Would you sue...

the Other Woman if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that she received money/gifts from your S/O?

Just a tidbit -
There was one case where a woman sued her husbands's mistress for 'alienation of affection' AND ACTUALLY WON! Wow.

All of it? What part?

Sue her? No.

Destroy everything he owns - absolutely. 🙂

I think differently - I see it as money that should be spent/kept in our household. Period.
His head would roll if we had kids and it came to light that he was financially supporting a mistress.
He'd be chopped to pieces if he complained about money to me. ( Disagreements about money is the culprit in many marriages and these same husbands dole out money to mistresses)

Now, I'm not so sure if I'd actually sue the other woman but he'd be in hot water.

Posted by deemnsout4ever
"His head would roll if we had kids and it came to light that he was financially supporting a mistress. "

No kids though,I presume

"Now, I'm not so sure if I'd actually sue the other woman but he'd be in hot water."
nice and calm now ??🙂🙂

I'd have a problem with the mistress thing in it's entirety. Even if there were no kids - I'd still have a axe to grind. I still think it's money that should stay in the household.

Money made during a marriage is equal 50/50...even if he was the one physically earning it, she was doing other things like looking after children. In my experience a man working and earning a crust doesn't amount to much...it's the risks they take like buying property, building businesses or investing that adds up to bigger money. these risks are shared equally as they are mostly supported with both names on documents or the wife plays the behind the scenes role. Unless the person themselves was already rightfully a sucessful businessman before they got together.

Not sure about suing the mistress but solicitors thrive off unhappy separations and will surely make them pay with evidence...And then I've seen where a wealthy husband that cheated has made the wife suffer for leaving and all because she wasn't strong enough to GET MAD Grrrr

Hmmmm, be hard for her to be going through all those things at once!! think more like her mind is working overtime because of what she is witnessing happeneing around her.

Posted by sweethearts
Hmmmm, be hard for her to be going through all those things at once!! think more like her mind is working overtime because of what she is witnessing happeneing around her.

I like you...

That's all 🙂

Hm my dad did that to his "mistress". He told my mom that he took a pay cut but he was actually paying for her rent and buy her things. He was even buying her kids new clothes. My mother had to pick up a second job to support us......... and they were still married and my father was hiding all this from her.


When mom found out that dad had put new tires on this womans car .... she went and slashed them. Gotta love a pissed off Scorpio woman huh?

Posted by Gingerscorp
Hm my dad did that to his "mistress". He told my mom that he took a pay cut but he was actually paying for her rent and buy her things. He was even buying her kids new clothes. My mother had to pick up a second job to support us......... and they were still married and my father was hiding all this from her.


When mom found out that dad had put new tires on this womans car .... she went and slashed them. Gotta love a pissed off Scorpio woman huh?

DAMN!!! O__O I'm sorry your mom had to be put up with that bullshit.

Well she didn't know it was going on. Had she known...... wow. I don't want to think what would have happened. When she DID find out she immediately asked for a divorce.

But yeah.... it was heartbreaking for all of us to find out my dad was "keeping" another woman while claiming to us he had no money. 😢

for real your dad sucks. got no use for someone who doesn't take care of his own.

where i work i see see pymts come through all the time....i once seen a check with the husband name...his current wife...and his ex wife....

i mean thats some joint account

Posted by brianafay
Sue her? No.

Destroy everything he owns - absolutely. 🙂

I like how you think! lol 😄

Well, speaking from experience, my answer to this would be no. First of all, I'm not a vindictive person so I just couldnt live my life trying to be so malicious. I have to sleep at night and require a peaceful existence. It's not worth the time and energy involved and would dim my light which I don't want to do for anyone. Its hard enough having to deal with divorce, love loss and change so why add further to the pain? I dont want to go into too much detail, because there isnt enough room in this thread to.... but there was a large sum of money involved that did cause me substantial financial loss, however..... my marriage wasnt working and there were some very extinuating circumstances as to why.

As for the "other woman" well lets just say, I don't particularly like her, however SHE had no responsibility to me or my union and she has to live with knowing what she did. My husband is who harboured the responsibility to me and to our marriage. And honestly, there was more than just one woman and they could've been ANYONE! They knew he was married, they knew who I was, however HE lied and convinced them of things that were untrue. HE was the one who deceived ME. HE was the one that should have been accountable for his actions. I myself can sleep at night knowing I did everything with integrity and without malicious intent. I have moved on and had I chosen an action such as the topic suggests, I would probably still be fighting that fight and unable to move past the pain of it. Sometimes things just aren't worth the energy! The reality is that we were together for 16 years and he is and always will be a part of my family so why muck it up any worse than it already is!?

But, hey... thats just me.... Im a Leo... always trying to find the brighter side of things and keep the peace in my life!

Posted by Gingerscorp
Well she didn't know it was going on. Had she known...... wow. I don't want to think what would have happened. When she DID find out she immediately asked for a divorce.

But yeah.... it was heartbreaking for all of us to find out my dad was "keeping" another woman while claiming to us he had no money. 😢

That's terrible. Kinda sound like my father.

Posted by james tate
for real your dad sucks. got no use for someone who doesn't take care of his own.

Yeah we don't speak hardly at all since it happened.

Posted by The-Dream

Posted by Gingerscorp
Well she didn't know it was going on. Had she known...... wow. I don't want to think what would have happened. When she DID find out she immediately asked for a divorce.

But yeah.... it was heartbreaking for all of us to find out my dad was "keeping" another woman while claiming to us he had no money. 😢

That's terrible. Kinda sound like my father.

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If your dad even "kinda" sounds like my dad then I'm sorry you have a father like that 😢
It sucks

Alienation of Affection is legal in two states. North Carolina just happens to be one of them. You must be married and have to proove to the Court that you were happily married before the other person came in w/ the intention of breaking up the relationship. It carries a $ 30k minimum here. And I have seen it happen.

And yes, I would.

Posted by itsthelaw
Alienation of Affection is legal in two states. North Carolina just happens to be one of them. You must be married and have to proove to the Court that you were happily married before the other person came in w/ the intention of breaking up the relationship. It carries a $ 30k minimum here. And I have seen it happen.

And yes, I would.

I still am fanscinated with that case!

Hypothetically speaking - I *think* it wouldn't sting me as bad if another woman won my man's affections as I know people's desires can change (and I don't want nobody who doesn't want me).

HOWEVER, if we had a kid and his little chewbacca-cunt was AWARE of this fact (I don't care if she has no loyalties to me - it takes two)...

I think I would take her to court...*maybe*

PS- I find it extremely hard to believe some women who say they didn't know a man was attached, blah, blah. When you can't call a man's home at any time, meet his friends/family, go out in public, account for the majority of his time, and his daily routine is too set in stone - RED FLAGS should be flaming!

I always found it odd that certain women liked men who were attached.

And don't get me wrong, if I sued her......he would be going down too. I would have alimony the rest of my life.

fanscinated = fascinated

ITL,

Yes, some women do love attached men - I think it's a combo of low self-esteem and competition.

Me, I don't want another woman's crumbs.