2 months, limited emotion (Page 2)

* i dont think hes a bad guy*

I am a sag myself, which is how i knew something was off.

I guess in a way, i was trying to see where i stood with my text. he wasnt coming across really convincing as he had in the past.

I think we were both "just going through the motions" of it all.

I was interested, but my interest is always dependent on how interested the other person is.

Posted by tiziani
I've often seen when one side fishes for reassurance they will make the other side feel threatened (ironically) with the things they say trying to get it. The one where you said if you felt like a partner couldn't have sex with you, you would leave (I'm paraphrasing) being a prime example. In trying to seek reassurance you said something that puts the other side on the defensive.

But you know, in the end this is just different values. It's not like it was meant to play out any different. I guess maybe the one thing that preys on your mind is you never got to find out about the sex.

dont you know it!

I totally get how my truthful answer could have swayed things.

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Posted by DMV
* i dont think hes a bad guy*

I am a sag myself, which is how i knew something was off.

I guess in a way, i was trying to see where i stood with my text. he wasnt coming across really convincing as he had in the past.

Okay. But why do it like that though?

His answer kinda only caused you more confusion right? ??Cause now you're sitting here wondering: IS he really not interested in me— Or does he just play it cool, because I already said, I wasn't interested?

You could just tell him, that you thought you were dating, sorry if you misinterpreted things, and actually you are in fact looking for a relationship, that he was sweet, but if not interested, the you'll say very nice to meet you🙂 And I'm not being sarcastic or that this should be said with an attitude.

... It's all relative to where, we are in our lives, I just recently were completely honest about my feelings, and it felt really good, even though it didn't get me the guy. Just feels nice to have that confidence about one self to say, what you really want. No games.

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i feel alot coming from you in your posts. Look man, Im sorry if i didnt answer or have the conversation in a way you deem fit.

Posted by tiziani
Yeah, but swayed them in a way that there were always meant to play out, you know? I think it's better to find out about how different you both are sooner rather than later in my book.

Why do people reminisce over what could have been? The sex. It was always the sex.

i completely agree. Sooner rather than later.

Sex = culmination.

🙂

Posted by exoskeleton
*scratches head*

i feel like something got lost in translation here.

+1
and this:

Posted by exoskeleton

don't believe that. saggy defense up, lol.

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Right. The man's not going to blow up your phone to "check on a clothing line" unless he's a silent partner and checking on his investment.

Posted by tiziani
I've often seen when one side fishes for reassurance they will make the other side feel threatened (ironically) with the things they say trying to get it. The one where you said if you felt like a partner couldn't have sex with you, you would leave (I'm paraphrasing) being a prime example. In trying to seek reassurance you said something that puts the other side on the defensive.

+1

Totally random, but whenever I read one of your threads I need chocolate....

I'm craving chocolate truffles right now.

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Posted by DMV
* i dont think hes a bad guy*

I am a sag myself, which is how i knew something was off.

I guess in a way, i was trying to see where i stood with my text. he wasnt coming across really convincing as he had in the past.

Okay. But why do it like that though?

His answer kinda only caused you more confusion right? ??Cause now you're sitting here wondering: IS he really not interested in me— Or does he just play it cool, because I already said, I wasn't interested?

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Hmph. That's not how I read her update.

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Well you're a sag yourself ey?! You know how sags can easily hang out with someone and be very open and talk about stuff, without it meaning anything. Sometimes maybe hang out for a little while to get a feel for the other person and then decide to go forward or not. Probably what happened.

and this is how sags break hearts, lol.

😄 Well, everybody does this actually right? Unless it's been well established before going out, you're never really sure with what intentions, you're going out.

And in these modern days, people can easily have sex and then still go out as friends, which is where most of the hearbreaking happens imo. One thinks it's dating, the other knows it's not. Maybe everyone should be more honest and just say, what they want to begin with. But that's easier said than done OFCOURS!

no, i don't dig deep and open up for no reason. and i don't fuck friends.

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right. He did open up about some personal things very early on. Like the 2nd conversation he was very honest about who he was and his past. He gave his resume so to speak. I actually liked that approach. So I reciprocated by being open and a bit more subtly sexual.

Posted by PhoenixRising
Totally random, but whenever I read one of your threads I need chocolate....

I'm craving chocolate truffles right now.

🙂

"hang out with someone and be very open and talk about stuff, without it meaning anything."

it is a little of a wonder that other signs would not be able/willing to simply hang out with whomever.

I have done this 1000 times in my life. I love to experience people. No matter what age, gender, ethnicity etc. etc.

I can be absorbed by a book, a street, a building, an animal, a farm, a man, a girl, a baby, a granni, a see, a river, a movie, a song, a theater.... everything can consume me equally.

but didn't dmv say he made sexual remarks? were they general? or aimed at her?

My conspiracy theory: he finds it is a sin to be sexual. He did nothing and waited that she makes the first move. so the sin is on her side. when she did nothing and waited for his first move, he lost interest. cause it's been a while and there was nothing new to study.

I think anybody with Cap inside is a little complex. wrong?

Posted by DwellingOnMove
but didn't dmv say he made sexual remarks? were they general? or aimed at her?

My conspiracy theory: he finds it is a sin to be sexual. He did nothing and waited that she makes the first move. so the sin is on her side. when she did nothing and waited for his first move, he lost interest. cause it's been a while and there was nothing new to study.

I think anybody with Cap inside is a little complex. wrong?

This is so interesting. Wow. I knew religion was a big part of his life. Interesting way he views me.

He did make sexual comments toward me. Lol. Subtle but sexy.

😕 who knows? % -}

Posted by tiziani
He wanted to build up your virginal image in his head so he could be the one to defile you.

As a Virgo Mars, it would be beautiful music on both sides.

Ha! I dont have enough patience to wait and see. But seriously, I didnt get that feeling.

Nope, nilch, nada lol