More for my own benefit...my coding explained

This is really for my own benefit so I can keep track of the coding I use for the people I talk about in my posts. It can also be used as a reference for anyone who is confused as a lot of people get some of these confused in my posts. Read and comment if you want..maybe it'll be amusing to you.

Scorpios:
Ex scorpio - scorpio I dated earlier this year, but since lost feelings for. Now seen as a friend.
Old old scorpio - The scorpio who got me into DXP whom I still talk to, but he doesn't want a relationship.
the scorpio - refers to someone I met through my bff who I hang with, but I don't want anything other than a friendship with. Haven't done anything with him.

Sag:
Mutual sag friend - A high school friend of both me and the leo.
Sag friend - friend from another town who I had some fun with, but we just view each other as friends and nothing more.
Sag ex - Dated over the summer

Leo:
My leo or the leo - He is one of my oldest exes and one of my best friends. We have done an on/off thing for over 3 yrs.


Gem:
Gem friend/ex - My gem friend and ex who I dated a few years back, but we're cool and occasionally flirt, but never do anything (he lives in another state)

Aquarius:
The aquarius - Someone I worked with who occasionally messages me saying he wants to hang, but we've only hung out once. Never any real flirt, just closeness when we are together.

Taurus:
Taurus bff (guy) - Not to be confused with my female taurus bff. He has liked me for the longest time, but he knows I'm not going to date him. He's happily in a relationship now 🙂

Posted by happykitsune
This is really for my own benefit so I can keep track of the coding I use for the people I talk about in my posts. It can also be used as a reference for anyone who is confused as a lot of people get some of these confused in my posts. Read and comment if you want..maybe it'll be amusing to you.

Scorpios:
Ex scorpio - scorpio I dated earlier this year, but since lost feelings for. Now seen as a friend.
Old old scorpio - The scorpio who got me into DXP whom I still talk to, but he doesn't want a relationship.
the scorpio - refers to someone I met through my bff who I hang with, but I don't want anything other than a friendship with. Haven't done anything with him.

Sag:
Mutual sag friend - A high school friend of both me and the leo.
Sag friend - friend from another town who I had some fun with, but we just view each other as friends and nothing more.
Sag ex - Dated over the summer

Leo:
My leo or the leo - He is one of my oldest exes and one of my best friends. We have done an on/off thing for over 3 yrs.


Gem:
Gem friend/ex - My gem friend and ex who I dated a few years back, but we're cool and occasionally flirt, but never do anything (he lives in another state)

Aquarius:
The aquarius - Someone I worked with who occasionally messages me saying he wants to hang, but we've only hung out once. Never any real flirt, just closeness when we are together.

Taurus:
Taurus bff (guy) - Not to be confused with my female taurus bff. He has liked me for the longest time, but he knows I'm not going to date him. He's happily in a relationship now 🙂

What do you mean by "closeness"?

Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

That's the guy for you.

Lol your awesome kits

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

That's the guy for you.

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He's too young. He was the age of my ex sag and I don't wanna date younger men anymore cus they just aren't mature. That and he's not very smart and he doesn't like the same music as me. In fact we both hate each others fav music lol. We get along fine, I just wont put myself through another indecisive little boy

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Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

That's the guy for you.

He's too young. He was the age of my ex sag and I don't wanna date younger men anymore cus they just aren't mature. That and he's not very smart and he doesn't like the same music as me. In fact we both hate each others fav music lol. We get along fine, I just wont put myself through another indecisive little boy

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You sure have some high expectations but you list guys you're not interested in, including an indecisive little boy.
Forgive me, I am just trying to understand.

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Posted by happykitsune

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Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

That's the guy for you.

He's too young. He was the age of my ex sag and I don't wanna date younger men anymore cus they just aren't mature. That and he's not very smart and he doesn't like the same music as me. In fact we both hate each others fav music lol. We get along fine, I just wont put myself through another indecisive little boy

You sure have some high expectations but you list guys you're not interested in, including an indecisive little boy.
Forgive me, I am just trying to understand.

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It's ok. You didn't see my previous posts regarding the sag. DMV and I were talking about it and she said something along the lines of if I wanted someone who would be more mature and who would take a relationship as serious as I do then I needed to date older men.

I don't see this as high expectations at all. In fact by doing this I am acknowledging what my problem has been in my last relationships (men too young/immature) so that I can find someone who I will be with for the long haul.

"Not interested in" meaning I can't obtain a healthy relationship with any of these people. At least not with a lot of work on both end.
If I were to list every guy I'm literally not interested in who talks to me I'd be here all night. I just listed the important ones who have played a significant role in my life.

It's ok. You didn't see my previous posts regarding the sag. DMV and I were talking about it and she said something along the lines of if I wanted someone who would be more mature and who would take a relationship as serious as I do then I needed to date older men.

I don't see this as high expectations at all. In fact by doing this I am acknowledging what my problem has been in my last relationships (men too young/immature) so that I can find someone who I will be with for the long haul.

"Not interested in" meaning I can't obtain a healthy relationship with any of these people. At least not with a lot of work on both end.
If I were to list every guy I'm literally not interested in who talks to me I'd be here all night. I just listed the important ones who have played a significant role in my life.

I think you are doing the right thing with the list.
However, I think that it is important to remember that the "Long Haul" requires serious dedication from both sides.
"For richer, for poorer, sickness and in health, for better or for worse, til death do you part." - that's "LONG HAUL".
everything else is "local" meaning... not long haul.

You must remember that when you DO find Mr. Right, someday, he may be Mr. Wrong. But he may see it reverse.
this is that better or worse part.
You also have to be willing to suffer agonizing hell. Sacrifice yourselves on behalf of the relationship.
It's NOT >ALWAYS< going to be a bed of roses. You can find a man with a plan and a bankload of cash to last 10 lifetimes,
but seriously, you are going to have to expect to roll with the punches, at times. And the sooner you can let
go of the judgementality, the better off you will be.

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It's ok. You didn't see my previous posts regarding the sag. DMV and I were talking about it and she said something along the lines of if I wanted someone who would be more mature and who would take a relationship as serious as I do then I needed to date older men.

I don't see this as high expectations at all. In fact by doing this I am acknowledging what my problem has been in my last relationships (men too young/immature) so that I can find someone who I will be with for the long haul.

"Not interested in" meaning I can't obtain a healthy relationship with any of these people. At least not with a lot of work on both end.
If I were to list every guy I'm literally not interested in who talks to me I'd be here all night. I just listed the important ones who have played a significant role in my life.

I think you are doing the right thing with the list.
However, I think that it is important to remember that the "Long Haul" requires serious dedication from both sides.
"For richer, for poorer, sickness and in health, for better or for worse, til death do you part." - that's "LONG HAUL".
everything else is "local" meaning... not long haul.

You must remember that when you DO find Mr. Right, someday, he may be Mr. Wrong. But he may see it reverse.
this is that better or worse part.
You also have to be willing to suffer agonizing hell. Sacrifice yourselves on behalf of the relationship.
It's NOT >ALWAYS

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I can tell you mean well. I can honestly say I know I want to be in it for the long haul and I have rolled with the punches. I've stayed in things I've known I shouldn't because I really cared for someone and I stuck through it to make sure they were ok.

No, I have never been married and I haven't had a relationship that last more than a year and a half (officially). But I have known one person long enough to stick by them through all the hell they've been through and the crap they've dragged along. I've d

they've dragged along. I've done this twice. Honestly , no one is perfect. Everyone has problems. But in the end I don't need someone who isn't going to be right for me. If he is Mr. Wrong I will do the right thing and part ways because marriage is hard enough with adding a "mr.wrong" to the equation. If you mean that I'd be married to a mr.right and he does turn into mr. wrong I will stay with him because it's who I am. I am very loyal and I stay in love far more times then anyone else on the other side has.
You may judge me because of my past, but think about it this way. Our actions don't always speak the truth. Sometimes we do things because we think the end will be different, but then we realize after doing it that we've being taking the wrong steps. I've realized I've been taking the wrong steps so now I'm taking steps back to get back to the way I used to be. Because before this I was that girl who only talked to one guy at a time. Time has changed me a lot. I'm really not judgmental of myself. I just see the problems in my life and I fix them. It's about the same as going to therapy, which is something most people on these boards need. (And yes I have been to therapy and I am studying psychology/therapy so I do know what I am talking about)

Posted by happykitsune
they've dragged along. I've done this twice. Honestly , no one is perfect. Everyone has problems. But in the end I don't need someone who isn't going to be right for me. If he is Mr. Wrong I will do the right thing and part ways because marriage is hard enough with adding a "mr.wrong" to the equation. If you mean that I'd be married to a mr.right and he does turn into mr. wrong I will stay with him because it's who I am. I am very loyal and I stay in love far more times then anyone else on the other side has.
You may judge me because of my past, but think about it this way. Our actions don't always speak the truth. Sometimes we do things because we think the end will be different, but then we realize after doing it that we've being taking the wrong steps. I've realized I've been taking the wrong steps so now I'm taking steps back to get back to the way I used to be. Because before this I was that girl who only talked to one guy at a time. Time has changed me a lot. I'm really not judgmental of myself. I just see the problems in my life and I fix them. It's about the same as going to therapy, which is something most people on these boards need. (And yes I have been to therapy and I am studying psychology/therapy so I do know what I am talking about)

Please don't misunderstand me, I am not judging.
The only therapy I ever got was the rhythm of the road beneath 18 wheels.
I don't know if that worked or not but that's what I got.

an older age does not always mean more mature.

agree

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Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

That's the guy for you.

He's too young. He was the age of my ex sag and I don't wanna date younger men anymore cus they just aren't mature. That and he's not very smart and he doesn't like the same music as me. In fact we both hate each others fav music lol. We get along fine, I just wont put myself through another indecisive little boy

an older age does not always mean more mature.

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You are very right. DMV is the one who said I needed someone older, but I agree you can be with someone who is younger and more mature, which is why I said (older/mature).

This Aquarius guy is not mature enough tho. He needs more control in certain areas.

I know I sounds picky, but I'm tired of getting into bad relationships. I'm not expecting to get it right the next time I do, but I'd like to head in the general direction of a mature/healthy relationship.

I will hopefully be moving in the next year or two so I will be starting fresh and hopefully then I will have worked on myself enough to be ready for one of those relationships.

For now...Idk, I guess I just sit back and make sure I don't get into it with anyone else...at least not on a sexual level. Oh God help me 😢

Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

lol i was involved w/ a sagi n it was the same too: when we're together we ACT together, but when we're apart we're WORLDS APART haha. i like sagis though. i think they're fun n like-minded (i have a girl & boy sagi bff), but i think the aqua + sagi combo r better as best friends, not boyfriend/girlfriend 🙂

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Posted by happykitsune
Like we hug each other, hold each other, or sit close to each other. Very affectionate

lol i was involved w/ a sagi n it was the same too: when we're together we ACT together, but when we're apart we're WORLDS APART haha. i like sagis though. i think they're fun n like-minded (i have a girl & boy sagi bff), but i think the aqua + sagi combo r better as best friends, not boyfriend/girlfriend 🙂

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Yeah it's kinda the same for us except when he texts me. Sometimes he'll say we should hang, but he doesn't follow through usually. I'd like someone who is reliable and follows through because it's something I value in a person.

I would agree, I think aquas and sags make really good friends 🙂 I think there is that instant connection there.

Posted by thomas1214


easiest way to find a good relationship is not care at the beginning. this way you don't become hooked with someone you don't want to. still act like yourself but just have a meh attitude about it at first. also try being with more then one person meaning until your serious about being in a relationship with someone also date other people aswell. keeps your options open and more free meals for you. lol. ;p but ya just don't be so serious about it at first.. relax.

Lol you think I haven't tried that approach? I'm a sag 😛

I get what you're saying...I shouldn't see things as going the serious route first. I'm trying. It's a little more difficult when I try to date people I've known for years. Guess I get too excited and trusting.