Toxic Relationship

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I have a friend who cannot get out of a toxic relationship with a drug addict who is very selfish and a professional liar. I have sympathy for his girlfriend in some regards. She lost her mom and her child on the same day and started using hard drugs soon after. Because of her habit all 3 of her kids have been taken away. She lies about not sleeping around to get money for her habit. He had to find out from one of her friends who is also a user and her sister in law.

Reasons she is bad for him. She has no work ethic. I had a step father with an addiction and he is the hardest worker I know and found ways to make an honest living. She doesn't make any type of an effort to improve her situation. She acts really tough and bossy (Aries) and always threatens to tear up the apartment if she leaves. She drove all the way to New York to spy on one of her exes and and people have restraining orders against her. The thing is they are around me too much and it is a problem. For example today and a few other times me and my male friend who is her boyfriend were supposed to go places like get food and basic stuff and she throws a fit threatening to destroy the house when he leaves. Yet it's ok for her to stay out to like 6 pm in the morning all the time and lie about what she is doing. What she does is obvious, it's the lying that is stupid. The day after Christmas she lied and said she needs to go to a CVS across town when there is literally a CVS around the corner so she could "order" her boyfriend a gift around 10 at night yet where she went was around the drug dealers. Also when he went out of town for a few weeks to a month she slept with four other guys. To her boyfriend's discredit he also cheated like twice on her while he was gone. Yet she continues to cheat for money and overly insecure that she always thinks he will leave her and talking to other chicks. The sad part is he isn't he deserves better. I also live with these looney tunes and have him as a business parter (for now). They claim they love each other but they do not have much in common they just fight and fuck each other. Sounds sorta typical. Yet her habit is no good for anybody. They just use each other as a pillow.

What do you guys think?
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Were they in a long term relationship prior to her losing her mother and child on the same day?

If the answer is YES....

I can understand his reason for wanting to help her and not bail out.



If he met her AFTER she became a base-head, then he's just a Captain-Save-A-Hoe and loves the script of a badly written soap-opera.


This happened before they met

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Were they in a long term relationship prior to her losing her mother and child on the same day?

If the answer is YES....

I can understand his reason for wanting to help her and not bail out.



If he met her AFTER she became a base-head, then he's just a Captain-Save-A-Hoe and loves the script of a badly written soap-opera.


This happened before they met

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Well there you have it...your friend is the latter....

What's his sign?

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it's all so very toxic - and I am sorry
They literally just got into a big fight too because she is having withdrawals


she needs some serious therapy and rehab and shit - he needs to leave that alone because she is just going to bring him down - and you too being all up under them two

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Therapy more so. Idk how well therapy works when you have used it for so long and she is not a the point of wanting to stop.
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it's all so very toxic - and I am sorry
They literally just got into a big fight too because she is having withdrawals


she needs some serious therapy and rehab and shit - he needs to leave that alone because she is just going to bring him down - and you too being all up under them two




Therapy more so. Idk how well therapy works when you have used it for so long and she is not a the point of wanting to stop.

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she can't stop because she's been doing it so long and because she's fucked up her life to the point that she can't even get through one day without drugs - she's not the Aries warrior anymore - she's nothing - and I hope she's sterile now - no more children

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Posted by frostey91
I personally could not tolerate this one though. He's literally having a long convo with a chick at the library so I think he has turned the corner.
you both need to get away from this woman - she's going no where but down ... sometimes people need to hit rock bottom and be left to pull themselves back up by the bootstraps or lie in the gutter with all the rest of the dirt

it's sad but true - and I bet she was beautiful once
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Posted by tctao
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Posted by tctao
it's all so very toxic - and I am sorry
They literally just got into a big fight too because she is having withdrawals


she needs some serious therapy and rehab and shit - he needs to leave that alone because she is just going to bring him down - and you too being all up under them two




Therapy more so. Idk how well therapy works when you have used it for so long and she is not a the point of wanting to stop.


she can't stop because she's been doing it so long and because she's fucked up her life to the point that she can't even get through one day without drugs - she's not the Aries warrior anymore - she's nothing - and I hope she's sterile now - no more children

She is sterile and her kids are beautiful

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I've done it once and a half
why ?


This girl played the woe is me card and i held my ground for a while until I was overly harsh to her and then i tried to save her. Did it once. Not again.
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oh yeah - the woe is me card - I forgot about that - but you are a Cap and you know better now so you are good