Sag males are you good at feeling emotion?

Posted by happykitsune
I thought sag males were better at this, but lately I feel like my sag just isn't being empathetic towards how I'm feeling. I'm not sure if I should be straightforward with him or what...I feel like its just silly, but maybe I'm just used to male scorpios, Pisces and cancer boys being able to read me like a book. Gah...I'm afraid if I express what I'm feeling I'll just seem needy...little help here.

Posted by TheOhSoStellarOne
HappyKitsune,
You thought Sag's are good with emotions? LOL!!! Wow, that's a good one. Let me tell you something and I'm sure you heard this already: Saggies are self-serving folks. I currently have a buddy who's a Saggitarius and he's frustrates the "ever-living-shit-out-of-me"! In our friendship, I'm the caring, empathetic one and whenever he's down about something, I offer support, but when I'm down about something or share something that's bothering me? He would not be supportive and he would 99% of the time be against me and make it seem as if I got the problem. Since 2009, I've been thinking about cutting the friendship off and just let him go, but I am usually slow to burn bridges, however, with someone who's self serving, I feel that I should just let him go because this friendship is so one-sided that I feel more resentment that enjoyment.

theOhSoStellarOne

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poor communication is a core issue of all relationships problems

Posted by happykitsune
Sorry I should be more knowledgable about a male sag I suppose, but I guess he's a lil more diff than me because his venus is in libra and his moon is in leo. I'm not the best with emotions either, but I do notice when something if off with someone. I guess I just thought that since he was able to since when I looked uncomfortable that he could read me better. Guess not. I'll try the talking thing. It's been hard cus we haven't seen each other for two days. I need to limit the time I spend with him because in the beginning we were spending every day together (at his request) and I was fine with that, but then he hasnt asked me over in the last two days, but still talks to me like nothings wrong... it's just weird to have something like that switched on me and it's made me "needy" when I'm not normally this way. Trying to get back to my old self and hopefully when we hang out tonight I can talk to him about it and straighten things up.

Thanks for the advice guys

Posted by Sagittarius89


I totally understand. It's still new and you probably don't trust him that much. Than when all of sudden something changes it's hard to know how you should be acting. You hope they still like you lol Plus I have a leo moon and I want as much attention as I am giving. Maybe it's his libra venus going back and forth? Mines in aqua so that sounds cool to me. Your a cap venus and scorp moon right? Thats funny because the new scorp is a pisces moon and venus in cap. Lets switch! lol jk

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I totally understand. It's still new and you probably don't trust him that much. Than when all of sudden something changes it's hard to know how you should be acting. You hope they still like you lol Plus I have a leo moon and I want as much attention as I am giving. Maybe it's his libra venus going back and forth? Mines in aqua so that sounds cool to me. Your a cap venus and scorp moon right? Thats funny because the new scorp is a pisces moon and venus in cap. Lets switch! lol jk

I hung out with him tonight and he had the nerve to say "So why haven't I seen you in two days?". To which I gave him knuckles to the ribs. Then I told him he was frustrating and confusing me and explained that it's weird that he just suddenly didn't want to hang for two days, to which he said "but I was hanging with my friends". And I told him that was cool, but that maybe we shouldn't hang out so much and that we should hang out at a decent time instead of after his work out which is usually around nine and he agreed he'd tried to fix his schedule and be more considerate.

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Posted by Sagittarius89


I totally understand. It's still new and you probably don't trust him that much. Than when all of sudden something changes it's hard to know how you should be acting. You hope they still like you lol Plus I have a leo moon and I want as much attention as I am giving. Maybe it's his libra venus going back and forth? Mines in aqua so that sounds cool to me. Your a cap venus and scorp moon right? Thats funny because the new scorp is a pisces moon and venus in cap. Lets switch! lol jk

I hung out with him tonight and he had the nerve to say "So why haven't I seen you in two days?". To which I gave him knuckles to the ribs. Then I told him he was frustrating and confusing me and explained that it's weird that he just suddenly didn't want to hang for two days, to which he said "but I was hanging with my friends". And I told him that was cool, but that maybe we shouldn't hang out so much and that we should hang out at a decent time instead of after his work out which is usually around nine and he agreed he'd tried to fix his schedule and be more considerate.

you remind me of a cappy with a mars in scorpio. he tends to get physcial alot when hes frustrated. my "whatever" attitude frustrates the living hell out of him because he wants to posess his partner. he wants his partner to be obsessed with him. that way he has control. i think you like this guy because hes not laying down easily.

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you remind me of a cappy with a mars in scorpio. he tends to get physcial alot when hes frustrated. my "whatever" attitude frustrates the living hell out of him because he wants to posess his partner. he wants his partner to be obsessed with him. that way he has control. i think you like this guy because hes not laying down easily.

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you remind me of a cappy with a mars in scorpio. he tends to get physcial alot when hes frustrated. my "whatever" attitude frustrates the living hell out of him because he wants to posess his partner. he wants his partner to be obsessed with him. that way he has control. i think you like this guy because hes not laying down easily.

but when I get into a routine of doing something I get confused when that routine is changed without explanation. I don't mind change, but without warning just messes with my head and I think somethings wrong.

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Posted by Sagittarius89
So I've decided that scorp guy doesn't like me and I give up lol

Posted by Sagittarius89
So I've decided that scorp guy doesn't like me and I give up lol

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Posted by happykitsune

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you remind me of a cappy with a mars in scorpio. he tends to get physcial alot when hes frustrated. my "whatever" attitude frustrates the living hell out of him because he wants to posess his partner. he wants his partner to be obsessed with him. that way he has control. i think you like this guy because hes not laying down easily.

but when I get into a routine of doing something I get confused when that routine is changed without explanation. I don't mind change, but without warning just messes with my head and I think somethings wrong.

ahh now there i am in total agreement. i need consistency as well.

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Posted by Sagittarius89
So I've decided that scorp guy doesn't like me and I give up lol

if you pull back, he will pursue.

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Posted by DMV
very venus in cap of you 🙂

Posted by enni
Ah, let's relax...breath in and out ahhh...it's a nice and simple thing to do 🙂 When time is right, why not talk to your sag ...perhaps that would help you clear up your confusion and feel better i hope...sometimes, misunderstanding something is.....you know?

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Posted by Sagittarius89
So I've decided that scorp guy doesn't like me and I give up lol

How do you know he doesn't like you? Those scorpios can sure hide how their really thinking. My ex scorpio is trying to get me to go to the movies right now and I thought he didn't want me... he's the one who ended the relationship

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Posted by happykitsune
My moon in scorpio? What? Not liking change without warning? I think it's a lil of both cus both signs like routine, especially scorpio. I think I get a lot of that from my dad cus he's all about routine.

Yes, I go nuts too, which is why I had to sit myself down and get a grip cus I was starting to care way too much and think illogically. I was doing fine today and now I'm freaking out again.

Posted by Sagittarius89


WHY? My last Oct, Venus in Sag. He can be very honest. At least I thought. Than last night he called me ( Drunk) and started yelling at me about how I don't let him in at all. I didn't even think he cared about that because pretty much for the last year and a half he's treated me like shit. He went on and on about how I don't tell him anything and we never shared enough when we were dating and how he wanted to share things with me but it seemed like I didn't care enough. It was so selfish and incorrect at parts it really pissed me off. I admit I do have a hard time letting him in because he was never very " trust worthy" in my eyes, but I do love him but there is so much too it, it's complicated. On both ends.

I just had no idea he was mad about that. He always acts one way but aparently feeling another. Uh. Such a long story there with us. Anyway. Thats what happens after 2 n half years.


I don't know about this new scorp. He's cold.



UGH!! Got to stop dating. Or get me a libra again.

Posted by Sagittarius89


I like it too. Because I have OCD. And I feel safer knowing whats up at times so I don't freak out. But on the other hand I don't want to be bored. But of course the bottom line is everyone should know where they stand with someone. Part of love I think. So that is a totally normal want.

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Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sagittarius89
So I've decided that scorp guy doesn't like me and I give up lol

How do you know he doesn't like you? Those scorpios can sure hide how their really thinking. My ex scorpio is trying to get me to go to the movies right now and I thought he didn't want me... he's the one who ended the relationship

WHY? My last Oct, Venus in Sag. He can be very honest. At least I thought. Than last night he called me ( Drunk) and started yelling at me about how I don't let him in at all. I didn't even think he cared about that because pretty much for the last year and a half he's treated me like shit. He went on and on about how I don't tell him anything and we never shared enough when we were dating and how he wanted to share things with me but it seemed like I didn't care enough. It was so selfish and incorrect at parts it really pissed me off. I admit I do have a hard time letting him in because he was never very " trust worthy" in my eyes, but I do love him but there is so much too it, it's complicated. On both ends.

I just had no idea he was mad about that. He always acts one way but aparently feeling another. Uh. Such a long story there with us. Anyway. Thats what happens after 2 n half years.


I don't know about this new scorp. He's cold.



UGH!! Got to stop dating. Or get me a libra again.

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Posted by Sagittarius89


WHY? My last Oct, Venus in Sag. He can be very honest. At least I thought. Than last night he called me ( Drunk) and started yelling at me about how I don't let him in at all. I didn't even think he cared about that because pretty much for the last year and a half he's treated me like shit. He went on and on about how I don't tell him anything and we never shared enough when we were dating and how he wanted to share things with me but it seemed like I didn't care enough. It was so selfish and incorrect at parts it really pissed me off. I admit I do have a hard time letting him in because he was never very " trust worthy" in my eyes, but I do love him but there is so much too it, it's complicated. On both ends.

I just had no idea he was mad about that. He always acts one way but aparently feeling another. Uh. Such a long story there with us. Anyway. Thats what happens after 2 n half years.


I don't know about this new scorp. He's cold.



UGH!! Got to stop dating. Or get me a libra again.

I know they like to keep it in cus they don't wanna feel vulnerable. Sucks, but it's the way they are :/

Ha! I know right? I was seriously set on not dating at all this summer. It sure takes a lot of anxiety and drama out of my life. I just don't need the added stress :/

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I like it too. Because I have OCD. And I feel safer knowing whats up at times so I don't freak out. But on the other hand I don't want to be bored. But of course the bottom line is everyone should know where they stand with someone. Part of love I think. So that is a totally normal want.

Exactly. I want to know that what I'm participating in is real and that the other person isn't being wishy washy. Tired of all these unstable, immature little boys.

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Posted by Sagittarius89


I like it too. Because I have OCD. And I feel safer knowing whats up at times so I don't freak out. But on the other hand I don't want to be bored. But of course the bottom line is everyone should know where they stand with someone. Part of love I think. So that is a totally normal want.

Exactly. I want to know that what I'm participating in is real and that the other person isn't being wishy washy. Tired of all these unstable, immature little boys.

the other person is not wishy washy or unstable or immature. your simply not compatible. to the right person, hes perfect.

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I like it too. Because I have OCD. And I feel safer knowing whats up at times so I don't freak out. But on the other hand I don't want to be bored. But of course the bottom line is everyone should know where they stand with someone. Part of love I think. So that is a totally normal want.

Exactly. I want to know that what I'm participating in is real and that the other person isn't being wishy washy. Tired of all these unstable, immature little boys.

the other person is not wishy washy or unstable or immature. your simply not compatible. to the right person, hes perfect.

I'm willing to admit he may or may not be ther right person for me. However, yes he is acting wishy washy. Regardless of if that's desirable to someone or not that's just the term I'm using for how he's been acting lately. And yes he is immature lol. He's immature because if somethings wrong it's common courtesy to talk to the other person and resolve it or just end it.
I'm waiting to see if this is due to the current family stress he's going through or if this is really how he is. He didn't used to act like this, but that could be because he wasn't showing the real him. Which is strange becus I thought sags showed their true selves from the start. We'll see where this goes. I'd rather not be in a relationship where I'm guess.

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Posted by Sagittarius89


Scorp can't handle our lack of sucking up and constant praise. It must mean we don't love them? I feel like just wants me to do that all the time. He needs to trust himself.

Posted by Sagittarius89
It hurt my feelings that he would talk to me like that. ALOT. He was drunk though. STILL NOT OKAY! I said if you have something to say to me you say it in a respectful manner and not in a whiny baby way! Than told him he needs to apologize. He did both. We are ok now I think. At least for this week 😛


Scorp can't handle our lack of sucking up and constant praise. It must mean we don't love them? I feel like just wants me to do that all the time. He needs to trust himself.

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See this is what I can't stand either! Like I need to know whats up. It's so painful to see people change emotional. Cause how do you gage something like that? Right? Like did you do something wrong? Did they? Is that who they are? Did you just become uninteresting? Are they wishy washy? Do you not put in a enough interest in them?

Ugh it's all just too much sometimes lol I hope it clears up for you kits. I'm sure it will.

Posted by enni
My gut tells me he:
1. Likes to be independent
2. Doesn't want to pull you in this problem (like doesn't want to spread negative)
3. Has his own priority set

Perhaps I could be right or wrong. 🙂 who knows?! You will find out more about him for sure.

Posted by scorpdiva
Happy, I know when my sagg has stress or family issues he gets silent like that I mean no contact when I get offensive about it and I will let him know what's the problem why are so silent or non responsive and he will let me know please not now I have a lot going on and I will back up and give him his space and he always come back around when things are better which is ususally doesn't take that long. during those days I might make light conversation like good morning or good evening just to let him know he still on my mind but nothing too heavy until I notice that he is more talkative and feeling better.

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See this is what I can't stand either! Like I need to know whats up. It's so painful to see people change emotional. Cause how do you gage something like that? Right? Like did you do something wrong? Did they? Is that who they are? Did you just become uninteresting? Are they wishy washy? Do you not put in a enough interest in them?

Ugh it's all just too much sometimes lol I hope it clears up for you kits. I'm sure it will.

Thanks. We'll see, hopefully it does. He's going through stress with his family right now. His aunt just lost her house and hes having to move her out and now she needs a place to stay. He has no bedrooms at his house and shes trying to stay with him. Also she has two dogs, which is too many people/animals in one house...Idk I'd be stressed too, but Idk why he doesn't text me for support while he's so stressed. I feel so useless at a time like this. So I've decided not to text him unless he texts me first.

I'm still deciding if he's become disinterested in me or if it really is just this family thing... *sigh*

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Wow that is alot! Sucks that happens right when you two start to get familiar. I hope he gets that worked out. Ya that is great your being there for him. I know what you mean though, whenever someone tells me what they are going though I'm like " Why didn't you call me—?" lol but I think sometimes people feel like they have to go it alone and it just becomes a unconscious doing. Like do you ever tuck into yourself when you get really stressed you know? Sometimes it just happens lol

Posted by happykitsune
He texted me right before he had to go into work. It's nice to know he isn't ignoring me or that he actually has time for me with his schedule. Glad I texted him or I'd probably still feel like crap for the rest of the day >.

I think that was perfect 🙂

He replied right back so that's still shows interest in you, your txt shows your interest in him.......
I would go with his vibe before I did more so you won't seem like your over doing it but make sure you keep in touch with him............

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Posted by happykitsune
He texted me right before he had to go into work. It's nice to know he isn't ignoring me or that he actually has time for me with his schedule. Glad I texted him or I'd probably still feel like crap for the rest of the day >.

I think that was perfect 🙂

He replied right back so that's still shows interest in you, your txt shows your interest in him.......
I would go with his vibe before I did more so you won't seem like your over doing it but make sure you keep in touch with him............

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Thank you! Really appreciate this input 🙂

Posted by happykitsune
He texted me right before he had to go into work. It's nice to know he isn't ignoring me or that he actually has time for me with his schedule. Glad I texted him or I'd probably still feel like crap for the rest of the day >.

Ya good! New Scorp txted me " If I missed him yet?" I said " Yea " like a two days ago.

Than today txted me " Hello " I said " Hey " he never said anything back lol


FREAK!

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by happykitsune
He texted me right before he had to go into work. It's nice to know he isn't ignoring me or that he actually has time for me with his schedule. Glad I texted him or I'd probably still feel like crap for the rest of the day >.

Ya good! New Scorp txted me " If I missed him yet?" I said " Yea " like a two days ago.

Than today txted me " Hello " I said " Hey " he never said anything back lol


FREAK!

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Haha I had a scorp that would just say "hey" or "hi" sometimes and when I said hey back sometimes he wouldn't say anything back. Come to think of it I had two scorps that did that to me. What is their deal? lol Their weird, but I guess they keep things interesting.