How do you 'break up' with girlfriends?

Have you ever had a group of girlfriends that you no longer wanted to be close with? We have a group chat and I've started to respond less and waiting longer between messages.

I want to 'break up:

- I don't want to have a big confrontation

- For various reasons, I no longer see us having things in common

- A couple of them have shown themselves to be people that I don't want to spend time on/with anymore

One of them is getting married and recently invited us all to the wedding this summer. It's still months away, and she's asking us to save the date. I don't even know if I'll be available, or in town at the time. How should I respond?

How old are you and your group of friends? People change, people grow up, people move onto other things, it's natural.

We range from late twenties to early 30's.

I would do the drift thing and if you literally are not available just say you might not be in town, send a gift. There will be no harm or foul as you slowly drift apart and as people start their new lives and may too busy anyways.

Posted by Lush
I've done this recently, but it was with 1 Leo friend. I thought I was in the clear until 6 months later, out of the blue she initiated contact again, and she was a little aggressive about it. She called multiple times, emailed me, and then started calling someone else that was close to me to get in touch. Finally, I broke down and just sent her an email saying I needed sometime to myself.

I broke it off because the friendship seemed 1 sided to me. I always initiated contact. I always suggested getting together and most of the time she already had plans. I mean it took her 6 months to call me, after I stopped making the effort. Lol

I felt I needed a friend that reciprocated the effort, so I dropped her. Haven't heard from her since and happy about it!

What is your sign?

Posted by rabidtalker
I would do the drift thing and if you literally are not available just say you might not be in town, send a gift. There will be no harm or foul as you slowly drift apart and as people start their new lives and may too busy anyways.

Why would she waste money on gift for someone she doesn't want to be friends anymore? Just don't respond and message should be gotten. If not - there is many ways to deal with like 'my great aunt is sick so I suppose I will be at the funeral that day!' And hand up sobbing...

Posted by Gemitati
Why would she waste money on gift for someone she doesn't want to be friends anymore? Just don't respond and message should be gotten. If not - there is many ways to deal with like 'my great aunt is sick so I suppose I will be at the funeral that day!' And hand up sobbing...

She doesnt have to, it's just the classy way out, depends on how tough $ $ is for you at the moment. I'm also assuming there is no hard feelings between them, just that they are outgrowing each other.

It's best to trust your gut. You have this feeling and it's probably best to drop off the face of the planet. It's what you alluded to wanting.

Always do what you want.

My sag sun says be free, show up last minute or don't. Feel it out.

Libra moon thinks, what if you went and met some awesome people and had one of the best times of your life? You committed to it so just go. It's what, 5 hours out of the rest of your life?

But then again....

You could feel trapped lol. You said you didn't like aspects of the conversations you had with these women and imo, it's best to trust your intuition. Always. We are conditioned by those we come into contact with and some people soak it up easy - if your one of those then trust the gut. Ghost em!