staring me down (Page 3)

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
Are people so jaded that they repel being treated well?

Sometimes it's fear of falling too deep, too quickly and simply pumping the brakes (in the stupidest way possible sometimes) to slow that down. I say this as a water sign in general.

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he got me out of his hair forever. he doesnt have to worry about me instilling fear into him anymore 🙂

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
Im so pissed that I cared so much for his feelings, to make him feel safe, to make him feel good. I was nice, sweet, caring, affectionate and I still got shitted on. I still get games. It was natural for me to make him feel safe n secure. To put his feelings first. To respect him, his feelings, his time, his space.

I didnt get the same back in return. 😢

I mean how do you have a great night, a great first date with someone, hug them so tight and then just diss them the next day.

Aww man, sorry to hear DMV. I could say "don't feel so bad, you have no reason to feel embarrassed, it's his loss, etc." but that's just something that will shift for you when you??re ready.

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its totally his loss. I did nothing wrong but treat him good.

Posted by PotHeadVirgo24

Posted by DMV
Are people so jaded that they repel being treated well?

This is actually true. Its like it backfires on you. I still don't get it. *Shruggs*

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i mean, really. me neither

I just think that was a very selfish and disrespectful moment for him and a taste of things to come.

If he felt at any time that he was falling too deep and decided to pull back to save his feelings, thats all in well, but that also means that he had no regard for my feelings at the same time. thats selfish. He's not the only person in the world with feelings at stake here.

in saving his feelings, he pissed on mine.

further,

ive told myself that a person, especially a man, has one time to treat me bad and im ghost. Out of the 2 of us, I know I respect me. Im not that desperate or ugly to chase behind someone who doesnt recognize my value. .

@IS,

i didnt control the response. Our communication has never been forced.

In the past, ive thought the exact same thing IS; processing. but its a bad cycle for me. i become selfless and men walk all over me.

Posted by DMV
In the past, ive thought the exact same thing IS; processing. but its a bad cycle for me. i become selfless and men walk all over me.

furthermore, i become insecure. all the good foundation ive laid is turned to rubble. rebuilding is tough, if not impossible.

to ignore me in class, speak to everyone else around you and not even utter a word to me or look in my direction is.......

is this excusable behavior because he's a cancer? he should go find another cancer.

I know he hurt your feelings DMV and hit on some insecurities but Cancers WILL start to sidestep, it's the nature of the Crab.

1 amazing evening will surely be followed by 2 confusing ones. All that courting... a Cancer has to know that you will appreciate it, not take it for granted and not expect it all the time. I can only image this is compounded with a Scorpio Moon (my brother has these placements and I've seen his technique) All that romancing can be exhausting

Maybe keep that in mind when he contacts you again... cause I'm sure he will.

the sidestepping is just not for me. im too fragile.

thanks guys, youve given me alot to ponder over

Your right I should have lied about having tattoos and piercings and been someone that im not.

I should have totally been lil ms suzy home maker who bakes cookies, wears an apron, wore cotton granny panties, squeeked when I laugh, sat on the far end of the couch, and jumped off the couch everytime he tried to touch me.

that shit aint me. I wear g strings and tight clothing.

Dude, I cannot act and be a way that I am not. Pretty soon, the fascade will fade and then all I will be is an actress. Foundation built upon lies never works. As a scorpio honesty should resonate with you.

win him back? Please, im the prize. He should be trying to win me over.

If he doesn't like who I am, poof pow be gone.

Posted by DMV
Your right I should have lied about having tattoos and piercings and been someone that im not.

I should have totally been lil ms suzy home maker who bakes cookies, wears an apron, wore cotton granny panties, squeeked when I laugh, sat on the far end of the couch, and jumped off the couch everytime he tried to touch me.

that shit aint me. I wear g strings and tight clothing.

Dude, I cannot act and be a way that I am not. Pretty soon, the fascade will fade and then all I will be is an actress. Foundation built upon lies never works. As a scorpio honesty should resonate with you.

win him back? Please, im the prize. He should be trying to win me over.

Damn right.

This is a moot point neway, I dont like being made to feel insecure. That doesnt float my boat.

We were Facebook friends, he knows im about a certain kind of life. A life filled with debauchery. Lol

He talks on his facebook about the best way to keep a girl wet.....

but I digress

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Who is this aquavita pinhead? jfc--how annoying. lol

right?

Posted by DMV
He talks on his facebook about the best way to keep a girl wet.....

but I digress

What did it say? lol sorry I'm a pervert

Water men can be complex.



Yea.

Posted by Sag89

Posted by DMV
He talks on his facebook about the best way to keep a girl wet.....

but I digress

What did it say? lol sorry I'm a pervert

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ha! This guy put mayo in his girlfriend vagina to get het wet. Then the girl got maggots in her crotch. Eating her out is the best method. Thats the gist

Well he texted me and I did respond. He is bothered by me falling asleep on him when he came over. I couldnt help it, hes a good cuddler.

Ive decided to give him a few days to gather his thoughts.

Posted by Reincarnation
You wanted advice; I gave you advice.

I apologize if I upset you.

no bubbles no troubles

Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
Nonetheless, they do like housewives.

ive been told im very domesticated. Lol

Posted by IrresistableScorp

Posted by DMV
Well he texted me and I did respond. He is bothered by me falling asleep on him when he came over. I couldnt help it, hes a good cuddler.

Ive decided to give him a few days to gather his thoughts.

Well well well. His sensitive nature got hurt because maybe didn't think you found him interesting enough to stay awake. Or something.

Did you tell him why you fell asleep?

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I feel asleep because hes a good cuddler. Thats exactly what I said. Maybe I also dont think I made my daily schedule clear. I get up at 5am, go to the gym 5 days a week and then work. I should have made that more clear. I know I told him but imshould have reiterated.

but since were facebook friends, I had posted the pics from our dinner and how much I liked him within minutes of him leaving. Hes not in any of them. I took them before he came. Initally I had hid it from him, but then I opened the posting up so he could see what I felt the very same day of our date.

I wanted him to see all the positive comments, especially the ones from me

In my text, I also reiterated that I enjoyed his company and I thought he was very funny.

Posted by caster721

Posted by DMV
Your right I should have lied about having tattoos and piercings and been someone that im not.

I should have totally been lil ms suzy home maker who bakes cookies, wears an apron, wore cotton granny panties, squeeked when I laugh, sat on the far end of the couch, and jumped off the couch everytime he tried to touch me.

that shit aint me. I wear g strings and tight clothing.

Dude, I cannot act and be a way that I am not. Pretty soon, the fascade will fade and then all I will be is an actress. Foundation built upon lies never works. As a scorpio honesty should resonate with you.

win him back? Please, im the prize. He should be trying to win me over.

DMV! U don't have to be anything u r not. He probably liked that about u. how free spirited u r and open without being afraid of being judged. He liked u that way and still does. That is just the way he's trying to process evrything that happened to make sure u r legit and don't just want him for sex. He's probably reading u now.

The biggest challenge btn cancers and sags is patience. Cancers like to take things slowly, analyses things especially when it comes to matters of the heart. But sags are not patient. Now, in your situation he has probably started courting u but u do not know that but he's just moving slow. Now one of the worst moves most sags usually make in this kinda situation like yours is assume that he's playing games or he's not that into you or what nots......then u move on with ur life and probably start connecting with other people while all this time he thinks u are together....until he sees u with another guy flirting and all that then he retreats and concludes what he was scared about is really just true, that u were not at all serious about him while its not true.

Serious, all the seems u r worrying and assuming are just in ur head....don't go ahead and act them out. Relax and give him all the time. Don't make any stupid move that u know if he really likes u and u do, will only push him away. Wait until u find something solid to prove that he's either serious into u or not. U will just know. Learn patience with a cancer man, that's just the only thing u lack.

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this makes sense to me

probably start connecting with other people while all this time he thinks u are together.

this is what i think as well. which is why it hurt me to have him just ignore me all day long.

Posted by caster721

That is just the way he's trying to process evrything that happened to make sure u r legit and don't just want him for sex....The biggest challenge btn cancers and sags is patience. Cancers like to take things slowly, analyses things especially when it comes to matters of the heart. But sags are not patient.

I don't think there is anything wrong with taking space or even slowing down to process something, however I think there is a way to take space and process what you're feeling without making the other person feel "less than"(e.g. blatantly ignoring them). I think that may be more of an issue than a difference in approach (slow vs fast).

Posted by caster721
Now one of the worst moves most sags usually make in this kinda situation like yours is assume that he's playing games or he's not that into you or what nots......Wait until u find something solid to prove that he's either serious into u or not.

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I agree with this. Let the hurt subside a bit and then decide. At that point just try to slow it down yourself to figure this^^^^ out.

Posted by DMV
Well he texted me and I did respond. He is bothered by me falling asleep on him when he came over. I couldnt help it, hes a good cuddler.

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Haha...classic cancer. Backpedaling, and making you feel guilty.

Yes, Phoenix. that is what i was trying to convery ^^

convey*

Posted by caster721

I did, opened it in your forum and no one seems interested enough to share anything. Please do😐

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/scorpio-woman-cancer-man-successful-stories-4728874/

I don't think it was about the lack of interest in sharing. I just think very few people have success stories to share. This does not mean there aren't any. I could spit out a bunch of cliches (yes if they are mature, their charts match up nicely, blah, blah, blah), but that isn't what you want to know, is it 😏? Perhaps be more specific about what you want to know. You need to be direct with a Scorp if you want to know something Crab! 😛

*continued on your thread*

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Posted by DMV
probably start connecting with other people while all this time he thinks u are together.

this is what i think as well. which is why it hurt me to have him just ignore me all day long.

Patience my dear, Patience. That's our way of moving. We are slow.......although not as virgos, but we truly commit. He just want to make sure that ur feelings for him are true and that there's no other man tagging along or anything fishy. And he wants to validate ur feelings for him in his way(cancer way). We go about this way because we do not want people to prepare themselves to act or be a certain way just because they are afraid of losing us. We are intuitive and he will detect anything u make that is not truly you. So be as real as you are.

Try to scout this thread below

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/crabmantionary-4661219/<div class="bqfade">click to expand

insightful thread. pretty much reiterated what you had said.

fire sign=fast water sign=slow down

So i guess me leaving class early kinda shook him up a bit. my feelings are too deep even now to be ignored. kinda destroyed me for a minute.

Well, give him tit for tat. Point out that your feelings were hurt when he ignored you all day, and at class.

He needs to be aware that you have feelings too

Posted by Wynter
Well, give him tit for tat. Point out that your feelings were hurt when he ignored you all day, and at class.

He needs to be aware that you have feelings too

fuck yes.

i knew i wasnt crazy or being over the top.

its not like we ate dinner, sat on the couch and he went home. we had a face to face candlelight dinner in the dark. i served him his entire meal. we cuddled on the couch, arms wrapped around each other, he whispered all kinds of sweet nothings in my ear. are faces were never more than an inch apart. he's caressing my back and waist, im stoking his stomach and back. shit was on point.

then you start ignoring me the same day and all the next day...

thats not cool. its rude, immature, and no home training. I still havent gotten a thank you for dinner. these are all basic things.

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Posted by Sag89

Posted by DMV
He talks on his facebook about the best way to keep a girl wet.....

but I digress

What did it say? lol sorry I'm a pervert

ha! This guy put mayo in his girlfriend vagina to get het wet. Then the girl got maggots in her crotch. Eating her out is the best method. Thats the gist

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Lol ewww

He sounds like a scared little kid. I get it. We all get scared but it's what you do about it. He can't just sit around expecting other people don't have lives and for them to just spend all their time " figuring it/him out " none of us can.


He should tell you upfront. 1. he got scared, suggests a slower rate . 2. he just wanted sex 3. realized he isn't into dating. or whatever. pick a reason.



If he can't do any of that ya, I agree w what you stated DVM just keep walking.

He should tell you upfront. 1. he got scared, suggests a slower rate . 2. he just wanted sex 3. realized he isn't into dating. or whatever. pick a reason.


ok! this isnt hard to do. i get that water signs expect you to read their minds but if something aint for you, you can move on 2.

I felt like he did move on when he stopped talking to me. He shoulda left it at that, but, call me crazy, he knew he was affecting my emotions in class. when he walked into class, he knew that he had ignored me all day. AND he knows that i like him and he affects me deeply. he knew that i would be expecting something from him when i saw him and he gave me nothing. When i bolted out of class, he knew he was the reason. shit homegirl sitting next to me knew something was up. it was the reaction he was looking for.

him finally texting me after seeing me bolt was a bit.....disturbing actually.

he shoulda just kept ignoring me, dont finally contact me, when ive hit bottom. that means you get off on seeing me react a certain way. AND your going to do it again to me.

Posted by DMV
Well he texted me and I did respond. He is bothered by me falling asleep on him when he came over.
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Wait a second....This wasn't in the original story.
Well, that might explain his behavior....

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by DMV
Well he texted me and I did respond. He is bothered by me falling asleep on him when he came over.
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Wait a second....This wasn't in the original story.
Well, that might explain his behavior....

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this was Thursday afternoon. the original story was Tues/Wed

Posted by DMV

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by DMV
Well he texted me and I did respond. He is bothered by me falling asleep on him when he came over.
.

Wait a second....This wasn't in the original story.
Well, that might explain his behavior....

this was Thursday afternoon. the original story was Tues/Wed

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Sorry, leaped before I looked.

Posted by DMV
He should tell you upfront. 1. he got scared, suggests a slower rate . 2. he just wanted sex 3. realized he isn't into dating. or whatever. pick a reason.


ok! this isnt hard to do. i get that water signs expect you to read their minds but if something aint for you, you can move on 2.

I felt like he did move on when he stopped talking to me. He shoulda left it at that, but, call me crazy, he knew he was affecting my emotions in class. when he walked into class, he knew that he had ignored me all day. AND he knows that i like him and he affects me deeply. he knew that i would be expecting something from him when i saw him and he gave me nothing. When i bolted out of class, he knew he was the reason. shit homegirl sitting next to me knew something was up. it was the reaction he was looking for.

him finally texting me after seeing me bolt was a bit.....disturbing actually.

he shoulda just kept ignoring me, dont finally contact me, when ive hit bottom. that means you get off on seeing me react a certain way. AND your going to do it again to me.

Right

he has sun trine pluto and he is a lunar scorp like myself.

im pretty much over almost over it. I will know for sure the next time i go to class on Wed.

I just dont like getting into a pattern, where i try to find one ounce of interest from a guy and cling on to that, when in reality, 6 months down the line, there was no interest on his part. i dont want to do that.

i sent him a text on thursday about our date and the good time i had with him. he just responded to it 2 days later; never really mentioning the date. still focused on me falling asleep. he did apologize for getting back to me so late. yawn, im bored.

he comes across very scorponic to me. im not interested in the game playing. im not interested in showing him much of any part of me; i just feel very closed off. i dont feel safe to access that loving/receptive part of me anymore. This is no longer an adventure in getting to know someone; now, it seems like sport.

with the last scorp, at the end of the day, i realized that i didnt love him, but instead i feel in love with the games he played. AND that wasnt even real love.

im super good with all this. there is no way in hell, im going to let some 26 year old kid with braces run me into an emotional cesspool.

Thanks Caster.... 🙂

Posted by Rabbit
I appreciate that everyone did not immediately think "Creepy Scorpio Stalker" 😛

How about a creepy Sag stalker. :/

Posted by dustbunny
This was an interesting read. I am a scorp moon too and I have often felt like you felt DMV, though I feel a even bigger need to hide it. When I explode I hate it.

What I found interesting was what you said about "him liking your reaction and may make it a habit to get a reaction from you"

That's pretty insightful and I have always tried to understand things... and this really makes me understand some of my past relationships..

i think some watery people who have alot of trust issues will need those reactions to feel that their lover is indeed into them. its like confirmation and validation all at the same time.

these types of relationships become very emotionally draining. emotional vampires.