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Posted by Arielle83Sounds like co-dependency. A relationship that works only because one party feels less paranoid and the other gets an unhealthy obsession.
Scorpio likes to be nurtured.
When cancer does it, they let their guard down.
Plus cancer only has eyes for them which makes them less suspicious.

Posted by Arielle83I don't know if it's a good thing or not, never been in any relationship with Scorpio.Posted by incandescentcancerDon't ruin a good thing with psychobabble.Posted by Arielle83Sounds like co-dependency. A relationship that works only because one party feels less paranoid and the other gets an unhealthy obsession.
Scorpio likes to be nurtured.
When cancer does it, they let their guard down.
Plus cancer only has eyes for them which makes them less suspicious.
It's a close relationship that many won't get.click to expand

Posted by Arielle83Sounds better this time around. Are scorps good in bed?
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha

Posted by Arielle83Interesting, the best experiences have been with Aries and Pisces, the passion burns deep right from the beginning.Awkward at first, but it gets better once they know you're theirs.
Sounds better this time around. Are scorps good in bed?click to expand

Posted by exxtasyxThose two are Cancer and Scorp? Who is the scorp?
Khloe and Lamar lol

Posted by Udylaw1Secure how? That they won't cheat?
A cancer knows just how to bring out the best in a scorpio,makes them feel Secure,n Vice Versa .


Posted by aNEWdayDespite all the testimonies here, I find the idea of a Scorp/ Cancer relationship repulsive. It sounds wrong somehow, maybe it's just how I feel about it.
Not attracted to cancer sun men. In fact, I don't like most.
Seems to work best when the woman is cancer.

Posted by exxtasyxLOL...that worked out perfectly....a truly obsessive and weird relationship...Posted by incandescentcancerLamar is the ScorpioPosted by exxtasyxThose two are Cancer and Scorp? Who is the scorp?
Khloe and Lamar lolclick to expand

Posted by Arielle83but your husband is dominant libra too you mentioned.
I like Sagittarius influenced scorpios though. I can't handle a dominating one.
Posted by Koniuchai like his red and black avatar of evil bunny.
He can spill it then.
He got upset last time I blew his cover

Posted by MagicMonaI agree with your observations, my comment was purely based on a ton off Cancer/Scorp couples I know. It's probably a bit myopic since I obviously do not know every cancer and scorpio.
It depends on other factors, not just the suns being in scorpio and cancer. other elements in the charts, the maturity level. emotions by themselves tend to ruin the possibilities of a well established connection. some bonds can be toxic. i myself do not know any cancers, so i cannot agree with this strong connection observation you have. but that's just me.

Posted by ReincarnationThat sounds fairly attractive but you're a guy and most guys including me like the idea of an all night screw. This needs to come from a girl for me to believe in.Posted by incandescentcancerIf you like staying home on Friday night with a movie, and shagging all night - a Scorp may be for you.Posted by Arielle83Sounds better this time around. Are scorps good in bed?
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha
We like doing this.click to expand

Posted by elllesqueThis is where I screwed up with the first Scorpio she let her guard down and I abandoned her she already had some abandonment issues with her mom and father not being there for her when she was growing up. When she felt abandoned her anxiety/anxiousness was through the roof she has anxiety problems I made it worse.Posted by Arielle83I agree with this.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxietyclick to expand
Posted by Koniuchamy Sagittarius sister was with a Crab man, born early july. And my Aries sister also was with a Crab man. So weird!!!Posted by starloverI was also going to say this haha
If the woman is the Cancer it may work better. Scorpio women may be too strong for the sensitive Crab man...
Been down that road and it did not work for meclick to expand


Posted by starloverWith breaks, sure. Btw, it also depends on the woman, it doesn't help if she is as exciting as a wet fish.Posted by incandescentcancerYou can keep it up all night??Posted by ReincarnationThat sounds fairly attractive but you're a guy and most guys including me like the idea of an all night screw. This needs to come from a girl for me to believe in.Posted by incandescentcancerIf you like staying home on Friday night with a movie, and shagging all night - a Scorp may be for you.Posted by Arielle83Sounds better this time around. Are scorps good in bed?
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha
We like doing this.click to expand

Posted by starloverI don't know that as a blanket rule all Cancer men are sensitive. I have moon in Capricorn which isn't a particularly sensitive placement.
If the woman is the Cancer it may work better. Scorpio women may be too strong for the sensitive Crab man...

Posted by Vixen2You're a Pisces sun I think, so it makes sense when you say that. Hands down, the best sex I have had is with Pisces women.
All night long...especially in the beginning and can last indefinetly. It may not necessarily be actual penetration or even oral sex. It's the act of wanting to "consuming" the object of their affection...on a physical, mental, spiritual level. It's amazing and exhausting...damn near impossible to keep up. Nothing quite like it...and I think watersigns when it's right, together mirror each other and it just leads to just phenomenal mental & physical connections.

Posted by KoniuchaBrings us back to my original question. Everything I hear, seems to make me think that this is an unpleasant combination. That said, there are all these couples for whom it seems to work. Perhaps, these are flawed individuals seeking an obsessive, subservient relationship.Posted by starloverI was also going to say this haha
If the woman is the Cancer it may work better. Scorpio women may be too strong for the sensitive Crab man...
Been down that road and it did not work for meclick to expand

Posted by KoniuchaSeen both, it seems a widespread malaise.
Well is it female Scorpio, male Cancer or male Scorpio, female Cancer?

Posted by KoniuchaAgreed, this definitely seems to be one of those things. I guess power to those for whom it works, ultimately it's all about happiness. The couples I have seen seem to be perfectly happy with their relationship.
One of life's mysteries, I suppose

Posted by KoniuchaI absolutely detest air signs, they are flaky and not trustworthy for anything.
I have no clue which sign would be best for me. I attract a lot of Libra

Posted by starloverAll of them.Posted by incandescentcancerWhat, all of them?Posted by KoniuchaI absolutely detest air signs, they are flaky and not trustworthy for anything.
I have no clue which sign would be best for me. I attract a lot of Libra
Lolclick to expand

Posted by Arielle83I have dated another cancer for almost 3 years, it was good. I probably may not doing it again unless it's a fiery cancer. I am an earthy cancer.
Would you date another cancer?
I think cancer/ cancer is the best when they are both goofy and less moody.
I love a funny cancer man.

Posted by TwodrinksYou've me at a disadvantage. Who are you??!
Youre back!

Posted by incandescentcancerHello, and welcome back Incan. 😉Posted by Arielle83I have dated another cancer for almost 3 years, it was good. I probably may not doing it again unless it's a fiery cancer. I am an earthy cancer.
Would you date another cancer?
I think cancer/ cancer is the best when they are both goofy and less moody.
I love a funny cancer man.click to expand

Posted by Arielle83She was very stubborn and inflexible.Posted by incandescentcancerI'm fire and air dominant.Posted by Arielle83I have dated another cancer for almost 3 years, it was good. I probably may not doing it again unless it's a fiery cancer. I am an earthy cancer.
Would you date another cancer?
I think cancer/ cancer is the best when they are both goofy and less moody.
I love a funny cancer man.
Was she more moody and emotional?
I only seem to encounter those types of cancer chicks on dxp.click to expand

Posted by LunarMaidenHey you! 😉Posted by incandescentcancerHello, and welcome back Incan. 😉Posted by Arielle83I have dated another cancer for almost 3 years, it was good. I probably may not doing it again unless it's a fiery cancer. I am an earthy cancer.
Would you date another cancer?
I think cancer/ cancer is the best when they are both goofy and less moody.
I love a funny cancer man.click to expand

Posted by TwodrinksI know who you're now.Posted by incandescentcancerNo worries, I've changed my name 200 times. Im not sure which name you know me as :p ...you helped me with my Cancer ex. I was basically a nutcase but you tried your best 🙂Posted by TwodrinksYou've me at a disadvantage. Who are you??!
Youre back!
-Ariesclick to expand

Posted by TwodrinksEnable your PM.Posted by incandescentcancerNo worries, I've changed my name 200 times. Im not sure which name you know me as :p ...you helped me with my Cancer ex. I was basically a nutcase but you tried your best 🙂Posted by TwodrinksYou've me at a disadvantage. Who are you??!
Youre back!
-Ariesclick to expand

Posted by ReincarnationArielle nailed it. If both people are mature and balanced, this is a very reciprocatory type of relationship, plus the fact that both innately understand the depth of emotions the other is dealing with.Posted by Arielle83Good description, but not sure about the idealized pedestal thing.
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha
I actually want to give more love, affection, and resources than I receive love and affection. That's my way of showing devotion, and I prefer it that way.click to expand

Posted by KoniuchaIt's sir hippity hop? The bunnyman? Rabbit?
You don't know who WhiteChocolate is??
For shame!

Posted by incandescentcancerIf it's the right partner, and the chemistry is great, an all night bed romp is divine! Food gets forgotten, sleep gets forgotten.....Posted by ReincarnationThat sounds fairly attractive but you're a guy and most guys including me like the idea of an all night screw. This needs to come from a girl for me to believe in.Posted by incandescentcancerIf you like staying home on Friday night with a movie, and shagging all night - a Scorp may be for you.Posted by Arielle83Sounds better this time around. Are scorps good in bed?
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha
We like doing this.click to expand

Posted by ReincarnationYes, but you scorpios have a hard time expressing it, especially the men, but that's probably a man thing in general.Posted by MoonArtistLol - we do like being nurtured.Posted by ReincarnationArielle nailed it. If both people are mature and balanced, this is a very reciprocatory type of relationship, plus the fact that both innately understand the depth of emotions the other is dealing with.Posted by Arielle83Good description, but not sure about the idealized pedestal thing.
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha
I actually want to give more love, affection, and resources than I receive love and affection. That's my way of showing devotion, and I prefer it that way.
Rein, the scorpio need to protect in all aspects fits well with the cancer need to to have security, and cancer has a need to spoil/pamper their loved ones, with food, sex( applied to a partner, obviously), home life. Basically it's the protector meets the nurturer. I already know you're going to do that manly face scrunching thing over being pampered, but you guys secretly love it.
Much more so than compliments or material gifts or respect, which men of other signs may need more of.click to expand

Posted by MoonArtistSpoken like a true Cancer....ha!Posted by incandescentcancerIf it's the right partner, and the chemistry is great, an all night bed romp is divine! Food gets forgotten, sleep gets forgotten.....Posted by ReincarnationThat sounds fairly attractive but you're a guy and most guys including me like the idea of an all night screw. This needs to come from a girl for me to believe in.Posted by incandescentcancerIf you like staying home on Friday night with a movie, and shagging all night - a Scorp may be for you.Posted by Arielle83Sounds better this time around. Are scorps good in bed?
Well cancer is a natural nurturer. It only comes out when they trust the other person. Scorpio is over protective and paternalistic. They give cancer a reason not to feel insecure because cancer is big on being protective of themselves and those they love.
Scorpio is also insecure even though they don't show it. It's a different kind of insecure though. They don't want to be abandoned after letting their guard down. To them that's betrayal. They want support and someone to idealise them like they put their love object on a pedestal. It's like an intricate cycle.
So when scorpio is nurtured, they won't feel abandonment anxiety because cancer is acting selfless and honouring them. In turn, scorpio sees this as love and becomes protective towards them because they don't want to lose the thing that makes them feel at home.
Things go bad when cancer rebels, which is what I do every couple of months which makes scorpio get worried and over protective like a father and a teenage daughter. Haha
We like doing this.click to expand

Posted by thinktoomuchCancers can't be dominated, we are a cardinal sign and a powerful one at that. Don't let the suit fool you, we will fight. We like to lead....
When I first came here, I read a lot of topics about cancer and scorpio. They always mentioned: battle of power or control.
In my experience this is true. Although there was never any real battle, it was more like:
cancer: I got this. Sit back, I know what I want, but I´m gonna take my time and do it the way I see fitt.
Scorpio: But I want this and for it to be done this way.
Cancer: ...gone....
And repeat repeat repeat repeat... Never even a rinse, just repeat.
Not sure if it´s a mans thing or a cancer thing, but from my experience, the relationship, having one, creating one, is very much about the cancer itself: the cancer wants to be the one to *create* the we.
Well, this was very hard to put down. I´m sure it doesn´t make sense... Carry on 🙂


Posted by thinktoomuchCancers want to mold you into whatever they want, that's the secret most people don't know about.Posted by incandescentcancerTotally agree with you here. ALso based on the female cancers I know. They are way more in the lead than I have ever been or wanted to be relationship wise.Posted by thinktoomuchCancers can't be dominated, we are a cardinal sign and a powerful one at that. Don't let the suit fool you, we will fight. We like to lead....
When I first came here, I read a lot of topics about cancer and scorpio. They always mentioned: battle of power or control.
In my experience this is true. Although there was never any real battle, it was more like:
cancer: I got this. Sit back, I know what I want, but I´m gonna take my time and do it the way I see fitt.
Scorpio: But I want this and for it to be done this way.
Cancer: ...gone....
And repeat repeat repeat repeat... Never even a rinse, just repeat.
Not sure if it´s a mans thing or a cancer thing, but from my experience, the relationship, having one, creating one, is very much about the cancer itself: the cancer wants to be the one to *create* the we.
Well, this was very hard to put down. I´m sure it doesn´t make sense... Carry on 🙂
But as far as my own experience... I mean... He was a very very sweet guy when he wanted to be (and when he didn´t want to be, I kinda like him regardless what he does, and that´s not good), and he listens and takes care of others, but his own needs come first. I have been waiting around for him for almost 4 years in different ways, I had absolutely no power in our relations - I couldn´t even figure out, when being nice "worked" and when it didn´t. Only thing I could do to express myself was being a crazy bitch, to have some sort of influence on our relation. VERY strange for me. I think it´s difficult for a scorpio or maybe a scorpio/sag cusper like myself in particular to try and fit into someones elses life just like that. Felt like being an appendix. BUT in defense of all succesful cancer-scorpio relationships: my experience is based on two people, where the one wasn´t as interested as the other, it was a constant struggle, so not sure my experience really counts.click to expand

Posted by thinktoomuchWhere is the challenge in molding the weak?
^^ Seriously? But then cancer could just go after the a person with the weakest mind and then turn them into what they wants and desire. —
If you want to mold anyone, I think scorpios is a bad choice😄
Scorpio and cancer is very similar in our inner lives I believe though. We all walk around and think, that we got the 411 on everybody. Even each other. Not always the case though, and that can lead to serious trouble.

Posted by thinktoomuchAs a cardinal sign, we have a tendency to move on. We are not going to dedicate the rest of our lives to one project, that's just not how we think.
If the molding is unsuccesful, cancer back off? Won´t the cancer be bored, if they have someone, they have molded themselves?! Where is the surprise then? ´Cause cancer will never be plan themselves and will keep surprising and do, what they want, and that is how it should be, but it should go both ways.

Posted by thinktoomuchWe are just subtle about it, we come across as warm and cuddly so that helps.Posted by incandescentcancerTouché. Maybe this is the real attraction between scorpio and cancer then?!.. Exept for the sexual one, in my case that was through the roof! And despite everything that´s happened and that he will never be able to love me, I still think of the cancer as a great guy for the right woman, but also: he´s hot!!! Not in the conventional way. Just something about him.Posted by thinktoomuchWhere is the challenge in molding the weak?
^^ Seriously? But then cancer could just go after the a person with the weakest mind and then turn them into what they wants and desire. —
If you want to mold anyone, I think scorpios is a bad choice😄
Scorpio and cancer is very similar in our inner lives I believe though. We all walk around and think, that we got the 411 on everybody. Even each other. Not always the case though, and that can lead to serious trouble.
And that´s also something, I believe scorpio is VERY attracted to and wish, we had ourselves (and some do) - the unconventional but yet extremely attractive vibe.
But damn... Cancer chose the strongest one and then try to bend them how they see fitt? These two signs are way more alike than I thought 😄click to expand

Posted by thinktoomuchIt's not so much a battle for control it's two independent people coming together and realizing they both have positions to play.
When I first came here, I read a lot of topics about cancer and scorpio. They always mentioned: battle of power or control.
In my experience this is true. Although there was never any real battle, it was more like:
cancer: I got this. Sit back, I know what I want, but I´m gonna take my time and do it the way I see fitt.
Scorpio: But I want this and for it to be done this way.
Cancer: ...gone....
And repeat repeat repeat repeat... Never even a rinse, just repeat.
Not sure if it´s a mans thing or a cancer thing, but from my experience, the relationship, having one, creating one, is very much about the cancer itself: the cancer wants to be the one to *create* the we.
Well, this was very hard to put down. I´m sure it doesn´t make sense... Carry on 🙂
Posted by Arielle83Omg my aunt a cancer is dating a younger scorpio guy and he wont even let her have her own cell phone to use but he has one. He also doesnt work because she is jealous he could meet someone! I dont see it as a healthy relationship at all because he has totally taken advantage and she stupidly lets him!Posted by incandescentcancerDon't ruin a good thing with psychobabble.Posted by Arielle83Sounds like co-dependency. A relationship that works only because one party feels less paranoid and the other gets an unhealthy obsession.
Scorpio likes to be nurtured.
When cancer does it, they let their guard down.
Plus cancer only has eyes for them which makes them less suspicious.
It's a close relationship that many won't get.click to expand
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I don't actually see any similarity between the two but yet I know a ton of Cancer/Scorpio couples. Someone explain this to me.
Disclaimer - I have never had a relationship of any sort with a Scorpio woman nor have I sought them. I don't even know many Scorpios.