Help please!!! What to do with this scorpio behaviour? (Page 2)

Posted by iridessa1980

Posted by ariessungoddess

Posted by iridessa1980
Me and my scorpio have been together for 9 months now. It's been the most amazing and intense relationship I ever had and I love him something fierce. I would take on gravity of he needed it be. So there is that.

Last Sunday I left his house after a small disagreement. No slamming doors or anything., I left with a sigh really and as I close the door his daughter walked in and I heard het her call my name. (Awful timing) I didn t think too much of it at the time. In the wat Home I tried calling and texting, no response ofcourse. As an Aries the ignoring is torture and drives me crazy. The more he ignores the more desperate I become. ( no anger though, just crying and pleading)

The next day I went to his house to give him some stuff he needed for a nightdive he had planned. He handed me my belongings at the door said I started drama while his daughter was there and shut the door. Completly mindfucked and nailed to the ground I cried my eyes out pleading for him to please just talk to me. While I cried my eyes out he started filming me on his phone. What the actual fuck?!? I didn t understand and kept my cool as long as possible. I just stood there crying. But Aries will be Aries and after ten minutes I lost it and have him the finger and left. On the way home I cried beyond belief, bombed his phone with voicemails and just repeated how God I didn t understand. At one point I really thought I was losing my mind and just kept telling myself: I didn t start drama, I didn t start drama,...

Je had done the "break up thing" before or the silent treatmebt. Have even been blocked on 2 occasions but he always comes back when he realizes he was quick to jump the gun. However. The filming was new.

Some scorpios advise me to tell him how much he means to me, others say give him space. I need to know what to do. This man is my moon. So if anyone has advice or whatever, all is appreciated

sweetheart that's a disgrace to aries! no girlfriend deserves to be handled like this, humiliated and filmed?! shut the door on the bastard's face, flip the bird if you see him and don't let this psycho creep film you and stuff who knows what other weird shit he's capable of! hold it together, pretend he never existed and wait it out until he's come begging to you later ( I know many many scorps) at that point you can teach him why he deserves no love from you. it's called survival you don't let anyone take a piece of you.

Wow!! I don't know why but the word "humiliated" never crossed my mind till now. And now that I say it out loud it rings louder each time I repeat it.

Sadistic and vengeful sure. But why didnt I come up with humiliation? For some reason that was the word I needed to open my eyes. So thanks.

When I read your post I got instant flashbacks to me standing there on his doorstep, crying and sobbing with a plastic bag in my hand holding my belongings while he just filmed me. No explanation, no goodbye not even worth a fight. Tears are running down my cheeks now. Not sure if they're from relief or hurt at this point. But yes. I see myself standing there and it was just cruelty. I feel bad for the woman who stood there, she is me but without the word humiliation.

So thank you.

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sure, wish you luck.

Posted by iridessa1980

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by iridessa1980

Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?

All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy

...you remind me of her situation. You should be ashamed, tbh.

Why? Because I believe in the good of people? Or because I don't run when I face a problem?

Don't judge Me, you don't know me. I don't give up on people. That's a strength and a flaw. I know this. But I have nothing to be ashamed of

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No because you're freaking desperate and pathetic to keep some douchelord around.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT THERAPY YOU SILLY, SILLY BITCH.

Again, you should be ashamed. Your behavior and excuses are shameful.

Posted by iridessa1980

Posted by MyStarsShine
Aries and Scorpio

Just no

You can't just assume that. His ex was an Aries they we're together for a decade. They split up once bc she cheated. But they have 2 kids together. If you try to understand each other everything is possible. One of my best friends is scorpio. We've been Friends for over 20 yrs and only had a "fight" once. A drunk fight which we resolved the next day. Living with a scorpio is different yes. But nothing is ever "Just NO"

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Just say No

Lol

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by iridessa1980

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by iridessa1980

Because I believe in the good of people. Because love is complicated. Because I might be a masochist maybe who knows?

All I know his when you have a deep connection with someone like never before you don't write them off in a hartbeat. It's not that easy

...you remind me of her situation. You should be ashamed, tbh.

Why? Because I believe in the good of people? Or because I don't run when I face a problem?

Don't judge Me, you don't know me. I don't give up on people. That's a strength and a flaw. I know this. But I have nothing to be ashamed of

No because you're freaking desperate and pathetic to keep some douchelord around.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT THERAPY YOU SILLY, SILLY BITCH.

Again, you should be ashamed. Your behavior and excuses are shameful.

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Aaaw. Let me guess. You were an unwanted child and mommy and daddy, who made you call them by their first name bc they were ashamed, made sure you knew. Your Brother and sister picked up on this and they beat and picked on you just for, you know, being you.

Family trips meant you at home doing dishes while they went somewhere fun. At night daddy would walk in, moleste you and name & shame you for the little slut you are.

You later learned in school people only tolerated you bc your swearing was "entertaining" so they'd let you hang with them.

Till this day it probably stil is the case with the people you call "friends " so sweet! They do however always "forget" to invite you. So late at night you cry yourself to sleep, only to wake up later and scream out "why?" From across the hall mommy and daddy (duh ofcourse you still live with your parents) yell: bc you are the unwanted one!!

Even therapy doesn't work, and when you hear the word "love" It's as if people stutter or just make feelings up. Must be hard, poor thing. And it doesn't get beter now does it?

So, in a vague attempt to feel like you belong, you come here, open your month in the hopes people will notice you and ,here's hoping, even like you. However, I can concur that once again no one really cares.

And as you feel somewhat delighted safely tucked asides your keyboard, all I can think is: poor little girl, she'll wet the bed again tonight and it won t take too long before she takes a shotgun to the mouth.

As your final hope is to finally feel wanted and missed, I can tell you now people wouldn't notice till the corps starts stinking. And even then will they make it a quick 5 dime funeral. Cause just like you, who actually misses 5 dimes

Goodnight though!!

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by iridessa1980

Posted by dolluxe
Okay so...

-You came here asking for help

-You gave us bits and pieces of your issue

-You got interrogated by Misted for you to reveal the whole story

-People see how this guy was a total asswipe and either give you advice on how to deal or leave

-You defend your dude

Why are you here? For advice? You already got them but you continuously defend him.

This thread is pointless.

Imagine someone just focussing on your bad traits, using ONLY those as a reason to write you off and ignore everything that's good about you and which make you a good person?

I don't to that to people. No one.

Ummm..

That's exactly what you've done to your Scorp in this thread.

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So when I just describe A situation and asked how to react, I was writing him off ? Funny. Seems like asking for advice on how to act would be the oppositie of writing someone off. But hey, semantics right ? and I also believe it states right above that I asked for advice AND defended him. So again, no writing off anybody. But who's counting?!?

See when I was in school as a kid we we're taught this thing called "reading" maybe you should give it a try someday. It's liberating and can get you places

So when you got upset with your scorp did you display the same immature condescending behavior that you have in this thread? That's something to think about, as you move onto your next relationship, when you are challenged how defensive and closed down do you become?

Posted by TaurusinTexas
So when you got upset with your scorp did you display the same immature condescending behavior that you have in this thread? That's something to think about, as you move onto your next relationship, when you are challenged how defensive and closed down do you become?

I'm not upset. Far from it too. And no this is not how I react to the people I love and care for.

This is how I react to people who don't know me nor my life and call me pathetic and desperate on the Internet bc I don't do things from their pov.

Wouldn't you say that type of reaction from that person could be considerd immature and condescending?

But I am a writer. So why comment with the same degree of swearing and name calling when you can be creative? And also, pretty sure that if someone can dish it out like that they can take the heat as well.

Seems you got liberated at "humiliated". Bravo. I noticed your whole attitude changed on this board after that. C.-ocky, now. But nobody's mad at you -- it's what everyone has been trying to make you see.

So roll with that image you saw, irid. Protect that girl, go to the mattresses for that girl. She deserves it.

NEVER tell him using that word to describe your strength.

It's wisdom freely given, so don't boast. Just remember it.

Honestly, I admired you most when you gave him the finger. You just should have kept on moving. He would have come back to you if you gave it long enough. He respected you when you buckled up and flipped the bird like: "f.-u.c.k it and f.-u.c.k you. I won't be degraded over stupid s.-hit."

You had said it appeared you were "giving up" on him. No. You were giving up on the behavior.

Big difference.

Posted by starwars
did you seriously cry this fucking much over this stupid argument?

The argument here? Why would I cry about that? The argument with him? Well, not over the argument bc it was pointless. But over the ignoring and what happend the next day, yes. I cried buckets.

I don't think he will upload it or anything. Normaal people would feel uncomfortable watching it and it would show his cruel nature. I do think he hangs on to it for his own though. Which is disturbing if he does. Like hanging on to a sick trophy IF he watches it. Nah, I just think he was messing with my head. Which is NOT OK by any means. But I do believe that was the sole purpose.

Aries + Scorpio

Let (QUINCUNX) battle commence

Lol