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I completely agree with you in taking smaller jobs that don’t require much.

It’s nice to shoot for the stars and want that big role but the older I get I just want peace.

If that means staying below my grade Aka hiding out in a lower level position, so be it!

I rather go home and stop get my fave tacos than go home crying and stressed out every day

Posted by DMV

Posted by Ninjagirl
I thought I'd chime in here.
@DMV, I completely relate to what you're going through, I've also experienced more or less the same thing with work. It's exhausting.
How long has your situation being going on? For me, it has been for the last 10 years!
I'm also a Capricorn Venus, and I do think we may come accross too 'strong' for some.
The last place I was at was horrendous and left me quite unwell. I was subject to a collective grievance with most of the workforce making a claim against me. I didn't even make a year and things went downhill quite quickly.
To be honest, u don't think Sagittarius are for the workforce. I really think we are better off self-employed. Although I don't work in the corporate field, I have taken management positions which just don't work. Managers and employees see me as a threat and I show them up on their incompetence (without seeking to).
I'm now looking to jump back in to working again, but refuse to take any positions that are reflective of my actual skills and expereince, as I just know it will likely cause issues. Sad, I know, but I just can't risk it. I've decided to take a role slightly under my paygrade as I can't deal with the stress and make up the rest of my wage with a side hustle.
I also research companies throughly before applying, and make a decision to apply based on what I find. Of course, you can never be sure what you'll get into once you're appointed, but I'm cautious as I've been burnt too may times. My last expereince reeked havoc on my hair edges, and killed my houseplants, as I believe some negative spiritual works also took place with some employees. Not fun, but as a true Sag, I'm now bouncing back.
Choose your battles wisely. Sometimes it is better to walk away as the comeback can be much worse.
I do understand how absoutely draining this can be for you. Look after yourself.

I coulda wrote this myself.

My issues with corporate America started in 2009.

I wrote about quitting my job in 2016 and taking a year off to get me mental back here on DXPNET.

Tbh, I still hear the words of my former Virgal boss creep in my mind and I have to fight off the feelings of being a loser. She was the loser criminal and I just knew it before anyone else did.

Agree with you on self employment. I’ve been trying to launch businesses here and there. Haven’t found the winner yet.

For the last 7 years, I thought it was Christmas decorating but once again, I got pushed outta the environment.

I haven’t given up on myself, I’ll keep coming up with new ideas and traveling is my preferred medicine for my mental health. Even if it’s just a me driving around town and trying out a new restaurant.

Group work is not ideal. I prefer full control and paving my own way.

I’m lucky in that I have a twin who has the same aspects as me; including Venus in Capricorn.

Her life is so opposite of mine. She has friends, a boyfriend (they’re moving in together), promotion after promotion, a successful actual career.

I’ve concluded that the environment and location astrology is indeed real and Comparison is also the thief of joy.

I wasn’t made to live the same journey as her. Nothing is guaranteed and my desire for entitlement is always a work in progress.

So what people don’t want me around, so what people clap when I leave, so what all of my relationships end in a ball of flames. I’m not entitled to any of that.

I can only wake up and choose joy. ♥️

I hope your work situation improves. What did all those people have to complain about? You didn’t want to play their reindeer games or were they mad that you were the Rudolph?

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It's uncanny how similar our experiences are.

I've also had to take long breaks each time a work experience ends, with each time worse than the former. I've had to seek counselling as some places have very nearly done me in.

My sister (Virgo) says that I haven't had good luck with work for years. She's noticed the pattern. Good friends remind me that it's not me, which I know deep down, but each time it happens, I just get more and more cynical about it. I actually think I have some mild PTSD about work.

The last place I worked was just such a negative place, and has really left me reeling with a real fear about going back into the workforce. A deranged Cancer woman took an instant dislike for me, without even meeting me (she was on long term sick leave when I started). She was the bully and motivator of the team. Colleagues fed back to her what I was like, and once she came back all hell broke loose. Started to say I was harassing her, crying all the time, making claims I assaulted her, basically went completely nuts. Line manager was incompetent and had no backbone. Didn't help me, didn't support, so I was on my own. I showed him up in meetings, not intentionally, but some people thought I was much more knowledgeable than him, so I think he started to resent me.

When I went on sick leave, things escalated and I was told of the collective grievance. I was made to go through the process while Ill. I was left in limbo for several months with no outcome. Asked for my unused holiday pay and was told I could only get it if I left, so I was forced to resign. Did that, and was paid my holiday pay, but they also put me back on full pay for the two months I served my notice by mistake.

I was paid much more than expected, and during Christmas, they asked for the entire salary back. Kept sending me threatening letters for bailiffs. When I asked for an explanation, they told me it was managers error that I was paid too much. I said take me to court, and I haven't heard anything since.

But the damage to my health and wellbeing has been unforgiving. I think one employee tried to spiritually attack me after I accepted some mulled wine she insisted I took home. Stupidly, I did and things started going downhill in my home. 3 of my lovely plants died, things just didn't feel right. Got rid of the bottle, did a cleanse and things are a little better. My health has taken a massive hit though and has been a slow recovery since.

I think you know what to do. Follow your instincts and your intuition. Give yourself time to process things. There were many things I could have acted on, but I held back a lot and let many things go for the sake of my health. Years ago, this old Sag would be battling everything, but not no more. The only thing I was prepared to do was to go to court over wages as there was a strong probability I could win the case.

It's good you're doing something creative, this helps to restore our energy. I also do creative things which has helped my recovery. During my hiatus, I went on a few courses to help build back my resolve.

When you're ready for the next step, do as much research as you can. I like Glassdoor as you can see companies reviews from former employees. But yeah. I've been burnt more times than you can count. There was only one place in the last 10 years that I felt I belonged by staff. I was managed by a Sag and Taurus and treated well. That was my best year to date (2018). Prior to and after that has been a disaster.

Funnily enough though, I never ever have issues with clients. It's always management and colleagues. I just think I'm too much of a threat to some, and the organisation, especially when they are poorly managed.

Posted by DMV
I completely agree with you in taking smaller jobs that don’t require much.

It’s nice to shoot for the stars and want that big role but the older I get I just want peace.

If that means staying below my grade Aka hiding out in a lower level position, so be it!

I rather go home and stop get my fave tacos than go home crying and stressed out every day

Yeah, I just want a job which I know I can hide in, not show too much of my skills, do the hours and go home. In the last job I was a manager, and on call 24 hours a day. It was so stressful and actually made me quite unwell. I'm good with a simple job, or working directly with people, rather in a managment team/role.

I'm good with being a cog in a large wheel. I don't want to be in the spotlight anymore.

@DMV I just want to remind you that it's not you doing anything wrong. There were instances where you had bosses who you really got on with, who respected you. I have to remind myself of this, as ut is quite easy to focus on the negative. But there has been occasions where you've had the right manager and the right team that supported you.

I think in the workforce, we are natural leaders, and seem to find people that want to clip our wings and stunt our growth. I know now that it is virtually impossible to find the best place to work in as we are here to create such a place, not to fit in to a place that already exists. We are at our best when we can lead which is why we really should be self employed. But it's not easy.

You are worthy of the best life can offer. ✨️

Thanks Ninjagirl for your kind words.

Yes! Are lives have been very similar.

I definitely have pstd lol

It’s been tough and I’ve given up on a lot of dreams but I’m just tired of always having to fight and prove my worth to other people in and out of the workplace.

I want others to prove themselves to me to MY satisfaction.

My good bosses were soooooo good.

My ex Taurus boss was magician.

Day one he respected me. He was so grateful and appreciative and it made me work harder for him. He would bring gifts to show his appreciation. Total class act.

I miss being treated like that. He was such a rarity.

Another Cappy boss was so damn good to me. During my first review, he said “I’m so glad I hired you.”

I wish them both the happiest of lives.