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Posted by Kodak375
Posted by Octoberbaby91
^^^ my brother *rolls eyes* that's why we are always fussing.The guy who wrote the article found a articulate way to tell a story about how she didn't let him hit.
I know you told me I was being... nevermind lol
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I know what you were being. *Inserts a sarcastic smirk 😉
Eff it, you people are confusing me :/
Trying again.
So I was reading through the comments in the article. This is a response from the author-
—The only solution I can think of, and what works for me, is make a lot of money here in the US and then plan trips abroad. While here in the US, bang the garbage that falls in your lap, but never lose sight of what they are: soul-destroying parasites. Fill your time with reading good books, studying philosophy (preferably Neoplatonism, since it has a depth that can fill the spiritual void of life in the US).??
You had the nail on the head right here.
Fortunately guys like us were able to leave the US for greener lands and warmer pussy, but for millions of others stuck in mindless work in —politically correct?? workplaces, life is pretty soul-crushing.
Again, while the point is generally one that should be discussed, the person in question who is discussing it really doesn't have much room to be talking. He's part of the problem he's bitching about. He seems to be living in an alternate reality where everything goes his way.
Boo hoo, "American women" won't open up to me and suck my dick.
...that's because tools like you exist in the world and women do it out of self preservation. Dudes like this are predators, not ones to be dating. I feel sorry for the chick that went on a date with him, tbh.
Posted by Octoberbaby91
If he wanted to date a American woman, we are different breed across the country so maybe he should try a southern woman who invited him to a rodeo or gun shooting other than the typical "movie" or "bar hop" kind of dates east coast women do.
Love it!!!
Damnata,
This article? You can do better. Lousy article lousy picture. Come back after you have read more than one article.
Posted by CapricornLaurie
Sounds the the NYC dating scene. Every date was like reading off a resume...click to expand
haha well you got to start a date by giving some background information. Sort of like a job interview.
Posted by Kodak375
Posted by Kodak375I cant believe there are people who think like this.
Open your eyes. This is why I called bs on his viewpoint after the first paragraph. He's one of those notorious PUA narcissists. Guys need to open up their eyes and realize while YOU may not think like this or met anyone who does, it doesn't mean they don't exist.
I see this happen a lot on DXP. Guys proclaiming to know what's really going on, when in reality, they have no idea.
There be some fucked up people in the world. :/
Again, he complains about coming across "women" (one woman, in his example) who keep distant and detached and he's the very reason many women do this- trying to keep away the "to get into your pants" type vs the genuine guys.
While I agree that people here are gradually filled with less substance and living up to mind numbing drones, our society also preaches a lot of the mindset of women's lady bits being some prize, or the hypocritical "you're a whore" if you put out but he's a stud. Women are constantly put in this spot that sex is almost a bad thing since they get there is this stigma about it for women- but not men. Men are encouraged to sleep around because it makes them some stud.
That said, I think a lot of women approach it with a bit of trepidation- something he doesn't like because some French chick would suck his dick at the drop of the hat, but women here might not. Again, it just seems that this article stemmed from the fact that our culture doesn't cater to the wants of his dick and he doesn't like it.
The topic would have gone over a lot smoother had it been filled with less baseless insults and self ego boosting and more observation of a larger sample size.
Sounds like a "nice guy" rant. So whiny and probably looking in all the wrong places. Geography actually matters.
Posted by Sugarfoot
LOL! hold up... how are we so certain dude is a Libra? LOL. I would have guessed Leo or Aries based on my dating experiences with them.I don't think a libran guy would have been crass enough to write that a man can seduce a woman by getting her drunk and banging her in the bathroom.
The writer actually stated:
"You can get them drunk and have sex with them in the club??s bathroom, but that's not seduction."
That's why he is thought to be a Libra.
The article does seem shallow from all ends. I share Rocky's view.
What would we say if we knew the male was 40 and the female 25? Or, vice versa?
I remember, a few years ago, I was being aggressively pursued by two Brazilian males that barely spoke English. They were absolutely focused on me and me alone. I think it was because I looked most like them? I was being followed and watched with intermittent conversation and dancing.
They finally became exacerbated and offered me weed, cocaine, then heroine, to which I said no in order.
I was like OMG, heroine!? I made sure I left very inconspicuously and wasn't followed.
I have had some scary nights. I think back from time to time about it all... shiver and laugh.
Apparently, these two Brazilian men were different from the Brazilian in the article.
I don't fall into the trappings of classifying people based on country ethnicity, sex, etc.
I find it too dangerous a way of thinking.
I believe in individualism and I have a respect differences.
American dating?
Posted by Huldra
Le bump *re-opens the can*
5 months ago...I still see things the same way.
I wish people would go past the playboy vibe the dude in the article has...to read what he's actually saying. Too much focus on the messenger, not enough on the message.
Posted by Kodak375
And im going to stop this right now, men do not give a shit about "mysterious" women. none. zero. Its just annoying. We are going to figure it out unless you open up and tell us who you really are, or what you feel you really are in the inside. Its not cracking, its why is shes being so how do i say... "rough" as a women. Foreign men do not understand that. Thats like men crying about a broken nail. He sees her as a "sex in the city" "kardashian" sloppy put together who wasn't authenticate on how she feels because she made up her mind to play hard to get and distant. But cappylaurie you made a good point, he could just think of her as a challenge if hes as shallow as he seems to most of the people here.
From what I have seen, women who make you work for it and play hard to get do so because they don't want to be figured out....why don't they want to be figured out? Because they have very little emotional substance to offer. It's a defense mechanism...not to protect a sweet, tender, caring heart...but to protect the unveiling of a lack of depth, desire for emotional growth and pure laziness toward putting any effort into letting someone change you. In romantic situations, many women become worse versions of themselves because they haven't done the work it takes to remain trusting, open and ethereal in a world overridden with fucked up ideals of what it means to be a woman.
Posted by Kodak375
You would hope that either person can let their guard down to trust to get to know each other and be open. Its funny how its a game of who can act like they care less. whoever hold out longest wins. but in the end. loses. bummer.
100% . I see this all the time. Such a bummer.
Posted by Kodak375
Posted by ashley1734
Posted by Kodak375
And im going to stop this right now, men do not give a shit about "mysterious" women. none. zero. Its just annoying. We are going to figure it out unless you open up and tell us who you really are, or what you feel you really are in the inside. Its not cracking, its why is shes being so how do i say... "rough" as a women. Foreign men do not understand that. Thats like men crying about a broken nail. He sees her as a "sex in the city" "kardashian" sloppy put together who wasn't authenticate on how she feels because she made up her mind to play hard to get and distant. But cappylaurie you made a good point, he could just think of her as a challenge if hes as shallow as he seems to most of the people here.
From what I have seen, women who make you work for it and play hard to get do so because they don't want to be figured out....why don't they want to be figured out? Because they have very little emotional substance to offer. It's a defense mechanism...not to protect a sweet, tender, caring heart...but to protect the unveiling of a lack of depth, desire for emotional growth and pure laziness toward putting any effort into letting someone change you. In romantic situations, many women become worse versions of themselves because they haven't done the work it takes to remain trusting, open and ethereal in a world overridden with fucked up ideals of what it means to be a woman.
Throw back 0.0 lol
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What does that mean?
In B4 the flood of female butthurt.
Or am I too late? 😐
And this is exactly why I keep my standards somewhere between low and high, the higher the standards the sooner you'll go bald trying to put up with the BS.
Pretty much agree with Rocky's points.
Men don't want to be drilled with questions like he's getting a job. No one wants that be it male or female.
Why do a lot of American men refuse to take accountability for picking the wrong woman? Why are all American women held accountable for his mistake? If he pick pathetic women to date then somehow ALL American women behave the way she did and we are all to blame.
I'm sure if he sat down and took a hard glimpse at the Mexican, Brazilian, Colombian, Russian, Lithuanian and Argentinian women he'd find flaws and stereotypes there too.
For example I overheard a friend tell his guy friend Russian women are gold diggers and cold hearted users and have a princess me me me mentality or Colombian and Brazilian women are aggressive sexually and once a relationship has formed she will cut you for cheating or have her brothers cut you---All stereotypes of course.
American women are just American and ain't nothing wrong with that, variety is the spice of life.
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If he wanted to date a American woman, we are different breed across the country so maybe he should try a southern woman who invited him to a rodeo or gun shooting other than the typical "movie" or "bar hop" kind of dates east coast women do.