acting aloof

omg 😢 tell me your thought on this? 😢
I was just thinking about my ex,he was a sag ,at first he was really into me,and i weren't ,so i acted kinnda aloof and distant, not that much ,but i didn't show him much affection( not on purpose though), but when i fell for him and started to love him ,he left me ...it was the hardest thing getting over him cuz we we're together like ALOT!...I was thinking maybe if i had acted aloof around him,he wouldn't leave me...after a year he left me.

maybe that's not really healthy ,when i love him i can't NOT show it,but i mean if i had acted that way maybe he wouldn't leave..

sounds like a game. Where are all these gems coming from all of a sudden?

as far as i know its a sag thing,Idk about others but i'm new here.

Posted by Sag89
sounds like a game. Where are all these gems coming from all of a sudden?

+1 & +2

Posted by geminigal2
maybe that's not really healthy ,when i love him i can't NOT show it,but i mean if i had acted that way maybe he wouldn't leave..

Gems are over the top when in love/obsessive lust. Why didn't you show it?

I showed it!that was the problem,when i wan't in love with him,and didn't show much affection he was much more into me,but when i started to care and love him,he left me .

Posted by geminigal2
maybe that's not really healthy ,when i love him i can't NOT show it,but i mean if i had acted that way maybe he wouldn't leave..

by can't NOT , i meant i had to show him , i couldn't hide it.sorry if i misled you.

Posted by geminigal2
I showed it!that was the problem,when i wan't in love with him,and didn't show much affection he was much more into me,but when i started to care and love him,he left me .

I am going to try and not sterotype but I had an ex Gem friend and when she liked someone it was almost obsessive. She went way over the top, and also caused alot of stressful drama and brought in onto herself by her definition of displaying affection. I am not saying you are like that, but maybe that is what scared him.

hmmmm i'm not obsessive,but he was starting to be distant from me,and he said he has problems which he can't tell me ,but i'm guessing he was lying,maybe he just didn't want to commit and settle down for me...

is it a sag thing?

Posted by geminigal2
hmmmm i'm not obsessive,but he was starting to be distant from me,and he said he has problems which he can't tell me ,but i'm guessing he was lying,maybe he just didn't want to commit and settle down for me...

Its a possibility he is not lying and he does have something going on that is to personal to talk about.
I know Sags are known to talk but what most people don't understand is that when it hits us hard, or it is too personal we do not talk. We are actually quiet.

maybe...

Posted by geminigal2
is it a sag thing?

That he ran-could be. If I don't like you I run. If I like you, you know it.

Posted by NikkiMse1978

Posted by geminigal2
is it a sag thing?

That he ran-could be. If I don't like you I run. If I like you, you know it.

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Yeah... and sags only run if they feel like you're not giving them their space. Even when I'm hung up on a guy and really like him if he starts showing me too much attention I'll start to lose interest

Posted by DominOo

Posted by Sag89
sounds like a game. Where are all these gems coming from all of a sudden?

Numerous different mothers from Pisces parents.

Trust me, it's rough. We need sags in our lives.

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Lol!