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Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.
Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
Posted by infires
cheating is not okay. Fantasizing about someone else is not wrong imo, because not something you can controldoing anything otherwise is not okay. If unhappy, why don't people just leave their relationships
Agreed that's some may not be able to control certain thoughts or fantasies
Posted by Mike79
Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
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True. But I'm talking about actual flirting.
Unless its a game we both agree to play. Cheating is synonymous with betrayal. If you are transparent then we all good.
Posted by Astrology101
Fantasizing?.. Unless he tells me.. I will not know.. and if he does.. I'll be wondering why.. I really don't know my stand on fantasiesNo to flirting.. and the rest.
Maybe in the future, I'll build some tolerance.. but no for now.
Things change with time and we begin to consider things are not a big deal or deal breakers we're all so different and cheating varies from person to person it's nice to see the variety out there and also knowing what your significant other thinks about what's infidelity in their eyes.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
That's when you pay close attention to body language. If they're talking about James Comey, no need to lean in and touch each other.
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Naturally in person I'm very talkative friendly to just about anyone I see nothing wrong with giving out compliments that people earn but I've been accused of flirting just for simple compliments such as wow you're very polite, you're very well dressed, you're intelligent etc when in reality this is just stating my view on another human.
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
If it involves hiding things and keeping secrets, it's probably cheating.And homie don't play dat.
Homie shouldn't play that.
You speak like a true Aries
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
True. But I'm talking about actual flirting.
Unless its a game we both agree to play. Cheating is synonymous with betrayal. If you are transparent then we all good.
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Transparency agreements understandings are acceptable to you?
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Fantasizing?.. Unless he tells me.. I will not know.. and if he does.. I'll be wondering why.. I really don't know my stand on fantasiesNo to flirting.. and the rest.
Maybe in the future, I'll build some tolerance.. but no for now.
Things change with time and we begin to consider things are not a big deal or deal breakers we're all so different and cheating varies from person to person it's nice to see the variety out there and also knowing what your significant other thinks about what's infidelity in their eyes.
Yeap.. but it requires lots of trust.. and I think that requires lots of time.. You need to have a solid foundation first before you go opening Pandora's Box.
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Agreed once you know each other well you begin to understand who they truly are and what they are capable of and if it's in their nature to act certain ways. You begin to trust more once you fully know the person.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Even flirting' except if it's your boss lol
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Flirting with your boss sounds like an inside joke to me
Posted by Mike79
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
True. But I'm talking about actual flirting.
Unless its a game we both agree to play. Cheating is synonymous with betrayal. If you are transparent then we all good.
Transparency agreements understandings are acceptable to you?
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Honesty is #1
I mean your gonna do what your gonna do. If you respect me you'll be up front with me. And I can decide whether to stay or go...
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Even flirting' except if it's your boss lol
Flirting with your boss sounds like an inside joke to me
I was at the fast-food Japanese I've flirted voluntary with the server for having more salmon in those maki.
Work each times
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A Capricorn would never flirt for more salmon are you sure this was you?
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Even flirting' except if it's your boss lol
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gross, no.
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Fantasizing?.. Unless he tells me.. I will not know.. and if he does.. I'll be wondering why.. I really don't know my stand on fantasiesNo to flirting.. and the rest.
Maybe in the future, I'll build some tolerance.. but no for now.
Things change with time and we begin to consider things are not a big deal or deal breakers we're all so different and cheating varies from person to person it's nice to see the variety out there and also knowing what your significant other thinks about what's infidelity in their eyes.
Yeap.. but it requires lots of trust.. and I think that requires lots of time.. You need to have a solid foundation first before you go opening Pandora's Box.
Agreed once you know each other well you begin to understand who they truly are and what they are capable of and if it's in their nature to act certain ways. You begin to trust more once you fully know the person.
Yeap.. and you get an idea of their loyalty.
I think everyone is afraid of flirting.. etc.. because it builds an insecurity.. I've heard of couples breaking up after having a threesome.. Even in consensual scenarios.. couples can't handle that shit.
So I imagine that would require tremendous trust and loyalty to begin with.
Also everyone is not sexually synced... some like sharing some don't.. and sometimes people are not even aware of what they like sexually..
So I think once you have all that figured out.. you get the answers... it's a lot of mechanics..
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Time helps you get there. Very true in all you said.
Posted by LadyNeptune
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
True. But I'm talking about actual flirting.
Unless its a game we both agree to play. Cheating is synonymous with betrayal. If you are transparent then we all good.
Transparency agreements understandings are acceptable to you?
Honesty is #1
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Always well said
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy
Any cheating at all is not acceptable to me, especially anything physical.
But what are things that you consider cheating
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
That's when you pay close attention to body language. If they're talking about James Comey, no need to lean in and touch each other.
Naturally in person I'm very talkative friendly to just about anyone I see nothing wrong with giving out compliments that people earn but I've been accused of flirting just for simple compliments such as wow you're very polite, you're very well dressed, you're intelligent etc when in reality this is just stating my view on another human.
Those types of comments seem harmless enough to me.
But there are others out there that push boundaries, and still insist it's just innocent conversation. Overt sexual comments towards the opposite sex who is not your girlfriend will be perceived as flirting. And rightfully so, IMO.
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Very true we're all different and what you and I might see as harmless another may portray as insulting
Posted by LadyNeptune
I mean your gonna do what your gonna do. If you respect me you'll be up front with me. And I can decide whether to stay or go...
Exactly as long as the person is clear upfront you can then decide to take it or leave it
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Even flirting' except if it's your boss lol
Flirting with your boss sounds like an inside joke to me
I was at the fast-food Japanese I've flirted voluntary with the server for having more salmon in those maki.
Work each times
A Capricorn would never flirt for more salmon are you sure this was you?
Libra rising
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Poor servers.
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Fantasizing?.. Unless he tells me.. I will not know.. and if he does.. I'll be wondering why.. I really don't know my stand on fantasiesNo to flirting.. and the rest.
Maybe in the future, I'll build some tolerance.. but no for now.
Things change with time and we begin to consider things are not a big deal or deal breakers we're all so different and cheating varies from person to person it's nice to see the variety out there and also knowing what your significant other thinks about what's infidelity in their eyes.
Yeap.. but it requires lots of trust.. and I think that requires lots of time.. You need to have a solid foundation first before you go opening Pandora's Box.
Agreed once you know each other well you begin to understand who they truly are and what they are capable of and if it's in their nature to act certain ways. You begin to trust more once you fully know the person.
Yeap.. and you get an idea of their loyalty.
I think everyone is afraid of flirting.. etc.. because it builds an insecurity.. I've heard of couples breaking up after having a threesome.. Even in consensual scenarios.. couples can't handle that shit.
So I imagine that would require tremendous trust and loyalty to begin with.
Also everyone is not sexually synced... some like sharing some don't.. and sometimes people are not even aware of what they like sexually..
So I think once you have all that figured out.. you get the answers... it's a lot of mechanics..
Time helps you get there. Very true in all you said.
I don't know about time. If I truly love someone.. I can't share.. and I would not do any shit to harm that relationship
But I think I'm curious .. and If my partner says he is curious to try something (or maybe it could be me who says that).. I might give it a go.. if it's okay with my sensibilities... If we are open enough to have that conversation.. without each/any of us flying off the handle... I think most of the work is done...
but I'd think 1000000 times before...
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That's a very sensitive situation and it can unravel into may unexpected ways.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Even flirting' except if it's your boss lol
gross, no.
Yeah yeah wtv
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Kidding Venus leeb
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Even flirting' except if it's your boss lol
Flirting with your boss sounds like an inside joke to me
I was at the fast-food Japanese I've flirted voluntary with the server for having more salmon in those maki.
Work each times
A Capricorn would never flirt for more salmon are you sure this was you?
Libra rising
Poor servers.
Don't you like maki?
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Never tried
kissing , fooling around, sex, phone sex, hiding things that will in turn ruin our relationship.. a little flirting never hurt anybody but don't overdue that shit or it's strike 1 so on & so forth
Any kind of lying isn't acceptable
watching porn is not cheating imo
maybe cheating if you know the actors/actresses. just maybe
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
That's when you pay close attention to body language. If they're talking about James Comey, no need to lean in and touch each other.
Naturally in person I'm very talkative friendly to just about anyone I see nothing wrong with giving out compliments that people earn but I've been accused of flirting just for simple compliments such as wow you're very polite, you're very well dressed, you're intelligent etc when in reality this is just stating my view on another human.
- that happen to all be women.
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Not all women have insecurities this type
Posted by AerialView
watching porn is not cheating imomaybe cheating if you know the actors/actresses. just maybe
But it's all fictional how can fiction be cheating
It's only fantasy and thoughts some cannot control what they think.
Posted by MyStarsShine
Any kind of lying isn't acceptable
Honesty should be required in any relationship in order to be successful
Posted by Mike79
Posted by AerialView
watching porn is not cheating imomaybe cheating if you know the actors/actresses. just maybe
But it's all fictional how can fiction be cheating
It's only fantasy and thoughts some cannot control what they think.
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yeah i agree it's not cheating i'm not against it.
Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
If it involves hiding things and keeping secrets, it's probably cheating.And homie don't play dat.
This. This is what I'm talking about. Whatever happened to full disclosure? I mean, I understand people look and admire but why hide shit?
if you don't know the difference between being friendly / pleasant vs flirting or even cheating, you are not relationship material
Emotional or sexual betrayal. Going to someone else for needs which I should be providing
Posted by infires
cheating is not okay. Fantasizing about someone else is not wrong imo, because not something you can controldoing anything otherwise is not okay. If unhappy, why don't people just leave their relationships
I am not going to comment on cheating.
But one woman explained to me that she is unhappy in marriage but not leaving her husband because it will mean losing her time with her child and it is not acceptable to her. She loves her child so much but she also can't bare thought of not being with her child when her husband will have her so there is a lot to consider and not easy just to divorce.
flirty people should stick together lol
both of us are friendly but not flirty e.g. we would never comment on how good / sexy an opposite sex looks. i appreciate friendly and pleasant guys in general. scorp is. sometimes women took it the wrong way though. he would be all friendly and having a pleasant conversation with a stranger at a hotel bar waiting for his friend, and then the woman would suddenly slide him her room key lol ?? his married hairdresser of years one day in a middle of a pleasant conversation "do you want to get together after this?"??!!
Posted by Mike79
I keep hearing that there are many forms of cheatingFrom thinking of someone else and having sexual fantasies of someone you may or may not even know Then there's the watching pornography type of cheating where some may or may disagree it's cheating
To speaking to people in a friendly manner to flirting and or to sexting / phone sex etc
Then of course the actual act of cheating sleeping kissing someone else having intercourse with one or more person who is not the person you are committed to
What's acceptable to you when in a romantic relationship and not considered cheating opposed to what's not acceptable that you may consider crossing the line of infidelity.
I don't mind the thinking of someone else or the fantasizing about them - so long as he takes it out on me.
Porn isn't a problem in a relationship. But if I watch, it's not around him because he'd prefer it that way.
Being polite to people is great, but it makes me jealous because women always smile and laugh because he's so damn charming. It's kind of like: I love you because you're a good person but why do you have to be so likeable?! Haha
Sexting other women is a definitely 'no' for me. Unless we are both trying to get a three-some going.
Any physical contact initiated by him is a 'no' for me, unless we are engaging in kink. The idea of a girl forcing herself on him is hot to me, but I would probably feel homicidal, realistically.
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flirty people should stick together lolboth of us are friendly but not flirty e.g. we would never comment on how good / sexy an opposite sex looks. i appreciate friendly and pleasant guys in general. scorp is. sometimes women took it the wrong way though. he would be all friendly and having a pleasant conversation with a stranger at a hotel bar waiting for his friend, and then the woman would suddenly slide him her room key lol ?? his married hairdresser of years one day in a middle of a pleasant conversation "do you want to get together after this?"??!!
Two friendly, secure people who are not suspicious of one another...happiest couple ever. They are secure because someone respects them, trusts them, has their back, sees the absolute best in them always. That's the couple that can take on the world.
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when you really know and trust someone's character, you would tend to be a better person around him. one time the wife of a buddy jumped him in front of the buddy when they were drinking too much lol!!! scorp pushed her away jumped back in a frantic state and broke their slide door glass LOL. his buddy just laughed and said no worries man lol
they moved away to another state for more than couple years now. i hope they are still good lol
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Posted by infires
cheating is not okay. Fantasizing about someone else is not wrong imo, because not something you can controldoing anything otherwise is not okay. If unhappy, why don't people just leave their relationships
I am not going to comment on cheating.
But one woman explained to me that she is unhappy in marriage but not leaving her husband because it will mean losing her time with her child and it is not acceptable to her. She loves her child so much but she also can't bare thought of not being with her child when her husband will have her so there is a lot to consider and not easy just to divorce.
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And whats your excuse for cheating? Genuinely asking here...
Your kids are grown so I know its not that.
Posted by LadyNeptune
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Posted by infires
cheating is not okay. Fantasizing about someone else is not wrong imo, because not something you can controldoing anything otherwise is not okay. If unhappy, why don't people just leave their relationships
I am not going to comment on cheating.
But one woman explained to me that she is unhappy in marriage but not leaving her husband because it will mean losing her time with her child and it is not acceptable to her. She loves her child so much but she also can't bare thought of not being with her child when her husband will have her so there is a lot to consider and not easy just to divorce.
And whats your excuse for cheating? Genuinely asking here...
Your kids are grown so I know its not that.
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Loving the man
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Emotional or sexual betrayal. Going to someone else for needs which I should be providing
Provided they tell you about those needs.
This may sound all kinds of wrong, but I would rather have someone "fuck" someone else, then to kiss them.
For me, a kiss signifies an emotional connection, because for me kissing is that. Whereas, I can view sex as a primal act. One that people can take emotions completely out of. It is the emotional aspects that hurt far worse to me, then that of the physical. Both are unforgivable to me, but one is more "acceptable" to me. Not that I would condone either act, but I would likely be less devastated knowing a physical act was only done.
Now for me, I realize that small doses of flirting is almost natural around people. It doesn't bother me, but if an individual feels the need to "hide" something from their significant other, and feels guilt about it, then it is likely cheating in some form. You wouldn't feel guilt if you thought it was okay, and wasn't wrong.
With that said, besides the obvious physical cheating that others have stated, I find one thing non-physical that I will not tolerate in a partner. And that is giving emotional support for something that a significant other should be giving. I find it hugely inappropriate for any individual to ask for my significant other a shoulder to cry on. That right is purely mine, as his significant other. And I detest women that go about doing this sort of thing, expecting spouse like treatment from men that are in committed relationships. Though I recognize some men do this as well, it seems to be more of a women issue as we are more emotional creatures. If a man or woman allows this type of behavior to happen, it sets a precedent to the other person, that they can continue to rely on you for support. This will eventually cause lots of conflict in the relationship. So I expect my significant other to consider my feelings and concerns. I will not tell them they cannot do something, but I will let them know that I will not tolerate it. For me, this could lead to what I feel is emotional cheating. That's me though.
Posted by Mike79
I keep hearing that there are many forms of cheatingFrom thinking of someone else and having sexual fantasies of someone you may or may not even know Then there's the watching pornography type of cheating where some may or may disagree it's cheating
To speaking to people in a friendly manner to flirting and or to sexting / phone sex etc
Then of course the actual act of cheating sleeping kissing someone else having intercourse with one or more person who is not the person you are committed to
What's acceptable to you when in a romantic relationship and not considered cheating opposed to what's not acceptable that you may consider crossing the line of infidelity.
Whenever two (or more?) people have an agreement that both parties are pretending g to follow... but only one actually is.
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Posted by infires
cheating is not okay. Fantasizing about someone else is not wrong imo, because not something you can controldoing anything otherwise is not okay. If unhappy, why don't people just leave their relationships
I am not going to comment on cheating.
But one woman explained to me that she is unhappy in marriage but not leaving her husband because it will mean losing her time with her child and it is not acceptable to her. She loves her child so much but she also can't bare thought of not being with her child when her husband will have her so there is a lot to consider and not easy just to divorce.
And whats your excuse for cheating? Genuinely asking here...
Your kids are grown so I know its not that.
Loving the man
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But love doesn't happen overnight. You chose to spend time with a man who isn't your husband in order for the love to develop. So what was it? You were bored? Lonely?
Tell us what it was...
It's fairly simple for me;
she can do whatever she likes, as long as she doesn't sleep with someone else.
If we can agree to that I'm cool with the terms.
Posted by nikkistar
This may sound all kinds of wrong, but I would rather have someone "fuck" someone else, then to kiss them.For me, a kiss signifies an emotional connection, because for me kissing is that. Whereas, I can view sex as a primal act. One that people can take emotions completely out of. It is the emotional aspects that hurt far worse to me, then that of the physical. Both are unforgivable to me, but one is more "acceptable" to me. Not that I would condone either act, but I would likely be less devastated knowing a physical act was only done.
Now for me, I realize that small doses of flirting is almost natural around people. It doesn't bother me, but if an individual feels the need to "hide" something from their significant other, and feels guilt about it, then it is likely cheating in some form. You wouldn't feel guilt if you thought it was okay, and wasn't wrong.
With that said, besides the obvious physical cheating that others have stated, I find one thing non-physical that I will not tolerate in a partner. And that is giving emotional support for something that a significant other should be giving. I find it hugely inappropriate for any individual to ask for my significant other a shoulder to cry on. That right is purely mine, as his significant other. And I detest women that go about doing this sort of thing, expecting spouse like treatment from men that are in committed relationships. Though I recognize some men do this as well, it seems to be more of a women issue as we are more emotional creatures. If a man or woman allows this type of behavior to happen, it sets a precedent to the other person, that they can continue to rely on you for support. This will eventually cause lots of conflict in the relationship. So I expect my significant other to consider my feelings and concerns. I will not tell them they cannot do something, but I will let them know that I will not tolerate it. For me, this could lead to what I feel is emotional cheating. That's me though.
You can get herpes from kissing and fucking. No thanks
Also I'm very open emotionally and I like sharing / the feeling of intimacy with people.
I wouldn't be ok, therefore, setting rules as concerns topics that should be brought up or should be not.
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Posted by infires
cheating is not okay. Fantasizing about someone else is not wrong imo, because not something you can controldoing anything otherwise is not okay. If unhappy, why don't people just leave their relationships
I am not going to comment on cheating.
But one woman explained to me that she is unhappy in marriage but not leaving her husband because it will mean losing her time with her child and it is not acceptable to her. She loves her child so much but she also can't bare thought of not being with her child when her husband will have her so there is a lot to consider and not easy just to divorce.
And whats your excuse for cheating? Genuinely asking here...
Your kids are grown so I know its not that.
Loving the man
But love doesn't happen overnight. You chose to spend time with a man who isn't your husband in order for the love to develop. So what was it? You were bored? Lonely?
Tell us what it was...
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I said it 100 times! Me and husband had decided to open business. I was far from bored. Went to meet vendors. Like 100 man at one day. He was somewhere #98.
I saw him and died! On the spot!
I wasn't asking for it. He was just IT and I said to my husband - I would follow this man unleashed wherever he would want me to go!
I don't know why. I can't 'explain' it - it happenned! I am still looking at his picture (face not naked) and dying and my heart is aching! Hearing his voice makes me feeling like I am reborn every time we speak. Hearing him laugh makes me alive!
And when I see him I am falling in his arms because my legs trembling.
We have no demands and no arguments.
Every moment is a happiness like I had never had before. We have same outlook on life. He lets me be annoying and stupid and treats me like I mean a world to him.
How can I explain that? I don't know why!
It is what it is!
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Posted by iCloud9
flirty people should stick together lolboth of us are friendly but not flirty e.g. we would never comment on how good / sexy an opposite sex looks. i appreciate friendly and pleasant guys in general. scorp is. sometimes women took it the wrong way though. he would be all friendly and having a pleasant conversation with a stranger at a hotel bar waiting for his friend, and then the woman would suddenly slide him her room key lol ?? his married hairdresser of years one day in a middle of a pleasant conversation "do you want to get together after this?"??!!
Two friendly, secure people who are not suspicious of one another...happiest couple ever. They are secure because someone respects them, trusts them, has their back, sees the absolute best in them always. That's the couple that can take on the world.
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THIS. Except, I'm jealous. It has all to do with the other woman because I look at other women and think, "THEY ARE SO FORKING SEXY!"
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Anything physical is cheating to me. Kissing, mouth party, fucking etc.Flirting is disrespectful, but not a deal breaker. At least not the first offence.
Some people are naturally friendly and talkative and others may or may not confuse this with flirting
That's when you pay close attention to body language. If they're talking about James Comey, no need to lean in and touch each other.
Naturally in person I'm very talkative friendly to just about anyone I see nothing wrong with giving out compliments that people earn but I've been accused of flirting just for simple compliments such as wow you're very polite, you're very well dressed, you're intelligent etc when in reality this is just stating my view on another human.
- that happen to all be women.
Not all women have insecurities this type
You´re misunderstanding me - I mean the people you give these innocent compliments to must all be women. Otherwise the women you are with who get jealous or whatever would not feel like this. Do you pay the same amount of attention to guys? Probably not ay?
Even if he did, it's not like the woman would notice he pays the same amount of attention to guys. So it's a projection.
It's about compatibility. My girlfriend and I both flirt in a harmless way, and yes, we flirt more with the opposite sex.
This did not fly with my Scorpio ex.
It is about compatibility and finding some compassion for how the other side might feel, yes. One thing that made it really hard for me to find compassion for women I've been in relationship with was their refusal to separate their interest in women with my interest in women. That's when it's just a headache.
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BINGO!
I have no doubts in my mind that I both notice AND think about other women more than my Capricorn does. While he may comment on her, I will have a full-blown soliloquy about her and then bring her up hours later.
It really sucks because I love to people watch, I trust my Sea-Goat, and I feel loved. BUT, if I'm feeling vulnerable for some reason, I feel more intimidated by other women (on my period, not feeling myself that day, didn't have enough water so I feel dehydrated, I forgot to put on perfume, my makeup isn't on fleek, I feel like I've put on weight because I ate junk food- what have you).
I also find that if I pick out the woman to talk about, I'm much less likely to feel jealous then if he points her out, even if it's to say her false lashes were coming undone and if I noticed. Unless, I am certain I'm hotter than her - then it makes no difference to me.
My human feels are frustrating, but I'm trying.
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I keep hearing that there are many forms of cheating
From thinking of someone else and having sexual fantasies of someone you may or may not even know Then there's the watching pornography type of cheating where some may or may disagree it's cheating
To speaking to people in a friendly manner to flirting and or to sexting / phone sex etc
Then of course the actual act of cheating sleeping kissing someone else having intercourse with one or more person who is not the person you are committed to
What's acceptable to you when in a romantic relationship and not considered cheating opposed to what's not acceptable that you may consider crossing the line of infidelity.