How would you feel if you were stood up?

OK, after waiting for this Scorpio guy to come over tonight to watch a movie, I get stood up. During our emails today, we went back and forth on all sorts of topics. Towards the end of the day, I emailed him and said "too bad you can't come over" and he replied "I can postpone my appointment". I told him that that was up to him and even asked him if he would be too tired to come over. He had a prior engagement as well with his mother which I told him was perfectly fine and if he needed to not come over that I would understand. He replied "No I will be fine. I'll call you when I'm leaving". Well that was 4 1/2 hours ago.

In a sense I'm rather upset that I was stood up, but in another sense, I rationalize that we did make last minute plans and I sometimes can't stick to last minute plans.

But what I am most upset over is the fact that during this 4 1/2 hour timeframe, I have not done anything but wait for him to at least call to let me know that he's not coming over afterall.

I finally had it and sent him a text message that simply says "Good night".

Am I out of line, ladies? Don't you think that he could have at least the common and decent courtesy to step away from dinner with his parents and make a quick phone call to say that the dinner is longer than planned?

That's what I'm most upset over...

i had a similar experience last month...was pissed coz we had tentative plans and he said he would call to confirm. well, i kept the evening free, and by 9 pm and no call i had had it. i knew that the smart thing to do would be to let it slide and just lightly say the next time, what happened to you the other night??

but no, i had to call and bust his ba**s. i said that i expected at least a courtesy call - that's what i was upset about, not the fact that he couldn't come over.

we smoothed things over and i kinda felt like a heel but i didn't apologize coz i didn't think i was wrong. doesn't matter if we're casual or not - i just felt it was plain rude and i had to let him know it wasn't ok

sorry, didn't mean to take off but it's one of my pet peeves. am sure he has a good reason for not calling, you'll find out soon enough.

It's also a pet peeve of mine. I gave him the opportunity to back out, but he made the point to say that he'd call when he was coming over. It's almost 10 pm and I'm not letting him come over this late.

Should I let him sweat a little while if he emails me in the morning?

that is, if he even has the half-a $ $ courtesy to email me his excuse...

even though that is probably the smart thing to do, for me personally i don't like playing those games, coz i don't like it when people do it to me.

by the time you read his email and digest what he had to say, and figuring out what to say in return will make him sweat enough anyway...the advantage of email is that you see it all in black and white before you send it so you don't say something you might regret later (not like me, the phone's a big no-no when am pissed)

i'd probably want to work it in there somewhere about that being somewhat of a pet peeve (that's what i did in an email the next day....when i was done being psycho) - all i said was i didn't mean to take your head off, you just stumbled on a pet peeve of mine. i'd expect the courtesy call from any of my friends, family or colleagues. guess it's just a part of getting to know each other....

LOL, am sure he will email you. he probably feels awful right now 🙂

i was tempted to send him a sarcastic text message, but settled for "good night"...figured that said what i needed to say...

at least i did the courtesy of letting him know i'm going to bed in case he was making a mad dash over here to see me...yeah right!

if he feels awful, then WTF can't he call? boys...

"I am getting a definite vibe about this that goes beyond his failure to call you this evening."

Elaborate please.

it's good to take the high road - hang tough.

i like to treat people the way i want to be treated

you know, be prepped he may not have a good excuse. my guy when i confronted him said that truthfully, he just plum forgot. he was busy getting ready for a 2 week business trip, had a long day at work and a string of errands he was trying to remember and forgot we made tentative plans. of course that did nothing for my ego 😢 he said, c'mon we both lead busy lives blah blah blah...can we just chalk this up to an honest mistake??

i think if i had done the whole lighthearted "hey, what happened to you last night?" he might've felt awful forgetting and been like, "omg, i totally forgot! i'm so sorry, was really busy and was so tired it was all i could do to drive home in one piece", which is really all us women need to hear to feel better and be forgiving, right?? but instead, coz i called him with both guns blazing he got all defensive and crap...don't think you wanna go there. be cool, wait to hear what he has to say...get a good night's sleep

I've had 3 glasses of wine and I am now seeing why TG called her Scorp and let him have it....

I think we all do the sexual teasing and banter when we are attracted to someone. There's nothing wrong with that. But something about this situation is making my guts (intuition) take notice.

In Law, you think he's just stringing me along?

I'm not. I have more control than that...

Just a bit pissed off. Taurys don't get mad often, but when we do....

what also pisses me off about this whole situation is that one of our emails we talked about how he doesn't like to worry about people and if they are expected somewhere, he'd like to know if they aren't going to make or is running late.

Catch 22, dontcha think?

In Law, I'm drunk and you're confusing me. LOL

I deserve the same...you think he's hiding something?

LOL....sorry, alcohol and me....shouldn't go in the same sentence sometimes. 😛

don't do the drunk dial thing.....delete his # right now if you have to...but don't do it. i was sober when i let him have it, and would've been waaay uglier if i'd done it with a few in me, lol

no guys, i'm not going to call him....but i'm just a little upset still that this guy is the one who initiates coming over and then doesn't....doesn't come over, doesn't even call to say he's not...

F(*^&😉(&()(&*ing rude.

well you can bet your boots that i'm not playing 20 questions with him tomorrow! LOL

oh and IN Law, yes, it's some mighty good wine. 3 globet sizes.

crap, I men oblet sizes.

crap[, i MEAN GOBLET sizez.

crap, I give up....no more wine.

lol...amuse yourself by thinking of all the ways he can make it up to you. listen to his excuse tomorrow, and then you can say, "well, you can make it up to me by [insert your wish here]..."

man, i wish i'd known about DXP when this happened to me 🙂 it would've avoided my psycho episode

the internet police is going to issue me a TWI

typing while intoxicated

GRRR....here i was doing good with this guy and then he has to go and make plans with me.

hey now....

here's what i figure i will do tomorrow:

i am going to be so figgin stubborn and ignore him and make him realize that i didn't appreciate him not calling me.

then i'll email him 4 hours later after he sends me a second or third email and i'll reply "I'm sorry, was I supposed to reply?"

ok you guys are my sounding bard now....it's either this or call him and i really don't like me when i'm upset...

i think i've made myself too available to him...do scorpios want a challenge?

part of me thinks he lied about what he really did tonight. i don't know why this just came to me, but i think he may have had a date with someone.

am i just being paranoid?

like that seinfeld episode about the "upper hand" , LOL, classic

part of me thinks i'm just paranoid, but part of me still believes he did.

I'm QUEEN of my Castle, Scorp5pt0...hey your name is hard to type when drunk! my fingers don't do the number pad very well.

all of your Scorps who haven't dealt with a Taurus are dealing with one now!

we're as stubborn as you!

LOL @ pluto ... you are cut off from the ol' vino there 🙂

just wait to hear what he has say tomorrow, then decide what action to take

and man...i shaved my legs tonight...oh well, i guess it saves me time in the morning.

In Law, you're right...Taurus are too trusting...i think you said that....or maybe i thought that...either way.

lmao
good thing you did that before the vino

you're right scorppt...sorry can't type numbers right now

s'ok HP....lol

have you ever seen the movie "never been kissed"? remember the part of the movie where she comes home after being given the magic brownie and she eats all the pie and asks "What happened to all the pie?"?

Well, what happened to all my wine?

no that i was given a magic brownie or anything...

you're hilarious...

have you thought about how he can make it up to you yet

no...ya'll give me some ideas.

for starters he can get you a new bottle of wine, lol

ooooooooo that's good.

all my other ideas are x-rated :p

he may as well make you dinner with that wine too

oh he's not getting any sexual questions tomorrow....

they're all going to be food or politics related....

well, then ask him what he's making you for dinner 🙂

actually, i'm just really turned off by him right now.

he could have called, right?

uh huh. yup. no question.

but that's for you to deal with tomorrow....