I Miss my Scorpio

He's moving into his house this weekend and I'm out of town for a family affair, which I couldn't get out of.

He's got such a draw on me; yet why can't I seem to get myself to call him as much as I want? I'm afraid that I will bore him if I call him more than once every other day.

Do Scorpios like attention or am I doing the right thing by not calling excessively?

Aww HP. Give him space..He's moving, probbaly tied up and busy. Even if you do phone him, he probably won't be entirely there if you know what I mean.

Yeah, I've given him space this weekend. I also have been out of town with family and only have logged onto the computer twice this weekend. I'm sure I'll hear from him tomorrow morning.

I don't like to be called excessively. It just annoys me. But my Scorpio friend calls his girlfriend at least 3 times a day..sometimes a couple of hours each time. They've been together 2 years..and have now married..I think Scorpio guys are slightly different in that respect.

I say call him whenever you want to call him.

I guess the one thing that bugs me is even though I haven't called him is the fact that he hasn't called me. I know I'm being selfish because he's moved this weekend, but still - I still want to know I've been missed or thought about, you know?

After 4 days of not hearing from the Scorpio guy, I get an email from him stating that he hurt his back while moving. I initiated the email though.

I don't know guys, I'm tired of initiating the contact with him. I think I'm going to throw in the towel. I know you all say patience is key, but there is a fine line between waiting for someone to call and getting a simple courtesy call. In the last 4 days, I haven't even gotten a courtesy call.

I crave communication as a Taurus and I'm not getting my fill with this guy. 😢

Aren't you guys supposed to move in together?

no...that's TaurusGoddess and her Scorpio.

Hey, Pluto. When he was a kid, he went horseback riding and the horse bucked him off and although he was in a lot of pain, he didn't complain enough to have his parents take him to the doctor. About 5 years ago, he reinjured his back and they did xrays and it turns out that he actually had a fractured back from when he fell off the horse...so now he has to be careful with his back and he plans to have surgery to put in a pin or something to ease the pain in his back. He hasn't done it because the recovery time is approximately 8 months.

So I imagine that he hurt his back pretty bad if he didn't go into work yesterday.

He hurt his back and I'm sorry for that and don't wish bad karma because of that.

He still could call, right? I know I'm being selfish.

Its quite common for scorps to have back problems. Wonder whats that to do with? lol...

Hmmm..could think of a few things..

I suffer from back problems too at times..

Whats the deal with your scorpio HP? You seem down

A little down. I'll recover. 🙂 😢

Lately, just seems like he has one excuse after another.

I am about 75% certain I'm throwing in the towel.

Sounds good this time, Pluto. But if you recall, this isn't the first time he's either not called when he said he would or let's not forget, standing me up.

😢

Well if its any consulation HP, my instincts are giving me bad vibes about the Virgo. Haven't heard from him Since Friday. Don't know whats gone on there. He asked to meet several times but then I finally agreed, he said he'll get back to me Monday. I know he went to Spain on Saturday till Monday but I haven't heard anything from him. Not like him, usually if he's not online, he'll send several text messages...

Bad week I can sense it.

How long you guys been together?

Not very long, MM> only a month.

I still don't like to feel like my time is being wasted and I definitely don't want to feel like I'm wasting his.

Cool thanks Pluto. Maybe your right..Yeah its just a gut feeling. I couldn't sleep last night and thats unusual for me to worry like that. Hmm..bizarre..but yeah its not like I am rushing off to anybody else. My instincts are usually right though..so we shall see..Like you say, early days. His text message on Friday was a bit offish too..you know the kind you just send to be polite. But he didn't need to send one at all..so who knows..Not going to think about it. I didn't reply back because I didn't like the text message franky. Lol.

I think its close to my monthly visitors time..Probably why I feel a bit 😢

I'm so sorry but yeah Taurus And Scorp couples are becoming quite common on this board so i am getting doggone confused. So sorry-HP I didn't even look. I think I got confused. I know about you and your Scorp. My bad mama!

Aww HP - Its early days yet...He's probably still trying to get comfortable with you etc..In that case, I would suggest wait and see what happens..Just don't phone him at all? Is he the chatty type or the reclusive type?

How many times do you guys speak to each other in a week, how many times do you see each other?

no prob, karima!

i'll still come visit this room even if it doesn't work out with the Scorpio. 😢

First he was sick right? Now with the back problems? I think you should tell him how you feel...It's a shame his back was hurt and also that he was sick but I mean if he expects things to progress he needs to "jump on the bandwagon".

Where are you based Pluto?

Ok, I will try and forget about him.

MM,

Your Virgo guy could be doing the disappearing act now for a little while to think things through. He might be in thinking mode of what to do next regarding you and he. Don't give up hope. Virgos usually come back when you least expect it. However, I think that goes for mature Virgos. The one in my case is the immature one. Hang in there.

HP ... altough every one is different, and a great deal depends on the level/length of your relationship ... it has been my experience that guy Scorps only call if there is a purpose (e.g., setting a date, needing to discuss an issue that they may be struggling with) .... if it is going to cause you turmoil to have concern over the one initating the contact, then simply resolves yourself not to - not from a throw in the towel perspective, but more of the tad old-fashioned notion that believes in leaving the ball in his court, either he will be the man and pick it up or not.

"i'll still come visit this room even if it doesn't work out with the Scorpio"

Oh come on HP...Lets start thinking positively here yeah!...lets no get ahead of ourselves...LOL...

We have spoken a few times here and there....we primarily email, but today is different. I got an email from him stating his back went out on Saturday and that he's dealing with client issues...said he's getting caught up and will get back with me later today. I find that strange because despite our busy work days, he never had an issue with emailing me.

In the last 2 weeks, I've seen him once.

"that guy Scorps only call if there is a purpose (e.g., setting a date, needing to discuss an issue that they may be struggling with"

Well said Leotoscorp...That applies to me as a Scorpio women as well..I never call unless I really need something, however I don't mind people calling me..I will quite happily chat away. But don't call me excessively..that bugs me..like 2 days in a row.

Mystical - Yeah not worried..Don't know him well enough to worry that much. He's probably just gone into thinking mode etc or tired from his holidays and first day back at work today too..Yeah your one was an alien..no disprect to you..but he was a bizarre one..This one is pretty straightforward..I think if it wasn't working out, he'll tell me straight out..thats how blunt he is. Thats what I like about him.

HP - Don't give up just yet..or think about throwing in the towel..at least give it a couple of weeks..see how much effort he makes.

I think for me personally, its the onslaught of those monthly visitors. I always feel down when they arrive..

MM,

I get what you are saying. I just have to look at it as I'm being saved from more heartache. It's been miserable but I've learnt a lot even though, which is a positive thing. Everything in life is a learning experience. There was a reason why that Virgo guy came into my life. Just as the Virgo guy in your case has come into your life. Great your Virgo guy is blunt with you. The Virgo guy with me was usually honest but at times I would get a strange vibe like something wasn't right. I ignored my gut instinct and that is something I shouldn't have done. Never ignore that. I've never done that before in my life and I won't ever again.

HP74,
Hang in there with your Scorp guy. I don't have any experience regarding Scorps, but generally speaking, give him some more time as he does have some things going on right now. Don't take contact with him. You see, I'm never the type to take contact with guys and let them come to me. Unfortunately, with the Virgo guy, I started to take contact with him and somehow the roles got reversed and it was me having to take contact with him. I know it's hard to not want to take contact but be careful. This girl has learnt a valuable lesson.

thanks. i've decided to just let him go...

HP74,

You say you decided to let him go. Okay, but just let things be. If he comes back to you then you might have a better idea of where things stand. I'm doing the same thing regarding the Virgo in my case. If I ever hear from him again, I don't know, but there isn't much one can do. A girl does have to keep her self-respect.

you're absolutely right.

i've given him every benefit of the doubt yet there are things that still don't make sense and i can't help but feel i've been disrespected to some degree.

yes, i'm being selfish...but as i've said before, it's not just this incident. there have been other incidents that i haven't shared on this board.

i'm cool...and i no longer expect anything.

🙂

if he contacts me, then fine - i'll talk to him, but i've learned my lesson.

hp... truly... have patience. i'd almost bet money that your scorp hasn't decided to let you go... not by a longshot. send him an email and give him the comfort of knowing that you're there for him while he's going through this stressful time and do just that, but if you need to direct your attention to something else while he's not contacting you, then by all means... dont allow yourself to create worries and problems for yourself. take the time to focus on you and keep your mind busy on other things, hon.

I did send him an email about 2 hours ago and that said "I'm sorry you're having back problems. I hope everything else is going well. If you need me to come over and cook dinner and give you some TLC, let me know. Get well soon!"

No response...

I've been in the same boat as you. I don't think it has to do with sun signs, but in general, how these men are. Men are different from women and vice verse. We don't think the same at all. Women like to have contact with the one they like. From what I've understood regarding the male species that they don't seem to think having daily communication is a necessarity. There are some women who are like that too. I don't like someone bothering me every day, but I do like for there to be regular contact. Sometimes when our inner voice speaks to us we should listen to it. It's something I've learned that I can't ignore it even if I don't like what it's saying to me.

There's a limit to everyone's patience...

yes, i'm pulling back. thanks.

Now I'm just venting...

My time is valuable. People who enter and stay in my life have value and bring an asset into my life. If I feel they're wasting my time or vise versa, then I start to erase them out of the picture.

I'm slow to get into any relationship and I respect your opinions about how scorps are and that's totally fine with me. but my concern is not over whether he's "falling" for me - frankly, it's too early for that.

But if you say you're going to call me, you better damn well do it. If you say you're going to come over, you better damn well do it - or if you can't make it, you better damn well call me and let me know. When you preach to me that you think it's important not to leave your friends and family hanging when you call them or if you disappear to let people know you're ok once you get back in town, you better damn well practice what you preach.

When someone sends you more emails than calls you, then you begin to wonder what's the deal. When emails suddenly stop, you start to wonder more what's the deal....

See, it's not about exclusivity with him; it's about inconsistencies and double standards. i'm not one to appreciate someone saying one thing and doing another.

Ok, I'm off my soapbox for now. I'm beginning to slip.

It's 1pm where I am...is that too early to drink?

Now I'm just venting...

My time is valuable. People who enter and stay in my life have value and bring an asset into my life. If I feel they're wasting my time or vise versa, then I start to erase them out of the picture.

I'm slow to get into any relationship and I respect your opinions about how scorps are and that's totally fine with me. but my concern is not over whether he's "falling" for me - frankly, it's too early for that.

But if you say you're going to call me, you better damn well do it. If you say you're going to come over, you better damn well do it - or if you can't make it, you better damn well call me and let me know. When you preach to me that you think it's important not to leave your friends and family hanging when you call them or if you disappear to let people know you're ok once you get back in town, you better damn well practice what you preach.

When someone sends you more emails than calls you, then you begin to wonder what's the deal. When emails suddenly stop, you start to wonder more what's the deal....

See, it's not about exclusivity with him; it's about inconsistencies and double standards. i'm not one to appreciate someone saying one thing and doing another.

Ok, I'm off my soapbox for now. I'm beginning to slip.

It's 1pm where I am...is that too early to drink?

**rolls eyes**

MEN!!!

But yeah a scorp in love is truly a sight to see..Smile the size of china!..

sorry for the double post.

HP74,

OMG. You and I seem to be a lot a like. I wonder if it has to do with both of us having Moon in Leo. Reading your last post was as if I'd written it myself.

He said he'd get back with me later today once he got caught up. He has until the end of the business day. If no contact, then I walk away...

Which, of course, if he doesn't get back with me later day as he promised, then I should take that as yet another time he doesn't stick to his promise/plans and in essence he's dropped me first.

Oooh I just got a text from my Virgo..He called me a stingy cow for not phoning or texting him..hahahah!..Well that serves him right for sending me a crappy message on Friday!..

I'm happy he contacted you. sending him a reply with just "moooooooo"

HP - did he say that he was going to get back with you BEFORE you sent the 'let me know if you want TLC & cook dinner offer'? Just thinking he may not respond to that e-mail for two reasons - 1) he said that he would get back later (taking him at his word 'this' time); (2) you gave him a statement -- I know one Scorp that seems to never respond to that particular type phrasing; however, if you said the same thing, but asking how would he feel if you came over, yadda, yadda, OR what do you think then that is a definitive warranting a response - if he doesn't respond to that type of question then that speaks volumes in the negative sense - to me, any way.

MM,

How nice for you that you heard from Virgo guy. I'm happy for you.

Once he emailed me to let me know he hurt his back and he'd get back with me later today after he got caught up, i sent him an ecard with the "TLC and cooking" comments.

I would like that someone sent me a card to let me know they're thinking of me. Even if I was really busy, I'd acknowledge the sentiment by sending a quick "thank you".

absolutely correct, SIL. it just sucks. maybe i'm over analyzing.

Lol!..

I was just reading your venting comment and thought that it could be, your scorpio is not a phone kinda guy. That can happen. One of my very close male friends (Scorpio) is not a phone person at all..he's quite reclusive..I speak mostly on msn to him. He's become more confident but he really wasn't a phone person to start with. Even though we've known each other for 5 years, I still have to kick his butt to get a conversation out of him. He will come to me in times of need or whenever he wants a shopping buddy or just wants to go cinema, but he doesn't say much at all..It annoys me as I am a livewire most of the time..but I love him nonetheless..