Good Kisser, Not so good Lover

I finally slept with the ol crab. Let me get that out the way.

It must be synastry or something. His kissing game is top notch. But the sex game left alot to be desired.

Ugh.

We were just not in sync. Aside from the kissing, I felt so awkward. I gave him some bomb ass oral but got none back in return. He was dominating while I gave him head, so I started to feel a bit more hopeful but then came the actual intercourse. I could definitely tell that he kisses more than he has sex, nothing wrong with that. Idk, it was like he wasnt afraid of my body and he was afraid of it.
Other than the kissing, he was selfish. My boobs or my butt received no warmth from his hands or mouth. I gave him plenty of affection and tender kisses. I dont even know if he came or not. He went soft but there was nothing in the condom.

The after sex was even more awkward. We cuddled but it felt forced to me. There was an emptiness to him during sex and afterwards. Even with it just being casual sex, I can usually feel passion, I can feel desire from my partner, but there was definitely a wall up. Idk if it was my wall or his.

when he left, Again, same shit as last time, he left moopy and like he couldnt get out the front door fast enough lol. The feeling was mutual.

His mars is in pisces, venus gemini. Ive felt this detachment before when I have sex with geminis or gemini placement. Its like an emptiness in the bedroom but outside of the bedroom, things are fine.

Bad sex

Posted by geminicandIe
I wouldn't blame it on gemini placements though.

I think it's his cancer sun/pisces mars.

When I see pisces mars in a guy, I run.

this is my first time sleeping w pisces mars. That I know of.

DMV, you must be one of the very few scorpio moon people that have no problem discussing their sex life with other people lol. I must admit, sometimes I doubt your sexual adventures & strongly feel that you're making them up to entertain people. Go you, if they are true...that's all I'll say.

I was watching that show called "The talk", hosted by Leah Remini, Holly Robinson, etc. This episode was about if young children should be told the real names for their sex organs instead of saying "woo-woo" & such. Leah is a scorpio moon, mind you. So they showed an insert with a sex expert specialising in sex education for young children. Your little two-year-olds & up. This lady said you should reffer to a female sex organ as a VULVA to a child of any age! Leah said such was DISGUTING & nothing she'll ever say to her child. I agreed with her. She further said that her daughter once saw two dogs humping & asked her what were the dogs doing. She said she told her that she didn't know & changed the subject.

Believe it or not, her reaction made me think of DXP & it's scorpio moon members, like yourself...people who have no qualms discussing their sexual activities. Not something I'd do but big ups to you, lady 🙂

Posted by UncleIroh
Different strokes for different folks. Has nothing to do with astrology

im glad you said the word "stroke." His stoke game was different but I didnt have enough time to get comfortable with it.

Posted by lnana04
my friend has a venus in Gemini and I've noticed that emptiness. it's like he would detach completely during the act, which was so weird, especially considering how intimate and affectionate he'd be before. it would actually hurt my little feelings and puzzled me cause its like two different sides of him...its not a continuous flow of affection.

venus Gemini, cancer mars

its gotta be that darn venus.

I have those, and never been told I was detached or empty.

First time, maybe anxiety.

Posted by WaterCup
DMV, you must be one of the very few scorpio moon people that have no problem discussing their sex life with other people lol. I must admit, sometimes I doubt your sexual adventures & strongly feel that you're making them up to entertain people. Go you, if they are true...that's all I'll say.

I get that alot. Most people think I make up my own life.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by lnana04
my friend has a venus in Gemini and I've noticed that emptiness. it's like he would detach completely during the act, which was so weird, especially considering how intimate and affectionate he'd be before. it would actually hurt my little feelings and puzzled me cause its like two different sides of him...its not a continuous flow of affection.

venus Gemini, cancer mars

its gotta be that darn venus.

I have those, and never been told I was detached or empty.

First time, maybe anxiety.

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could be anxiety. Maybe casual sex is not his thing.

Im much more private when it comes to other matters. Proverbial steel curtain.

He was a really good kisser and conversationalist. No awkward silences.

Posted by DMV
Im much more private when it comes to other matters. Proverbial steel curtain.

Such as? Most Sadge people I know are pretty uncensored. They talk about anything from sex to how much they earn. Very transparent folks.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by lnana04
my friend has a venus in Gemini and I've noticed that emptiness. it's like he would detach completely during the act, which was so weird, especially considering how intimate and affectionate he'd be before. it would actually hurt my little feelings and puzzled me cause its like two different sides of him...its not a continuous flow of affection.

venus Gemini, cancer mars

its gotta be that darn venus.

I have those, and never been told I was detached or empty.

First time, maybe anxiety.

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I've never told him I felt that way. I'm a scorpio venus/libra mars, so I just think we may just be different in that area. thinking about it, I realize that we'd both attach before, then he'd detach during when id want to feel closer, and id completely detach after when he appears to want more of a connection. we couldn't get it right. don't know what that was about..

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Posted by DMV
Im much more private when it comes to other matters. Proverbial steel curtain.

Such as? Most Sadge people I know are pretty uncensored. They talk about anything from sex to how much they earn. Very transparent folks.

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Money and family are topics that are never up for discussion. Maybe its my venus in cap talking.

Posted by lnana04

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by lnana04
my friend has a venus in Gemini and I've noticed that emptiness. it's like he would detach completely during the act, which was so weird, especially considering how intimate and affectionate he'd be before. it would actually hurt my little feelings and puzzled me cause its like two different sides of him...its not a continuous flow of affection.

venus Gemini, cancer mars

its gotta be that darn venus.

I have those, and never been told I was detached or empty.

First time, maybe anxiety.

I've never told him I felt that way. I'm a scorpio venus/libra mars, so I just think we may just be different in that area. thinking about it, I realize that we'd both attach before, then he'd detach during when id want to feel closer, and id completely detach after when he appears to want more of a connection. we couldn't get it right. don't know what that was about..

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yeah you know afterwards, I felt like I didnt give him enough affection. For some reason, I felt like I should give him space. I can be aggressive when I want a guy especially if I feel its a mutual desire. I felt that before sex but when it comes to the actual act, I was a bit lost.

I can't believe you would bash him online like that 😢. You should at least give him him a chance to get better. This is where good communication comes in. Talk to him first before throwing in the tell. You got a hood man, & letting him go because one sex encounter isn't fair. Don't risk losing a good man like this DMV. Sex isn't everything

Plus us Cancer men are more than willing to do what it takes to keep our partners happy in & out of the bedroom. It would hurt him if he read this. Don't give up on him. If you don't care, just let him go before someone feelings get hurt

How did I bash him?

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Plus us Cancer men are more than willing to do what it takes to keep our partners happy in & out of the bedroom. It would hurt him if he read this. Don't give up on him. If you don't care, just let him go before someone feelings get hurt

Im not trying to hurt him by sharing my thoughts on the matter. By saying the sex was bad is not a reflection of his character. Hes a good guy.

Do you think he wouldnt be put off to having a conversation about the sex? Idk

@DMV I reread your 1st post, & I understand where your coming from. Just tell him you would like more affection or effort. Better yet, show him how you wanna be made love to. Just talk to him about your needs and what you wanna do with him. Off course in a sweet, mature way. If he cares, he will be willing do what you like. I think a womans pleasure is important in sex. So just talk to him ok. It's not what you say, but how you say it with Cancers. Remember that & you'll be ok

Plus I think a lot of Cancers have a Gemini venus. I have it to, but I got a lot of water, leo asc and Aries mars. The venus in Gemini isn't bad if the person got water planets or is a good person in general.

@DMV I guess you talking about your sex life with him is what put me off you know. It was you guys first time together. Things will surely grt better if you keep trying. That's all I was trying to say.

Posted by WaterCup

I was watching that show called "The talk", hosted by Leah Remini, Holly Robinson, etc. This episode was about if young children should be told the real names for their sex organs instead of saying "woo-woo" & such. Leah is a scorpio moon, mind you. So they showed an insert with a sex expert specialising in sex education for young children. Your little two-year-olds & up. This lady said you should reffer to a female sex organ as a VULVA to a child of any age! Leah said such was DISGUTING & nothing she'll ever say to her child. I agreed with her. She further said that her daughter once saw two dogs humping & asked her what were the dogs doing. She said she told her that she didn't know & changed the subject.

What's disgusting about it? Sure, it sounds rather clinical but "woo-woo" sounds fucking ridiculous too. It is what it is whatever you call it, unless you call it "cunt". I mean what are you REALLY teaching your kids here if you feel that the word "vulva" is disgusting?

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@DMV I guess you talking about your sex life with him is what put me off you know. It was you guys first time together. Things will surely grt better if you keep trying. That's all I was trying to say.

You gave good advice above. Trust this has not been a walk n the park. I still have yet to hear him say that he even likes me. This has been an exercise of faith and reading non verbal ques. My only fear is that once again I have read a situation wrong.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@DMV I guess you talking about your sex life with him is what put me off you know. It was you guys first time together. Things will surely grt better if you keep trying. That's all I was trying to say.

There are no second-chances with DMV! Shape up or ship out! 😛

What? He hasn't even said he likes you or care about you at all. Wow, you need to withhold on any sexual or affection stuff until he shows that you mean something to him. Don't be throwing your body at someone who don't respect you @DMV. Sho if a woman wanted to have sex with me & I really like her already, i wouldn't stop telling her how amazing she is. So see if he does this with you. If not, you'll know what to do. Also I don't wanna make it seem like im being mean to you or yelling lol

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Posted by WaterCup
DMV, you must be one of the very few scorpio moon people that have no problem discussing their sex life with other people lol. I must admit, sometimes I doubt your sexual adventures & strongly feel that you're making them up to entertain people. Go you, if they are true...that's all I'll say.

I get that alot. Most people think I make up my own life.

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Most Sags are some of the most interesting ppl I have ever met. They appear to be so laid back, most ppl don't even realize it

@enfant-terrible lol well sex shouldn't be everything. If someone doesn't respect you or have any kinda emotional bond, then don't expect anything good from them. That includes good love making

I think a lot of women are really impatient when it comes to sex. That ish has to be worked at a little. I say talk to him and go another round!

I agree with you creativecap. You have to be patient at sex. Plus if You got someone who cares about, they'll make sure things get better. That's where communication comes in.

Plus I love Sagittarius women myself. My mom is one. They are good people who are very passionate & honest

Mars in pisces. The end. Lol jk

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
@enfant-terrible lol well sex shouldn't be everything. If someone doesn't respect you or have any kinda emotional bond, then don't expect anything good from them. That includes good love making

Not true, some of my best love-making was with a chick I had no emotional bond to. To each their own. You should stop telling people how to feel based on what you want... or THINK that you want. You're that guy who hasn't gone all the way yet, right? Nothing wrong with that & more power to you bro, but oh man, when I was in your seat I had so many preconcieved notions about sex and women that just didn't live up to my expectations, or live down would be the correct word. DMV knows what she wants and what she's doing, you're preaching to the wrong crowd. Let's face it, she's not your "type" and there's nothing you can teach her or that she can teach you (if you supposedly know what you're looking for) =)

Not true, some of my best love-making was with a chick I had no emotional bond to.

Agreed.
The best sex I ever had was with a Gemini guy who I had no emotional attachment to.

@enfant-terrible what are talking about. I wasn't trying to date DMV. I was only trying to offer some kind words. No need to get on me like that. Yes you are right about me not going all the way yet. But I do know a lil about sex. I do research on it & stuff. I wasn't trying to tell DMV what to do or what to like. Sorry if you thought wrong about what I posted. I'll stop posting here to keep the peace. I was only trying to help

I want you to think about the severity of the generalization that you just made. If you think about how many people in this world are Cancers, you have to see the absurdity involved in claiming that all of them are bad at sex.

The stuff about Pisces Mars is stupid, too.
What if your Mars is the most elevated planet in your chart; at the Aries-point (29.4 degrees Pisces); serving as the agitated apex of a T-square that involves Mercury and Saturn/Uranus? That's my personal situation, and I'm plenty aggressive--enough for sex, even. In fact, my main passion is powerlifting. I'm a pretty angry person and I do not lack the aggressiveness required for entertaining sexual endeavors.
Ray Lewis was one of the most feared defensive football players of all-time, and he has a Pisces Mars.
It all depends on aspects. Remember that and don't forget it - aspects, aspects, aspects. THE WHOLE CHART NEEDS TO BE CONSIDERED. UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND THIS, YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND ASTROLOGY. I HATE EVERY PERSON ON THIS SITE WHO GENERALIZES; ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO PERVERTED STUFF LIKE SEX.



Ray hates you all, too.

This site sucks.
Bye now.

Is this that Cancer who blew you off after your candlelight supper?

Well then, I'm not surprised he turned out to be a crappy lover.

:shrugs: Not sure why you're even trying with the guy...he sounds frustrating as hell.

Posted by Wynter
Is this that Cancer who blew you off after your candlelight supper?

Well then, I'm not surprised he turned out to be a crappy lover.

:shrugs: Not sure why you're even trying with the guy...he sounds frustrating as hell.

Yeah yep your right.

We'll damn that's hot we're do you sign up for the dmv ride lmao ;p oh we'll that suck what's Your placements dmv

Posted by Ulalume

Posted by DMV

Posted by Wynter
Is this that Cancer who blew you off after your candlelight supper?

Well then, I'm not surprised he turned out to be a crappy lover.

:shrugs: Not sure why you're even trying with the guy...he sounds frustrating as hell.

Yeah yep your right.

I agree with Wynter.

Shit if dude wasn't about shit vertical why

in the hell would you expect anything better

when you two got horizontal. Was this a pity

fuck?

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thats a good way to look at things lol. idk, i feel like such a dummy when it comes to my dealings with men. but im a pro when it comes to other things. such a dumbass when it comes to my own stuff.

i usually put up with this shit like this, complain for a few months, then move on.

i know deep down inside he doesnt like me, but he likes the ego boost i give him. my mind just has to catch up to the rest of me. i secretly hope men prove me wrong.

Posted by virgoking
We'll damn that's hot we're do you sign up for the dmv ride lmao ;p oh we'll that suck what's Your placements dmv

i dont have much luck with virgos either.

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Posted by WaterCup

I was watching that show called "The talk", hosted by Leah Remini, Holly Robinson, etc. This episode was about if young children should be told the real names for their sex organs instead of saying "woo-woo" & such. Leah is a scorpio moon, mind you. So they showed an insert with a sex expert specialising in sex education for young children. Your little two-year-olds & up. This lady said you should reffer to a female sex organ as a VULVA to a child of any age! Leah said such was DISGUTING & nothing she'll ever say to her child. I agreed with her. She further said that her daughter once saw two dogs humping & asked her what were the dogs doing. She said she told her that she didn't know & changed the subject.

What's disgusting about it? Sure, it sounds rather clinical but "woo-woo" sounds fucking ridiculous too. It is what it is whatever you call it, unless you call it "cunt". I mean what are you REALLY teaching your kids here if you feel that the word "vulva" is disgusting?

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I'm from a different culture where parents don't discuss anything sexual with their kids. Enough said. Plus I don't have to explain MY beliefs to anyone. It disgusts me & that's that. End of story. You can raise your own children the way you like & I'll do the same.

Btw, my child is not totally clueless, he knows what a penis is . They teach them that stuff at his school but he still uses the word "pee-pee" at home.

Posted by DMV

Maybe casual sex is not his thing.

I'm thinking this based on what you've shared (in other threads) thus far.

I also think "the wall" was already put up after that incident following the dinner--on both sides. Water signs (and water moons--from what I've seen) never really let go of a slight, even when they say they do or have....it changes how we view and then respond to a person, even if it a very small change. Not necessarily in a "I am holding a grudge" sort of way either.

Does your Saturn aspect your Sun or Moon?

Nothing to beat yourself up over. You live

and learn. Sooner you get the lesson and know

your worth the less likely you'll find yourself

in situations like this. Stop entertaining fuckboys.

saturn aspects venus and im a venus in capricorn. Im beind the 8 ball in dating; you all are light years ahead of me. What you guys learned in highschool, im learning now. i mean, dont i seem brand new to all of this at age 33—

i wouldnt call him a fuckboy though. His sex game and dating game is just weak.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV

Maybe casual sex is not his thing.

I'm thinking this based on what you've shared (in other threads) thus far.

I also think "the wall" was already put up after that incident following the dinner--on both sides. Water signs (and water moons--from what I've seen) never really let go of a slight, even when they say they do or have....it changes how we view and then respond to a person, even if it a very small change. Not necessarily in a "I am holding a grudge" sort of way either.

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yeah ive been thinking about that as well. your right, its not a grudge thing. its like a mental block of "what if." nervousness.

@Phoenix, do you look like your profile pic?

Posted by DMV
Does your Saturn aspect your Sun or Moon?

Nothing to beat yourself up over. You live

and learn. Sooner you get the lesson and know

your worth the less likely you'll find yourself

in situations like this. Stop entertaining fuckboys.

saturn aspects venus and im a venus in capricorn. Im beind the 8 ball in dating; you all are light years ahead of me. What you guys learned in highschool, im learning now. i mean, dont i seem brand new to all of this at age 33—

i wouldnt call him a fuckboy though. His sex game and dating game is just weak.

call me a sucka but i like to give people the benefit of the doubt. im into second, third, fourth chances. after awhile i eventually get annoyed and then i blow a gasket.

i just think its funny that as a Cancer and me as a Sag, youd think id be the one walking all over him. nope, quite the opposite. lol

Posted by DMV
@Phoenix, do you look like your profile pic?

Hmph....someone in my life seems to think so 🙂, or so he said when he sent a copy of it. The lips and nose are pretty close. My eyes are rounder and my hair is a bit curlier, but I blow dry it straight most, if not all of the time now. I think someone was missing this wilder version?

But as you know, anyone can say they look like whatever on DXP. Kiwi (Lillilou) is the only person still on the site that has seen a real pic of me and therefore the only person that can give an unbiased answer I guess.

Posted by Ulalume
So where do we go from here?

Are you gonna let him have another go at the sex?

well, he hasnt called and im not calling. that would make me desperate and make me feel like the man in the relationship, i already feel that way. ive done way too much initiating.

i dont feel like there is any more unfinished business.