Scorpio has devestated me :( (Page 2)

No worries about the hijack thread ...please do so ....always good to celebrate good news. Good for you Scorp_Chic.

"No that is when it was great. The communication was open and we enjoyed each other's company"

okaaaaayyyy...................ssssoooo..............keep re-evaluating .... ..........

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PD, Any time you feel fear coming in, ask yourself a few simple questions to get control and keep things in proper perspective:


1) What am I so afraid of?

2) Is this "fear" something real that I can validate (back to re-evaluating), or just something trying to disturb my peace of mind?

3) Is this "fear" based on past experience and not the present? If in the past, should I allow it to affect my present and future when it has no place there?

4) Is my blood sugar low? Do I need a happy meal?


PD, those are just a few. Well, the last one was a funny, but truly, having low blood sugar can bring us down, girl!

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At any rate, those kinds of questions can help you locate whether or not it is some negative thinking in your head (which would be an issue that YOU need to work on) or actual fact. Take responsibility for how you think and don't try to impose those thoughts of insecurity on your man. It's not right and it almost ALWAYS backfires.

So, if we have misjudged someone, we need to big enough to take ownership of our misjudgments and apologize to those we've wrongly accused.

PD, I guarantee that if you approach your guy with that attitude, he will have nothing but respect for you. IN FACT, he may even offer an apology to you for his behavior since it had such a negative effect on you. Either way, you will have OWNED your impulsive behavior, apologized for being presumptive about what he's "ready" to do, and expressed a desire to start over (without losing your dignity or playing games). However he responds isn't really the issue. You'll feel better about yourself and can keep it moving -- with or without him.

Pathfinder you are kick ass.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Pisces_Dream
Wow some real class acts on this site. Thanks for making me feel even more dumpy. P-A $ $ hole ....I would expect nothing better from you this is the best person you know how to be. You succeed at being a real Beotch!!! Keep up the good work the title fits you well!!

I hope when you all feel down in the dumps someone does not treat you like you have me.

PD

I'm sure that's exactly how those men felt, that you kicked to curb after taking them.

that's your karma not mine .. I couldn't care a less how you feel

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I will agree with P-Angel on this one.
( See ... I'm a reasonable guy! )

Posted by Pisces_Dream

...I think Seavixen also has a pretty good understanding of Scorpio's as well. 🙂

...guess who Taught her 49% of what she knows.

SF - I actually thought about the whole grandpa thing however I believe everyone is entitled to their grief. I did know he was rather close to his grandfather. I know and understand first hand about grief when my mother died I learned grief is such an individual thing there is no exact way people "should or should not" react. I respect whatever happens to people and when I give advice.....I just remind people to be gentle with themselves and grief is such an individual thing and respect them for who they are in emotions of grief. I really tried to do that with Scorpio by giving him his space. I know I mentioned I wanted to date other people..... and maybe it was not the appropriate time to do so. I am in a right place and I am ready for relationship. I even made myself available to do things for him and be there for him and he shut me out. I cannot help or be there for him by him shutting me out as he did. 😢 I respect that maybe he was not 100% available and that is the way he processes his emotions. I honestly did not think it would be a big deal to see other people because we were not exclusive to one another and we only had begin to see each other. I never questioned if he was seeing others. I know I stopped seeing others.

I have decided to let this scorpio go. I agree with you SF .....if he is this cold I am not sure it is the kind of relationship that is good for me and if he is not even in to me ...I would be spinning my wheels. I know you talked about the fear Pathfinder and I do agree you have some valid points and I will apply those to my life. You also said you never chased your Scorpio. I don't think I am going to chase this scorpio either. My door will stay cracked open for a bit for him ...just in case .....but I will be ready to close the door soon enough. 😢 I know it may sound crazy but I believe in following the path of the universe and when doors close new windows and doors open. I cannot be holding on to closed doors and not available for "Real" love if I am holding on to an illusion. As I mentioned I wrote the last email and he never responded so I will respect that it is a done deal. As I mentioned I will either shoot him a text or email for his birthday but that is the extent of how much more effort I am going to put into this.

I got an apology email from hit tonight.........I really was not expecting this. I don't know what to do now. *Listens to Pathfinder and get control of my emotions*

Pd

It's a pattern, her pattern.

She creates the energy in which causes the other to pull away .. and then she says it's not her, that she feels deeply for him.

She is the one who planted that seed in his mind to doubt.


Same Shit, Different Dude

Posted by Pisces_Dream

I even made myself available to do things for him and be there for him and he shut me out.

I cannot help or be there for him by him shutting me out as he did. :

( I respect that maybe he was not 100% available and that is the way he processes his emotions.

I honestly did not think it would be a big deal to see other people because we were not exclusive to one another and we only had begin to see each other.

I never questioned if he was seeing others.

I know I stopped seeing others.

wow, so she stops seeing others for him and mentions him not being 100% available for her .. for this, he is deemed guilty of all the judgements you all made about him ... when the reality of is ....


"I honestly did not think it would be a big deal to see other people because ..."

..... she actually planted that seed and thought it no big deal.


If it's no big deal, then shut the fuck up

P-Angel -

I don't know you and I don't know Pices_Dream, but I'd like to say a few quick things. I've been on the boards for about six months. Sometimes I post, often not. I'm not familiar with either of you enough to be in a position to take sides or throw accusations, but I will say your torment of PD is pretty troubling. Now, I've seen some other posters come and say they support you, but really, is it worth it to you?

I feel like you are being very offensive and coming on full claws extended and you aren't getting the fight back you are looking for. At this point no matter how right you may be or not be, I think you look more like a bully than anything else. If you don't like what Pices_Dream has to say, can't you just read another thread? I feel like this should be a forum where people should be encouraged to post and talk openly.

If you are more evolved, more considerate of people's feelings I implore you to ignore those whom you deem lesser and not openly harass them. You know the old saying about "stooping to someone else's level"? Again, I am not in support of anything Pices_Dream has or hasn't done, I'm more in support of a friendly open forum where if you don't like something, you go and read something else instead of launching a full blown attack on someone who obviously isn't engaging.

I'd even go so far as to say.... post once your thoughts and then be done with it. At this point you've posted more than a couple nasty things, all with no response. Can't you see what a bully you must look like to other posters who haven't been around for a long time and aren't a part of the "core circle" who all know each other? To me that could be a major deterrent to new people joining the community.

Soap box put away and praying you don't take this as a personal attack, but more an observation from an unbiased party.

Why would I give a fuck what you think about my beef with her?


The only people who matter to me, and why, are the people I choose for them too .... and you aren't one of them, so whether or not you like what I say, or whether you understand .. means zilch to me.

She's a slut .. she's been a member here for quite a while, changing screenames everytime people begin to realize that she's the woman who makes men treat REAL women like cunts.

And I really don't give a fuck what you think of me calling her out on it ... I won't stop. So long as there are decent women in this world trying to find a REAL man who knows how to treat her, I will continue to call cunts out for fucking with mens heads and creating the situatio in which men mistrust women.

If you don't like it, then you can go fuck yourself .... because it would indicate to me that you are just like her ... a whore who ruins men.

You really are retarded, aren't you?


One side of your mouth says you read my posts ... the other side of your mouth says just bullshit as ...


"If you are more evolved, more considerate of people's feelings I implore you .."


And you would actually talk about how I look !!!

I look exactly as I am .. you on the other hand just showed your bullshit.

I think someone hacked accounts -

P-Angel is making sense
( though she did bully a few people )

scorpio_chic is showing a photo
that is not as attractive as she, herself, is.



There is something so very wrong about all this.

Posted by scorpio_chic

Posted by P-Angel
You really are retarded, aren't you?


One side of your mouth says you read my posts ... the other side of your mouth says just bullshit as ...


"If you are more evolved, more considerate of people's feelings I implore you .."


And you would actually talk about how I look !!!

I look exactly as I am .. you on the other hand just showed your bullshit.

Are you retarded— You're the one quoting me on shit that I didn't even say. Genius. That would be the woman above me that said that bit about 'the more evolved..." etc. Get yourself together before you try to make an ass of someone else.

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*Nods head* Yes she is R E T A R D E D!!! Don't even get into banter with the beast. Did you not read the sign Scorpio_Chic?.....DO NOT FEED THE ANIMALS!!! 😉 That looser does that all the time to me quoting things that I NEVER said or did, and presuming that I leave men in the dust. She presumes I am lady killer or something that I treat men badly. The only thing I do is I do not tolerate being treated badly. I think there is nothing wrong with having healthy self-esteem and not tolerate when someone is wrong for me. If that sounds like I dump on men.....I just don't put up with someone who is bad for me. She acts like what she post about me really bothers me or if I even care or value her opinion. In Spanish we refer people as LOCO en el cabeza (Crazy in the head)!!! She is acting like a jealous girlfriend!!!I am glad she lives clear on the other side of this continent, because I would be fearful that she would actually physically stalk me. Seriously this behavior is so creepy it is not even funny.

As for what Gem posted ........don't fear this is normal behavior for her. She often times forgets to take her meds. Just learn to *smile* and walk away, that is the best thing to do. There are posters that are mature and there are those that arn't. I have learned to take what I want from this forum and leave the crazies to prove who they really are.

BTW - Scorpio_Pic you have lovely eyes!!! 🙂

GemsRaGalsBestPal - Are those your babies—? So adorable!!! I work on post-natal unit here where I live and I am so amazed at mom's with twins. I call those mommies "Super Moms", because it is hard enough to care for one infant but two ....WOW!!! My hat off to you. 🙂

Posted by scorpio_chic

Posted by P-Angel
You really are retarded, aren't you?


One side of your mouth says you read my posts ... the other side of your mouth says just bullshit as ...


"If you are more evolved, more considerate of people's feelings I implore you .."


And you would actually talk about how I look !!!

I look exactly as I am .. you on the other hand just showed your bullshit.

Are you retarded— You're the one quoting me on shit that I didn't even say. Genius. That would be the woman above me that said that bit about 'the more evolved..." etc. Get yourself together before you try to make an ass of someone else.

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I was talking to the Gemini Miss Intelligence .... way to go at not looking insecure.

Posted by scorpiopics

scorpio_chic is showing a photo
that is not as attractive as she, herself, is.

Seriously ... why would someone put up a pick that shows their eyes are slightly crossed?


**** shakes head ****

Because telling a guy that you think you should see other people right smack dab in the throws of gaining trust through bonding ... is being treated badly.



What a fucking douchebag ... the amount of men you've done this to is staggering.

They'll never know how many you've talked about in here though, will they ... because you delete your accounts.

Once these people get over being upset with my harsh words, they will begin to comprehend the truth ......


... you tell this Scorpio that you think you should see other people right when he is beginning to lower his guard ... is equivelent to trying amputate his stinger .. because it is essentially telling him that what you've gotten from him thus far isn't good enough.

And the fact that you say this so casually, as if it is no big deal to treat a person this way who was led to believe that you cared.


Then they'll actually get why it's a big deal that you be held accountible for what you do ... at which time, you can close this account down, like the others.

Posted by scorpio_chic

Posted by P-Angel
Once these people get over being upset with my harsh words, they will begin to comprehend the truth ......

It's your opinion PA. Your truth is not always going to be everyone elses truth. And I'd have no problem agreeing with you, like on that other thread about the chick dating that verbally abusive scorp, you were able to advise tactfully without resorting to calling her names or insulting her.

Why can't you always be that way? Maybe if we didn't have to sift through all the name calling and bashing that you use to bring down other women, maybe we'd care enough to see your truth.

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This is so very well said Scorpio_Chic!!! I used to actually like SOME of what she had to say but any more she is just downright mean spirited.

Posted by Pisces_Dream
GemsRaGalsBestPal - Are those your babies—? So adorable!!! I work on post-natal unit here where I live and I am so amazed at mom's with twins. I call those mommies "Super Moms", because it is hard enough to care for one infant but two ....WOW!!! My hat off to you. 🙂

LOL, no thank baby Jesus I don't have twins! I'm a single 27 year old woman. I think I'd really have my hands full then. I've that posted as a reference to my inner Gem twins. I do however have two dogs.... is that the same? No of course not, but they definitely keep me busy. 😉

How fun that you work in the post-natal unit! I bet you get to see some really amazing things. So actually, hats off to you my dear.

BTW, it seems I may have done the Gemini "stir the pot and then sit back to watch" thing unintentionally. I really didn't mean to stir up a bunch of shit. I just was pretty disgusted with the ugly language and bashing. It seems that in the future it's just going to be something I need to ignore and read past myself....

Pisces_Dream.

My heart goes to you.

Scorps really take it to heart when they feel abandoned. He may have felt you were setting the conditions of the relationship when what he may have needed is some time and space. Honesty is honorable, but you may not want to let on too much. Live your life, plan your plans, go out on dates, just keep from giving him too much information. Take time to access but don't dwell on it. Be gentle with yourself as you grieve.

I am working on a complicated relationship issue that has no immediate resolution at this time. I've learned to accept that things are not meant to move at the pace I want them to and not to rush things. I discovered the man I like can be quite spiteful when he's jealous. Good thing I didn't give into anything right away because there are things about his behavior I needed to see in technicolor and not in rose-color.

Posted by catfish36

I am working on a complicated relationship issue that has no immediate resolution at this time. I've learned to accept that things are not meant to move at the pace I want them to and not to rush things. I discovered the man I like can be quite spiteful when he's jealous. Good thing I didn't give into anything right away because there are things about his behavior I needed to see in technicolor and not in rose-color.

What is it about Pisces women?

Are they just a bunch of deluded whores or summat?

Here we have catfish who is talking about her new man she found, and her talk above takes on a slant to suggest that she just has to adjust her time frame, because being with him is a tad complicated.

The point is .... she has deluded herself into thinking that this is a potential relationship in which she is working towards .. when in reality .....

Posted by catfish36

Complications are this, he's married .....

Posted yesterday on the Pisces board .. this is her boss, and she just started this job several months ago, and during her first several months, this man (her boss) was supportive of her and nice to her. Now that she has adjusted into the company, he isn't as fussy over her, I guess because she has had plenty of time to find her place there.

Anyway, because he was nice to her ... she thinks it means something more, eventhough he tells her he's married.


No shit .. go read it on the Pisces board ..... what the fuck?

He's fucking married .. you dumb fuck. That's not a complication in which you just need to adjust yourself and wait on.

He belongs to someone else.


Just like PiscesDreamer, Catfish will take a man who isn't hers to take, she'll sleep with him or suck him off if the opportunity presents itself .. fucking bitch whores, both of you.

Openly, Catfish tries to ignore me, trying to pretend like she takes the high road and won't lower herself .. but, then like a coward, she strikes in a PM.



from catfish36 sent on 11/7/2010 at 5:59:25 AM
You're such a miserable fucking cunt. Bugger off! If you don't like what I post then don't post you bitch crone.



What a punk ..

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LMAO !

Yup

@ Eris -- Thank You 🙂

@ SatoriFierce -- "You're absolutely right, PathFinder, the Scorp would be very vengeful and immature ,"

Did I say that? Are you refering to my using the proverbial scorpio "sting"?

The "sting" I refer to is that he basically agreed with what PD presumed about him and her statement to see other people. It may have "stung" because perhaps she wasn't expecting him to agree with her. I don't see anything vengeful or immature about that, do you? Presumptions have a tendency to backfire (i.e.: sting us, bite us, etc.), but there can be recovery if we just own up to our own fear and how it reacted in the situation.

@ P-Angel "because it is essentially telling him that what you've gotten from him thus far isn't good enough. And the fact that you say this so casually, as if it is no big deal to treat a person this way who was led to believe that you cared."

Pisces_D, do you see the real heart of P-A here? If you read it in a softer voice, she is reaching out to you to let you know how the scorpio could have felt....

Scorps don't have that hard shell for nothing. It's to protect their sweet side 🙂

I don't know about you, but I love me some shellfish --- Lobster, crab, oysters... yummmm

PA, are you ex-military?

@ SatoriFierce -- "PathFinder... Do you just like to see other successful Scorp Male Pisces Female couples? I often see people giving biased advice here because they just like to see other couples with the same sign pairing that they have."

SF, I don't know that my advice is biased. Could you show me somewhere in my posts where any person couldn't apply the info I've given in any relationship or situation involving another person, regardless of gender or type of relationship? IMHO, it's not exclusive to astrology... or romance, for that matter.

So this is where I stand with Scorpio....I feel 100% resolved. He sent me a very nice apologetic email, however I am still unclear about what Scorpio wants from me. Can't decide if he sent it to me because he really cares / likes me or if he was just feeling guilty. I really liked Scorpio alot and I still do. I feel like I have to let go and if he really is into me, he will come back full force, and if not we can become friends again. I feel good about this. It is not the way I would have wanted it to play out. I feel like if I sit around and mope about what did not transpire and plot how I can get him to come back than I will drive myself batty....besides it will just make me more needy and probably annoying. I also feel like I will get in a bad habit of manipulation....and that is just not in my character. I am a pretty straight up girl and honestly I think that is why he gravitated toward me, and I am not about to change this. I will admit when I mentioned dating others ...the timing was definately not the best and I have learned from this experience. I am determined to be his friend with no hidden agenda ...maybe with our times when we hang out it will be more relaxed and the pressure of emotions and feelings will be more relaxed. I have also decided to not close the door on dating opportunities in hopes he comes around. I still think highly of this scorpio. I really want to work toward a relationship with someone and it could be we are at just different places in life. It is not good or bad ...it just is. I have learned alot about myself from this experience, and from the sounds of his email he has too. We never know what the future could hold, but for now .....it just isn't the cards for us to fulfill each other's needs other than friendship.

My life is pretty full right now...going to school, building my own practice up and getting my own business going, work, kids, and my own health regiment. So I have plenty to keep busy. I also have joined a few networking groups. If I believe in the law of the universe .......people come together like magnets when they have something to teach and learn from one another. Maybe we have fulfilled our lesson ...maybe there is more.

Thank you .....especially PF, Satori, and Scorp_Chic. 🙂 I think you all are becoming my new favs!!! 😉

PF - I will admit ....you might have a point about P-Angel. I think Scorp_Chic said it best that we would listen more if her presentation came out more bearable.....

"Can't decide if he sent it to me because he really cares / likes me or if he was just feeling guilty."

Pisces_D, I almost made a comment about this because it sounds like you are just determined to look at this situation from a negative standpoint. Then I considered that perhaps you are just "brainstorming" here -- basically sharing various thoughts that come to your mind, but not really meaning that you are taking any definite direction or seeking anyone's advice.

It's like you are blogging...

That's good therapy.


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Good Point Pathfinder!!! It is not that I am not taking anyone's advice; I am listening to what Scorpio has said and what he wants. He was the one who wants to be friends, so instead of looking at being friend??s negativity I am looking at things positively. Meaning, he is a great guy and he is worth putting my adoration for him aside to be his friend vs. pouty because he did not fall for me as fast I did for him or he did not feel the same. I don't know what his intentions are, and at this point I don't own that or need to know. I am sure it will reveal itself in time. I am just being myself by doing what I do. To me at the end of the day.....it sounds like he wanted control of the situation and he has it for the most part. He got exactly what he wanted.....to be friends and I think it actually will all be okay. 🙂 My feelings and his feelings may have gotten hurt, but I believe the expectation was definitely too high on my part and I own that. He can only feel what he feels....just because I felt strongly for him right away he could never possibly feel something he does not .....Or at least as fast as I did. Does that make sense? He however does not have control of the laws of the universe as I don't either. No one does. As I mentioned in my last post when people become magnetic to one another there is no control of that ....whether it be him and me, or him and someone else, or me and someone else. I have to give freedom to what transpires. The best thing I can do is be me, and not try to manipulate the situation. So far what I am doing is working. 🙂 He is talking to me again and the communication has been good. I am also attracting others. 🙂 At the end of all this ......I want to be happy, I want him to be happy whether we are together romantically or not. I cannot dwell on what should have happened or what should have not happened. I have to look toward the future. The old wise wisdom ....If you love someone set them free. (Although love is such a strong word since we were only newly dating but I believe there is something truth about this statement.)


Maybe I am writing a blog.....it is freeing to write things down whether it is here or in a blog. lol Maybe I should have written this in a blog. lol However I have learned from the feedback. I really have whether you think so or not. 😉 Especially when you talk about the whole fear thing.

All I know is ....I feel better about the whole thing and I think he does too. 🙂

PD

Posted by Pisces_Dream

All I know is ....I feel better about the whole thing and I think he does too. 🙂

PD

🙂