Need some fellow sag insight

I have this Sagittarius male friend. We started to be friends around 4 months ago. I also have another Sagittarius friend who is a girl but it doesn’t have anything to do with her. She’s absolutely amazing and says I’m the most genuine person she knows.

Anyways, back to my story. Back story part. I’m gay. He’s not. He knows I’m gay. He has a girlfriend and talks about her a lot. I like seeing him like someone a lot and find it adorable. Although I can see it taxing on him. She’s a Capricorn. I’m not in love. I won’t allow myself to because it would never happen and I cherish the friendship more than destroying it. Last semester we hit it off great. He’s the sweetest guy I know and he compliments me a lot too. We hung out a lot, gone places and such. Winter break when he went home his attitude had changed completely from then. He stood me up twice. Once before break but it’s my fault for that. He said we’d play some games and let me know. I ended up sending snaps that day to him waiting for it and he never did. Didn’t ask or nag about hanging, just about life. Didn’t hold it against and still don’t. The other time he said we’d play games again over break and said he’ll let me know, but never did. I didnt talk to him that much over break for multiple reasons. Not mad, just disappointed.

Now, he has told me over break that he has been hit with a wave of nonstop drama. I do not know what it is and it seems very taxing on him. I hate to see him get like this. It got slightly better as it progressed it seems but I doubt it. He won’t tell me what it is. I never asked, only offered support and suggestion that if he ever needs any to talk to I’m here to listen, a few times. I think it’s his pride to ask for help keeps him from asking for any help. My other sag friend is like this and I take initiative to help if I know I can. Thats the biggest reason I stopped talking too much. I gave him more space- I also asked if he needed it and he said a little. He even sent me a merry Christmas so it shows he cared but it was the only initiative to talk to me over break. Except another time when I was asking about something then he randomly asked how I was doing.

Apparently the drama hasn’t fully ended when he got back. I found out he didn’t get to sleep till 9am this morning because he couldn’t sleep. His anxiety seems to be getting the better of him. He even sent me an apology message this morning, a long one that I did not expect. Said he appreciates my patience and everything and he needs still a few more weeks to settle in and stuff. All is fine with that.

I suffer from social exclusion from growing up so I get depressed easily when it comes to seeing my friends constantly get together and I never get asked to do anything. Which sucks. I don’t make a big deal or accuse cause I know that everything is not as it seems. School has only had 4 days. One day everyone went to get coffee and I was the only to get excluded. Including the sag man I mentioned who is the newest member of our group thanks to me. I’m happy that everyone is accepting him in so easily cause he needed some new friends at campus. He’s a freshman. I just felt excluded and and made me feel depressed. Everyone hanging out already and I was the only one that it felt was excluded even though analytically I don’t believe to be on purpose. I talked to my best friend girl sag. She completely understood and everything and even went as far as saying she’ll hang out with me this week. She’s super great! Anyways, the male friend I asked a day before if we could hang out on the weekend. No reply then I see him hanging out with others the next day. Then this morning I receive that apology. I assume word got to him someone from someone cause he mentioned exclusion in the sentense. I’m guessing my she sag friend told others and it got arsound. Wish she didn’t, not mad. Crossed my mind it would happen and I never said not to. Although I don’t know 100% if so. Then I asked if my he friend sag would like to get some food before work tonight. He said he’s already making food and looking for something. I said aight. And he replied with sorry with a frowny face. I’ll be seeing him tonight. As I’m his boss.

Basically, he’s my friend. I want it to stay that way. I don’t know what I should do about everything. I don’t like standing on the sidelines as he suffers and watch as he tries shoving it all down to look happy. He hasn’t lied to me and I don’t lie to him. I don’t say everything if I don’t feel comfortable because I’d rather not say something than unintentionally lie. I feel he does the same. I don’t believe in being a friend that walks away. If anyone has good advice to help I would like that! If anyone would like to give some potential insight in what’s going through his mind I’d like that too! If you’re one to say just give up focus on yourself then I guess say it. It won’t help cause it’s not what I want to hear. That’s all I’ve been doing and I don’t like to do that.

Wow, just read this backstory and there is a lot of information here and very different dynamics at play. Difficult to interpret this accurately or correctly.

Like UnicornSag said, it might be helpful to know your gender, but then again that might be totally irrelevant in this situation.

Just keep being there for him gently in the background (Cancerians are good at that) and try not to push him to open up. Sags can be very private about their emotional lives and he may need time to process his thoughts and feelings after a difficult time.