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Single By Choice: Why Fewer American Women Are Married Than Ever Before
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an excerpt from Rebecca Traister, author of All the Single Ladies, on the declining marriage rates among adult women.
How long have you thought this through?
I reject your premise, it sounds a lot like the fox in this tale:
http://www.taleswithmorals.com/aesop-fable-the-fox-and-the-grapes.htm
Do a search on "marriage strike". Its real. But suit yourself...
http://www.taleswithmorals.com/aesop-fable-the-fox-and-the-grapes.htm
Do a search on "marriage strike". Its real. But suit yourself...
Why should boys have to meet girls halfway?
Why can't girls AND boys both get to the finish line?
Why can't girls AND boys both get to the finish line?
Posted by LadyNeptuneWe also never told girls to accept less than halfway. And yet they are.
I see this as a consequence of “girl power.”
We spent a generation telling girls they can do anything they dream of, but never at any point did anyone think to tell boys that they have to meet girls halfway.
The result is we have a generation of men who continue to believe they are entitled to all the marital, social, economic and political privileges their 1940’s counterparts had, and a generation of women who know they deserve true partnership and refuse to settle for table scraps.
Men love to blame women who who are treated poorly by men by saying it’s women’s fault for having low standards.
Well here we have statistical proof of what happens when women raise their standards.
Men don’t meet them.
Really?
I figured it was because most of us saw our parents
get divorced, and so there's no more stigma
associated with it.
The guys saw it too, so while she may be right
about the women, I don't see how the men can
be quite so deluded.
They're probably content to be single as well.
And women blame other women for having low standards, too.
Js
I figured it was because most of us saw our parents
get divorced, and so there's no more stigma
associated with it.
The guys saw it too, so while she may be right
about the women, I don't see how the men can
be quite so deluded.
They're probably content to be single as well.
And women blame other women for having low standards, too.
Js
lol guyz did you miss the part where its from an author who isnt me-s book.
just found it interesting. although one could argue that the same mother who taught her daughters to not settle for less would teach her sons how to be more.
No, I didn't miss it.
But you on some level agree with the author.
So, to clarify, i reject HER premise.
I think she is excusing the unrealistic standards that are promulgated in Western society.
Things such as (stating as some of the women who buy into the myth):
1. He can't be shorter than 6'1"
2. He needs to pull in six figures
3. He must be ripped
4. He must have a property in San Tropez, one in Vail, and has gold plated fixtures in each place
5. He has silk put in all the bathrooms at his houses for me to wipe my ass
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then take it away and cook another because I decide I didn't like the cilantro
7. He must be shaved of all unsightly body hair
8. He has to have a positive opinion of every choice I make
9. He should NEVER criticize me, but must accept and bow to every criticism I make of him
4. He has to follow all of the above while still catering to all my whims and insecurities
Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
But you on some level agree with the author.
So, to clarify, i reject HER premise.
I think she is excusing the unrealistic standards that are promulgated in Western society.
Things such as (stating as some of the women who buy into the myth):
1. He can't be shorter than 6'1"
2. He needs to pull in six figures
3. He must be ripped
4. He must have a property in San Tropez, one in Vail, and has gold plated fixtures in each place
5. He has silk put in all the bathrooms at his houses for me to wipe my ass
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then take it away and cook another because I decide I didn't like the cilantro
7. He must be shaved of all unsightly body hair
8. He has to have a positive opinion of every choice I make
9. He should NEVER criticize me, but must accept and bow to every criticism I make of him
4. He has to follow all of the above while still catering to all my whims and insecurities
Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
women won't let men be men anymore!!
Posted by JahliaVirgoPosted by QuantumIs your venus in Libra?
Why should boys have to meet girls halfway?
Why can't girls AND boys both get to the finish line?click to expand
Posted by AriesLoveGood luck in your search. 🙂Posted by CancerOnTheCuspHey half of those are my prerequisites.
No, I didn't miss it.
But you on some level agree with the author.
So, to clarify, i reject HER premise.
I think she is excusing the unrealistic standards that are promulgated in Western society.
Things such as (stating as some of the women who buy into the myth):
1. He can't be shorter than 6'1"
2. He needs to pull in six figures
3. He must be ripped
4. He must have a property in San Tropez, one in Vail, and has gold plated fixtures in each place
5. He has silk put in all the bathrooms at his houses for me to wipe my ass
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then take it away and cook another because I decide I didn't like the cilantro
7. He must be shaved of all unsightly body hair
8. He has to have a positive opinion of every choice I make
9. He should NEVER criticize me, but must accept and bow to every criticism I make of him
4. He has to follow all of the above while still catering to all my whims and insecurities
Sorry, it doesn't work that way.click to expand
Posted by firebunnyI think most would be fine with it. The problem is 99% of time "men being men" ends up with said men using their masculinity to infringe on the safety and happiness of women. Proof of this are countries where "men are being men". The women are treated worse than dogs.
women won't let men be men anymore!!
The best thing about living in the first world is that generally we're all free to live our lives as we see fit and travel the path we choose for ourselves.
Sometimes we can travel multiple paths at once since they run parallel.
Sometimes paths diverge and we have to choose one or the other.
Sometimes being an independent and career driven woman or man diverges from marriage. You just need to decide which is more important to you.
Whoever told women AND men that we could "have it all" in life was a snake oil salesmen IMO.
Sometimes we can travel multiple paths at once since they run parallel.
Sometimes paths diverge and we have to choose one or the other.
Sometimes being an independent and career driven woman or man diverges from marriage. You just need to decide which is more important to you.
Whoever told women AND men that we could "have it all" in life was a snake oil salesmen IMO.
Posted by Prince_PiscesWhy I'm not typing. Lol.
I feel like this thread is going to be a mess LOL!
I wrote this on my facebook... You need to grow up... Women think this is ok... no men are tired of being fucked over... the Media is out of control. So go be by yourself forever angry or turn lesbian but not all men are pigs. You just are apparently really bad at picking like most of the people that complain.
I posted this in my face book under friends.
https://www.yahoo.com/beauty/kit-harington-faces-backlash-for-saying-men-face-162925294.html
I will often get asked how I “learned astrology so well.” In reality people could read a million books on it and still not understand how to actively apply it in day-to-day life. I believe that is usually the true under lining question. In reality astrology is basically yoga… Vedic astrology is actually practiced in “Ancient Hinduism, Vedism, Bramanism, and Vedic Brahmanism” (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historical_Vedic_religion)… it is a tool to help people understand the true reality beyond what we can see void of emotion if read correctly. Yoga focuses on the breath work to better control ones own actions and cultivates a higher awareness to think/breath before we speak. By honoring our own energy first… by breathing… we retain better emotional stability to correctly see a situation for what it truly is… After all “it is what it is.” Yoga is an active practice that is far from just a set of movements. Astrology… is also an active practice… Often with out seeing a persons chart I can pick up a characteristic of a dominant placement. Reverse astrology by identifying dominant energy vibes… This can allow me to understand their energy better and communicate at times with a heighted awareness. It should never be used to manipulation others for one own means of course. The “Myers Briggs” personality test can also be used in the same nature but I personally feel it is far behind astrology. Often a single word or even a look can be felt far stronger then a an entire book. So pointed it is like a needle that penetrates be low the skin/surface level. Different books/movies/hobbies are more appealing to different people and each person will relate better to a style of communication per-dominate energy in a chart. Now just because a person looks like something does not mean that is how they really are underneath it all. People will often judge and make assumptions based on outer appearance solely rather it is race, style of dress, sound of a voice, car someone drives, length/style of hair and so on. This is sometimes in-steeled though some ones up bringing, education, culture, and subconsciously feel/vibe of someone energy. It is always important to evaluate some ones personal vibration. If a person is tightening their vibration they are mastering karmatic lessons (lessons of purpose and true value, Karma equals purpose).
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I posted this in my face book under friends.
https://www.yahoo.com/beauty/kit-harington-faces-backlash-for-saying-men-face-162925294.html
I will often get asked how I “learned astrology so well.” In reality people could read a million books on it and still not understand how to actively apply it in day-to-day life. I believe that is usually the true under lining question. In reality astrology is basically yoga… Vedic astrology is actually practiced in “Ancient Hinduism, Vedism, Bramanism, and Vedic Brahmanism” (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historical_Vedic_religion)… it is a tool to help people understand the true reality beyond what we can see void of emotion if read correctly. Yoga focuses on the breath work to better control ones own actions and cultivates a higher awareness to think/breath before we speak. By honoring our own energy first… by breathing… we retain better emotional stability to correctly see a situation for what it truly is… After all “it is what it is.” Yoga is an active practice that is far from just a set of movements. Astrology… is also an active practice… Often with out seeing a persons chart I can pick up a characteristic of a dominant placement. Reverse astrology by identifying dominant energy vibes… This can allow me to understand their energy better and communicate at times with a heighted awareness. It should never be used to manipulation others for one own means of course. The “Myers Briggs” personality test can also be used in the same nature but I personally feel it is far behind astrology. Often a single word or even a look can be felt far stronger then a an entire book. So pointed it is like a needle that penetrates be low the skin/surface level. Different books/movies/hobbies are more appealing to different people and each person will relate better to a style of communication per-dominate energy in a chart. Now just because a person looks like something does not mean that is how they really are underneath it all. People will often judge and make assumptions based on outer appearance solely rather it is race, style of dress, sound of a voice, car someone drives, length/style of hair and so on. This is sometimes in-steeled though some ones up bringing, education, culture, and subconsciously feel/vibe of someone energy. It is always important to evaluate some ones personal vibration. If a person is tightening their vibration they are mastering karmatic lessons (lessons of purpose and true value, Karma equals purpose).
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historical_Vedic_religion
So you have the link...
it is a tool to help people understand the true reality beyond what we can see void of emotion if read correctly. Yoga focuses on the breath work to better control ones own actions and cultivates a higher awareness to think/breath before we speak. By honoring our own energy first… by breathing… we retain better emotional stability to correctly see a situation for what it truly is… After all “it is what it is.” Yoga is an active practice that is far from just a set of movements. Astrology… is also an active practice… Often with out seeing a persons chart I can pick up a characteristic of a dominant placement. Reverse astrology by identifying dominant energy vibes… This can allow me to understand their energy better and communicate at times with a heighted awareness. It should never be used to manipulation others for one own means of course. The “Myers Briggs” personality test can also be used in the same nature but I personally feel it is far behind astrology. Often a single word or even a look can be felt far stronger then a an entire book. So pointed it is like a needle that penetrates be low the skin/surface level. Different books/movies/hobbies are more appealing to different people and each person will relate better to a style of communication per-dominate energy in a chart. Now just because a person looks like something does not mean that is how they really are underneath it all. People will often judge and make assumptions based on outer appearance solely rather it is race, style of dress, sound of a voice, car someone drives, length/style of hair and so on. This is sometimes in-steeled though some ones up bringing, education, culture, and subconsciously feel/vibe of someone energy. It is always important to evaluate some ones personal vibration. If a person is tightening their vibration they are mastering karmatic lessons (lessons of purpose and true value, Karma equals purpose). These lessons will release rewards but most of these come with work or a testing hardship to understand. If a person is lowering there vibration they will have bad rewards or set backs because they keep making the same mistakes. It shows a person may have too much emotional ego often not except these greater karmatic lessons or seeing it for what it really is...
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So you have the link...
it is a tool to help people understand the true reality beyond what we can see void of emotion if read correctly. Yoga focuses on the breath work to better control ones own actions and cultivates a higher awareness to think/breath before we speak. By honoring our own energy first… by breathing… we retain better emotional stability to correctly see a situation for what it truly is… After all “it is what it is.” Yoga is an active practice that is far from just a set of movements. Astrology… is also an active practice… Often with out seeing a persons chart I can pick up a characteristic of a dominant placement. Reverse astrology by identifying dominant energy vibes… This can allow me to understand their energy better and communicate at times with a heighted awareness. It should never be used to manipulation others for one own means of course. The “Myers Briggs” personality test can also be used in the same nature but I personally feel it is far behind astrology. Often a single word or even a look can be felt far stronger then a an entire book. So pointed it is like a needle that penetrates be low the skin/surface level. Different books/movies/hobbies are more appealing to different people and each person will relate better to a style of communication per-dominate energy in a chart. Now just because a person looks like something does not mean that is how they really are underneath it all. People will often judge and make assumptions based on outer appearance solely rather it is race, style of dress, sound of a voice, car someone drives, length/style of hair and so on. This is sometimes in-steeled though some ones up bringing, education, culture, and subconsciously feel/vibe of someone energy. It is always important to evaluate some ones personal vibration. If a person is tightening their vibration they are mastering karmatic lessons (lessons of purpose and true value, Karma equals purpose). These lessons will release rewards but most of these come with work or a testing hardship to understand. If a person is lowering there vibration they will have bad rewards or set backs because they keep making the same mistakes. It shows a person may have too much emotional ego often not except these greater karmatic lessons or seeing it for what it really is...
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People will guess each other’s Sun sign and rising but not often the moon sign. The rising sign is how we seem to the world and does directly relate to outer image/first impressions. Sun is more how surface level friends and kind of close friends/colleague… The moon/mind how ever is how we think and requires the correct attention… or looking and understand with no ill/selfish emotional goals and how they would want to be understood. These are the three dominant places to start looking when looking at a chart. Different placements will have an over all affect if it is strong enough, so although studying placements are important always seeing how it relates to the rest of the chart is more important. Influences can be evened out or cancelled out to a degree.
It is showing this concept that is particular hard. I saw an article that inspired me though so here I am… lol
Kit Harington Note He is a rising Aries with Mars in the 12 house which represents the mind in pisces the sign of the mind. (http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Kit_Harington) Kit Harington took an interview and commented on Hollywood sexism and even male sexism. I would have thought any woman/man would be happy to have the vocal support of any celeb with out passing judgment base on assumptions. He correctly describe what real sexism is… “Objectification.” Objectification- (https://www.google.com/#safe=off&q=objectification) Jennifer Lawrence comment on equal pay which is the means of buying objects. Objectification is to treat someone as a thing… void of all emotion and can be posed/bought by someone.
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It is showing this concept that is particular hard. I saw an article that inspired me though so here I am… lol
Kit Harington Note He is a rising Aries with Mars in the 12 house which represents the mind in pisces the sign of the mind. (http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Kit_Harington) Kit Harington took an interview and commented on Hollywood sexism and even male sexism. I would have thought any woman/man would be happy to have the vocal support of any celeb with out passing judgment base on assumptions. He correctly describe what real sexism is… “Objectification.” Objectification- (https://www.google.com/#safe=off&q=objectification) Jennifer Lawrence comment on equal pay which is the means of buying objects. Objectification is to treat someone as a thing… void of all emotion and can be posed/bought by someone.
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In reality some people relate how much attention someone gets though objectification as there worth and like it/embrace it. This often how Narcissistic people are because they don’t care about anyone’s feelings but there own. When Kit said this it shows he correctly understand the real underlining issue with sexism which goes far beyond money “…At some points during photoshoots when I’m asked to strip down, I felt that.“
This shows both great understanding and idealism. His vibration is strong to come out and be comfortable speaking about such a miss commonly represent topic. The idealism here was an “Aries thing.” I objectively looked at the picture and he had physical characteristics of an Aries as well. If a person started to look up celeb’s on Google image search there will be common characteristic which will relate to the Rising or Sun placements predominately. Based on his job and actor I new his chart would have strong water placements as well. Due to a general darker hue and vibe I got Scorpio ish for sure, which only backs his Aries, dominate traits as well. Aries and Scorpio are both ruled by Mars. Mars/Aries are the solders of the zodiac… often hold more jobs as police officers, military, firemen, and so on. However a solder that believes strongly in the “ideals” he is fighting for will always be far stronger then any mercenary just in it for his own selfish desires. Rather people would expect it or not I would say he is a true “spiritual warrior.” Seeking the true meanings behind actions and motivations of not only individual/groups but also the over all world. I would say he has a natural higher awareness and understanding of things. There are many lower vibrations of every type of energy. Including the fire Aries nature and Scorpio. That is why judging someone by their actions and the “fruit of there life” aka karmatic rewards from lessons learned is more important then just based on sign or astrological points.
Holding one’s self accountable for all their actions with any self justifications is never an easy thing to do. I personally work on this daily.
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This shows both great understanding and idealism. His vibration is strong to come out and be comfortable speaking about such a miss commonly represent topic. The idealism here was an “Aries thing.” I objectively looked at the picture and he had physical characteristics of an Aries as well. If a person started to look up celeb’s on Google image search there will be common characteristic which will relate to the Rising or Sun placements predominately. Based on his job and actor I new his chart would have strong water placements as well. Due to a general darker hue and vibe I got Scorpio ish for sure, which only backs his Aries, dominate traits as well. Aries and Scorpio are both ruled by Mars. Mars/Aries are the solders of the zodiac… often hold more jobs as police officers, military, firemen, and so on. However a solder that believes strongly in the “ideals” he is fighting for will always be far stronger then any mercenary just in it for his own selfish desires. Rather people would expect it or not I would say he is a true “spiritual warrior.” Seeking the true meanings behind actions and motivations of not only individual/groups but also the over all world. I would say he has a natural higher awareness and understanding of things. There are many lower vibrations of every type of energy. Including the fire Aries nature and Scorpio. That is why judging someone by their actions and the “fruit of there life” aka karmatic rewards from lessons learned is more important then just based on sign or astrological points.
Holding one’s self accountable for all their actions with any self justifications is never an easy thing to do. I personally work on this daily.
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I will say I did pick this because it was very easy for me to relate because I have similar influences in my chart. Although I think he is far better looking then myself… after all he is an actor and I would not assume to think I understood more then him either purely based on just the info from this page and his chart. I would say he and Emma Watson (Aries Sun) also carries the same energy of idealism as Kit. http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Emma_Watson This energy/vibe that goes with these types of placements regardless of a persons Gender. They do have some of the same features although both very much male and female. I believe during this new age of Aquarius sexism will be better address over time as education on any subject by nature raises awareness/understanding.
Grow up... and maybe try getting to know people before you date... if you take a little time like a month or 2 before you sleep with them you will find out if they are a good man
Good Luck with that...
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Grow up... and maybe try getting to know people before you date... if you take a little time like a month or 2 before you sleep with them you will find out if they are a good man
Good Luck with that...
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Posted by tizianiRealistic AI dolls will give a new meaning to "pulling the plug" in the final years of life.
Well men who love to blame women are laughable anyway.
That doesn't mean that all men have to be in relationships. We're free to be single too.
Personally I think a lot of it is just down to the fact there are too many realistic AI dolls now.
And in this country marriage has gone up for the last decade, divorce has gone down. Marriages are still ending but they're not decreasing. Marriage isn't dying here it's just more frequent and shorter lived.
"Bish won't shut up. Pull the plug, nurse."
Posted by exxtasyxThat.
Men have also changed for the worst but the biggest transformation belongs to women.
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspAgree...
No, I didn't miss it.
But you on some level agree with the author.
So, to clarify, i reject HER premise.
I think she is excusing the unrealistic standards that are promulgated in Western society.
Things such as (stating as some of the women who buy into the myth):
1. He can't be shorter than 6'1"
2. He needs to pull in six figures
3. He must be ripped
4. He must have a property in San Tropez, one in Vail, and has gold plated fixtures in each place
5. He has silk put in all the bathrooms at his houses for me to wipe my ass
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then take it away and cook another because I decide I didn't like the cilantro
7. He must be shaved of all unsightly body hair
8. He has to have a positive opinion of every choice I make
9. He should NEVER criticize me, but must accept and bow to every criticism I make of him
4. He has to follow all of the above while still catering to all my whims and insecurities
Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
I am not a bad looking 5'11" and 3/4 basically 6 foot. I have been ripped and was actually a cook. I actually do pull in 6 figures... Bottom line I don't want a woman that thinks she is all that...
I actually can buy a house here which I live in an expensive place but think the market is to high. I don't want to buy in bad area..
I do actually groom my hair but I keep my arm... leg... and get as much of my back which is not that much. I did not want to spend money to have it removed right this min... I do prefer to shave my chest and wish it was gone.
Yes that is a big one about being only positive to stupid choices... That is not being real and guys that just want pussy in for short term... This is the biggest thing girls can't take I treat women equally better looking or not unless i am in a relationship... I don't expect a model but I except her to be active and not fat which is 20 percent extra body weight and can cause major heath problems... I still have to be attracted.
Yes girls think that a man must do what ever they say often... again not all girls are like this just ones that buy into what they think are equal rights which is basically not equal for men...
10... label as 4 by mistake I guess because I don't fit a free or even though I am really close girls think I am not there speed.. if they enjoy being objectified and that is how they find there worth.
I am single by choice last woman I date was 36 dated basically a guy that fit all of that but would not marry her after 8 years before me... I said sorry I am not ready to have kids and dumped her because she would not get on birth control for a year before I would consider having kids. She was a former run way model and was extremely attr
attractive...
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Posted by firebunnyagree not all but most... or they date really bad men...
women won't let men be men anymore!!
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Posted by Infinite84 was a mistype when I was making out my list.Posted by CancerOnTheCusp9 and then 4 again? Was that on purpose?
No, I didn't miss it.
But you on some level agree with the author.
So, to clarify, i reject HER premise.
I think she is excusing the unrealistic standards that are promulgated in Western society.
Things such as (stating as some of the women who buy into the myth):
1. He can't be shorter than 6'1"
2. He needs to pull in six figures
3. He must be ripped
4. He must have a property in San Tropez, one in Vail, and has gold plated fixtures in each place
5. He has silk put in all the bathrooms at his houses for me to wipe my ass
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then take it away and cook another because I decide I didn't like the cilantro
7. He must be shaved of all unsightly body hair
8. He has to have a positive opinion of every choice I make
9. He should NEVER criticize me, but must accept and bow to every criticism I make of him
4. He has to follow all of the above while still catering to all my whims and insecurities
Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
I have high standards... but none are as stated in your list. That list is quite petty and superficial. With a list like that... I could see major issues emerging indeed.click to expand
And yes, the list is superficial but drawn from from actual responses. (Speaking of which (no offense) have you actually read some of the posts on this website?)
Make of it what you will.
I think you meant...
1. he can't freak out if she's is taller than him
2.he needs to contribute to the household in someway...
3.he needs to be attract to said person
4.he needs to prepared to help with child raising and cleaning the house
5.he at least needs have toilet paper to wipe his own ass lol
6.he has to at least be able to make a bowl or cereal or cook some noodles for godsake!
7.If he doesn't want to shave he shouldn't ask her to shave?
8.he must be honest of the decisions that I make-and personally he needs to be gentle with me lol
9.We must love each other as we are...and push each other to be better people
10. Even if he follows all those rules he should still expect problems cause we are humans and no one is perfect
this is the only way this will work...
1) I have dated taller women... Did not bother me I actually like long legs but not always needed... and leg vs... over all height always a give and take.
2) I do all my own wash clean and cook now... never expected a women to do anything for me... However if she stays at home and I pay for everything or has a part time job that does not make much money then she should pull more weight at home. Of course I don't live with a women that quick.
3) Most women find me attractive to some point some go nutz over others think I am attractive but not for them... Never had a women say or heard from other that I was ugly. I had pictures up before of myself many women love them...
4) I except to be involved with any of my kids... however if I make more money and support the family and she does not and has more time then she will need to pull enough weight with money to hire a nanny or something...
5) I alway have TP costco pack
6) I actually was a cook and eat reasonable healthy with exception of a few beers and some foods every now and then. I have always been a better cook then whoever I was with.
7) I can agree with the shaving part with in reason...
8) I would say I am this unless I feel I am being taken advantage of for money... or place to stay... or walked all over. I believe people can communicate open and honestly. Women just often think standing up for themselves and arguing means you can't even try to see the other side or meet 1/2 which I am always willing.
9) I think that being with the right person will naturally push you to be better. I have learned things from all my x that I still practice today. I think there is nothing wrong with at lest being open to change and trying new things. However men need there men time to do things with there friends if you don't enjoy some of our activities.
10) Yes this is true... However women usually are lazy about looking and getting to know men before they sleep with them so they often try to use sex to control them. Don't sleep with a man until you really know them min a month. Often time a grade A player can keep it up for 6 months to a year if a girl is stupid.
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1. he can't freak out if she's is taller than him
2.he needs to contribute to the household in someway...
3.he needs to be attract to said person
4.he needs to prepared to help with child raising and cleaning the house
5.he at least needs have toilet paper to wipe his own ass lol
6.he has to at least be able to make a bowl or cereal or cook some noodles for godsake!
7.If he doesn't want to shave he shouldn't ask her to shave?
8.he must be honest of the decisions that I make-and personally he needs to be gentle with me lol
9.We must love each other as we are...and push each other to be better people
10. Even if he follows all those rules he should still expect problems cause we are humans and no one is perfect
this is the only way this will work...
1) I have dated taller women... Did not bother me I actually like long legs but not always needed... and leg vs... over all height always a give and take.
2) I do all my own wash clean and cook now... never expected a women to do anything for me... However if she stays at home and I pay for everything or has a part time job that does not make much money then she should pull more weight at home. Of course I don't live with a women that quick.
3) Most women find me attractive to some point some go nutz over others think I am attractive but not for them... Never had a women say or heard from other that I was ugly. I had pictures up before of myself many women love them...
4) I except to be involved with any of my kids... however if I make more money and support the family and she does not and has more time then she will need to pull enough weight with money to hire a nanny or something...
5) I alway have TP costco pack
6) I actually was a cook and eat reasonable healthy with exception of a few beers and some foods every now and then. I have always been a better cook then whoever I was with.
7) I can agree with the shaving part with in reason...
8) I would say I am this unless I feel I am being taken advantage of for money... or place to stay... or walked all over. I believe people can communicate open and honestly. Women just often think standing up for themselves and arguing means you can't even try to see the other side or meet 1/2 which I am always willing.
9) I think that being with the right person will naturally push you to be better. I have learned things from all my x that I still practice today. I think there is nothing wrong with at lest being open to change and trying new things. However men need there men time to do things with there friends if you don't enjoy some of our activities.
10) Yes this is true... However women usually are lazy about looking and getting to know men before they sleep with them so they often try to use sex to control them. Don't sleep with a man until you really know them min a month. Often time a grade A player can keep it up for 6 months to a year if a girl is stupid.
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Posted by exxtasyxI agree with alot of this but depends on what women... buy into this... My problem is I am not super religious... so I don't really want to go to church because I don't believe the same things...
Men have also changed for the worst but the biggest transformation belongs to women.
They were taught girl power, be strong, be sexual, be free, etc. The stigma around divorce is almost completely gone too. It's not longer embarrassing or shameful to get a divorce, it's common now.
A modern day woman is more into her career then learning how to cook, be clean, cater to her husband and have the qualities that kept marriages alive. And even though there's still a lot of slut shaming, women have become way more promiscuous, have FWB's and put sex over a secure relationship.
Women have rebelled.
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Posted by sunkisses26Its a choice.
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Don't berate a man for holding the elevator door for you while telling him in the same breath that you expect him to pay for lunch.
Posted by sunkisses26Sunkisses26
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Bottom line if a woman has kids she will have to a point. That is why child support exist but women choose men who often run from that... Also it is abused by women that will not marry because they still want the money.
I have always been willing to be 50% on any choices but not 51% to her and me 49% .
By the way I answered all your question in a post before...
The answer is everyone needs to get to know eachother better before sleeping with one another... many men are primal only want sex. Women are tough now sex is liberating them because it teaches them to be like the worst men... players... It is not socially acceptable for either side even more so when kids are involved. I know many girls I have dated for a few days that I could smell gold digger or just wanted to be taken care of or refused to get a job that they can actually support themselves with out parts.
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Posted by sunkisses26Some women are too needed don't realize men talk about other things besides women... Actually like to go out with friends to watch sporting events. If you don't enjoy it or can't understand why it is nice just to go out with the guys then fine. I have never been the type of guy to go out till 2 am when I am in a relationship and actually out grown most of that by the rip age of 32. I don't think it is a place where mature people meet if they actually want to date. It is more a meet market that women go to score free drinks. If they sleep with a man it is normally because they got way drunk or he is model attractive and would never stay with her after...Posted by piscesmoon2what does that even mean....Posted by firebunnyagree not all but most... or they date really bad men...
women won't let men be men anymore!!
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Posted by sunkisses26Taking turns as you first start to date then it should just be easy to kind keep in check if you are both realistic... however I have only been in a relationship with one women that actually did this... The 36 year old that wanted kids in less then a year... although I did date her for 6 months.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspwho does that —? like who? and sir I am a card carrying feminist and I have NEVER done this....like ever...Posted by sunkisses26Its a choice.
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Don't berate a man for holding the elevator door for you while telling him in the same breath that you expect him to pay for lunch.
if someone holds the door open for me...I just say thank you....
and no one expects the man to pay for lunch? we can take turns...we can go dutch lol .....click to expand
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Posted by sunkisses26I like to think it is a vibration... of how we handle our placements... I would say it is more both your Scorpio moon as well as cancer sun... They are both very feeling signs... so you know if someone is right because it is easy for you to feel how they are.Posted by piscesmoon2I saw your answers and your ahead of the game ...from most of the men that I know...😄 and as far having casual sex I'm sure some find it liberating and I have nothing against it.... I just can't separate my tender feelings from the physical lol 🙂 I blame soft cancer sun.....Posted by sunkisses26Sunkisses26
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Bottom line if a woman has kids she will have to a point. That is why child support exist but women choose men who often run from that... Also it is abused by women that will not marry because they still want the money.
I have always been willing to be 50% on any choices but not 51% to her and me 49% .
By the way I answered all your question in a post before...
The answer is everyone needs to get to know eachother better before sleeping with one another... many men are primal only want sex. Women are tough now sex is liberating them because it teaches them to be like the worst men... players... It is not socially acceptable for either side even more so when kids are involved. I know many girls I have dated for a few days that I could smell gold digger or just wanted to be taken care of or refused to get a job that they can actually support themselves with out parts.
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Posted by sunkisses26I have experienced it and in future encounters, allowed the door to slam shut.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspwho does that —?.Posted by sunkisses26Its a choice.
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Don't berate a man for holding the elevator door for you while telling him in the same breath that you expect him to pay for lunch.click to expand
Posted by firebunnyThank you... I will be back after yoga to see how this goes... I do it all the time at my yoga studio... most women are to busy with guys that promise the world and have sex and then don't want a relationship they wonder how there heart is broken. It is easy many have a nice body and know it so they want as many as they can... girls lust after the idea of them... even though it is normally a fake image... I am also not a Dem or rep. I believe they are all corrupt. Hillary is living proof of that... as well as many republicans too...
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Posted by sunkisses26Yes most guys would have lied and tried to bone her as long as they can... I did not do this because I was honoring both her and my personal vibrations.Posted by piscesmoon2well at least she was honest about what she wanted right? better to tell you upfront what she wanted than to make you guess.....or lure you in under false pretense?Posted by sunkisses26Taking turns as you first start to date then it should just be easy to kind keep in check if you are both realistic... however I have only been in a relationship with one women that actually did this... The 36 year old that wanted kids in less then a year... although I did date her for 6 months.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspwho does that —? like who? and sir I am a card carrying feminist and I have NEVER done this....like ever...Posted by sunkisses26Its a choice.
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Don't berate a man for holding the elevator door for you while telling him in the same breath that you expect him to pay for lunch.
if someone holds the door open for me...I just say thank you....
and no one expects the man to pay for lunch? we can take turns...we can go dutch lol .....
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Posted by sunkisses26I hold the door for everyone the same have gotten dirty looks form x's if a girl was even somewhat attractive and even one time just cuz.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspwell thats just rude!!!Posted by sunkisses26I have experienced it and in future encounters, allowed the door to slam shut.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspwho does that —?.Posted by sunkisses26Its a choice.
@piscesmoon2
it just feels like a double standard ....women won't let men be men...
men don't want women to be totally depend on them for their financial, emotional and physical happiness ....yet it seems like they freak out at the idea of a woman being an equal partner with them?
Don't berate a man for holding the elevator door for you while telling him in the same breath that you expect him to pay for lunch.click to expand
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Posted by Prince_PiscesI'm a jackson pollock fan.
I feel like this thread is going to be a mess LOL!
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspnah I never said whether I agreed or disagreed. just read this book and thought it was an interesting viewpoint. also I wanted to be entertained while I dug into my sushi and beer
But you on some level agree with the author.
I don't give a fuck. Let's the world turn to meaningless rust just like your kitchen
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Posted by tiziani
Well men who love to blame women are laughable anyway.
That doesn't mean that all men have to be in relationships. We're free to be single too.
Personally I think a lot of it is just down to the fact there are too many realistic AI dolls now.
And in this country marriage has gone up for the last decade, divorce has gone down. Marriages are still ending but they're not decreasing. Marriage isn't dying here it's just more frequent and shorter lived.
*blink*
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Posted by QuantumI like to believe there is no finish line. Just an endless field of grass.
Why should boys have to meet girls halfway?
Why can't girls AND boys both get to the finish line?
Posted by LillyPetalIndeed.Posted by QuantumI like to believe there is no finish line. Just an endless field of grass.
Why should boys have to meet girls halfway?
Why can't girls AND boys both get to the finish line?click to expand
Marriage is not a destination.
Nor a social competition.
Posted by Montgomerydon't laugh at my future wife like that!Posted by tiziani
Well men who love to blame women are laughable anyway.
That doesn't mean that all men have to be in relationships. We're free to be single too.
Personally I think a lot of it is just down to the fact there are too many realistic AI dolls now.
And in this country marriage has gone up for the last decade, divorce has gone down. Marriages are still ending but they're not decreasing. Marriage isn't dying here it's just more frequent and shorter lived.
*blink*
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Posted by CancerOnTheCuspThat's an oddly specific list.
So, to clarify, i reject HER premise.
I think she is excusing the unrealistic standards that are promulgated in Western society.
Things such as (stating as some of the women who buy into the myth):
1. He can't be shorter than 6'1"
2. He needs to pull in six figures
3. He must be ripped
4. He must have a property in San Tropez, one in Vail, and has gold plated fixtures in each place
5. He has silk put in all the bathrooms at his houses for me to wipe my ass
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then take it away and cook another because I decide I didn't like the cilantro
7. He must be shaved of all unsightly body hair
8. He has to have a positive opinion of every choice I make
9. He should NEVER criticize me, but must accept and bow to every criticism I make of him
4. He has to follow all of the above while still catering to all my whims and insecurities
Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
Alright, I'll play.
1. The Gem is barely 5'10". I love wearing heels when we go out cause I tower over him haha.
2. I make significantly more then him and it's never bothered me. When we were first dating he was in between jobs.
3. When I see a ripped guy the first thing I think is that they have no room for me in their life as they are married to the gym.
4. I'm working towards owning property and nothing's better than island living. Gold hardware is tacky and needs to stay in the 80s.
5. I wipe my ass with flushable wipes because environment.
6. He must be able to cook a gourmet meal at a moments notice, then cook another because I decide I could keep eating ‚
7. I shave mine so fairs fair. Plus I'm more likely to linger on his dick if I'm not choking on hair.
8. I expect some moral support and in return I'll do the same.
9. I'm my harshest critic so even if he were to try it can't compare. Please don't bow, that's just awkward.
10. CATER TO MY WHIMS
Posted by tizianiThe weirder the better. ImoPosted by MontgomeryLOL I can never make a 100% serious post anymore. There always has to be at least one thing wedged in there amid all the serious thoughts.Posted by tiziani
Well men who love to blame women are laughable anyway.
That doesn't mean that all men have to be in relationships. We're free to be single too.
Personally I think a lot of it is just down to the fact there are too many realistic AI dolls now.
And in this country marriage has gone up for the last decade, divorce has gone down. Marriages are still ending but they're not decreasing. Marriage isn't dying here it's just more frequent and shorter lived.
*blink*
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We spent a generation telling girls they can do anything they dream of, but never at any point did anyone think to tell boys that they have to meet girls halfway.
The result is we have a generation of men who continue to believe they are entitled to all the marital, social, economic and political privileges their 1940’s counterparts had, and a generation of women who know they deserve true partnership and refuse to settle for table scraps.
Men love to blame women who who are treated poorly by men by saying it’s women’s fault for having low standards.
Well here we have statistical proof of what happens when women raise their standards.
Men don’t meet them.