Why do men cheat on loyal women

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i guess men are bored, it could be because they dont love them selves, they look for attention from various women to feel wanted and complete, its a hobby for them. where as, mature men, will look for mentally fulfilling hobbies, such as, reading, studying, exercising, sports, etc. such a rare bread to find a mature man. or maybe theyre just a douche. I think i just answered my own question. ha
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I will never understand how some guys will still keep in touch with exes, girls, bi***es, hoes, whatever u wanna call it, while talking to a decent, well rounded and respectable girl. Don't you get tired from keeping up with several different lies at a time? Pretending to like people, just to get attention back from them, don't you feel fake? Do you care that you feel fake or not really...
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Posted by Kodak375
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Because loyalty doesn't not always mean fulfilling your partner's needs. And the restless will act out at times.

what the f fullfills you then, is there even an answer to this question?
easy easy don't shoot the messenger. It depends on the individual and their character. Women are more likely to bitch and moan about the piece of shit they got and how they attract poopy peps, instead of finding a way to attract the right man with the right character. If you cant find out what your man desires and what he stands for, then your going to be frustrated and lonely for a very very long time.
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He should just tell her what he desires and save the drama and stop making her dig for gold
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Posted by Koniucha
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And for the record I would expect a true friend to come bck and get off their high horse because something happened and I had to be somewhere. I'm probably the one giving HIM a second chance
Wow I've never seen someone spin something in such a way.

3 sides to every story.
In your other thread you said that you just didn't show up. Seems like there are many sides to this story...
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I didn't show up meaning I did not call or text, I literally did not show up. The reason why is personal and irrelevant.
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Cause temptation is too much, plus guys generally dont want to hurt their partner, they just want some action. It's less emotional, more physical.
why cant they just bang THEIR partner then.. why does it have to be a stranger
A large part of the excitement is doing it with someone you don't know.
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Understandable.
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Posted by Ssupes
The truth is that people settle for a mediocre partner. One who kinda meets all their need. Not really knocks their socks off in that dept. Like looks, they find a partner who they consider "average or OK looking" not one they consider HOT. So, when someone HOT comes along and shows interest, then they start to wonder what it's like to have a HOT chick. Then, doubt clouds the mind and their current "average" partner begins to fade in their minds.
I like this response. Makes a lot of sense. I also think that possibly some people don't understand their self value, so they often settle, and when he/she is approached by something better; there's there opportunity to cheat I suppose.
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Let's face it - loyal women can get too comfortable, lazy, and fat. And I'm not talking baby weight. I'm talking food babies.
What does loyalty have to do with getting fat? This correlation is hilarious. I am a loyal partner, I'm skinny and tall, and probably more active than most guys my age.
Emphasis on "can."

Cool your boobies.
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Ha ha
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And it's actually proven that security in a relationship leads to complacency. Loyalty promotes security, so...

Are you married?

If you can, can you send me the link to this. I love reading. And no
Then that's very different. The psychological dynamics are very different in a dating woman than a married woman.

Here ya go: https://www.google.com
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Where is the article?
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Variety, yes and also, since the woman is loyal, he knows she's not going anywhere. He can always depend on her to come back or be his rebound. He realizes he can do his dirt and keep his woman. He wins -_-
Maybe more women should start cheating, nobody wins 😉
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Or maybe more women need to stop being weak and leave these assholes alone. See, problem solved 🙂 Also, women need to start encouraging other women to stop enabling assholes.

I say, don't get into any serious relationship if you're going to cheat or want variety. What's the point of cheating when you can just be single. Break up and then do what you want. Simple.
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@konichua out of a span of a few years, I have been more than loyal to my Scorpio friend.
I had an incident where I had to chose family over friends. I chose family. It would have been nice to call him and tell him I couldn't make it but my attention was needed else where. My fault. However, this incident would determine how well my attention is under pressure, not how loyal I am.
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cos they are stupid as hell. and possibly superficial.

once you learn that a woman who only has looks and nothing else is bad for you, you run to the woman you had - she had looks, skills, smarts, and actually wanted to care for you and give to you a comfortable home. but no, you had to run out and mess with the cheap girl who only can offer you sex. funny how they come back begging, admitting over and over they messed up. but it's waaay too late then. i saw this with my mom and dad. and she never took him back ever again. til this day, he still pines over mom. but she's happy with her man of 12 years now.
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First, I'm not trying to justify cheating, but everyone always makes the cheater to be the villain. Truth is, there is something that is causing a person to cheat in the relationship. When someone is genuinely happy, they don't feel to alter their current situation in life whether it be their job, where the live, etc etc. This goes for romantic relationships. The person being cheated on isn't perfect- they have flaws. Is it correct to cheat? No. The high road would be to end it and say the reason why. But just like the cheater....the person being cheated on is the model boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband. My $ 0.02.
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First, I'm not trying to justify cheating, but everyone always makes the cheater to be the villain. Truth is, there is something that is causing a person to cheat in the relationship. When someone is genuinely happy, they don't feel to alter their current situation in life whether it be their job, where the live, etc etc. This goes for romantic relationships. The person being cheated on isn't perfect- they have flaws. Is it correct to cheat? No. The high road would be to end it and say the reason why.
Agreed.

Some women are ignoring the fact that humans are still animals. Nature dictates that males reproduce with as many mates as possible. Fact.

However, based on where we are, with regards to human evolution, men can choose to suppress this and remain faithful.

Disregarding men with dubious astro placements, I'm sure that (in most cases) men who stray from their partner are simply unhappy with certain aspects of the relationship - aspects that many women could rectify if they were willing to... but (for whatever reason) won't.

Or maybe these men are just unhappy with their partner, period...

With that said, cheating isn't honourable, respectable or mature, but who said that humans are perfect specimens? And anyone coming on here acting self-righteous should ask themselves if they're truly infallible human beings. I certainly know that I'm not...

Going back to ninjaturtlemafia007's post, sometimes the victim is actually the cheater/adulterer and NOT the woman who has been cheated on.

The problem with lot of women is that, out of pride and deep-rooted insecurities, they zoom in on the act of infidelity and not the ROOT CAUSE, which will (invariably) lead back to them and their failings within the relationship.

But, hey, let's forget about cause and effect, because rationality goes out the window when it comes to female emotions...

So, in summary, nothing is ever what it seems. The subject's just too complex for there to be an easy solution.
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Or maybe they're not happy with themselves. Maybe it's insecurity...
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Women and men who go into monogamous relationships and cheat are scum. End it if your oh so average significant other or fat signifant other won't cut it.
this is a very young way of thinking.
What a cheap shot though.

You're dismissing her answer based on her age when in fact one can still hold that same perception well into old age, as long as one's integrity and general consideration for others remains intact of course.
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no. what age will teach you is that there are very few things in life that in black and white. people cheat for all number of reasons. should a person who has an unsatisfactory sex life at home leave their partner if they dearly love their them and the relationship they have? what if there are young children involved? what if the partner is sick? what if the person can't afford to leave? what if their partner works away from home for many months? what if the "affair" is restricted to having sex with escorts or one night stands? what if they are forced to stay together for cultural and religious reasons?

i'm not justifying cheating but youth often sees things in clear cut circumstances. life is not like that. as you age, you understand that extenuating circumstances can't be addressed with a single sentence mandate.
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if i became tired of my partner and the spark or feelings weren't there anymore, i'd break up with them. fat, average, incompatible or whatever the excuse is that is making you rethink you being with someone is never a good reason to cheat. i'd rather be honest and leave. not string a person along. be honest with yourself at least. you know you're not happy, so why drag things out? do both yourselves a favor and cut the strings. then you will be free to see other people without sneaking, lying, and being the scum of the earth.