Scorpio-Leo: Doomed to fail?

Scorpio here, just started dating a Leo, but thinking of ending it. Looking for lion tamer advice.

We get along great for the most part, and generally, I think their heart is in the right place. But some things really irk me. I feel my stinger and pincers rearing their head so often, and I’m tired of their baggage lol. How have you dealt with your lions?

Pride: Good God, X thinks they are the shit. When talking to me, they’ll break conversation to compliment themselves on how good they think they look (my hair is so gorgeous today)... or how awesome some possession of theirs is (omg I have the BEST cell phone ever). They’re always telling me about how amazingly overqualified they are when they do anything (from sleeping, to drawing, to their job, to farting). It’s like they’re constantly fishing for reassurance in the most annoying way possible.

Selfishness: Everything revolves around them. They put their own needs above everyone, not just me, and think nothing of it. They like to talk, but they don’t like to listen. They will always say they’re busy, when they’re just being lazy at home and not doing anything. They never want to do what I want to do (me: “let’s get lunch!” Them: “Sorry I just ate, I’m full, I hate Italian food, I’m allergic to eating”).... but they expect me to drop whatever I’m doing, and be available when they want to do something. They’ve seriously showed up unannounced or uninvited at my house to get my attention. Lastly, we’ll start something together... then they’ll never want to do it with me, but I’ll always catch them doing it solo after they say their too busy to spend time with me. Like... we’re specifically watching a show together. Suddenly they don’t want to see it. When I bring it up, they say they’re too busy... But I can hear the show playing in the background. Ok, babe.

Jealousy: Dovetailing from Pride, it’s like X is always trying to make me jealous. They will say how so-and-so flirted with them, or how their ex is still super in love with them and sent them a nude pic, but they’re just friends, and we should all go on a double date. No, sweetie. No. And heaven forbid I do something better than X, or have a more attractive quality than they do. Suddenly, I become a horrible person.

Moody: Hey, I’m a Scorpio. I get the occasional moody bout. I’m all for personal space and individuality. But X plays hot and cold like no ones business. All over me one minute, dead to the world the next. And anything I do seems to upset them when they’re sad. If I tell them I care, they get annoyed because they already know. If I try to be there for them, there’s nothing I can really do, they just have to figure it out on their own. If I give them space, they get sad because they wanted me around.

So basically, I feel like a doll that they admire, but they only want to play with me when it’s convenient, and when it’s on their terms. Otherwise, I’m thrust in the toy box with their other discarded toys until they decide to grace me with their presence.

My Dad is a Scorpio and my mum a Leo.

Married twice to each other. Now FINALLY divorced again. No! just No! to this pairing.

I struggle to get on with Leo, there is just way too much DRAMA in everything they do or say.

My mum and both sisters are Leo.

Ok none of this really happened but thx for sharing

Posted by enfant_terrible
Ok none of this really happened but thx for sharing

Yes, it did happen. All of it. Even the allergic to eating part. Even the boasting about farting, and especially the suggesting a double date with their ex who sent them nude photos.

Thanks for your replies all.

Reading this made my head hurt

Are you referring your other half as being a Leo man?

If so, even I can't seem to connect in an intimate level with Leo men, majority have an inflated ego and likes to self praise too much. I find them over the top and it is actually less obvious compared to majority of Leo women I know.

Posted by Sooner_or_Later
"So basically, I feel like a doll that they admire, but they only want to play with me when it’s convenient, and when it’s on their terms. Otherwise, I’m thrust in the toy box with their other discarded toys until they decide to grace me with their presence."

^was in a relationship with a Leo and that was how I sometimes felt.

From what you've posted, sounds like your Leo is pretty manipulative and insecure. Perhaps they're not sure of what they want from a partner - so they're playing games with you.

The "all over you one minute, then dead to the world" in the next - I've had the exact thing happen to me. It's frustrating. One minute, they really want to get to know you, and the other, you have no idea wtf they're doing.

If your gut is telling you to end things, it might be best. One major thing I've learned - Scorp intuition is usually never wrong.

We are cold one minute then the next were hot and in your face but is that bad? lol i dont see that as a bad thing, we cant be all lovey dovey 24/7, thats kind of unrealistic. But trust us you are on our mind all the time.

this leo sounds like an ass.

the only thing i can relate to is when someone is talking to me i have to butt in and tell them something but I'm jus so excited... its a really bad habit.... trying to cool it.

My husband is a Scorpio and I'm a Leo ... We get along great he is my best friend .... And yes we have had our tug of war over the years but once Leo grows matures it's a powerful dynamic ... He taught me how to listen... To be mindful ... Because when I was younger I was a fire cracker ... It's all good now ....

Posted by Meowpie
Are you referring your other half as being a Leo man? If so, even I can't seem to connect in an intimate level with Leo men, majority have an inflated ego and likes to self praise too much. I find them over the top and it is actually less obvious compared to majority of Leo women I know.

Yeah! My other half is a Leo man, currently. It's weird, because one of my best friends was a Leo woman in high school, and we got along great for the most part.

Posted by Sooner_or_Later
If your gut is telling you to end things, it might be best. One major thing I've learned - Scorp intuition is usually never wrong. click to expandclick to expand

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For sure! He is pretty insecure and manipulative (or at least he tries to be). I'm sorry you had to go through some of what I posted! You're also right about Scorp intuition... mine has never steered me wrong. I get a lot of red flags in this relationship. However, we Scorps can also be self-destructive. And we also like challenges, so here I am. This relationship is still fresh, so I'm willing to give it an honest try before I call it quits. It just gets harder each day, and I think it will ultimately end.

Posted by DeleterNerd
I feel like he's just being honest and has no filter like me. Maybe try giving him more attention? You know like actually show him some love. We get nicer the less of a cookiemonster you are to us lol.

I appreciate your opinion, but honestly, I don't think giving him MORE attention is possible without groveling at his feet and letting him walk over me. He already wants everything on his terms, or he gets super moody. I am not going to bow down to a spoiled brat.

Posted by SewerRat89
this leo sounds like an ass. The only thing i can relate to is when someone is talking to me i have to butt in and tell them something but I'm jus so excited... its a really bad habit.... trying to cool it. click to expand

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Hi there, thanks for sharing. He can be a TOTAL ass. For example... He can talk about himself, his day, his problems, HIM, for hours. But the second I start to talk about me, he will idly cut me off 1 min later, and go on a tangent about him.

The worst was this: Once, after I had spoken for a few minutes, he had the nerve to tell me that he wasn't really listening to what I was saying; and he wouldn't even remember even having this conversation. Are you kidding? Are you fkn kidding me? You expect me to listen to you blab on for hours, but you can't be bothered to remember one thing that I have to say? Scorpio stinger: GO!

Posted by Bottabing
My husband is a Scorpio and I'm a Leo ... We get along great he is my best friend .... And yes we have had our tug of war over the years but once Leo grows matures it's a powerful dynamic ... He taught me how to listen... To be mindful ... Because when I was younger I was a fire cracker ... It's all good now ....

Hey, thanks for commenting. How did he teach you those things? Also, those ellipses (the .....) make me feel like there's something dark inside that you're not really saying lol 😉

I am a LEO and all of this is true. However, we do have some great qualities as well.

Learn to tame him....

Posted by Lioness18881
I didn't know we were that bad 😕

I was thinking i want a scorp for my next relationship but it sounds like you guys hate us.

Not really, dating the right Scorpio can be fun. Just both have to mature and communicate since our communication style is different. Mine failed due to major differences and he is still a baby Scorpio so now I am looking for a mature Scorpio just to test it again. 😛

Posted by 4evercharm
I am a LEO and all of this is true. However, we do have some great qualities as well. Learn to tame him....

Thank you for your honesty. I'm not a saint, and I'll gladly admit, we Scorpios have our own flaws. That's why I'm here: To learn. Even if this relationship goes down in flames, I want to get to the heart of what went wrong and why. I want to understand his annoying (in my opinion) Leo behavior. If you have any insight, it would be appreciated.

Posted by Lioness18881
I didn't know we were that bad 😕 I was thinking i want a scorp for my next relationship but it sounds like you guys hate us. click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

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Hi, thanks for coming. Sorry if I was harsh, that's honestly what he does and how he makes me feel. I don't hate Leos on principle... like I said: 1) over all, he and I get along... it's just when his blatantly rude + self-centric qualities come out that I can't stand him, and 2) one of my best friends in high school was a Leo woman. I can see X and I being good friends, I just don't know if we make a good couple. BUT I am still willing to give it a fair try. If you decide to try it, we are very good when we're good... but we can be very bad when we're bad. You have to be committed. Allow for open communication. Recognize that there are two individuals in this relationship with different, sometimes opposing needs that both need to be met.

Hi, I had to comment on your post as your situation sounds so much like mine. I'm a Leo w/ Scorpio rising, moon in Taurus, Venus in Libra. I'm engaged to a Leo with a Leo moon and Venus in Leo. The first year was great but after we became engaged I started seeing behavior like you're describing. I stayed with this guy hoping that he would change back to the sweet attentive guy that he was in the beginning. Big mistake. I'm preparing my exit as we speak. This dude will never change. It's like being with a child and I feel like his mommy. I think there is more going on here than astrology. I think my dude is a narcissist. He will never change. My only regret is wasting so much time hoping he would. He is selfish and I know I can do better. IMO, you should show him your back or you're in for years of misery trying to analyze every selfish behavior he displays. Don't take it personally either, he will be that way with every woman he is with once he knows he has her. Good luck to you!!!!