Good Kisser, Not so good Lover (Page 2)

This topic was created in the Sagittarius forum by DMV on Sunday, May 4, 2014 and has 61 replies.

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
@Phoenix, do you look like your profile pic?

Hmph....someone in my life seems to think so 🙂, or so he said when he sent a copy of it. The lips and nose are pretty close. My eyes are rounder and my hair is a bit curlier, but I blow dry it straight most, if not all of the time now. I think someone was missing this wilder version?

But as you know, anyone can say they look like whatever on DXP. Kiwi (Lillilou) is the only person still on the site that has seen a real pic of me and therefore the only person that can give an unbiased answer I guess.

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i can see it. are u black?

@DMV

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Posted by arietteheart2
Can someone put a muzzle on that aquavita bitch? It's like continually walking into a store you know you don't like just to complain about shit. You know you don't like dmv's posts so stay the fuck out. Jesus.

DMV it does sound like he has a wall up. And it's probably a good while before you make any progress...if at all.

IDK about his wall. theres not much more i can do that i havent already been doing to raise his confidence and this wall.

my issue is, he doesnt do much to help my wall. it all just seems so one sided. which has shown me from my past with other guys, if i feel like im doing all the work, its because i am and theyre not interested.

@DMV

15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by size zero superhero
Sometimes there's a profound lack of sexual compatibility/chemistry between two individuals, a harsh truth which may or may not be obvious to all involved.

There isn't much one can do to mend the problem, IMO--especially true if the other party had been sufficiently experienced & seasoned(sexually speaking)before you hooked up. At that juncture, offering pointers or initiating corrective measures will only go so far. Not necessarily their fault or yours. Often, it boils down to not being a "good fit" in respect to performance, which most folks don't discover until it's too late and you've already had lousy sex.

LOL. $ #!T happens 😢

yep. experienced meets nonexperienced. i can usually work with anything but i didnt get the chance.

@LunarMaiden

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So DMV, before the sex, was there a strong attraction chemistry between you two?
And how long from dating to sex? Time frame?

@DMV

15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by LunarMaiden
So DMV, before the sex, was there a strong attraction chemistry between you two?
And how long from dating to sex? Time frame?

id say very strong attraction. i wouldnt even call it dating. he pretty much kept me at arms length. We had 1 date, which was at my house. we didnt fool around.

we met in Jan14, 1 date in late march, like 20th or something. Slept together 5/3

@LunarMaiden

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Posted by DMV

Posted by LunarMaiden
So DMV, before the sex, was there a strong attraction chemistry between you two?
And how long from dating to sex? Time frame?

id say very strong attraction. i wouldnt even call it dating. he pretty much kept me at arms length. We had 1 date, which was at my house. we didnt fool around.

we met in Jan14, 1 date in late march, like 20th or something. Slept together 5/3

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Hmmmm this helps. Because I have a rare intense attraction for a guy and I would hate if the sex was horrid.
But I wouldn't mind practicing til it's perfect. 😉

Could the fact that you two didn't know each other very well play a role in his performance?
Maybe he wasn't ready to relax in sex with someone he didn't spend much time with.

@DMV

15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by size zero superhero

Posted by DMV

yep. experienced meets nonexperienced. i can usually work with anything but i didnt get the chance.

I see. In that case, it may be a diamond-in-the-rough scenario, AKA there's hope for progress. Whereas those that know the ropes yet are too indifferent to sling 'a'-game should just stick to whacking it solo. ROFL.

So he didn't LET you contribute and stole the show w/subpar content the whole time? Or you do mean you won't get a chance to take charge b/c it's looking like this will be an isolated event?
Granted, I suppose it isn't relevant if the dynamic dropped to lukewarm following Round One and there's no pressing need to keep in touch as of now.

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correct. He hasnt called, texted, nada.

I wasnt able to show my stuff because either the flag lost its wind or he stole show with a subpar solo. Either way, I attempted oral sex to no avail. I was parched if thats any indication that I tried.

it was just weird and out of synce.

@DMV

15 Years25,000+ PostsSagittarius

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by DMV

Posted by LunarMaiden
So DMV, before the sex, was there a strong attraction chemistry between you two?
And how long from dating to sex? Time frame?

id say very strong attraction. i wouldnt even call it dating. he pretty much kept me at arms length. We had 1 date, which was at my house. we didnt fool around.

we met in Jan14, 1 date in late march, like 20th or something. Slept together 5/3

Hmmmm this helps. Because I have a rare intense attraction for a guy and I would hate if the sex was horrid.
But I wouldn't mind practicing til it's perfect. 😉

Could the fact that you two didn't know each other very well play a role in his performance?
Maybe he wasn't ready to relax in sex with someone he didn't spend much time with.

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I thought that but he initiated the sex. I initiated the kissing because I felt he wanted it and I was right. Surprisingly, I was fine with that but i wouldnt turn down his sex. I was actually surprised he wanted to have sex given that cancers take things slow.