Aries Man and Scorpio Woman, Is She Going To Leave Me For Someone Else?

I'm an Aries man and I've been dating this Scorpio woman for about 2 months now. The reason I trust her/want to trust her is because 1. She's never cheated in her past relationships and 2. One of my best friends who has know her for years says she's trustworthy. 3. I could tell she likes me a lot and she has told me that a couple of times. However, she's been recently talking to her ex. It's been about 5 weeks that she's been talking to him again and she went to a waffle house with him 4 days ago. She has no idea I know this and I'm just waiting for her to tell me. The last time we talked about him was 3 weeks ago and she said she'd rather talk to me about him in person. I never pried, and he was never brought up.

I'm so afraid to bring this up to her.. I don't know if I have the strength to walk away if she gets defensive and tells me I have no right to tell her who and who she can't hang out with. I want to believe she's loyal to me but my insecurities are telling me no.. Should I bring him up? And How?

When you say you’ve been dating for 2 months how does that work out to actual number of dates you’ve been on with her? Are we talking one per week?

Yea we've been out alone about 20 times, and we text and call each other everyday. Hold hands, kiss in public, she met my parents etc..

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Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

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she met my parents etc..

Wut ?!

After 2 MONTHS ?!!

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Yea we're moving pretty fast..

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she met my parents etc..

Wut ?!

After 2 MONTHS ?!!

Yea we're moving pretty fast..

Who initiated the meeting parents thing ? How did it happen ?

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I graduated from an internship and she was there, she came up and introduced herself to my parents. Then she came over a few times and had some nice convorsations with them. So essentially she did

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she met my parents etc..

Wut ?!

After 2 MONTHS ?!!

Yea we're moving pretty fast..

Who initiated the meeting parents thing ? How did it happen ?

I graduated from an internship and she was there, she came up and introduced herself to my parents. Then she came over a few times and had some nice convorsations with them. So essentially she did

Hmmmmm.
Well sounds organic.


Just ask her about the guy.

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It is and I really like her, my insecurities are stopping me from doing it tho.. I don't want her to think I don't trust her, but it's also partially the case.. I'm afraid to lose her is the bottom line. Anyways I really appreciate your input on this, thank you

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Posted by Impulsv
Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

Then sit her down and calmly talk to her without sounding like you’re blaming her

Begin with stating your intentions with where you want this to go: something like—
I really enjoy being with you and wish to continue and I’m not seeing anyone else etc use your own words

Then tell her what’s bothering you:

I want to know where you’re at and where you want this to go. Are we on the same page?
I’ve just been a little concerned because I heard you’ve been in contact with your ex. I just want to know where we stand and if we are going to continue or if I should leave?

Again, use your own words

What is her moon and yours?

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We are both born in 1993 but I'm not sure how to find out what our moon signs are

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Posted by Impulsv
Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

Then sit her down and calmly talk to her without sounding like you’re blaming her

Begin with stating your intentions with where you want this to go: something like—
I really enjoy being with you and wish to continue and I’m not seeing anyone else etc use your own words

Then tell her what’s bothering you:

I want to know where you’re at and where you want this to go. Are we on the same page?
I’ve just been a little concerned because I heard you’ve been in contact with your ex. I just want to know where we stand and if we are going to continue or if I should leave?

Again, use your own words

What is her moon and yours?

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Use this approach above ^^^

It is not confrontational. It is just conversation.

Look at it this way, if you can't bring up something such as where your relationship stands, do you think you should even be in a relationship? Are you ready to be in a relationship? Mature enough, leaving previous insecurities at the door etc.

Are you sleeping together? If so, how can you be comfortable with sharing the most intimate act ever between two people yet you feel you can't ask her about eating a waffle with an ex?

If you feel this way now, this fear of losing her, and it's only been two months, then how do you think the next 30 years of your relationship is going to be?

You need to be prepared to walk away. She'll respect the man she cannot walk over.

Intuition are usually right. That's what I've learned.

Scorpio tends to have an issue in letting go of past lovers, if the other party didn't really cheat during the relationship or have some form of bonding. My bestie did that to a guy after her ex called and she broke off with the bf later on when she is sure she loved the ex more.

Just have a talk and be prepared, you're 2 months in only. Don't let it drag to more than 6 months and end up hurting even longer.

Classic example - Look at Hailey Baldwin going back to JB now.

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I'm an Aries man and I've been dating this Scorpio woman for about 2 months now. The reason I trust her/want to trust her is because 1. She's never cheated in her past relationships and 2. One of my best friends who has know her for years says she's trustworthy. 3. I could tell she likes me a lot and she has told me that a couple of times. However, she's been recently talking to her ex. It's been about 5 weeks that she's been talking to him again and she went to a waffle house with him 4 days ago. She has no idea I know this and I'm just waiting for her to tell me. The last time we talked about him was 3 weeks ago and she said she'd rather talk to me about him in person. I never pried, and he was never brought up.

I'm so afraid to bring this up to her.. I don't know if I have the strength to walk away if she gets defensive and tells me I have no right to tell her who and who she can't hang out with. I want to believe she's loyal to me but my insecurities are telling me no.. Should I bring him up? And How?

Question, how do you know she saw her ex? How did that come up or how was it brought to your attention?

If you're dating and would like more then say so. I think then and only then can you have a conversation about her intention with you. However, right now you're 1) only dating 2) do not have a clear understanding of her intentions with her ex. Saying she "likes you a lot" doesn't mean very much, sorry. You're talking about her trustworthiness as it relates to "cheating", however it's unclear if you've even established a relationship or exclusivity. Basically, are you two on the same page? So get clear on where you two stand. If you'd like more, make that clear then you can approach her intentions with the ex.

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Posted by Impulsv
Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

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😕 How does that work? You're in a non "exclusive" relationship then? Also, declaring your position (e.g. "I'm not going to date other girls") is not the same as making sure you're on the same page. Has she said the same in terms of dating for other men?

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Posted by Impulsv
Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

Then sit her down and calmly talk to her without sounding like you’re blaming her

Begin with stating your intentions with where you want this to go: something like—
I really enjoy being with you and wish to continue and I’m not seeing anyone else etc use your own words

Then tell her what’s bothering you:

I want to know where you’re at and where you want this to go. Are we on the same page?
I’ve just been a little concerned because I heard you’ve been in contact with your ex. I just want to know where we stand and if we are going to continue or if I should leave?

Again, use your own words

What is her moon and yours?

Use this approach above ^^^

It is not confrontational. It is just conversation.

Look at it this way, if you can't bring up something such as where your relationship stands, do you think you should even be in a relationship? Are you ready to be in a relationship? Mature enough, leaving previous insecurities at the door etc.

Are you sleeping together? If so, how can you be comfortable with sharing the most intimate act ever between two people yet you feel you can't ask her about eating a waffle with an ex?

If you feel this way now, this fear of losing her, and it's only been two months, then how do you think the next 30 years of your relationship is going to be?

You need to be prepared to walk away. She'll respect the man she cannot walk over.

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I'm an Aries man and I've been dating this Scorpio woman for about 2 months now. The reason I trust her/want to trust her is because 1. She's never cheated in her past relationships and 2. One of my best friends who has know her for years says she's trustworthy. 3. I could tell she likes me a lot and she has told me that a couple of times. However, she's been recently talking to her ex. It's been about 5 weeks that she's been talking to him again and she went to a waffle house with him 4 days ago. She has no idea I know this and I'm just waiting for her to tell me. The last time we talked about him was 3 weeks ago and she said she'd rather talk to me about him in person. I never pried, and he was never brought up.

I'm so afraid to bring this up to her.. I don't know if I have the strength to walk away if she gets defensive and tells me I have no right to tell her who and who she can't hang out with. I want to believe she's loyal to me but my insecurities are telling me no.. Should I bring him up? And How?

Question, how do you know she saw her ex? How did that come up or how was it brought to your attention?

If you're dating and would like more then say so. I think then and only then can you have a conversation about her intention with you. However, right now you're 1) only dating 2) do not have a clear understanding of her intentions with her ex. Saying she "likes you a lot" doesn't mean very much, sorry. You're talking about her trustworthiness as it relates to "cheating", however it's unclear if you've even established a relationship or exclusivity. Basically, are you two on the same page? So get clear on where you two stand. If you'd like more, make that clear then you can approach her intentions with the ex.

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I found out mostly by intuition. She said very specific things about being with a friend that clicked. It was later confirmed by one of my best friends who knows her more than me.

Im so new to relationships I just don't want to mess it up. I guess it is important to see where she's at and how she's feeling otherwise I'll go crazy..

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Posted by Impulsv
Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

How does that work? You're in a non "exclusive" relationship then? Also, declaring your position (e.g. "I'm not going to date other girls") is not the same as making sure you're on the same page. Has she said the same in terms of dating for other men?

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No, should I ask

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Posted by Impulsv
Have you discussed if your exclusive

we talked about it once and we said were basically in a relationship but we never said we were exclusive, I've explicitly told her I'm not going to date any other girls tho

How does that work? You're in a non "exclusive" relationship then? Also, declaring your position (e.g. "I'm not going to date other girls") is not the same as making sure you're on the same page. Has she said the same in terms of dating for other men?

No, should I ask

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Yes. You can't assume she want the same thing or feels the same way. Always try to get clarity, whether it's with a Scorp woman or another woman. UVD gave you some good pointers, start there. Just let her know you just want to make sure you both want the same things. As long as you don't do it forcefully and have more of a conversation, give her space to talk and listen for understanding you won't mess it up. Like I stated above, after you're clear you both want the same things then discuss your concerns about the ex. Try not to react to quickly to whatever she says about the ex if it's something you don't like. Take it in and respond calmly.

^^^Oh, and when I wrote "yes" you should ask, don't blurt it out lol. Again, conversation....something like "I really enjoy our time together and my feeling are growing stronger for you. I'm wondering how you feel"....*wait for reply*..."Okay, the other day I mentioned I wasn't seeing/dating anyone else, I'm curious are you dating other men?"

of course use language you're comfortable with, but you get the point.