OceanDeep
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i've told him clear to leave me alone and not to talk to me any more. my colleagues have my back and he's already been fired. so far, he's sent 4 messages saying goodbye and that he's had enough...it's the last nail in the coffin...i'm done with you and everyone..you won't see me again...why don't you go back to [insert name of previous bad experience] and perhaps you can man share with his new woman although he didn't want you before....all i wanted to do was love and GUIDE you....
he has no car and i live an hour's drive away from him. i'm hoping to move in the next few days. i'll have to change my mobile number and keep a low profile.
he's succeeded in making me feel shit about myself with his insult. i am a man-free zone from the point until the foreseeable.
he has no car and i live an hour's drive away from him. i'm hoping to move in the next few days. i'll have to change my mobile number and keep a low profile.
he's succeeded in making me feel shit about myself with his insult. i am a man-free zone from the point until the foreseeable.
its a sad sight, but the fact of the matter is this dude is crazy, and you're going to go back to him.
it is a sad fact that the dude is crazy but i am not and i won't be going back to him...i wasn't even 'with' him..it was just a couple of few dates which started out nice until he turned psycho.
there is definately something in me that's attracting these types but i have worked through most of those issues in previous controlling relationships to the extent that i will get out of something that's bad really quickly...the only thing i have to deal with is what i'm doing to attract them in the first place.
to be honest, i think it was because i had a terrible year last year, healthwise, relationship-wise, financially and domestically too and so i was on the floor when i met the psycho...which in retrospect should've been my signal not to get involved but hey, i thought there was nothing wrong with hanging out with him at first cos he was fun to hang out with....again in retrospect i know this also to be part of the bait to draw people in to relationships that will take another turn altogether when established, or perceived by the psycho as being established.
he mis-judged me though and i saw it coming when his personality switched to mental just over a week ago.
i have learned that the only one who perpetuates abusive relationships is the one who stays in it - giving the green light for it continue.
yeah, i feel shit about myself to a certain degree but i also feel that this experience has assisted me in getting over other bad experiences and i have stopped beating myself up. it's confirmed to me that i will never, ever be in a controlling, abusive relationship again.
i'm not in as vulnerable position as i thought i was...and it's the vulnerability that attracts these people.
there is definately something in me that's attracting these types but i have worked through most of those issues in previous controlling relationships to the extent that i will get out of something that's bad really quickly...the only thing i have to deal with is what i'm doing to attract them in the first place.
to be honest, i think it was because i had a terrible year last year, healthwise, relationship-wise, financially and domestically too and so i was on the floor when i met the psycho...which in retrospect should've been my signal not to get involved but hey, i thought there was nothing wrong with hanging out with him at first cos he was fun to hang out with....again in retrospect i know this also to be part of the bait to draw people in to relationships that will take another turn altogether when established, or perceived by the psycho as being established.
he mis-judged me though and i saw it coming when his personality switched to mental just over a week ago.
i have learned that the only one who perpetuates abusive relationships is the one who stays in it - giving the green light for it continue.
yeah, i feel shit about myself to a certain degree but i also feel that this experience has assisted me in getting over other bad experiences and i have stopped beating myself up. it's confirmed to me that i will never, ever be in a controlling, abusive relationship again.
i'm not in as vulnerable position as i thought i was...and it's the vulnerability that attracts these people.
on friday night, there was a crescendo of abuse from the psycho-sag which has left me no alternative but to take his texts, fb messages and ansaphone threats to the cops. in between the threats, he was sending e-valentine's cards and long conciliatory emails. i didn't want to block all communication until i had moved as he knows where i live and i have my young daughter living with me (who he has never met of course). however, i realised that in keeping communication open, it was making things worse anyway and giving him hope, so i have blocked him everywhere. fortunately, i have 24 hour security where i live and so until i move, i have the guard's cellphone ready to miscall him if i need to...plus i have a dog who will let me know if there's anyone around who shouldn't be.
i have learned from this that i am too wishy-washy when it comes to saying i'm not interested in someone. i feel bad about hurting someone's feelings which is ridiculous when they can become psychotic like in this case. it's just better all round not to beat about the bush or string people along. perhaps it's a touch of the scorpio attention whore rearing its ugly head.
definately an element of karma involved, as there usually is. i've learned my lesson and am moving on.
think before playing head games.
i have learned from this that i am too wishy-washy when it comes to saying i'm not interested in someone. i feel bad about hurting someone's feelings which is ridiculous when they can become psychotic like in this case. it's just better all round not to beat about the bush or string people along. perhaps it's a touch of the scorpio attention whore rearing its ugly head.
definately an element of karma involved, as there usually is. i've learned my lesson and am moving on.
think before playing head games.
unfortunately, it's not possible to have a firearm where i am in europe...well, i could have a winchester or something but if anything other than a wild boar was killed with it, i'd be screwed, lol.
he didn't directly threaten me...just called me names. what he did do though was to make threats against my ex husband who lives with my son in a different country..that was because he thought it was all his fault that i was 'emotionally damaged' and 'unable to have feelings', which is bullshit. he said he was going to call his ex marine boys and they would go through his front door with cattleprods and cs gas and tear him a new asshole. he even got my ex's full name, his partners full name and their area code for where they live and posted it to me saying he was on the phone and i was to see what happened next.
that was the point i got the police involved.
he seems to have loads of email addresses and keeps sending from different ones which i block as they come. his only contact yesterday was a message saying something about what my daughter had posted on facebook....so i changed her privacy settings so it won't happen again. again, he resents my daughter because he thinks she prevents me from doing my own thing (which i call parental responsibilty personally).
he knows my kids are my world and that's what worries me with him. what are the chances he will just shrug and walk away?
he didn't directly threaten me...just called me names. what he did do though was to make threats against my ex husband who lives with my son in a different country..that was because he thought it was all his fault that i was 'emotionally damaged' and 'unable to have feelings', which is bullshit. he said he was going to call his ex marine boys and they would go through his front door with cattleprods and cs gas and tear him a new asshole. he even got my ex's full name, his partners full name and their area code for where they live and posted it to me saying he was on the phone and i was to see what happened next.
that was the point i got the police involved.
he seems to have loads of email addresses and keeps sending from different ones which i block as they come. his only contact yesterday was a message saying something about what my daughter had posted on facebook....so i changed her privacy settings so it won't happen again. again, he resents my daughter because he thinks she prevents me from doing my own thing (which i call parental responsibilty personally).
he knows my kids are my world and that's what worries me with him. what are the chances he will just shrug and walk away?
Posted by Stinger Baby
if all else fails, i suggest making a firearm your closest, dearest, BEST friend.
LOL!! 😄
Nice, I like that advice a lot!! 🙂
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