Sags how easily are you offend?

I ask because a conversation came up between me and my sag friend. We really only know each other via text and have met in person twice so it's hard to know what offends him.

I expressed my detest for him hanging with my bff's pisces ex and I thought it had offended him because he didn't message me for a week after that. Then I get a text yesterday saying "I'm sorry". Apparently he thought he offended me. He was sad cus he thought he lost a close friend and so was I. Funny how we both thought the other was offended when neither was. Apparently it takes a lot to offend him, just like me.

So it makes me wonder, are any of you other sags easily offended or do you tolerate a lot. I've noticed the sag at my work doesn't offend easily either. We seem to be very forgiving and forget easily. Or is that just the sags I know—

I guess that would depend on how bad the offense was

Hmm, sometimes people say things and they don't mean to offend but they do. I guess if they were purposely offending you then I could see where it'd get under your skin and a proper appology would be needed. But if they said something you thought was gross that they thought you'd think was funny and you took offense...well I think that's a very light offense...not an offense in my opinion, but I do tolerate a lot.

depends on what the offense is....

its a double standard but if i do something wrong, i expect to be forgiven immediately. if someone offends me, you have to crawl on you knees and beg for forgiveness...

I'm trying to think of the last time I was offended to remember if I needed an appology. I know a lot of times I just brushed it off because it was in my favor to play it cool and not get upset. Sometimes that's what people wanna get out of you and I just can't let them win 😛

Posted by DMV
depends on what the offense is....

its a double standard but if i do something wrong, i expect to be forgiven immediately. if someone offends me, you have to crawl on you knees and beg for forgiveness...

Lmao, dang you're harsh. But I guess that'll earn you the respect you deserve

Posted by Reason
one can play it real cool without any forgiving and remorse

you play

you pay

these are the rules

Pay? 😢

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by DMV
depends on what the offense is....

its a double standard but if i do something wrong, i expect to be forgiven immediately. if someone offends me, you have to crawl on you knees and beg for forgiveness...

Lmao, dang you're harsh. But I guess that'll earn you the respect you deserve

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plus it teaches people a lesson.

Posted by Reason

Well, of course I didn't mean you, happykitsune 😉

I meant: don't expect us to put up with shit, no, it's not necessary to get viscous, lol, but forgiveness spoils, unfortunately

Oh, well yeah, I mean I can only take so much abuse. But usually I will just ignore the person if they are offending me severely...like when people purposely try to annoy you... Rarely do I use the louder confrontational method. That can be just as affective for getting someone to stop and earning respect. And if I really wanna take revenge I will burn bridges...people share some of the most personal stuff with me and I will use it against them if they decide to jump from friend to enemy.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
I agree with some of that HK, but with the last sentence I think tyone truly appreciates hat's a bit low, plus I assume you wouldn't like it if someone did the same to you.
+1 completely on the loud/bellowing type of confrontation though, I'm a little smart arse at times but that sort of approach gets my back up easily.🙂
Still try and be a smart arse with a comeback but that attitude is the one that pushes me to retaliate a little bit more forccefully.
Although I don't think anyone truly appreciates being bellowed at/someone getting up in their face physically.

It's a technique I only use on my sisters. I'm trying to think if I've used it on anyone else. I'm the oldest of my family so if I'm getting respect I will make sure I am heard. Think of it like a loud bark for the alpha wolf. Gotta keep the pack in line and sometimes being loud is the only way to get their attention. A stern face also does the trick

Posted by Reason
I'm not talking about vengeance precisely, it's a dangerous, absorbing and narrow world

BTW, there is a topic on here regarding the subject, you can see where misrepresentation leads to

But really, there should be a clear message if we are not happy with some remarks

I don't think a 'your secrets' war is efficient either, a questionable behaviour may be exposed though, otherwise how are you gonna prove your point?

My little wars rarely...or maybe never happen. You'd have to really piss me off and I don't think anyone, at least recently, has done that.

I do confront people in a calm manner if I know they can be on the same level with me about it and I don't wanna lose them as a friend. That's how me and a room mate settled a disagreement about our apt and it's how I deal with offenses in my love relationships.

I tend to take the "ignore" approach more so tho, just because I don't always want to deal with the way someone acted and sometimes I feel like the things that offend me are so petty. Plus if I can get over them fast and it doesn't happen again there really is no point in trying to get an appology

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Hahah Alpha wolf.
I think I'm heard most of the time but whoever's bellowing doesn't want to listen, or one comment causes a knee-jerk reaction and they flip heh.

Idk why, but some sags like to get in their word first...at least I do and I've witnessed it with other sags. So I guess that's where the logic comes in behind why I do the whole barking thing. Haha idk why we think it'll make our argument any better if we go first :p

i better start watching my tongue around sagittarius then, just in case you somehow mistake my teasing and joking as serious

I don't know

Sometimes I just laugh when people are yelling at me or saying something mean. Cause I am like nervous/ embarrassed for them?

Or other times I'm like hey that was way rude.

Depends.

depends if you take it as offence

Posted by zeoblade
i better start watching my tongue around sagittarius then, just in case you somehow mistake my teasing and joking as serious

I've found I don't really get virgo humor. When they're trying to tease me I usually take it as them being serious. Other than that they don't offend me. Quit looking so serious when you're trying to joke with me 😛

oh thats really critical for me now, there is a sagittarius i've locked onto and going to take a bite of her

we've been flirting and i use teasing because people complain my tongue is too sugary and may come across as insincere. but with sagittarius i feel i may not be a problem because you love flattery

but as long as i use joking, non-serious body language, its ok? you wont get offended?

Posted by Reason
how sweet of you, hahaha

well, i'm a sag but not a female, believe it or not,

me thinking you can go ahead with pretty much anything unless it is sth malicious or really dubious and hard to read,

we like differences actually, but if you see she looks puzzled, ask what's wrong, clarify your statement, apologize if needed, and that's it, problem solved

we are actually rather laid-back and forgiving, people just shouldn't overindulge in that department as if we were some 24 / 7 happy-go-lucky heartless machines

Yeah exactly. I'm usually ok as long as the person smiles when they're teasing and I get over it fast if I realize you're teasing