Should I give my Sag. Boyfriend pep talk?

This is like my 3rd time posting on the sag. Forum and it's all so I can get a better understanding of my boyfriend. If you read my other postings or haven't it just explains how we are just really going through like tough times. His aunt (who is also also a sag) always tells me that because we are going through this tough time I shouldn't break up with him and give it some time.

It's just so exhausting he's been so distant lately and he blames it all on his dad issues and his car problem (he got into a car accident so now he has to depend on his family to drive him to work which is like hell for him lol.) And I know it doesn't help with me in his other ear crying because I'm not getting the affection that I want or he's not giving me enough attention or him just not really being that boyfriend like in the begging of the relatiinship.

We got into it this morning and I'm just wondering if it would help if I just sent him a message not apologizing because my feelings were real and I shouldn't have to apologize for that but just to make him feel like I do love and appreciate him and I don't want him to feel like he's in it alone. Idk I just feel like maybe I should but idk if he would appreciate it.

Also I'm and taurus female with scorpio moon and Sagittarius rising. (I'm 18)

He is Sag sun with Virgo moon and no Leo rising. (He is 19)

Any advice would help idc if it's harsh lol

I have some errors In my writing sorry! Haha

I'd think I'd rather stick forks in my eyeballs than receive some half-assed pep-talk designed to "cheer me up"

Let him wallow in his misery until he's ready to come out, is my advice

if you force him to be cheery it could drive him away

Posted by Wynter
I'd think I'd rather stick forks in my eyeballs than receive some half-assed pep-talk designed to "cheer me up"

Let him wallow in his misery until he's ready to come out, is my advice

if you force him to be cheery it could drive him away

Basically I should just back off? I just find that very hard for me because I hate to see the one I love miserable...

Posted by sagsagsag
No.. he needs mental stimulation.. You push him and try to pep talk him, it'll only push him further away..

Okay thank you... What do I do to make him not become distant because I miss him so much. Its like when i ask him does he wasn't too break up or something to that affect, he just says no but he acts like he doesn't want to be with me. I just don't want him to waste my time and just Me that he care

Perhaps be there for him by giving him space. The poor guy sounds like he has a lot going on at the moment and all you can think of is that you not getting enough hugs and kisses.

In my experience we all need a little time out to sort out our feelings and what is going on in our lives, give him that space, because if you are too clingy, you will loose him for good.

Tell him, you are supportive of him and there for him and if he needs space and time you are able to give that to him. my 2c.