xtina
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Posted by facerollLol
can't wait til busy sees this. 😄
Naw. Let men do the asking
Posted by faceroll
can't wait til busy sees this. 😄
Busy has no fucking power here... STOP GIVING IT TO HER!
The only think I thought was "Wow, her cat looks just like mine".
Posted by wecarealotIs it really faux pas? 😢 That's where I normally find them …â€
xtina, I'm glad you posted this, and I absolutely agree with you. There's a guy that I like at my own job that I've posted about here. I have a huge crush on him, and I'm completely chickening out of asking him out (I know it's a faux pas to date people at work but the way we're set up, he's in a totally different building so I rarely even see him except on some days). I like what you wrote about getting rejected so much that you no longer fear it. That's the main way to deal with most fears, and it sucks that so few girls (myself included) have the courage.
Yes, I find it important we raise women self esteem. Especially with medias portrayal of ideal beauty and being the perfect woman and what not maybe we can tick this off as a burden to our self esteem
Who's busy?
Posted by Crapmaster555She has three 🙂
The only think I thought was "Wow, her cat looks just like mine".
Which one 😄
Posted by DMVMeh... I like to try most things at least once.
Naw. Let men do the asking
Plus roll reversal is fun, no?
Haha being an Aries it is for me.
Like being the first to initiate a kiss 🙂
Nah. I prefer men to do the asking. The ones who asked me out were usually desperate and kinda went around.
Posted by Sn1p3r187I'm sorry that no quality girl has ever asked you out... How sad 😢
Nah. I prefer men to do the asking. The ones who asked me out were usually desperate and kinda went around.
Posted by killerwhalemoonDaaawwwww how sweet!! What was his sign? I love stories like this! Thank you for sharing
When I was 18 I went to jobcorps and this guy in my group who was a virgo was charming. He always brought Skittles to class. One day I asked him if I could taste his rainbow. He said yes.
We met outside in the rain and kissed. He was mine after that.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXI remember when I use to only go for alphas. Gets boring after a while *yawn* predictable.
Men by nature are hunters. Well at least the alpha males are and alpha males are the only ones I would ever settle down with because they're the only ones that can handle my fire. Not to mention alphas know how to put it DOWN in the bedroom lol. Anyway, alpha males go after what they want. I'm not attracted to any man that's too afraid to pursue me or that I have to pursue first. There's no reasoning in the world that will ever sway me from that opinion.
However, some girls like those easy-to-control, won't-bust-a-grape-in-a-fruit-fight betas. Hey, more power to you...I guess.
No, I like the omegas. The lone wolfs. The ones you can't always pin down. Or get under your thumb. I guess because I like a challenge. Or because I'm an omega too.
Yeah it's fun to do what everyone is doing after a time but then I like to branch out, be brave, exciting, and daring and try new things you know?
Posted by killerwhalemoonPosted by xtinaDid anything ever become of it?Posted by killerwhalemoonDaaawwwww how sweet!! What was his sign? I love stories like this! Thank you for sharing
When I was 18 I went to jobcorps and this guy in my group who was a virgo was charming. He always brought Skittles to class. One day I asked him if I could taste his rainbow. He said yes.
We met outside in the rain and kissed. He was mine after that.
He was a virgo sun. Pisces moon and aries mars.click to expand
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXOh man the shy and quiet ones are my Achilles heelPosted by xtinaThere are alphas that aren't obnoxious, loud, or seemingly outgoing. I too, am into the reserved type of guys. I like laid back guys that are chill. The laid back guys can be alphas too! Those are the best ones. You think they're all shy, but when you finally catch their eye they hone in on you and go after you in the subtlest ways possible. SUCH a turn on. Yes, those men are still alphas.Posted by xXxAliciaXxXI remember when I use to only go for alphas. Gets boring after a while *yawn* predictable.
Men by nature are hunters. Well at least the alpha males are and alpha males are the only ones I would ever settle down with because they're the only ones that can handle my fire. Not to mention alphas know how to put it DOWN in the bedroom lol. Anyway, alpha males go after what they want. I'm not attracted to any man that's too afraid to pursue me or that I have to pursue first. There's no reasoning in the world that will ever sway me from that opinion.
However, some girls like those easy-to-control, won't-bust-a-grape-in-a-fruit-fight betas. Hey, more power to you...I guess.
No, I like the omegas. The lone wolfs. The ones you can't always pin down. Or get under your thumb. I guess because I like a challenge. Or because I'm an omega too.
Yeah it's fun to do what everyone is doing after a time but then I like to branch out, be brave, exciting, and daring and try new things you know?click to expand
Posted by killerwhalemoonPosted by xtinaI'm glad it turned out alright. I really amPosted by killerwhalemoonWe got in trouble. We both went to jail he used meth and I helped him all the way to rehab. He was a beautiful spirit. He would read the bible on the toilet.Posted by xtinaDid anything ever become of it?Posted by killerwhalemoonDaaawwwww how sweet!! What was his sign? I love stories like this! Thank you for sharing
When I was 18 I went to jobcorps and this guy in my group who was a virgo was charming. He always brought Skittles to class. One day I asked him if I could taste his rainbow. He said yes.
We met outside in the rain and kissed. He was mine after that.
He was a virgo sun. Pisces moon and aries mars.
Hes clean now and has a beautiful baby with a Gemini sun. And cap moon girlclick to expand
I agree for the most part with the video.
Although, she does seem to have a lot of cats.......
I've noticed a distinct difference in Western and Eastern cultures.
In Western culture ( unless the man throws money around ) women don't approach men. I'll leave the reasons why to the feminists and "alpha" males on this site.
In far Eastern cultures IMHO, the woman will approach a man and strike up a conversation. Nothing may come of it, but if there is an interest, she will approach.
Vast difference.
Although I have to admit Eastern European women drop a LOT of heavy hints to spur a male she is interested in that she wants to talk to him.
Although, she does seem to have a lot of cats.......
I've noticed a distinct difference in Western and Eastern cultures.
In Western culture ( unless the man throws money around ) women don't approach men. I'll leave the reasons why to the feminists and "alpha" males on this site.
In far Eastern cultures IMHO, the woman will approach a man and strike up a conversation. Nothing may come of it, but if there is an interest, she will approach.
Vast difference.
Although I have to admit Eastern European women drop a LOT of heavy hints to spur a male she is interested in that she wants to talk to him.
Posted by Reincarnation"She sounds and acts like a dude"Posted by xtinaShe sounds and acts like a dude.
Opps trigger happy fingers 🙂
Anywho she's a Leo and I agree with her. Please watch before commenting she brings up good points.
I read somethings not to long ago where women have significantly lower self esteem than men (no surprise there) and it's even more pronounced in western culture (definitely no surprise).
I also read an article about a man dealing with rejection (his greatest fear) he ends up forcing himself to make a daily effort to get rejected until it was no longer a fear. And it worked!
I wouldn't be surprised the reason for women flocking to this site asking (to us old timers) questions with obviously glaring answers (yet the refuse to acknowledge) has to do with deep seeded fears of rejection.
Or maybe I'm projecting. What do you guys think?
Anyway - I've been asked out before. I disliked it and never agreed to it. If I like you, I'll ask you out. Can you imagine telling your kids one day that mom asked dad out? Terrible.click to expand
I know. I totally LOVE it 😄
Hey, hey, hey let's not get carried away and ahead of yourself now... I only asked you out for a cup of coffee, not your hand in marriage 😉
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspYou noticed the cats too 😄
I agree for the most part with the video.
Although, she does seem to have a lot of cats.......
I've noticed a distinct difference in Western and Eastern cultures.
In Western culture ( unless the man throws money around ) women don't approach men. I'll leave the reasons why to the feminists and "alpha" males on this site.
In far Eastern cultures IMHO, the woman will approach a man and strike up a conversation. Nothing may come of it, but if there is an interest, she will approach.
Vast difference.
Although I have to admit Eastern European women drop a LOT of heavy hints to spur a male she is interested in that she wants to talk to him.
Sounds like you're speaking from experience C 😄
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspHaha I knew I was getting something wrong ‚
Those are actually the Sigmas....
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sigma% 20male
Posted by xtinaNah. I get everything I know from reading books and what I see here on DXP. 😉
Sounds like you're speaking from experience C 😄
Posted by YourMajestyNot always that's for sure. I like to be chased too.
Just once or only the first time or always ?
But if he's irresitible i think I might have to 🙂
Posted by FrenchKpricornYes, yes we do
women categorize US :o
Posted by CancerOnTheCuspDon Quixote of sorts?Posted by xtinaNah. I get everything I know from reading books and what I see here on DXP. 😉
Sounds like you're speaking from experience C 😄click to expand
Okay, this chica needs some serious asterisks on her points.
I don't disagree with them, but I do.
First off, I'm not a huge fan of women making the first move. ONLY if they aren't 100% sure if dude has interest. We've seen it happen all too much here, and I dunno about you all, but I've seen it quite a bit irl as well. Girls spend so much time pondering and reading into stupid STUPID shit that they aren't paying attention to what's REALLY going on. THOSE girls should not ask a dude out, period.
Why? Cause some dudes are shady as fuck and will use that to their advantage and use the chick. We've all seen and heard about it -"HE'S SO CONFUUUUSING. I'M SO CONFUUUUUUSED. I'M FUCKING HIM WEEKLY BUT HE'S SENDING ME HOT/COLD SIGNALS—"
*sigh*
Now say, if you know, without a doubt, that dude is into you and IS the shy type, sure there is no problem with her initiating first. But you gotta have a female that knows her shit and can tell the guy is too shy to initiate anything.
Tbh, for those of you who have been involved with a guy with TRUE interest, was it really THAT hard to tell? I have yet to meet a guy who was "too shy" to ask a girl out that he was truly into. Sure, they exist, but I don't think that example should be used as the rule, as many women do. They substitute disinterest with "shy" and use it as an excuse to chase a dude who really isn't all that into them. They just can't see it because THEY are so into dude they're reading into miniscule shit that means nothing when the writing is on the wall.
So should a woman chase and ask a dude out? Generally, no. If she does, she should be well aware that the guy is actually interested. I think the asking the guy out bit should be for women who actually know how to read guys, tbh. We have too many immature, childish "girls" out there trying to date and they live life like it's a romantic comedy. In turn, they have NO idea how guys work or how to read them and end up getting taken for a ride (no pun intended). Men do not think like women, which is something these "girls" need to learn before they go out there with big girl panties and ask guys out.
I don't disagree with them, but I do.
First off, I'm not a huge fan of women making the first move. ONLY if they aren't 100% sure if dude has interest. We've seen it happen all too much here, and I dunno about you all, but I've seen it quite a bit irl as well. Girls spend so much time pondering and reading into stupid STUPID shit that they aren't paying attention to what's REALLY going on. THOSE girls should not ask a dude out, period.
Why? Cause some dudes are shady as fuck and will use that to their advantage and use the chick. We've all seen and heard about it -"HE'S SO CONFUUUUSING. I'M SO CONFUUUUUUSED. I'M FUCKING HIM WEEKLY BUT HE'S SENDING ME HOT/COLD SIGNALS—"
*sigh*
Now say, if you know, without a doubt, that dude is into you and IS the shy type, sure there is no problem with her initiating first. But you gotta have a female that knows her shit and can tell the guy is too shy to initiate anything.
Tbh, for those of you who have been involved with a guy with TRUE interest, was it really THAT hard to tell? I have yet to meet a guy who was "too shy" to ask a girl out that he was truly into. Sure, they exist, but I don't think that example should be used as the rule, as many women do. They substitute disinterest with "shy" and use it as an excuse to chase a dude who really isn't all that into them. They just can't see it because THEY are so into dude they're reading into miniscule shit that means nothing when the writing is on the wall.
So should a woman chase and ask a dude out? Generally, no. If she does, she should be well aware that the guy is actually interested. I think the asking the guy out bit should be for women who actually know how to read guys, tbh. We have too many immature, childish "girls" out there trying to date and they live life like it's a romantic comedy. In turn, they have NO idea how guys work or how to read them and end up getting taken for a ride (no pun intended). Men do not think like women, which is something these "girls" need to learn before they go out there with big girl panties and ask guys out.
Posted by YourMajestyBwahaha what kind of stupid ass question is that?Posted by xtinaWhat if you initiated and He only said yes for sex ?Posted by YourMajestyNot always that's for sure. I like to be chased too.
Just once or only the first time or always ?
But if he's irresitible i think I might have to 🙂click to expand
It's not like I'll be asking:
"Will you:
A. Go out with me
B. Marry me
Or
C. just have sex with me, ONLY sex
Check all that applies"
Posted by FrenchKpricornYes!!!!!Posted by xtinaSIGMA MALES ARE THE SHYTPosted by FrenchKpricornYes, yes we do
women categorize US :oclick to expand
I'm all for this.
Of course, likely most of the people that like to do the asking are already doing so.
I personally see no reason to sit around and wait for the guy to ask if it's something that's on my mind. And any guy who wouldn't like me asking them wouldn't be a good match for me, anyway.
There are also those who enjoy being asked and that's fine no matter what gender you are.
Do whatever makes you happy.
Of course, likely most of the people that like to do the asking are already doing so.
I personally see no reason to sit around and wait for the guy to ask if it's something that's on my mind. And any guy who wouldn't like me asking them wouldn't be a good match for me, anyway.
There are also those who enjoy being asked and that's fine no matter what gender you are.
Do whatever makes you happy.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Okay, this chica needs some serious asterisks on her points.
I don't disagree with them, but I do.
First off, I'm not a huge fan of women making the first move. ONLY if they aren't 100% sure if dude has interest. We've seen it happen all too much here, and I dunno about you all, but I've seen it quite a bit irl as well. Girls spend so much time pondering and reading into stupid STUPID shit that they aren't paying attention to what's REALLY going on. THOSE girls should not ask a dude out, period.
Why? Cause some dudes are shady as fuck and will use that to their advantage and use the chick. We've all seen and heard about it -"HE'S SO CONFUUUUSING. I'M SO CONFUUUUUUSED. I'M FUCKING HIM WEEKLY BUT HE'S SENDING ME HOT/COLD SIGNALS—"
*sigh*
Now say, if you know, without a doubt, that dude is into you and IS the shy type, sure there is no problem with her initiating first. But you gotta have a female that knows her shit and can tell the guy is too shy to initiate anything.
Tbh, for those of you who have been involved with a guy with TRUE interest, was it really THAT hard to tell? I have yet to meet a guy who was "too shy" to ask a girl out that he was truly into. Sure, they exist, but I don't think that example should be used as the rule, as many women do. They substitute disinterest with "shy" and use it as an excuse to chase a dude who really isn't all that into them. They just can't see it because THEY are so into dude they're reading into miniscule shit that means nothing when the writing is on the wall.
So should a woman chase and ask a dude out? Generally, no. If she does, she should be well aware that the guy is actually interested. I think the asking the guy out bit should be for women who actually know how to read guys, tbh. We have too many immature, childish "girls" out there trying to date and they live life like it's a romantic comedy. In turn, they have NO idea how guys work or how to read them and end up getting taken for a ride (no pun intended). Men do not think like women, which is something these "girls" need to learn before they go out there with big girl panties and ask guys out.
Feel better now? Probably not...
Posted by SensitiveBlues‚‚‚
Frenchcap how are the drugs working for you?
Posted by ScenicLive and let live I always say 🙂
I'm all for this.
Of course, likely most of the people that like to do the asking are already doing so.
I personally see no reason to sit around and wait for the guy to ask if it's something that's on my mind. And any guy who wouldn't like me asking them wouldn't be a good match for me, anyway.
There are also those who enjoy being asked and that's fine no matter what gender you are.
Do whatever makes you happy.
Posted by FrenchKpricornDaawwww... You hurt my wittle feelings ‚Posted by xtinashe would never be with a sigmaPosted by SensitiveBlues‚‚‚
Frenchcap how are the drugs working for you?click to expand
Posted by YourMajestyYou just proved my point. The problem we have is that a lot of women (and a lot of guys, apparently) aren't aware of how ridiculous some guys are and what extent they'll go to in order to get laid. I say what I say because I've had a LOT of guy friends and the shit I've seen plus the insight they've given me when I asked about guys and their behavior has been a pretty big learning tool for me.Posted by xtinaTell that to my bro !Posted by YourMajestyBwahaha what kind of stupid ass question is that?Posted by xtinaWhat if you initiated and He only said yes for sex ?Posted by YourMajestyNot always that's for sure. I like to be chased too.
Just once or only the first time or always ?
But if he's irresitible i think I might have to 🙂
It's not like I'll be asking:
"Will you:
A. Go out with me
B. Marry me
Or
C. just have sex with me, ONLY sex
Check all that applies"click to expand
"Hmm, she's not bad. I wouldn't date her, but man, a not so bad lookin' chick hitting me up? I could hit that."
Posted by xtinaDafuq are you on?Posted by rockyroadicecream
Okay, this chica needs some serious asterisks on her points.
I don't disagree with them, but I do.
First off, I'm not a huge fan of women making the first move. ONLY if they aren't 100% sure if dude has interest. We've seen it happen all too much here, and I dunno about you all, but I've seen it quite a bit irl as well. Girls spend so much time pondering and reading into stupid STUPID shit that they aren't paying attention to what's REALLY going on. THOSE girls should not ask a dude out, period.
Why? Cause some dudes are shady as fuck and will use that to their advantage and use the chick. We've all seen and heard about it -"HE'S SO CONFUUUUSING. I'M SO CONFUUUUUUSED. I'M FUCKING HIM WEEKLY BUT HE'S SENDING ME HOT/COLD SIGNALS—"
*sigh*
Now say, if you know, without a doubt, that dude is into you and IS the shy type, sure there is no problem with her initiating first. But you gotta have a female that knows her shit and can tell the guy is too shy to initiate anything.
Tbh, for those of you who have been involved with a guy with TRUE interest, was it really THAT hard to tell? I have yet to meet a guy who was "too shy" to ask a girl out that he was truly into. Sure, they exist, but I don't think that example should be used as the rule, as many women do. They substitute disinterest with "shy" and use it as an excuse to chase a dude who really isn't all that into them. They just can't see it because THEY are so into dude they're reading into miniscule shit that means nothing when the writing is on the wall.
So should a woman chase and ask a dude out? Generally, no. If she does, she should be well aware that the guy is actually interested. I think the asking the guy out bit should be for women who actually know how to read guys, tbh. We have too many immature, childish "girls" out there trying to date and they live life like it's a romantic comedy. In turn, they have NO idea how guys work or how to read them and end up getting taken for a ride (no pun intended). Men do not think like women, which is something these "girls" need to learn before they go out there with big girl panties and ask guys out.
Feel better now? Probably not...click to expand
Posted by rockyroadicecreamThanks rocky we'd all be lost and have no clue what to do with our lives if it weren't for your words of wise don.Posted by YourMajestyYou just proved my point. The problem we have is that a lot of women (and a lot of guys, apparently) aren't aware of how ridiculous some guys are and what extent they'll go to in order to get laid. I say what I say because I've had a LOT of guy friends and the butter I've seen plus the insight they've given me when I asked about guys and their behavior has been a pretty big learning tool for me.Posted by xtinaTell that to my bro !Posted by YourMajestyBwahaha what kind of stupid ass question is that?Posted by xtinaWhat if you initiated and He only said yes for sex ?Posted by YourMajestyNot always that's for sure. I like to be chased too.
Just once or only the first time or always ?
But if he's irresitible i think I might have to 🙂
It's not like I'll be asking:
"Will you:
A. Go out with me
B. Marry me
Or
C. just have sex with me, ONLY sex
Check all that applies"
"Hmm, she's not bad. I wouldn't date her, but man, a not so bad lookin' chick hitting me up? I could hit that."click to expand
I can't break everything down for you Rocky, oh no. You might do so kindly for me but I believe in tough love. Figure it out. You have a brain. Use it.
Since when is it bad to go after what u want? It's kinda smug to say you would never approach a man imo. AS IF you're not as likely to get played a guy who approaches you lol
Posted by WaterBearererYessss! Thank you ðŸ‘ðŸ¼
Since when is it bad to go after what u want? It's kinda smug to say you would never approach a man imo. AS IF you're not as likely to get played a guy who approaches you lol
Posted by Arielle83Nope, obviously anyone can comment. Doesn't mean I won't reply 🙂
So you only want ppl to comment if they agree with the video?
#disclaimer
Posted by Arielle83Maybe... But I think that makes her more beautiful. Everyone's denied reality at some point in time in their life. To never have experienced denial... Well, you'd have to be a superhuman robot 🙂
I think the woman's in denial.
Her voice cracked a bit in some of the whiny parts.
Maybe she made the video to heal herself and let it all out.
Overall, I don't care how ppl ask each other out. If you want something, you should be able to try and get it.
Posted by YourMajestyHopefully this will empower men too. The more women that empathize and realize the courage it takes to put yourself out there. And understand being vulnerable to someone that could shoot you down is scary. Hopefully it might teach them to be less of a bitch when they turn down someone 🙂
I m all for women empowerment. I think they should be able to choose or initiate . Yes there are men who might take advantage but its just part of the way dating game is played. Its not like when men initiate they don't get wounded. Some women reject them so badly they might never or take long period . Other times women use money to pay them out of debt, school , child support etc. So yes they should be ready for risks too .As a guy we should encourage them esp if we are currently single and have no daughters and sisters.
Posted by YourMajesty
Actually I was jk.
Posted by wecarealotNope.
I'm not sure there really is a way to bypass this whole 'men only want sex, girls want relationships' conundrum. It sounds like a lot of guys out there will say anything to a girl to get in bed with her and if that's truly the case, it's going to be hard to gauge whether a guy is serious or not right off the bat. If a person is willing to lie to such a degree just to get laid, then you have to have some super intense intuition/gut instincts about them. Withholding sex won't even work because you could never know if they're dating chicks on the side to stay satisfied until you give in.
Sucks. I wonder if dating nerds is better.
I noticed all across the board whether it be monogamy, polygamy, gay, straight, bi, or unicorn there are always issues and I think it's more deep rooted than guys wanting sex. A lot of people exercise their logical intelligence but few understand their emotional intelligence. If that makes sense.
Posted by wecarealotRejection hurts for I'd say 99.99% of people... Rejection doesn't hurt sociopaths though... At least I don't think... They might feign it 🙂Posted by Arielle83She did seem a bit hurt when talking about the possible reasons guys have rejected her in the past, but I still think it's brave of her to not only ask guys out but continue to ask them out even after facing so much rejection. That takes guts, especially if she's still hurting over past rejections. Most men don't even have that kind of courage.
I think the woman's in denial.
Her voice cracked a bit in some of the whiny parts.
Maybe she made the video to heal herself and let it all out.
Overall, I don't care how ppl ask each other out. If you want something, you should be able to try and get it.
And astrologically speaking, if she is a Leo, it makes sense that past rejections would still hurt. Leos can be brave in that fire sign kind of way, but their egos are still sensitive as hell.click to expand
Posted by xtinaWow. What's with the twatastic behavior? I'm sorry I ruffled your feathers because your lady boner for this Leo chick was ruined. My bad.
I can't break everything down for you Rocky, oh no. You might do so kindly for me but I believe in tough love. Figure it out. You have a brain. Use it.
You must have issues with the subject if you're taking personal offense to what I wrote. If you're not one of these silly bitches who can't understand men at all, then wtf is the problem?
From what I've witnessed over the years, the girls that ask guys out usually end up confused in the so called relationship because the guys don't seem take them seriously.
I like traditional gender roles, but that's my personal preference.
Go for what you want, but do it elegantly and gracefully.
I like traditional gender roles, but that's my personal preference.
Go for what you want, but do it elegantly and gracefully.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by xtinaWow. What's with the twatastic behavior? I'm sorry I ruffled your feathers because your lady boner for this Leo chick was ruined. My bad.
I can't break everything down for you Rocky, oh no. You might do so kindly for me but I believe in tough love. Figure it out. You have a brain. Use it.
You must have issues with the subject if you're taking personal offense to what I wrote. If you're not one of these silly bitches who can't understand men at all, then wtf is the problem?click to expand
Posted by truecapI've personally only witnessed a few. Some work out, others don't. It's a good thing to keep in mind though. To know yourself. But I think that should be a given with any relationship.
From what I've witnessed over the years, the girls that ask guys out usually end up confused in the so called relationship because the guys don't seem take them seriously.
I like traditional gender roles, but that's my personal preference.
Go for what you want, but do it elegantly and gracefully.
Posted by xtinaSure, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Just most of the time what I've seen doesn't work out. The gals end up getting presented with a FWB offer rather than what they really want. And sometimes when it does work out the men are weak and the woman runs the whole shebang. Only a few have ended in very balanced happy relationships.Posted by truecapI've personally only witnessed a few. Some work out, others don't. It's a good thing to keep in mind though. To know yourself. But I think that should be a given with any relationship.
From what I've witnessed over the years, the girls that ask guys out usually end up confused in the so called relationship because the guys don't seem take them seriously.
I like traditional gender roles, but that's my personal preference.
Go for what you want, but do it elegantly and gracefully.click to expand
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This question is for the men. What do y'all consider all of the above? I fear that I may be these things, and I really want to change!
Just want to tell you. I had introduces 2 people and on the first and only date all seemed fine. He is 57 and she is 53. He took her to Dunkin Donuts...(no comments). After date he kissed her on the cheek and disappeared. After about 2 month
Hey, just wondering, is it normal for y'all to not reply back to Thanksgiving or Christmas texts? Note they are coming from someone you supposedly love.
I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about my lost love. We met in college, a Sag man. I was madly, deeply in love with him. I swear if he didn't pass away in a motorcycle accident we would be married and have a family right now. It took me years to
My bf is an aqua male. Dating about 6 months. We've had a reoccurring problem, and he claims I'm not honest. Out last argument was over text and said, "I'm really done. I'm serious, I'm done. Don't t contact me." Anyway I have nothing to hide from him. Ho
I am a recently married and living near to my in-laws. My work location is about 13 miles far from my home and it will take more than an hour to travel daily in hectic traffic. Before marriage I have told my wife that I will be taking a home which will be
Which sign has been your best sexual experience? whether it was a one time thing or longer. Im curious to know which sign you think is best!
Me and my ex broke up a month ago(he dumped me) and haven't been in contact for 2 weeks. Recently I unfollowed him off of all social media and he recently unfollowed me back off of only 1 site (I unfollowed him from everything) but he has yet to delete pi
I don't want to go into all the details here but I have a Libra friend who started spending most of his time with me right after we became friends. Then he moved in with me because he was sleeping here every night anyway. What are some signs that he lik
Narcissist......I had to leave him or I would have lost myself. Im hurt to the core, how do you heal?? I love him with all of who I am and who he was turning me to be and it still was never enough.
My dad is a Leo ... I watched my step mom love him to death and he still cheated later on. I was his 10th child. At one point they were so in love... She went crazy and cut her hair and had a nervous breakdown over my dad in the end. What scares me the mo
Alright.. I met this man on an online dating site the first of October. He was seemingly taken by me from the start. We were up late one night chatting... and it was amazing. Things have been a little complicated and we just met face to face for the
I have a lot of anger. As of late, I have been losing more and more control of myself. I make mean comments about people who I find irritating, but I seem to find EVERYONE irritating. I made a vow the other day, "no more talking badly about people behind
IS THIS REAL LIFE? ... is what I was thinking the whole time I heard this story being told. A friend of my brothers, just.found out, that his wife was sleeping with his sister's husband. I guess both the brother has had suspicion that something wa
Ok...so admittedly, I've always been fascinated by people living the "lifestyle". Whether it was an open relationship, don't ask...don't tell...because we know one or both of us are cheating, swinging, etc. I've never had a threesome...I know, I know...
Opps trigger happy fingers 🙂
Anywho she's a Leo and I agree with her. Please watch before commenting she brings up good points.
I read somethings not to long ago where women have significantly lower self esteem than men (no surprise there) and it's even more pronounced in western culture (definitely no surprise).
I also read an article about a man dealing with rejection (his greatest fear) he ends up forcing himself to make a daily effort to get rejected until it was no longer a fear. And it worked!
I wouldn't be surprised the reason for women flocking to this site asking (to us old timers) questions with obviously glaring answers (yet the refuse to acknowledge) has to do with deep seeded fears of rejection.
Or maybe I'm projecting. What do you guys think?