Here's how women confuse me:

women will get obsessed with someone to the point of being completely irrational about every other aspect of their life ... and then, two weeks later ... meh, no big deal ... they're over it, and go on about their day as if they weren't acting like a raving lunatic just a few days before!

Posted by jru2
women will get obsessed with someone to the point of being completely irrational about every other aspect of their life ... and then, two weeks later ... meh, no big deal ... they're over it, and go on about their day as if they weren't acting like a raving lunatic just a few days before!

just because we are outwardly emotional doesnt make your emotions less significant or volatile because you express them differently.

plenty of men get their period 2.

Libra, Pisces, and Aquarius are the only signs I seem to have any redundancy with.

it's just funny how ON and OFF women sometimes are. Certainly they get obsessed over long term also, but it's weird how obsessed they can get, and yet their feelings are fleeting.

fyi, i was a semi-outside observer, not the object of obsession

Posted by jru2
women will get obsessed with someone to the point of being completely irrational about every other aspect of their life ... and then, two weeks later ... meh, no big deal ... they're over it, and go on about their day as if they weren't acting like a raving lunatic just a few days before!

isnt the point that she got over it? what would you rather her do you Controlly Mc Control Control? stay in the kitchen and clean? let you run wild? or would you like a nice mute? i got it, you want to be the only one in the relationship whose gets to throw hissy fits?

Posted by Ligeia
This topic is quite funny coming from you.

The guy that tapes his girl and stalks her.

Now who is the irrational one??

his rants and raves are internalized first and then he would rather be passive aggressive and stalkerish in how he communicates. her communication style of just talking, thinking, and getting over it is just plain ol wierd.

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I do agree with you though. That's why I tell women straight up Im not getting married.

geez louise. way to just sabotage yourself right out the gate.

Posted by Sutekh
Men are here to give women stuff. Whether it be money, attention, amusement. That's how I see the modern american woman,

lol, yet more reason to seek courtship in impoverished country.

some guys do good at being losers and get the girls to buy them shit though. wish I could learn that drill 😛

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Posted by Ligeia
This topic is quite funny coming from you.

The guy that tapes his girl and stalks her.

Now who is the irrational one??

his rants and raves are internalized first and then he would rather be passive aggressive and stalkerish in how he communicates. her communication style of just talking, thinking, and getting over it is just plain ol wierd.

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well, this is about her ... and that guy she was obsessed with. she was literally ready to give up her dreams for him ... two weeks ago. Monday, a week ago she was crying over him 'cause he did something she disapproved of ... this week, she seems quite over him ... for the moment anyway. Yes, it is just plain ol wierd 😉

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Posted by Sutekh
Men are here to give women stuff. Whether it be money, attention, amusement. That's how I see the modern american woman,

lol, yet more reason to seek courtship in impoverished country.

some guys do good at being losers and get the girls to buy them shit though. wish I could learn that drill 😛

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men are just lazy. seriously. who is courting who here? you buy the cow, the cow doesnt buy the farmer. i envy my mother. she married a real man. a provider of money, attention, amusement, etc.

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Posted by Ligeia
This topic is quite funny coming from you.

The guy that tapes his girl and stalks her.

Now who is the irrational one??

his rants and raves are internalized first and then he would rather be passive aggressive and stalkerish in how he communicates. her communication style of just talking, thinking, and getting over it is just plain ol wierd.

well, this is about her ... and that guy she was obsessed with. she was literally ready to give up her dreams for him ... two weeks ago. Monday, a week ago she was crying over him 'cause he did something she disapproved of ... this week, she seems quite over him ... for the moment anyway. Yes, it is just plain ol wierd 😉

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you have once again suckered us all into another blog about your perceived problems and how you are the victim.. where in your mind, you will keep torturing yourself and the rest of us.

you are no longer the victim. how long are you going to be riding THAT horse. the bitch cheated and didnt give 2 shits about you. but you stayed and moved her cousin in.

you dont want anything different. you wouldnt be able to handle an independent woman that you claim to want and need and cant live without.

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Men are here to give women stuff. Whether it be money, attention, amusement. That's how I see the modern american woman,

lol, yet more reason to seek courtship in impoverished country.

some guys do good at being losers and get the girls to buy them shit though. wish I could learn that drill 😛

men are just lazy. seriously. who is courting who here? you buy the cow, the cow doesnt buy the farmer. i envy my mother. she married a real man. a provider of money, attention, amusement, etc.

I know all those men I see at the bus stop at 4:30 am. Real lazy asses. LMAO

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lets go back to your first post about the american modern women.

your welcome.

@ DMV ... sometimes I think what we have to offer is part of who we attract. I remember your posts about opening the wallet when you meet someone you are really into. That may be why you attract guys you perceive as lazy. That may be why I'm attracting women who I perceive as lazy now. Funny, I was really broke not too long ago ... the women I dated then either helped me financially or at least contributed as much as I did.

^^OK, dick point is valid^^ lol, I guess we're even

i don't get it. she came to grips with herself in TWO WEEKS time, that's a long time of soul searching. your reaction would be more understandable if she turned around in 5 minutes or a day.

about marriage, i dont want to get married. how i pictured it is, i would if our parents kept pressuring us and we were already committed. as you know the girl gets more pressured about getting married far more than the man from her parents.

lol my parents are still coming to grips with the western way. they just think it's shameful for a woman to live with a guy without being married. They think the guy is disrespecting her family and her and can't fathom that it could be their daughter's choice as well. They see it as a win-lose situation, even though in this day and age the girl can have a life and career of her own thereby not losing anything, i.e. she isn't spending her life in service to the guy.

Well, answer me this. Why do you girls allow yourself to feel something so completely about someone before you even know them all that well?

Have you not been let down before? Why not factor in a little let down at the onset?

Posted by jru2
Well, answer me this. Why do you girls allow yourself to feel something so completely about someone before you even know them all that well?

Have you not been let down before? Why not factor in a little let down at the onset?

i generally try not to plan a funeral or a lil let down when i meet someone. then you have a self-profilling prophecy waiting to come true.

@ Ligeia ... was that really serious answer? You'll make someone out to be perfect in your mind just because you want dick? Why is their perfection and throwing all caution to the wind a necessary part of getting dick? Or is it more about all that is what is required to really enjoy said dick?

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@ DMV ... sometimes I think what we have to offer is part of who we attract. I remember your posts about opening the wallet when you meet someone you are really into. That may be why you attract guys you perceive as lazy. That may be why I'm attracting women who I perceive as lazy now. Funny, I was really broke not too long ago ... the women I dated then either helped me financially or at least contributed as much as I did.

in terms of laziness, romance costs zero dollars. men arent creative enough; thats what i mean about the laziness factor. i do infact date alot of men who dont make nearly as much money as i do. but i dont think that has to do with me opening up my wallet. I love to show my affection through $ $ toward my family, friends, and lovers. its alot easier than saying i love you or i like you. mums the word.

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@ Ligeia ... was that really serious answer? You'll make someone out to be perfect in your mind just because you want dick? Why is their perfection and throwing all caution to the wind a necessary part of getting dick? Or is it more about all that is what is required to really enjoy said dick?

Obviously, your mind is thinking she means ANY dick.. that's the path your thoughts are taking.. like, why would a chick DO this to herself just to get some sex? o.O

She left out a word. The word was "good." Or maybe "magical."

As in: GOOD dick can make a girl go crazy. That black majick dick drive them chicas wild.

Science screws us women hardcore on this... BONDING hormones are released during (GOOD) sex and orgasm, often getting us literally HOOKED on some asshat with nothing going for him but the mind-blowing sex. *shrug* Even those of us (women) who CAN actually keep love and sex separate, us that are called "cold and unemotional".. well, sometimes we STILL get unexpectedly, unpredictably caught in that bear trap.

Isn't it GREAT being a woman? We get periods AND childbirth AND those crazy BONDING hormones from sex! Yay! -_-

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@ Ligeia ... was that really serious answer? You'll make someone out to be perfect in your mind just because you want dick? Why is their perfection and throwing all caution to the wind a necessary part of getting dick? Or is it more about all that is what is required to really enjoy said dick?

Sorta kinda.

For one I wouldn't behave in the same manner as Aqua

in question. I'm a totally different animal. For her

to be willing to do all that she did in those 2 weeks.

She must have saw something of substance in this guy.

He so happen to fuck up and burst her bubble. Now she

feels differently about him. Nothing wrong with that.

And quite normal.

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it also quite normal to stick around even though someone has not met your expectations. i believe that is what marriage is based on lol

Posted by jru2
Well, answer me this. Why do you girls allow yourself to feel something so completely about someone before you even know them all that well?

Have you not been let down before? Why not factor in a little let down at the onset?

i may be guilty of this, idealizing a guy i don't know everything about yet. but the truth is even if you live with someone for 30 years your'e not going to know everything about them. i may idealize because i don't like to think negatively about anyone, especially one i love. so i may get disappointed more often, but i usually deal with it. Also, men do this as well, but i'm not sure how they deal with the let downs.

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@ Ligeia ... was that really serious answer? You'll make someone out to be perfect in your mind just because you want dick? Why is their perfection and throwing all caution to the wind a necessary part of getting dick? Or is it more about all that is what is required to really enjoy said dick?

Sorta kinda.

For one I wouldn't behave in the same manner as Aqua

in question. I'm a totally different animal. For her

to be willing to do all that she did in those 2 weeks.

She must have saw something of substance in this guy.

He so happen to fuck up and burst her bubble. Now she

feels differently about him. Nothing wrong with that.

And quite normal.

it also quite normal to stick around even though someone has not met your expectations. i believe that is what marriage is based on lol

With the divorce rate in this country. You really

think that way about marriage lmao.

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i cant speak for the rest of the quitters, but marriage is supposed to be based on for better or for worse.

@Nefer ... I get what you are saying, and in fact my aqua has said the same before about the mesmerizing effects of a great dick, but I'm pretty sure she never got to his dick before she went crazy for him. Also, in the past I've had girls go seemingly crazy for me. I thought I was all that and could get around to 'em whenever I wanted only to find out you guys can turn it off just as quick. It's just weird, love and infatuations come and go much slower in my mind.

Posted by jru2
Also, in the past I've had girls go seemingly crazy for me. I thought I was all that and could get around to 'em whenever I wanted only to find out you guys can turn it off just as quick. It's just weird, love and infatuations come and go much slower in my mind.

okay fair enough. youve just said something that some men and women wont ever get. just because you think your all that doesnt mean you can just get around to whoever, whenever.

its not about turning it off. its about realizing what your emotional/physical needs are when meeting someone.

If you're confused, then you're not with the right woman.

Don't let anyone confuse you.
Either demand clarity or shut them out.

Key terms I like to use to help find understanding:

Focus
Calm yourself
Now, again with less emotion.
Speak plainly
Say what you mean - mean what you say
Spit it out!
I don't understand what you are telling me. This usually get the dialog reworded even if they become condescending at this point.

Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
Lol @ this thread.

Me too lol

I'll keep it plain and simple.

All of this boils down to ego. Look at this statement: "we don't understand you and you don't understand us." Notice anything? It's gender neutral.

It's like Congress right now. Everybody knows the freakin problem but are so caught up in ego based principles to change and compromise to work together. Are there immature people yes. But you are responsible for how you think, feel, and react...no one else. If you keep coming across the same problem, then its you that should change.

We keep referring to love and relationship as "the game" when love is not that at all. We make it that way. Both sides are equally at fault. We fall prey to our carnality and shallow desires and then wonder why we continue to get shallow results and relationships. What society has taught you, how it is set up, or how the genders act has crap to do with how you two treat each other. Love breaks all of those "rules" because it is independent and self sustaining. It is life itself. You ever notice that you are more fulfilled when you love? The problem is we start questioning it and restricting it based on someone's imperfections. We all know we're imperfect so why complain and disrupt the flow. Either you accept love or you don't in whatever form it chooses to take in your relationship.

This gender war is silly. Not one word on this thread of how we can come together. Or compromise. Or understand. Everybody just sticking to their default positions. Applying ignorant broad observations to an individual...man or woman. It's about fundamentals. If two people fail in a relationship, outside of cheating and abuse, its both their fault because they failed to compromise and understand...they failed to love.

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Posted by Wynter
If you're confused, then you're not with the right woman.

Cap moons laying it down as always.

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Hahaha! 😛

🙂