Is she interested at all in me?

About 18 months ago I met a girl whilst on a volunteering holiday. I am from the UK and she is from France. I found her incredibly attractive (looks and personality) and even though I did my best to avoid her because I saw it as a painful dead end attraction, we ended up hanging out a bit, and it was clear that there was an attraction between us, although nothing at all happened cos she had a boyfriend, and I'm not an arsehole.

Now, I know that with her being a sagittarius that she moved on quickly and easily and didn't put much stock in the attraction between us. She continued to have a boyfriend, and although I did hint strongly at my interest in her, we spoke very infrequently, and usually she would reply to my messages very slowly (like 2 weeks!), which again, from what I've read seems to be the norm.

Anyway, I then had a girlfriend for 6 months, so didn't speak to her much in that time. Then my relationship ended and I contacted her and discovered she was single, and so I told her straight up how attractive I found her and how I was going to win her heart! The only direct response she ever gave me about my attraction to her came at this point when she said 'you know it's not possible'. But this didn't discourage me because to me it was her commenting on our situations (living in separate countries etc.). I flat out told her it is possible and that I would climb mountains, fight dragons etc. to win her heart. To which, no reply!

I have some dignity so I let it go for a few months until her birthday was approaching when I messaged her and asked her if I could send her flowers for her birthday. She replied saying 'yes, that is very kind' , and so I sent her about 20 red roses (I wasn't going to forsake the chance to make my feelings very clear!), and she replied very grateful saying how wonderful they were and thank you etc. Then there was Christmas a few days later, so I said 'Merry xmas' and she replied, then I messaged for Happy New Years, but she didn't reply!

So again I leave it for about 5 weeks until Valentine's Day approaches, and again I ask her if I can send her chocolates for VD, and again she says yes and is very grateful. I needed her address and phone number for delivery, and she had no problem giving them to me (as a Virgo I am always freaking out that I'm a weirdo creep!). But throughout all these exchanges there are times she ignores a question or a comment, or replies days and days late... and so on. It drives me a little crazy. I'm not a demanding person at all, and as someone with Sag moon and asc. I completely understand the need for freedom and space, but being outright ignored at some times and engaged with at others is very confusing.

So what is the deal here? Does she have some interest in me? I know she is not playing me because she is genuinely good hearted, but I suspect she might be somewhat insecure... maybe even a lot insecure, and kind of shy / reserved (for a sag). Anyway, just after VD day, I sent her a message to tell her I'd be away for a few months and that I was confused about whether she liked me or not, but that I'd like to come to France and see her when I'm back.

All I want to do is talk to her. That is all. Just have some conversation. But she seems to have no interest in that... or she has interest, but something stops her, whatever that might be, insecurity, testing me, playing hard to get. I don't know. I'm sure if she had no interest in me she'd say so, and certainly wouldn't let me send her flowers and chocolates. All I want is some clarity... I don't need a perfect picture. I just want the truth of the situation, and whether I should continue to pursue her or not, and if so, to understand her behaviour a bit better.

Thanks. I'm sorry this is so long.

Wait what’s your sign

You seem sweet but if she said it was impossible then it is. I don't do long distance well.

If you were travelling to see her frequently, it would be different, but not seeing her and her not making an effort to see you is a clear sign that she's not attracted to you like that, or just has simply ignored the attraction.

I can ignore it if it is a dead end as well

Also, who would say no to the kinds of gifts you are sending? It's a very nice gesture and is sweet. Most women would accept them.

Posted by Ganon
But...but...but why and how are you confused?

She already told you it is not possible, meaning she is not into you.

And she is backing up that statement with minimum responses to your messages.

You thinking that she's insecure or plays hard to get is just grasping at straws.

All you want to do is talk to her? That is not true.

You want to win her heart and she knows this cause you told her .

She's is doing you a favour by not responding to you.

She really isn't trying to hurt your feelings.

I'm sorry. That's all i see.

I have to agree exactly with this comment. It's all there. She's a nice person who doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so she is answering the things that won't hurt you, and avoiding the things that will. Sorry.