To the ladies who come here about their dude woes (Page 2)

Posted by Gob_Shite

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by rockyroadicecream
This is why people need down time after break ups and the like. People have it stupidly drilled into their heads that they HAVE to date after break ups in order to get over it, but all it does is create a shitty scenario for guys like this to prey on, and more emotional damage is happening in the process.

OR, be preyed on by the very woman in said scenario who's being a total dick for making you her rebound project..

These things are like a disease. You are only a victim until you yourself pass it on. No one gets away clean.

Yes, it's a vicious circle indeed...

Certain men were brought up to be complete dicks, but these are the very men that many impressionable young women are attracted too (usually for the most superficial of reasons)...

Said women get screwed over and, the more bad choices they make, the more the emotional baggage mounts...

And all the while, many men with good intentions are messed around by these very women in turn (usually dismissed as too boring, too emotional, too interested, not handsome or wealthy enough, or some other reason that defies logic)...

Said decent men become more sceptical and resentful, with some deciding to suppress what distinguished them from the dicks in the first place, thus 'wising up' and becoming dicks themselves (some for a certain period of time)...

Cries of "Where have all the decent men gone?" are heard resounding throughout female social circles, refusing to listen to reason or accept some of the blame, while the proportion of male dicks increase exponentially...

Throw in unrealistic fairy tale expectations, separations, divorces, children, financial settlements and child support, and the whole sorry situation becomes so toxic that very few adults come out of the other end relatively unscathed...

And during all this time, retarded and socially conditioned parents, both old and new, continue to make the same stupid mistakes when raising their children (read: the masses)...

Rinse and repeat...

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And then you eventually end up with this:

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Funny thing is. This to some extent sounds like what it was like with my ex. I mean not exactly but it might be because of the differences in the social dynamics between the man's side and the woman's.

So this isn't just a thing women face from narcisstic men. Narcissistic women exist too and they do it too.

Please read the title and realize this isn't about you. Kthx.

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Don't pay any mind to him.

This is the third time within 6 hours he's made something all about him and his women woes.

Posted by TerramineLightvoid

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Funny thing is. This to some extent sounds like what it was like with my ex. I mean not exactly but it might be because of the differences in the social dynamics between the man's side and the woman's.

So this isn't just a thing women face from narcisstic men. Narcissistic women exist too and they do it too.

Please read the title and realize this isn't about you. Kthx.

Lmao I don't give a shit. You're the one being sexist as if it's somehow more likely or more important when women are the victim.

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Why is it, whenever a topic comes up about how women are socially conditioned to tolerate this bullshit, a guy has to come along and make it about himself/his gender? Last I checked, your gender was the privileged one who usually has most of these societal norms that benefit you all.

I'm not denying there are women just as fucked up as these dudes, but again, that is not what THIS topic is about, oh attention whoring child.

Your immaturity is showing like whoa though. The finger pointing and deflecting and drawing attention. Just lol. Shoo.

Posted by Ram416

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Funny thing is. This to some extent sounds like what it was like with my ex. I mean not exactly but it might be because of the differences in the social dynamics between the man's side and the woman's.

So this isn't just a thing women face from narcisstic men. Narcissistic women exist too and they do it too.

Please read the title and realize this isn't about you. Kthx.

Don't pay any mind to him.

This is the third time within 6 hours he's made something all about him and his women woes.

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Yeah, I know. It's always the usual response from the immature dudes.

*issue in regard to guys' behavior in dating toward women*

*in floods the whiners finger pointing how women do it too.*

*facepalm*

It should become a drinking game, tbh.

*sigh* Why can't we ever have an honest discussion on these topics without it resorting to name calling and one upmanship...

Great thread topic...truly. It needs to be discussed.

But by saying what I'm about to say, I may come off as a "whiner" but I hope the audience hears me out.

My question is, how do we expect things to change if we keep talking past each other? That entails having compassion and empathy. All to often I see the discounting of other's feelings and then we wonder why our relationships fail. To me at least, things are simple. In regards to men and women, if we expect things to get better then we need to acknowkedge the damage done by both sides. How do we fix the problems? What are some practical solutions?

I am going to say this. While the thread started off great, not long after; the male bashing ensued. I find it ironic that no sooner when some of the men started voicing their opinions, then the bashing continued and honestly SOME women wonder why men don't open up or have a hard time. While I don't agree with how these men came across, in these situations the wise thing to do is to show constraint and present your point in a rational and non insulting way. Fighting fire with fire only brings the house down and the problem still exists.

The only way we are going to solve the problems between us is to work together. It's not going to be a "you fix your side first to prove we should make the corresponding effort" solution. No, the only way this works is that we have to change the way we think towards each other and come to a better understanding. They're not called "relationships" for nothing. How are we relating? After everything is said and done we are humans first and foremost. We've got to do better.

Yup, been there, done that. Too bad I didn't read about it before. Would have saved me a lot of analyzing and mulling over shit. I'll remember it as a good lesson, but one thing I will not, and that is punsh all men and the next one that comes after an asshole who tried to get into my panties with tricks. 😄