spouse's friends

i am not married so don't know first hand, but how would it feel if your spouse or SO was very good friends with someone (or more than one) from their opposite gender who was also single. would it bother you? now friendship is fine, catching up is also, but if they regularly call each other for general talk and talk in front of their partner or even when alone, would it bother you? i rarely pick up the phone and call my married male friends, most who are living far away i have even grown out of touch with, sometimes catch up briefly on social media. others who i meet daily like at work i talk while there but not outside of work. is it just a sign thing? i am an earth sign and have seen fire, air signs being more receptive to this friendship dynamic.

You usually know this before you marry someone.

My husband has never had a female friend. I had almost all males. He wasn't having it. So, he has to share his friends. I hang out with the guys too.

Posted by VenusAquarius
You usually know this before you marry someone.

My husband has never had a female friend. I had almost all males. He wasn't having it. So, he has to share his friends. I hang out with the guys too.

i have seen married guys being bit ok with wife having male friends but same married girls cannot bear their husband with girl friends. i wouldn't either. all i can say social media and easy phone access isn't helping this either. before it was just once in a blue moon emails, now it is easy access whatsapp, fb, phone calls. people are socializing more now than ever. and fb is also making people think they have many choices and don't need to work hard at keeping what they have.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
If my guy has girl friends, I assume two things as truth. They've already had sex or one/both of them don't see the other that way. If it's the former, it's done and he wouldn't be with me if she was what he wanted for a mate. If it's the latter, they've had ample opportunity to hookup, but didn't. If it didn't happen before me, there's no reason for it to happen during me. Either way, I have nothing to worry about.

but wouldn't it still make you jealous if he spends a lot or regular time on the phone with this friend?

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Posted by sagiluv
I would find it a bit disrespectful if it's all the time...

Well at least unusual

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haha that sounds like a male perspective.

Insecurity ahoy!

if my guy would chat or talk too much with one particular girl and avoid me,i would be bothered...very bothered

Keeping friends and catching up with them is normal,but that line should not be crossed!

As long as he doesn't confide in our relationship problems I don't care.