male friend if she wanted. (I already hated him so I wouldn't have minded) But she said that even though she was mad and upset, she didn't want to hate him, just wanted to know why he did what he did.

This male friend of hers however is such an idiotic, pimple, faced blond (No offense to any blonds out there), that he actually though that her reason for first becoming upset was because her boyfriend had broken up with her.

I don't know what advice I can give her, I've never cheated or liked two people at the same time, and normally when I choose to hate somebody, I always will.
I also don't know what actions I can take, because I'm more empathetic that sympathetic. Meaning, while most of her other friends will cry and be sad with her, I'll be giving her advice, offering to beat the crap out of somebody, or telling her jokes and getting her to laugh and smile, even if just for a few minutes.

Any advice on what I or my best friend should do?