Im a Virgo woman confused with Sag Man

I developed a feeling with this sag man. We are workmates. We do casual talks at work. We started to become friends on facebook. I don't know but when started chatting, we suddenly clicked together to the extent that we did sexting. With the flirty exchange of messages, we playfully touched ourselves at work when no one is around. It happened very quickly but it also changed dramatically as we tend to be cold with each other for no reason at all. He onced texted me that he missed me. I told him that I respect his space and we can be together with no strings attached and he said he is happy to do that.

I was very vocal to him and told him that I like him. He said he was flattered. He always listened patiently to my work grievances and would coach me to make me calm down and do the right thing. He would buy me sometimes food for lunch.

I saw him flirting with my other female Sag workmate and it looks like they are enjoying time with each other. He did mentioned to me that he finds her very young and he likes the experienced one.

He is brutally frank with me by saying his observations on me. He said Im very serious, overthinker, analytical, OCD (like most Virgos) and I have to go with the flow, be chill, enjoy and live the moment.

After a month of not communicating on facebook, we again hooked up by being sexual to each other for a day then ignoring each other the next day. I told him I am sorry for giving him hot and cold treatment and he responded that he got used of it. He said he is shy and he sees a pattern in me. I asked him what it is so I can break it but he just smiled.

Please help me. Im confused coz Im really liking him but don't know if he likes me. Is he playing mind games with me? Don't know if I have to continue my feelings towards him. I know we are totally different but something really draws me to want him.

Thanks dewiklaessen1991. Yes, I will take your advice. I have to loosen up and be more proactive ?

I thought that with his sign, no strings attached will do, but as the time goes by, his disappearing act drives me crazy. I realized I could not stand up with this arrangement. I want us to know each other deeply, not just being sexually available for convenience. How can I change his mind when he already had established an impression of me? Is it ok to take the first move and be continually upfront or will I scare him if im pursuing him. I want to be more productive but Im worried that he might see me very advance ?

Posted by Redoctober2000
The sag is not doing anything wrong?! What exactly do you want from him? "no strings" you said and that is EXACTLY what you got!!

The sag is "sticking to the script"! I suggest you do the same or get out!

This is actually good advice. Shitty delivery but good advice.

He's not interested in anything serious. He followed your lead sounds like. He's also keeping is friendly cause you probably come off as the type to get cray cray at work.

Posted by Girlybhoy
I thought that with his sign, no strings attached will do, but as the time goes by, his disappearing act drives me crazy. I realized I could not stand up with this arrangement. I want us to know each other deeply, not just being sexually available for convenience. How can I change his mind when he already had established an impression of me? Is it ok to take the first move and be continually upfront or will I scare him if im pursuing him. I want to be more productive but Im worried that he might see me very advance ?

Tell him what you want. You are a bit anxious tho, i feel it.

Doesn't sound like anything good is gonna come out from it. Sorry to be a wet blanket