Scorpio man: does he love me or not?

I am a 45 year old Cancer woman in a very confussing relationship with a 44 year old Scorpio man. We met through
an online dating site and texted for a week before meeting. Our first date was a lunch date in which we talked for 5 hours! The
attraction was immediate and I felt comfortable with him like I had known him for years! When we finally left the restaurant he grabbed me
in the parking lot and gave me the most passionate, deep kisses of my life! It made my knees buckle! We set up a date for the next day but I could not wait
I invited myself over to his house at 11:00 that night to "watch a movie" which quickly led into a make-out session then bed. I
have never in my life slept with someone I just met but I couldn't help myself! For the next 5 days I spent almost every night at his
house and most of the days too. We talked great depth about our failed marriages; I was married 22 years he was married 18 years.
We found we had similar stories because we were both the co-dependents iwith mentally ill spouses. Ia felt like I could tell him anything
and did! He was always very supportive and understanding. He said he had never had a woman over to his house since his divorce
3 years ago. He told me he was crazy about me. He texted me all day long whrn we were apart. He was open and very affectionate with me until the 5th night. That night I told him I was falling in love with him. After making love he rolled away and turned his back to me and got on his smart phone when he thought I was asleep. I thought he was texting some other woman so I got up and left. I texted him and asked him if he was just "playing" me? He replied, "Not playing... you are smothering me!
That really hurt my feelings and I cried all day. We began texting back and forth and he admitted he felt something with me he had never felt
before but that we needed to slow it down and he needed space. The second week he scheduled 3 dates with me including 2 sleepovers. He still texted me constantly but it was like he had put on a mask that 2nd week and was not open or affectionate anymore. I felt his withdrawal so I pushed himfor his feelings about me and told him I loved him. He told me he really enjoyed spending time with me and liked me a lot but was not "in love with me." That just devistated me! I told him good bye and cried for 2 days. On the 2nd day I missed hi so badly I texted him and asked if he wanted to be friends? He said he would love to

He admitted that he had taken the break up very hard and spent the past two days on the couch and could not concentrate on anything else. He said he really missed me and if he knew how to open up he would. He said he knew he was withdrawn and distant and previous. women had told him that. He said he felt really bad for hurting me and if he could love me the way I wanted he would. He said he had done a lot of thinking and decided he wasn't ready for a relationship yet and he thought he needed to go back to his therapist. We texted back and forth and I asked him if he thought we could ever be more than friends? He said that perhaps with time but he had to take it very dlow. We met for coffee today and held hands and talked. He hugged me when he arrived and left. He has been texting me all night. I am confused! Insight into his behavior would be most appreciated! I just feel that he has much stronger feelings for me then he is willing to admit. Am I wrong?

OMG! That makes me feel like a total whore! Nothing could be further from the truth! I was a virgin by person choice until I was 22. He was only the 3rd man I ever slept with! It was such an instant overwhelming attraction that I acted completely out of character! But I can see your point and I do admit I came on too strong. I think I was trying to justify my shameful behavior on a great love. Maybe there was never anything real. I do not know!

I swear, just Cancer women can do this.
Fuck me, that man has been reasonable.

Not too long ago I had a libra guy admit to loving me at first site. Barely a week into talking (hanging out over one weekend) he was full of I love yous and already talking marriage and babies and how we'd live at his grandparents old place.

I'll tell you, on one hand it was nice having such a seeming guarantee of everything I wanted in life. On the other hand it was also boring as all get out.

I dumped him and ended up with someone who still keeps me on my toes today.

So yes, you probably threw him for a loop, but he could have rolled with it depending on how you presented yourself and how much he already cared for you.

But it sounds like you took his inability to match the intensity of your feelings at the same pace badly. And it also sounds lime you pushed for more. I'd say this is here you went wrong.

No one likes being pressured.

Posted by kalin
you shouldn't have said you were falling in love w/ him. sorry. if you don't keep your cool, you will lose him again.

+1

This is the main reason why I believe that Scorpio men are so attracted to us air signs. I wouldnt be caught dead ever EVER saying the L word to a man first especially after a few days. That and we allow them space so much that they chase us.

Cancers are crazy sometimes. No offense but my bff and my sister both do this to the guys they date and when they call me to talk about it I practically feel smothered myself. Never be available constantly it makes it look like you gave up your independence, friends, life for this guy in a short amount of time. No one wants everything handed to them on a silver platter within the first couple of weeks.

Thanks, all good advice. I am going to just go on with my life and try to forget about him (if I can) and just be real cool and detached. I will see how that goes.

Posted by Scorpiogrl62


But it sounds like you took his inability to match the intensity of your feelings at the same pace badly. And it also sounds lime you pushed for more. I'd say this is here you went wrong.

No one likes being pressured.

1+.

Check his Venus aspects,there might be some air there.

Decide what you want-to be with him and take things slow or to let go of him forever.

Take your time to reach a decision,don't rush but once you decide stick to it.

Continue to be independent and enjoy your life,whether or not you are with him.

Good luck.

Last night at 11pm he texted me to tell me that he just learned his ex-wife was in the hospital in California for an accidental overdose on Tramadol. I thought it was interesting that I was the first one he reached out to because he and his ex are still friends and it was upsetting news for him especially because his daughter is living with the ex.

We continued dating for 2 more weeks until I got too close again and he broke up again. He continued texting but I decided to move on and start dating other men which I did. He told me it really bothered him that I started dating again so soon. He said he missed talking with me and my touch. He also said he felt close to me and cared about me but did not see it lasting long term. He drunk texted me. I started dating another man then he called me up and asked me out to lunch to my favorite restaurant where we had our first date. Had a great casual conversation. I eneded up going to his house that night and making mad passionate love. My god! Scorpio men are so damn sexy and hot! Anyway, I told the other guy I was still involved with old BF and am going to play it very cool with my Scorpio. I just love him so much but I will not tell him that!

Yeah... rinse repeat.

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Posted by kalin
you shouldn't have said you were falling in love w/ him. sorry. if you don't keep your cool, you will lose him again.

+1

This is the main reason why I believe that Scorpio men are so attracted to us air signs. I wouldnt be caught dead ever EVER saying the L word to a man first especially after a few days. That and we allow them space so much that they chase us.

Cancers are crazy sometimes. No offense but my bff and my sister both do this to the guys they date and when they call me to talk about it I practically feel smothered myself. Never be available constantly it makes it look like you gave up your independence, friends, life for this guy in a short amount of time. No one wants everything handed to them on a silver platter within the first couple of weeks.

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Scorpio seem to be attracted to every sign at one point or another speaking just on the men... Scorpios may be attracted but rarely ever ever stay with an air sign. Lust doesn't equal staying power. Especially with the absence of any depth emotionally, or otherwise.

To the OP... slow down. These 2 signs have an intense attraction, and easily gel and naturally connect on an emotional level, few can compete with. Which I see was so easy for you get wrapped up in and tell him how you feel. Do like we do anyway as water signs, keep all your cards to yourself, and maybe little by little let him in your world a little more.. Even if he holds the lock and key to you he doesn't need to know all this just yet. It's not so much of playing games but for your own protection of your heart. Scorpio men often also have a lot of skeletons, and things that can come out of left field even the "evolved" ones. I would also be clear that he isn't holding on to any past attachments because these men are notorious for thinking/ still feel for their exes of even 10 years ago. They can be a really good match for us, they are #3 in our top 3 for marriage, and we are #1 for them in marriage. It'll work out, just take a breather. 🙂

For whatever reason this board doesn't seem too fond of the Scorpio (male) Cancer (female) match.

To begin with,I repeat what I said=Decide if you want to be with him.Take time to think about the pros and cons of the 'relationship' and don't let the magnetic attraction you feel to him cloud your thinking.

By dating other men immediately you ended up showing him you are 'fickle' which is not quite what a scorpio man wants a woman to be.Beware of such rash actions even if he behaves like a jerk in future if you want to be with him.

When I say ^^ I am not asking you to be a doormat but am merely telling you things from his perspective and not justifying or endorsing bad behavior.

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Posted by kalin
you shouldn't have said you were falling in love w/ him. sorry. if you don't keep your cool, you will lose him again.

+1

This is the main reason why I believe that Scorpio men are so attracted to us air signs. I wouldnt be caught dead ever EVER saying the L word to a man first especially after a few days. That and we allow them space so much that they chase us.

Cancers are crazy sometimes. No offense but my bff and my sister both do this to the guys they date and when they call me to talk about it I practically feel smothered myself. Never be available constantly it makes it look like you gave up your independence, friends, life for this guy in a short amount of time. No one wants everything handed to them on a silver platter within the first couple of weeks.

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I do agree that air signs keep scorpions on their toes for the first few months but when it comes to long serious relationships, these two combinations don't work well together. They just don't get each other...There's another thread on " scorpio stillness " to prove this point.

Firstly...

> Telling a guy you are in love with him after a week of dating isn't cool...You should be glad he's still " in the picture" and hasn't stormed off from your life completely so that's a plus.

> There's a difference between Lust and Love.. the connection/magnetic/sexual attraction/physical attraction can be overwhelming and stop you from thinking clearly about your relationship. You have not seen EVERYTHING about him yet.. He's showing you his charm to keep you hooked even more. . but you are already all OVER him by showing your precious self at his door step at 11 pm at night. 5 days straight.
He agreed that he never felt so strongly about someone before but he's probably afraid that those feelings will fade over time once you two make it to the next level and will beat himself up if those feelings were just lust... You two have been married before and he's only doing the right thing for wanting to take this SLOW ! he 's confused with his emotions as much as you are.. two water signs...can get pretty volcanic. One of you need to keep the relationship stable and slow ..
he " tried" to be that person but also failed at it. . he's trying to " control" the situation but his mood is up and down too so no one is helping each other here.

I feel that you need to just " chill " enjoy the ride . Your action and words are pushing him away and no one likes to feel rushed or pressured. Good things come to those who wait so what's the rush? if its really "REAL " like you mentioned then why try to push it??_.if its real it will come around in its own time..if not then let it go... You told him you love him yet you went and dated other men straight away... scorpions was confused with your actions..

If you really did love him like you claimed??_.you wouldn't want to date other men because you know he will find out..and it will HURT Him so that isn't love at all ..if you don't care about how he feels.

Again, take what I say as a grain of salt. I am trying to mix astrology with real reasoning here. Are you sure its love ? are you sure its not just LUST and a moment thing ? take a deep breath and try to THINK carefully....

The whole thing can work beautifully, if you keep your cool.. you're a water sign so you naturally already know how to attract him, and have the advantage of pulling his heart strings without as much as effort as other signs. Don't lose yourself in this man or become dependent on him. You wanna maintain your life and still live it like before he was in the picture, if possible.. I mean I know that can be hard when you meet someone who sweeps you off your feet. You don't lose your hobbies,friends and goals over him though or stop your pampering of yourself.

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Posted by kalin
you shouldn't have said you were falling in love w/ him. sorry. if you don't keep your cool, you will lose him again.

+1

This is the main reason why I believe that Scorpio men are so attracted to us air signs. I wouldnt be caught dead ever EVER saying the L word to a man first especially after a few days. That and we allow them space so much that they chase us.

Cancers are crazy sometimes. No offense but my bff and my sister both do this to the guys they date and when they call me to talk about it I practically feel smothered myself. Never be available constantly it makes it look like you gave up your independence, friends, life for this guy in a short amount of time. No one wants everything handed to them on a silver platter within the first couple of weeks.

You're fucking annoying, every gad damn thread its my BFF and sister, damn with a person like you in their lives who needs enemies, all i'm saying is you can't always generalize a whole zodiac sign, do i think your a liar, and backstabber cause your a Gemini? No, but i do think you're one cause you keep reiterating the same stupid stuff and talking badly about your family member and friend.

and no way in hell are Scorp men attracted to air signs, i've seen women get with libras, but otherwise, hell no, for what? Scorp men love water signs and earth signs.

i got an old x chasing me hard, we get them, air signs are just boring facades.

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Man, exactly what I was saying hit the nail on the head. The main signs I've seen the men have it bad for have been earth signs mainly Capricorn, and then water signs.

Posted by CluelessCancer
You sound insanely clingy and weird, it must be cause you were with one man for such a long time, but why the heck would you tell a man you just met you loved him? Do you even know him. You barely dated a couple of weeks and your being dramatic, emotional, clingy, and just plain weird.

control yourself lady, your not doing yourself or the scorpio a favor, in fact i find this whole thread annoying.

insanely clingy and weird

lmfao.

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Posted by prettyladii
For whatever reason this board doesn't seem too fond of the Cancer (women)

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