Is something wrong with this Sagittarius now?

Now and few days ago:

My detachment has come along well, I don't initiate anything with her or check up on her really - I've been more focused on myself. But her behaviour is becoming quite odd; Like a few days ago we rarely talked and she would come out of the blue at my cubicle, knock to get my attention and just tell me "I'm leaving". I'm not sure the reason...but okay? I waved her off and went back to my book and quiet time - which was more important.

Shes rarely told me goodnight or goodbye in the past - she's not very consistent with this. So why start now? the only reason I suspect is a check-up or some sort

she asked to use my address to receive some stuff since she lives in an apartment, and I live in a house. I asked why it had to be me and not your new friend? she said it was because I was the only that lived in a house. - I texted her. She wanted to meet me sooner before work, which I couldn't do at the time. So shes sends "I figured. It's okay. See you soon." I get to work, go to Starbucks, she picks up her packages when I've left. She sends an IM at the job with "THANK YOU!!!" and "I was trying to catch you at your desk but I guess you were on a break ".

A few hours later

She comes by desk visits me to ask if I have eaten dinner today? I told her brought lasagna from home, she had microwaveable dinner....I assumed she brought that for me? or maybe she didn't want that. She IM's me later "enjoy the rest of your shift. Talk to you l8tr. and thanks again" which I told her to just let me know when she gets home safely. she does around like 3 AM. Honestly im not sure what her intent is really - it's so inconsistent to me really. Hopefully im not bother you guys with bullshit but if you have input I'll value it.

Over several weeks :

Around July we a large convention to go that we were both excited about - one she invited me too. She didn't come to the event since she got sick, and this was around the week of my birthday. When the event happened I called her phone he replied back shes sick. She told me like two days ago - I'll hit you when im ready to go. Didn't happen, she did not even reach out to even notify me that she wasn't coming or anything. After trying to reach out to her for several days, her replies were she could not speak right now. I called texted three times (this was stupid as fuck in hindsight fam, my dignity was not happily looking desperate). No matter how many times I tried to contact she didn't have time. So I asked on my birthday did you still want to be friends or not? I would prefer a definite answer really. I get back

"Well to be honest; yes and no. We need to have a legit sit-down and talk really. Like over a beer and not a phone really. Im not angry or even upset. But we do need to talk really. If I know you at all I'm sure you feel the same way"

At work, she comes back blatantly ignoring me as if I was glass-like no hi or hello's no nothing. It literally became a cold war between us like America vs Russia. I did nothing wrong which baffled me really. I was the one confused here. So this continued for about two solid weeks with her ghosting me:

I was ghosted like twice bruh in one setting; first time, when I saw her coming through the double doors she dead ass just walked right past me and all. The second time was just when I went down on my 15 minute break, she just walked right past me and left there like no looking my way or hi or hello lol and by her reply, she seems quite over me so I'll leave that be there.

Some coworkers noticed this and realised the energy between us made work awkward really. Eventually after several times trying to contact her via IM at the job I got back a "Hi..........." which asked her if he wanted to hang out and talk this over. It took like three attempts really we book a schedule. So I leave three hours early and we sit down to talk. We restaurant jump a bit because we need to find something suitable for her. she asks if I’ve been there since I say no thé explains she had a date out here. Went on to explain how she would come late night for food and talk with his coworkers, we sat down and talked about things and so forth before she explained her deal. Apparently my sarcasm and negativity were detrimental to her, especially her time quitting smoking. Again we have the many misunderstandings which said she had to eat those moments, and me also missing social cues like when she goes quiet and what not tbh. I mentioned how she can come off as ungrateful during favours and how she dismisses others - but eventually, we share out issues and work it out. Eventually she goes in how I use too much sarcasm and what not it is detrimental. I see her issue and apologise since that wasn't my case, so I ease back on the jokes and whatnot. Eventually, I just censor myself really, to be honest. Soon we head back to her place - she lifts the ban and we chill watch some anime and I left. She explained she ghosted/ ignored me was because she needed space. But she chose to keep the friendship in the end.

It was understandable but once I learned that I just shut down - and distanced myself over the few weeks really; I stopped initiating convo, and focused on my work; my art, my mental pursuits while I work at my job. Usually, she would ignore these things but eventually, she would come around and check up on me more often after this talk.

We had an email around the company that the building was shutting down the next day and that we couldn't work. she came over to my desk. ike she literally came up to ask if I need to talk about anything after Monday said Nah seriously they said she was about to leave then brings up the email and stuff, which I said yeah I saw and she was like you have any plans for tomorrow? I said no, not really, and you? she replied nothing really, im just asking - its a free day. The phrasing seemed so super odd to be honest really until I text my female best friend. Who said that sounded like an obvious hint to bait you clearly. So I asked her if she wanted to hang out.

" Maybe lol. Ask me tomorrow. Lol

GN "

..It was like I was back in high school all over again. So I asked the next day she followed up. Didn't want to spend money so we chilled at her place. Heading there she, and getting stuck in traffic, she went to the liquor store. Meeting up at her apartment, texting her I was downstairs. I hear her on phone “Yes, he’s here girl - and he brought an umbrella”- she was talking to the coworker on the phone (yes I bought one uncertain if it would rain )

I point out she was talking to the coworker since I notice the name and she explained she had a rough start today; I had gotten into an argument with the uber delivery guy so she thought of the two could hangout. It’s better than her drinking alone by herself.

I helped clean and went shopping with her at Walmart. We had a good time eventually I leave because she invites her other coworker over and I feel like im becoming a third wheel so I leave. I told when we went downstairs to chill - waiting for the pizza man. I told her I was leaving. She asked why we did only shopping and cleaning today which I replied it was fine and she ought to focus on the co-worker. She needed the company. She said she didn’t mean to make feel me feel excluded and uncomfortable. She just thought we could hang out and watch a movie. She did invite me to watch Deadpool 2 with her but I declined tbh

While hanging out with her she noticed I have a skin tag on my left wrist; pulled it to observe it and what not before explaining facts - like that I shouldn’t rip it off or that. A small skin tag on my wrist...

I should visit a doctor for its removal, she explains they turn into moles later on and etc

Friday, before I leave my house for work I get a text from her asking” Hey. Yu work today?” Which I respond yes to which “What time you come in?” Which I reply “2:24” I’m running late. She asks “Runnin late?” I say “....Yea”. I call the hotline and she picks up the phone!! Which just spooks me I come into office ask her if she would like coffee which she declines. She sends an IM hours later asking “ are you ok?” Later after she shifts comes by to tell me goodnight. Again she rarely does this tbh

the day after I held back on getting my coffee. She just wanted food which she wanted a salmon bagel from einstein “ thank you very much!” Which confused me but okay....she comes my desk with the thumbs up and all smiling. It’s been really odd tbh.

Tuesday she IM's me asking if im

her:" Hey are you - ordering food today?" I reply "No - I brought food from home" she lead to "Dammit Ok". She leaves early and texts me "Call me later okay?" I don't know why but it seemed so odd. I reply "Okay—". She states "I'm heading out that why I said that. No issue."

On the 8th

I sent her an IM if she wanted to eat mostly. Thought it wouldn't hurt to be nice once in a while. So I brought up that if she still wanted me to call still later on. She said "At this point, we should grab a beer after this. lol". I teased if she had " If she had her ID renewed to drink?" she instead invited me over to her place instead. she came over to my desk asked if it was alright to use my address. Which fine before stating how many packages and etc. I asked why she would want to talk to me in person and why not the phone. She felt the phone was more for females and she preferred to talk to her guy friends in person, face-to-face actually. It seemed odd to me....

Recently our company got bought so she wanted to hang out and talk about it. So I went over to her place on a Monday, we hung out drunk watched some anime with her. She cooked and I helped her with laundry and etc, she made specifically to remove underwear and all that from the bunch. But we had a few beers while she did her hair and showed me how to do a few things.

She seems to like you a lot and is trying to hang out with you. Sag like in person time. Most of her messaging was about seeing or spending time with you, in person, and if you weren't available, then she would leave you alone.

This is how we operate.

What are you confused about?

We don't want to sit on the phone or text someone when we can just wait and see them in person.

As far as you being sarcastic, I guess it just depends on what was said, but she needs to get over it if that's a part of your personality. If she likes you enough she will adapt. But her ignoring you, seems like her feelings were hurt by what was said.

What exactly are you curious/wondering about with this post?

It was long, but thank you for breaking it up into paragraphs, so many here don't do that but still expect answers.

Posted by but_didyoudie

so ummm whos the sag? her? and what are you? a sag?

So shes actually the Sag (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Scorpio in Venus) I'm a Leo Sun / Pisces Moon / Virgo Mars, Venus, Mercury

Posted by saggurl88

She seems to like you a lot and is trying to hang out with you. Sag like in person time. Most of her messaging was about seeing or spending time with you, in person, and if you weren't available, then she would leave you alone.

This is how we operate.

What are you confused about?

We don't want to sit on the phone or text someone when we can just wait and see them in person.

As far as you being sarcastic, I guess it just depends on what was said, but she needs to get over it if that's a part of your personality. If she likes you enough she will adapt. But her ignoring you, seems like her feelings were hurt by what was said.

What exactly are you curious/wondering about with this post?

It was long, but thank you for breaking it up into paragraphs, so many here don't do that but still expect answers.

It's kinda confusing on her intent like she doesn't make any sense. I know that I hurt her but ive already adapted and pretty much censored myself really. I owned up to that issue that I hurt and gave my apologies. I've been very wary and observant of her since day one really, but I do know and sense she has been observing me as well. She has already invited me to hang out with her but the thing is before all this - she would initiate nothing at all. So im like what prompted this suddenly now? I've also noticed some periods of nervousness as well - like its paradoxical of her personality and now usually she does real subtle stuff rather than being direct? So what my question is becoming something more or is this like some lighthearted thing.

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by saggurl88

She seems to like you a lot and is trying to hang out with you. Sag like in person time. Most of her messaging was about seeing or spending time with you, in person, and if you weren't available, then she would leave you alone.

This is how we operate.

What are you confused about?

We don't want to sit on the phone or text someone when we can just wait and see them in person.

As far as you being sarcastic, I guess it just depends on what was said, but she needs to get over it if that's a part of your personality. If she likes you enough she will adapt. But her ignoring you, seems like her feelings were hurt by what was said.

What exactly are you curious/wondering about with this post?

It was long, but thank you for breaking it up into paragraphs, so many here don't do that but still expect answers.

It's kinda confusing on her intent like she doesn't make any sense. I know that I hurt her but ive already adapted and pretty much censored myself really. I owned up to that issue that I hurt and gave my apologies. I've been very wary and observant of her since day one really, but I do know and sense she has been observing me as well. She has already invited me to hang out with her but the thing is before all this - she would initiate nothing at all. So im like what prompted this suddenly now? I've also noticed some periods of nervousness as well - like its paradoxical of her personality and now usually she does real subtle stuff rather than being direct? So what my question is becoming something more or is this like some lighthearted thing.

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Well she seems to like you, which is why shes getting more nervous and shy. I'm this way as well. It's like I don't know how to be proper and function once I start liking a guy, so my response is to naturally back off instead, if he's not giving me postive cues.

What prompted it probably was she's been around you more and finally saw whatever personality you have and liked it. She probably didn't pay much attention before and didn't know. But now she likes what she sees.

Do you usually like a person as soon as you see them? Why are you confused by her interest in you now?

Are you guys both single? She will give you obvious hints about hanging out, and they will get more intimate the more she wants you.

Lots of time spent alone or in private, so you can have an opportunity to make a move if you want. She's not gonna initiate a first kiss or any intimate gestures. You're gonna need to make the first move. Once the "ice" is broken she will take it from there. Otherwise it will be a long and frustrating time in the friend zone for both of you. Her actions seem loud and clear. You just aren't picking up on them. Pay attention to where she wants these meet ups.

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by saggurl88

She seems to like you a lot and is trying to hang out with you. Sag like in person time. Most of her messaging was about seeing or spending time with you, in person, and if you weren't available, then she would leave you alone.

This is how we operate.

What are you confused about?

We don't want to sit on the phone or text someone when we can just wait and see them in person.

As far as you being sarcastic, I guess it just depends on what was said, but she needs to get over it if that's a part of your personality. If she likes you enough she will adapt. But her ignoring you, seems like her feelings were hurt by what was said.

What exactly are you curious/wondering about with this post?

It was long, but thank you for breaking it up into paragraphs, so many here don't do that but still expect answers.

It's kinda confusing on her intent like she doesn't make any sense. I know that I hurt her but I've already adapted and pretty much censored myself really. I owned up to that issue that I hurt and gave my apologies. I've been very wary and observant of her since day one really, but I do know and sense she has been observing me as well. She has already invited me to hang out with her but the thing is before all this - she would initiate nothing at all. So im like what prompted this suddenly now? I've also noticed some periods of nervousness as well - like its paradoxical of her personality and now usually she does real subtle stuff rather than being direct? So what my question is becoming something more or is this like some lighthearted thing.

Well, she seems to like you, which is why she's getting more nervous and shy. I'm this way as well. It's like I don't know how to be proper and function once I start liking a guy, so my response is to naturally back off instead, if he's not giving me postive cues.

What prompted it probably was she's been around you more and finally saw whatever personality you have and liked it. She probably didn't pay much attention before and didn't know. But now she likes what she sees.

Do you usually like a person as soon as you see them? Why are you confused by her interest in you now?

Are you guys both single? She will give you obvious hints about hanging out, and they will get more intimate the more she wants you.

Lots of time spent alone or in private, so you can have an opportunity to make a move if you want. She's not gonna initiate a first kiss or an intimate gestures. You're gonna need to make the first move. Once the "ice" is broken she will take it from there. Otherwise, it will be a long and frustrating time in the friend zone for both of you. Her actions seem loud and clear. You just aren't picking upon them. Pay attention to where she wants these meetups.

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Yep.... Saggurl88 you right on that one tbh I was not aware of all these things really. No, I don't usually like a person during first meetups, its more of their interests and what that sell it. Physically wise? nah never I need more to work off then just physical stuff, I think when I sat down with her and learned more about her that impressed me. My Venus is in Virgo in the 11th house. I like a wide variety of people tbh. When I met her initially I didn't find her attractive really tbh, it was overtime that it dawned on me (we've been friends since like February - March tbh); like I remember when it happened when I left out a book. It was a complete collection of H.P. Lovecraft horror fiction. I was a big fan of the book, now everyone in my office looks at the book thinking its something and turns it away. She looks at it was like - hey I like books like that can I read that some time or borrow that book. I didn't take her serious thought she was fucking with me since I literally just glared at her silently. She took at as a fuck no - when actually was like baffled someone knew what this book was about. That's when I felt the attraction when it dawned on me really. Now why I'm confused too because she told me she doesn't date coworkers. I'm picking up on the really - im just overanalyzing them - Virgo in Mercury. I see it but im like why?

What I'm going to do? honestly probably nothing really for multiple reasons:

- We both work at the same job really, I believe in the old say; Don't shit where you eat. I can't jeopardize our jobs over a relationship that could end badly. Let's be real here Sag anger + work + my aggressive Pisces moon - Virgo mars opposition is not going to end nice. We are going to fight tbh.

- She seems more focused on getting herself together - I like to support her best I can and I know from what she told she's in a rut; she's scared of taking a step forward to quicky and burning out to where she falls into a depression and losing her job and home. I would rather not see that happen really.

But I can confirm she is interested; Today I went to Starbucks to get my usual. This girl is on her breaking smoking her vape, I didn't even approach her at all - just kept walking. I get upstairs asked if she wanted something from the vending machine she sends "I want a coffee but you made a run without meh :c" I was done. I said I could run to get her one but she said it was too late for coffee. Said id treat her tomorrow.

The vending machine part, man, she's so extra and dramatic lol. I went to the vending machine to get ginger ale, I can hear her on my left helping a coworker. I can hear her footsteps, her footsteps are rather authoritative since she's wearing like heeled boots so I can hear them behind me as she is speaking. I do not acknowledge her im just watching the vending machine. Im literally trying to recapture the moment of Jurassic park; where you see a T-Rex you stand still and hope he pasts. Nope, I can hear her footsteps. Her footsteps goes pasts me, stops and double backs in her step. Where she was and shes looking back at me - and we make eye contact with the usual huge smile. I can hear telling me "Shes having a rough day" while shes walking off to her seat. I had to hold back a laugh - because she really wanted my attention.

After that day - she sends an IM she wanted to go to Dunkin Donuts with me only. So says " she's stuck on a call at the moment but will hit you up soon as it looks like its rounding up".

me: "aight bet"

her: "ready to run right quick?"

me: "nah on a call right now"

her: " You have 5 minutes. Naw Im teasing, long call or short"

me: "Looking long give me a minute"

me: "ready"

her: "Let's move - meet at the elevator"

So we met at the elevators, went to Dunkin' Donuts. She bought some coffee while she explaining her issues; So she was having a rough day this morning trying to go to the bank complete something. However, couldn't do it because she didn't have her ID. She tried going to AT&T since her tablet is burning up her data plan, couldn't do it because well no ID. So this is her fourth time getting her ID, and recently most of her mail has been returned as undelivered (living in an apartment complex where only residences can only enter - so postman has to wait ). So now she has to go to the Center as suspicious, meaning she has to bring more material to prove her ID. Since it's returned as undelivered. The few first times they stated they had no idea what happened to her ID. So now shes fucked right now? So she filed a complaint with mailing services. She plans on enforcing the vacation hold option and just gets the ID from there. While she explains this she is like arent you getting yourself anything? a lady at the time had arrived and cut in front of me. Literally she was like trying to get me to get my beverage. While we're speaking I noticed she was way more close up on me than usual. Like way more than arm's length man. She did waver back and forth between this line - but you could sorta see she was up more close on me than usual. We did leave out and sit outside the building. She had her vape but still, again she would stimes waver closer to me then usually or I would move around and she would move closer lol. Personal space was literally obliterated at this point. After that we talked about her change of attire, she's been dressing like its cold. But bringing up the idea of knee-high boots, but lately, she's been wearing a lot of cardigans/ decorated sweaters and what not which her to wear. Since well she does like the fall weather - just as much as I do and winter as well. Now the funny part was she mentioned she'd dress basically during summer; sundress, flip flops, the works, but will dress like a winter fashion model. Straight pants, knee-high boots, and sweaters for days actually. she clearly prizes her choice of attire I've especially in the winter. Also seems to have some affinity for hipster clothing tbh.

Bro i thought u were an aquarius with all that thinking

Posted by besarlalluvia

Bro I thought u were an Aquarius with all that thinking

tbh you ain't really wrong their bro. Aquarius is one of the strongest signs in my chart, here is the list; Aquarius, Virgo, Leo, Capricorn. My venus, mars, moon are all in conjunction with Uranus and my venus, mars, mercury in Virgo - but all in the 11th house of Aquarius fam. Lol, my bad with all the overthinking all fam. So since I act like an aquarius is it possible to join their team?

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by besarlalluvia

Bro I thought u were an Aquarius with all that thinking

tbh you ain't really wrong their bro. Aquarius is one of the strongest signs in my chart, here is the list; Aquarius, Virgo, Leo, Capricorn. My venus, mars, moon are all in conjunction with Uranus and my venus, mars, mercury in Virgo - but all in the 11th house of Aquarius fam. Lol, my bad with all the overthinking all fam. So since I act like an aquarius is it possible to join their team?

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You don't have to apologise for anything. But you do need to get that leo on. Stop thinking and act. You must be asking about her because you want her - otherwise you simply wouldn't care about her wishy-washing.

That's why i thought you were aquarius - they don't seem to know how to process their feelings and those who come here just want us to process it for them

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by saggurl88

She seems to like you a lot and is trying to hang out with you. Sag like in person time. Most of her messaging was about seeing or spending time with you, in person, and if you weren't available, then she would leave you alone.

This is how we operate.

What are you confused about?

We don't want to sit on the phone or text someone when we can just wait and see them in person.

As far as you being sarcastic, I guess it just depends on what was said, but she needs to get over it if that's a part of your personality. If she likes you enough she will adapt. But her ignoring you, seems like her feelings were hurt by what was said.

What exactly are you curious/wondering about with this post?

It was long, but thank you for breaking it up into paragraphs, so many here don't do that but still expect answers.

It's kinda confusing on her intent like she doesn't make any sense. I know that I hurt her but I've already adapted and pretty much censored myself really. I owned up to that issue that I hurt and gave my apologies. I've been very wary and observant of her since day one really, but I do know and sense she has been observing me as well. She has already invited me to hang out with her but the thing is before all this - she would initiate nothing at all. So im like what prompted this suddenly now? I've also noticed some periods of nervousness as well - like its paradoxical of her personality and now usually she does real subtle stuff rather than being direct? So what my question is becoming something more or is this like some lighthearted thing.

Well, she seems to like you, which is why she's getting more nervous and shy. I'm this way as well. It's like I don't know how to be proper and function once I start liking a guy, so my response is to naturally back off instead, if he's not giving me postive cues.

What prompted it probably was she's been around you more and finally saw whatever personality you have and liked it. She probably didn't pay much attention before and didn't know. But now she likes what she sees.

Do you usually like a person as soon as you see them? Why are you confused by her interest in you now?

Are you guys both single? She will give you obvious hints about hanging out, and they will get more intimate the more she wants you.

Lots of time spent alone or in private, so you can have an opportunity to make a move if you want. She's not gonna initiate a first kiss or an intimate gestures. You're gonna need to make the first move. Once the "ice" is broken she will take it from there. Otherwise, it will be a long and frustrating time in the friend zone for both of you. Her actions seem loud and clear. You just aren't picking upon them. Pay attention to where she wants these meetups.

Yep.... Saggurl88 you right on that one tbh I was not aware of all these things really. No, I don't usually like a person during first meetups, its more of their interests and what that sell it. Physically wise? nah never I need more to work off then just physical stuff, I think when I sat down with her and learned more about her that impressed me. My Venus is in Virgo in the 11th house. I like a wide variety of people tbh. When I met her initially I didn't find her attractive really tbh, it was overtime that it dawned on me (we've been friends since like February - March tbh); like I remember when it happened when I left out a book. It was a complete collection of H.P. Lovecraft horror fiction. I was a big fan of the book, now everyone in my office looks at the book thinking its something and turns it away. She looks at it was like - hey I like books like that can I read that some time or borrow that book. I didn't take her serious thought she was fucking with me since I literally just glared at her silently. She took at as a fuck no - when actually was like baffled someone knew what this book was about. That's when I felt the attraction when it dawned on me really. Now why I'm confused too because she told me she doesn't date coworkers. I'm picking up on the really - im just overanalyzing them - Virgo in Mercury. I see it but im like why?

What I'm going to do? honestly probably nothing really for multiple reasons:

- We both work at the same job really, I believe in the old say; Don't shit where you eat. I can't jeopardize our jobs over a relationship that could end badly. Let's be real here Sag anger + work + my aggressive Pisces moon - Virgo mars opposition is not going to end nice. We are going to fight tbh.

- She seems more focused on getting herself together - I like to support her best I can and I know from what she told she's in a rut; she's scared of taking a step forward to quicky and burning out to where she falls into a depression and losing her job and home. I would rather not see that happen really.

But I can confirm she is interested; Today I went to Starbucks to get my usual. This girl is on her breaking smoking her vape, I didn't even approach her at all - just kept walking. I get upstairs asked if she wanted something from the vending machine she sends "I want a coffee but you made a run without meh :c" I was done. I said I could run to get her one but she said it was too late for coffee. Said id treat her tomorrow.

The vending machine part, man, she's so extra and dramatic lol. I went to the vending machine to get ginger ale, I can hear her on my left helping a coworker. I can hear her footsteps, her footsteps are rather authoritative since she's wearing like heeled boots so I can hear them behind me as she is speaking. I do not acknowledge her im just watching the vending machine. Im literally trying to recapture the moment of Jurassic park; where you see a T-Rex you stand still and hope he pasts. Nope, I can hear her footsteps. Her footsteps goes pasts me, stops and double backs in her step. Where she was and shes looking back at me - and we make eye contact with the usual huge smile. I can hear telling me "Shes having a rough day" while shes walking off to her seat. I had to hold back a laugh - because she really wanted my attention.

After that day - she sends an IM she wanted to go to Dunkin Donuts with me only. So says " she's stuck on a call at the moment but will hit you up soon as it looks like its rounding up".

me: "aight bet"

her: "ready to run right quick?"

me: "nah on a call right now"

her: " You have 5 minutes. Naw Im teasing, long call or short"

me: "Looking long give me a minute"

me: "ready"

her: "Let's move - meet at the elevator"

So we met at the elevators, went to Dunkin' Donuts. She bought some coffee while she explaining her issues; So she was having a rough day this morning trying to go to the bank complete something. However, couldn't do it because she didn't have her ID. She tried going to AT&T since her tablet is burning up her data plan, couldn't do it because well no ID. So this is her fourth time getting her ID, and recently most of her mail has been returned as undelivered (living in an apartment complex where only residences can only enter - so postman has to wait ). So now she has to go to the Center as suspicious, meaning she has to bring more material to prove her ID. Since it's returned as undelivered. The few first times they stated they had no idea what happened to her ID. So now shes fucked right now? So she filed a complaint with mailing services. She plans on enforcing the vacation hold option and just gets the ID from there. While she explains this she is like arent you getting yourself anything? a lady at the time had arrived and cut in front of me. Literally she was like trying to get me to get my beverage. While we're speaking I noticed she was way more close up on me than usual. Like way more than arm's length man. She did waver back and forth between this line - but you could sorta see she was up more close on me than usual. We did leave out and sit outside the building. She had her vape but still, again she would stimes waver closer to me then usually or I would move around and she would move closer lol. Personal space was literally obliterated at this point. After that we talked about her change of attire, she's been dressing like its cold. But bringing up the idea of knee-high boots, but lately, she's been wearing a lot of cardigans/ decorated sweaters and what not which her to wear. Since well she does like the fall weather - just as much as I do and winter as well. Now the funny part was she mentioned she'd dress basically during summer; sundress, flip flops, the works, but will dress like a winter fashion model. Straight pants, knee-high boots, and sweaters for days actually. she clearly prizes her choice of attire I've especially in the winter. Also seems to have some affinity for hipster clothing tbh.

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@Ocelot009

"she told me she doesn't date coworkers"

"She's scared of taking a step forward to quickly and burning out to where she falls into a depression and losing her job and home. I would rather not see that happen really."

This is a very valid reason not to date a coworker. But we Sag are optimistic and like the chase and thrill of getting someone. The more she likes you, the more she will be willing to risk it.

You guys are both adults so I'm not sure why you can't be professional at work, since you both will have a lot to lose.

As far as being dramatic, She most likely want anyone in her business if you guys start dating. That will have a lot to do with her ignoring you while she is talking or having a conversation when another coworker is present.

It's really about how she acts when you're alone. But yeah we can be a little dramatic sometimes. especially if we want some attention from the guy we like.

I think most Sag have work relationships. We say a lot of stuff that is the right thing to say, but we will end up justifying it and just doing what we want cause we can be selfish.

Work relationships are great cause we get to see the person everyday and it's less pressure for so much time spent together but it has to be done with both showing up for work on a daily basis. So there doesn't need to be much vulnerability in asking for time spent together.

My gosh! All that Virgo is showing with your details about the outfits she wears, But she will cater her outfits to what you like if she knows what style s you like. She's trying to get you to notice her. She's gonna want to look nice for you if she likes you.

I guess if you are fine with how things are going, then leave it at that. She will probably get frustrated that you aren't showing interest and then give up on you and move on. So you either strike while the time is right, or wait it out. But she won't show you a lot of attention once she's lost interest 😄

Good luck on figuring out what you want to do!

Posted by saggurl88

"she told me she doesn't date coworkers"

"She's scared of taking a step forward to quickly and burning out to where she falls into a depression and losing her job and home. I would rather not see that happen really."

This is a very valid reason not to date a coworker. But we Sag are optimistic and like the chase and thrill of getting someone. The more she likes you, the more she will be willing to risk it.

You guys are both adults so I'm not sure why you can't be professional at work, since you both will have a lot to lose.

As far as being dramatic, She most likely want anyone in her business if you guys start dating. That will have a lot to do with her ignoring you while she is talking or having a conversation when another coworker is present.

It's really about how she acts when you're alone. But yeah we can be a little dramatic sometimes. especially if we want some attention from the guy we like.

I think most Sag have work relationships. We say a lot of stuff that is the right thing to say, but we will end up justifying it and just doing what we want cause we can be selfish.

Work relationships are great cause we get to see the person every day and it's less pressure for so much time spent together but it has to be done with both showing up for work on a daily basis. So there doesn't need to be much vulnerability in asking for time spent together.

My gosh! All that Virgo is showing with your details about the outfits she wears, But she will cater her outfits to what you like if she knows what style s you like. She's trying to get you to notice her. She's gonna want to look nice for you if she likes you.

I guess if you are fine with how things are going, then leave it at that. She will probably get frustrated that you aren't showing interest and then give up on you and move on. So you either strike while the time is right, or wait it out. But she won't show you a lot of attention once she's lost interest 😄

Good luck on figuring out what you want to do!

Thank you for the inspiration really. I'm curious though, she doesn't talk to the other guys at the job at all I noticed too really ( she does talk to management but not like other coworkers). She is legit reserved, serious to most people. She did tell me around May since I started talking to her a lot of the people in the office. So far shes shown me how to play chess, asked for my opinion on certain clothing, complimented on certain things. When we go out sometimes brings up a fact about the date she had her with a person in certain places we visit. Even at times, state one place is good for date - it's sorta random and im not usually sure if its a hint or some advice. When we went shopping a number of times - especially for her stuff. She's been coming by checking up on me, even walking past my desk without speaking a word - since I sit on the other side from out desk.



Back in the past we would go on work breaks, lunch and talk quite often - we'd butt heads but we got with some misunderstands. One thing we emphasised between us is being open and honest with another on everything really. So now (current office move, she now does all the shit I said we do with another female coworker, talks and orders out with - doing the same things we used to over the last few months). We rarely talk now, we do but its very few and far in-between. I use to come by to say hi and hello - due to get brushed off and not feeling the respect is mutual between us. But will see where it goes actually possibly hang out with her more to see where it goes tbh.

But Im wondering do Sags do usually just come by to visit and check on you because of their interested or because they want just the attention?

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by saggurl88

"she told me she doesn't date coworkers"

"She's scared of taking a step forward to quickly and burning out to where she falls into a depression and losing her job and home. I would rather not see that happen really."

This is a very valid reason not to date a coworker. But we Sag are optimistic and like the chase and thrill of getting someone. The more she likes you, the more she will be willing to risk it.

You guys are both adults so I'm not sure why you can't be professional at work, since you both will have a lot to lose.

As far as being dramatic, She most likely want anyone in her business if you guys start dating. That will have a lot to do with her ignoring you while she is talking or having a conversation when another coworker is present.

It's really about how she acts when you're alone. But yeah we can be a little dramatic sometimes. especially if we want some attention from the guy we like.

I think most Sag have work relationships. We say a lot of stuff that is the right thing to say, but we will end up justifying it and just doing what we want cause we can be selfish.

Work relationships are great cause we get to see the person every day and it's less pressure for so much time spent together but it has to be done with both showing up for work on a daily basis. So there doesn't need to be much vulnerability in asking for time spent together.

My gosh! All that Virgo is showing with your details about the outfits she wears, But she will cater her outfits to what you like if she knows what style s you like. She's trying to get you to notice her. She's gonna want to look nice for you if she likes you.

I guess if you are fine with how things are going, then leave it at that. She will probably get frustrated that you aren't showing interest and then give up on you and move on. So you either strike while the time is right, or wait it out. But she won't show you a lot of attention once she's lost interest 😄

Good luck on figuring out what you want to do!

Thank you for the inspiration really. I'm curious though, she doesn't talk to the other guys at the job at all I noticed too really ( she does talk to management but not like other coworkers). She is legit reserved, serious to most people. She did tell me around May since I started talking to her a lot of the people in the office. So far shes shown me how to play chess, asked for my opinion on certain clothing, complimented on certain things. When we go out sometimes brings up a fact about the date she had her with a person in certain places we visit. Even at times, state one place is good for date - it's sorta random and im not usually sure if its a hint or some advice. When we went shopping a number of times - especially for her stuff. She's been coming by checking up on me, even walking past my desk without speaking a word - since I sit on the other side from out desk.



Back in the past we would go on work breaks, lunch and talk quite often - we'd butt heads but we got with some misunderstands. One thing we emphasised between us is being open and honest with another on everything really. So now (current office move, she now does all the shit I said we do with another female coworker, talks and orders out with - doing the same things we used to over the last few months). We rarely talk now, we do but its very few and far in-between. I use to come by to say hi and hello - due to get brushed off and not feeling the respect is mutual between us. But will see where it goes actually possibly hang out with her more to see where it goes tbh.

But Im wondering do Sags do usually just come by to visit and check on you because of their interested or because they want just the attention?

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We only want attention from someone we like. She's making tons of efforts with you, but you aren't seeing any of it cause your analyzing it too much unfortunately. 😢

Posted by besarlalluvia

Bro i thought u were an aquarius with all that thinking

Or Virgo lol

stop overthinking and let it flow. It’s obvious she like you. Try asking her out on a nice fun date . Less thinking more enjoying each company.

Ya'll both right tbh, based off my natal chart. For shits and giggles:



Planetary positions

planet sign degree house motion

Sun Leo 6°02'20 in house 10 direct

Moon Pisces 8°22'34 in house 5 direct

Mercury Virgo 2°27'25 in house 11 direct

Venus Virgo 7°10'41 in house 11 direct

Mars Virgo 8°44'27 in house 11 direct

Jupiter Leo 20°19'01 end of house 10 direct

Saturn Aquarius 3°18'40 in house 4 retrograde

Uranus Capricorn 10°50'49 in house 3 retrograde

Neptune Capricorn 14°48'42 end of house 3 retrograde

Pluto Scorpio 17°33'49 in house 2 stationary 🍹

True Node Capricorn 18°53'30 in house 4 retrograde

Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

House positions (Placidus)

Ascendant Libra 15°08'07

2nd House Scorpio 12°32'11

3rd House Sagittarius 13°39'46

Imum Coeli Capricorn 17°19'04

5th House Aquarius 20°26'13

6th House Pisces 20°05'03

Descendant Aries 15°08'07

8th House Taurus 12°32'11

9th House Gemini 13°39'46

Medium Coeli Cancer 17°19'04

11th House Leo 20°26'13

12th House Virgo 20°05'03

Posted by Ocelot009

Ya'll both right tbh, based off my natal chart. For shits and giggles:



Planetary positions

planet sign degree house motion

Sun Leo 6°02'20 in house 10 direct

Moon Pisces 8°22'34 in house 5 direct

Mercury Virgo 2°27'25 in house 11 direct

Venus Virgo 7°10'41 in house 11 direct

Mars Virgo 8°44'27 in house 11 direct

Jupiter Leo 20°19'01 end of house 10 direct

Saturn Aquarius 3°18'40 in house 4 retrograde

Uranus Capricorn 10°50'49 in house 3 retrograde

Neptune Capricorn 14°48'42 end of house 3 retrograde

Pluto Scorpio 17°33'49 in house 2 stationary 🍹

True Node Capricorn 18°53'30 in house 4 retrograde

Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.

House positions (Placidus)

Ascendant Libra 15°08'07

2nd House Scorpio 12°32'11

3rd House Sagittarius 13°39'46

Imum Coeli Capricorn 17°19'04

5th House Aquarius 20°26'13

6th House Pisces 20°05'03

Descendant Aries 15°08'07

8th House Taurus 12°32'11

9th House Gemini 13°39'46

Medium Coeli Cancer 17°19'04

11th House Leo 20°26'13

12th House Virgo 20°05'03

I have the same house positions. 😬

I almost sleep while reading this.



But thank god you’re not cancer, but leo 😍



The thing with Sagittarius women, as one, I will just say that we keep it inside, we don’t talk about our feelings that much, and then we just can’t handle it anymore

Like we run away to breathe, and survive, I do this when the other person can’t understand me.

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Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by besarlalluvia

Bro I thought u were an Aquarius with all that thinking

tbh you ain't really wrong their bro. Aquarius is one of the strongest signs in my chart, here is the list; Aquarius, Virgo, Leo, Capricorn. My venus, mars, moon are all in conjunction with Uranus and my venus, mars, mercury in Virgo - but all in the 11th house of Aquarius fam. Lol, my bad with all the overthinking all fam. So since I act like an aquarius is it possible to join their team?

You don't have to apologise for anything. But you do need to get that leo on. Stop thinking and act. You must be asking about her because you want her - otherwise you simply wouldn't care about her wishy-washing.

That's why I thought you were aquarius - they don't seem to know how to process their feelings and those who come here just want us to process it for them

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You right and I actually did need help process my emotions, my thoughts were pretty much against my emotions actually. But im working on it.

Posted by Haruuka

I almost sleep while reading this.



But thank god you’re not cancer, but leo 😍



The thing with Sagittarius women, as one, I will just say that we keep it inside, we don’t talk about our feelings that much, and then we just can’t handle it anymore

Like we run away to breathe and survive, I do this when the other person can’t understand me.

Understandable I really need my space tbh really. I need to keep away from people for a while and whatnot. I understand she needs her space, perhaps more communication wouldnt hurt maybe "Hey I need some space" or something man. "

Posted by Lovelyy stop overthinking and let it flow. It’s obvious she like you. Try asking her out on a nice fun date . Less thinking more enjoying each company.

I did, did that today. She agreed to it.

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by Lovelyy stop overthinking and let it flow. It’s obvious she like you. Try asking her out on a nice fun date . Less thinking more enjoying each company.

I did, did that today. She agreed to it.

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That’s good to hear! What guys going to do?

you*

Posted by Lovelyy

Posted by Ocelot009

Posted by Lovelyy stop overthinking and let it flow. It’s obvious she like you. Try asking her out on a nice fun date . Less thinking more enjoying each company.

I did, did that today. She agreed to it.

That’s good to hear! What guys going to do?

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Oh i planned to take to a Artech house place where we live and probably do dinner. I was thinking in Dec I'd probably invite her out to some ice skating.

Posted by Lovelyy you*

Lovel...shes doing odd shit now

Friday -

4:30 PM: Didn't speak much to her today saw her upstairs off the elevator. She held the door open for me giving me like a small bow after :T gave her thanks and left. This did not

10:28 PM: Comes out of nowhere:

she comes down the aisle because I can hear her flip flips and I hear here saying "I wonder if he is still here" she comes over see's me and is like "What time do you get off?" I literally tell her "10:30 PM"pretty sure knows my time but then again bad memory. She explains why she stayed so late because she had to help a coworker named Will whose she's been hanging out a lot with lately. So she notices my psychology book picks it up and starts looking at it, questions it "Is this a new book?" I tell her no "I've had it for a while now - it's old". "It's old huh" starts flipping through the book looking at it seems. I just give a simple "Yes" and go back to my work the entire time. She's there for like a good minute or two before I hear "Alright I'll leave you alone now" before leaving. I'm like why are you telling me all this stuff :T it doesn't matter to me lol'

I'm legit 100% Sag are likes cats at this point. Ya'll roll through when you wanna out of nowhere lol



Saturday-

Before I came into work yesterday I got her food; She wanted a Nova Lox with extra capers and coffee from Starbucks. It was funny how she said it "Plz. Venti Coffee and a Nova Lox". I got it asked if everything met her wishes which I got a "perfect". Whole-time she was at work watching a movie on her tablet and enjoying her show. I did ask her out which I got a "sure". Now weirdly I came from the bathroom saw her walking around the corner to my desk and waved me goodbye, went to my manager spoke with him. Then apparently she shouted out Goodbye to me which - I did not hear. Since my coworker heard her from the bathroom.