MsTeeq1974
@MsTeeq1974
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Scorpio sanity check...I tried to resist. Lol
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I was trying to say....I'm still bothered. He's never told me anything about her. I only know about her through combing both of their FB pages. He also hasn't asked me to attend church with him and we have the same faith. I know that he's avoiding us seeing or knowing about each other. Everyone else knows about me and he talks about other female friends. This one, he hasn't mentioned AT ALL and she lives locally.
Yeah...I'm bothered.
Yeah...I'm bothered.
hes cheating
get over it and move on
get over it and move on
Posted by ImpulsvWhat does that mean?
Red flags to hide u from fb
Hey...by any chance did you go away last year on vacation and come back with a bruise on your thigh?
Posted by scorpiothebadassYeah...I have that feeling. Sucks, but I do. I don't necessarily see it as a red flag that he's not wanting to be FB friends right now, but if we stay together and after 6 months or more passes and still doesn't want to be FB friends, something is definitely wrong with that picture. I think what really bothers me is that have casual partners that I've literally held at bay and to find out that he could be still dealing with someone who he was already involved with makes me want to even out the odds. lol
hes cheating
get over it and move on
Hey...some of those guys were HOT! I might want a little model type nookie here and there until our relationship becomes rock solid. You know!?!?!
Posted by LetltBIf this question is for me...nope, wasn't me.
Hey...by any chance did you go away last year on vacation and come back with a bruise on your thigh?
Posted by ImpulsvUm, yeah. Total red flag. FUCK THAT.
Red flags to hide u from fb
Posted by ReincarnationLol...so if I were hurt and angry, feeling betrayed, etc. That would be ok...without any real basis, a notion and some clues...that are pretty hefty, but a notion none the less. However, by me saying that...dang...I would like to even out the odds...and haven't done anything in the slightest, knowing that tonight, he's still going to be the ONLY guy I sleep with and will be until we break up...I'm a slut.Posted by MsTeeq1974Alright - now you're just a slut.Posted by scorpiothebadassYeah...I have that feeling. Sucks, but I do. I don't necessarily see it as a red flag that he's not wanting to be FB friends right now, but if we stay together and after 6 months or more passes and still doesn't want to be FB friends, something is definitely wrong with that picture. I think what really bothers me is that have casual partners that I've literally held at bay and to find out that he could be still dealing with someone who he was already involved with makes me want to even out the odds. lol
hes cheating
get over it and move on
Hey...some of those guys were HOT! I might want a little model type nookie here and there until our relationship becomes rock solid. You know!?!?!
I guarantee you he senses that.click to expand
LMBO!!!!! Scorps...boy I tell ya...gotta love y'all. Thankfully, I knew what I was getting into when I posted my scenario.
I am Scorp...be tortured by me relentlessly or else you're something completely unacceptable. smh lol
Why you have to explain yourself if you are a slut or not?
Posted by ReincarnationThat was really sweet of you to apologize. I thank you. However, not necessary. I'm grown and I understand where you are coming from. I just unapologetically retain the right to think freely...be free at least in my mind, no matter how dedicated and loyal I am to my guy (this is in all romantic relationships). I have a Taurus mars and TaurPosted by MsTeeq1974I apologize.Posted by ReincarnationLol...so if I were hurt and angry, feeling betrayed, etc. That would be ok...without any real basis, a notion and some clues...that are pretty hefty, but a notion none the less. However, by me saying that...dang...I would like to even out the odds...and haven't done anything in the slightest, knowing that tonight, he's still going to be the ONLY guy I sleep with and will be until we break up...I'm a slut.Posted by MsTeeq1974Alright - now you're just a slut.Posted by scorpiothebadassYeah...I have that feeling. Sucks, but I do. I don't necessarily see it as a red flag that he's not wanting to be FB friends right now, but if we stay together and after 6 months or more passes and still doesn't want to be FB friends, something is definitely wrong with that picture. I think what really bothers me is that have casual partners that I've literally held at bay and to find out that he could be still dealing with someone who he was already involved with makes me want to even out the odds. lol
hes cheating
get over it and move on
Hey...some of those guys were HOT! I might want a little model type nookie here and there until our relationship becomes rock solid. You know!?!?!
I guarantee you he senses that.
LMBO!!!!! Scorps...boy I tell ya...gotta love y'all. Thankfully, I knew what I was getting into when I posted my scenario.
I am Scorp...be tortured by me relentlessly or else you're something completely unacceptable. smh lol
I guess my idea of loyalty is more extreme than yours.click to expand
I think I just realized why he won't let go of that other chick just yet.
Him: What are you doing later?
Me: Breathing
Him: Alright asshole. I have to get ready for school
Me: Ok, Bai!
I can't help it. I'm just not a very warm and fuzzy Pisces all of the time. I wish I could be just a tad nicer, but if I was...I don't think I would like me. LMBO!!!
Him: What are you doing later?
Me: Breathing
Him: Alright asshole. I have to get ready for school
Me: Ok, Bai!
I can't help it. I'm just not a very warm and fuzzy Pisces all of the time. I wish I could be just a tad nicer, but if I was...I don't think I would like me. LMBO!!!
Posted by TaniwhaI like upfront and mutual liaisons. Honestly, he considered us just being friends in the first week. I kind of became excited at the prospect of NOT having to tell those other guys no and not because I want to fuck around. There is a 5 year history with a Cap...not even going into those details...and an almost one year history with a Taurus who I did the whole "I have a boyfriend now" thing with (last year) and things got...not complicated....he just didn't want to go away and I felt bad. Pi Sun, Pi Moon, Pi Merc. I hate making people feel bad. It happens and it's necessary. I can do it without feeling guilty, but I still feel bad FOR them. Empathetic...very empathetic. I guess what I'm not adding is that the time spent with the other guys isn't JUST sex. It's hours upon hours of convo, going out somewhere, and lots of sex. lol So, in a way...we're not so much friends as we are friendly in these casual situations. In my world, no means no. No face to face convos, no going anywhere together, and definitely no sex. I now barely accept texts from the 5 year strong Cap. He has a Venus in Scorp by the way. My feelings...ummm...not hurt, you're right. Bothered. It's not the same thing. Hurt makes me cry. Bothered makes me want to know more in detail...watch what's going on with one if not BOTH eyes open. I'm a dreamer. You can't do that with your eyes wide open. Yes, it's bothering me. I want to dream, I want to close my eyes, I want to trust him, enjoy the ride, and at least feel like he'll take care of me the way that I know I'm ready and able to take care of him (Emotionally).
"I think what really bothers me is that have casual partners that I've literally held at bay and to find out that he could be still dealing with someone who he was already involved with makes me want to even out the odds"
You don't even sound like your feelings are hurt, all you are concerned about is that you didn't get to fuck other guys. You needa take a look at what this relationship means to you in the first place.
The relationship meaning hasn't really taken shape. I mean, it has a great potential and the foundation of it is good, but as far as what it really means to either of us...we're not ready for that discussion just yet. The indicators continue. Saw more last night. For now, my plan of action is to be quiet/observant. I'
Reincarnation...we call each other assholes daily. He did deliberately impart more niceness and less sarcasm into our time together last night. He told me, "I'm trying to be nice!" I played along well...nicely that is. He still took a belt off and whipped me when I couldn't help myself and took a dig at him. lol This morning though...weirdly, he was VERY nice, soft, romantic, cuddly, and extremely affectionate. I didn't act out on him this morning and I think he was surprised. He kissed me goodbye smiling, and with compliments, which I still think was sarcasm...but thankfully that part isn't important to me. My main thing is always, I'm not so hell bent on what you actually think about me...that's your business. As long as you keep coming back with healthy relationship behaviors, then we're good.
We watched Ted2 on his laptop and laughed our asses off...that's heavenly to me. I just would like it if he were upfront like I am. I've told him about the 5 year Cap already and after talking to my Leo ex-hubby last night to fill him in on the medical stuff, I told my Scorp about the conversation. I hate hiding things from my partner and I just wish he could feel as brave as I am and do the same. However, I did discover in our convo this morning that I'm much more of a risk taker than he is. Go figure. lol I'm always up for an adventure of the unknown and am not afraid to do things like visit a foreign country, going off to mingle with the locals and away from the tourist part of towns. He's extremely wary of that. I was all excited about a drive to the Mexico beaches about 2 hours beyond the CA/Mexico border when we go back to my hometown in Sept. He actually is afraid to go. I'm like...."Whaaaaat!?!?!?!?" I think eventually I'll be able to convince him to come along, but he honestly feels it's too big of a risk.
Holy SHIT! lol
We watched Ted2 on his laptop and laughed our asses off...that's heavenly to me. I just would like it if he were upfront like I am. I've told him about the 5 year Cap already and after talking to my Leo ex-hubby last night to fill him in on the medical stuff, I told my Scorp about the conversation. I hate hiding things from my partner and I just wish he could feel as brave as I am and do the same. However, I did discover in our convo this morning that I'm much more of a risk taker than he is. Go figure. lol I'm always up for an adventure of the unknown and am not afraid to do things like visit a foreign country, going off to mingle with the locals and away from the tourist part of towns. He's extremely wary of that. I was all excited about a drive to the Mexico beaches about 2 hours beyond the CA/Mexico border when we go back to my hometown in Sept. He actually is afraid to go. I'm like...."Whaaaaat!?!?!?!?" I think eventually I'll be able to convince him to come along, but he honestly feels it's too big of a risk.
Holy SHIT! lol
Nah.. He is just using her. A scorpio man in love don't approach like.. hey @ $ $ 70LE.
MsTeeq1974,
Drop that Scorpio. He is just playing like a fool.
Drop that Scorpio. He is just playing like a fool.
Reincarnation, we tend to discuss exes mutually. I wouldn't feel right talking to my ex husband on the phone, which only happens up to 4 times a year, and didn't tell my partner about it. Regardless of WHO my partner is. I could see if my ex and I talked every single week...ok, then I wouldn't feel the need to say, "Hey Babe, I talked to "Y" today". I would never want him to discover something about me talking to my ex husband or a male associate through another convo with me. His ex pissed him off this morning and he talked to me about it at length...for about an hour or so. I would like to think that we can both be open about these things and let it roll. I understand that some people just can't do it. I respect that, but that's honestly not a person who I could be in a relationship with. I tend to tell my partner just about EVERYTHING because I talk to them like they're a friend (moon in 11th house). If I felt I had to be guarded, it would make me sick to my stomach. Oddly enough he's a Leo moon in the 11th house. I think on that level, he does get it. In fact, the day he showed me his birth certificate, he said that one of the things that made him happy with me was that he felt he could talk to me about anything.
Posted by M143Maybe he's not in love yet. lol I mean, is that such a bad thing? Nothing says that two people have to meet and immediately fall in love right away. I know that he cares about me, tremendously. And he doesn't just walk up to me and say, "Hey asshole". We'll be talking and it's during a sarcastic back and forth dialogue that he'll call me an asshole. The reason why he did it in the grocery store is because the clerk and I were going back and forth and the clerk said that he woke up that morning with the thought in mind to be an angry black woman, but it seemed like I had it covered. lol I said, "Oh yea...there's no more room for you to take on that role...I have the market cornered". My boyfriend looked at the clerk, shook his head, looked at me and then said, "Asshole". We've had this convo. I'm a bit of a jerk...period and to EVERYBODY. However, I'm also comfortable in my skin...so meh. lol
Nah.. He is just using her. A scorpio man in love don't approach like.. hey @ $ $ 70LE.
However, the critical eye to behavioral meaning is one of the things I appreciate most about you Scorps. You guys can look at a situation and go..."Yeahhhh...something doesn't add up here". lol I tend to do that as well, but I also know that I can be a bit too vigilant in my observations. Today he wanted to delay going to lunch together because he said he had to run an errand out where this chick lives. I was cool about it in convo with him, but after I got off of the phone, I flipped the fuck out. I was like, 'Oh hell no...this is NOT happening right now!!!" I talked to my cousin about it for a little bit and decided to ask him if he had to do that first, whether or not he could go to lunch first. Well, he decided to do lunch first and wasn't in much of a hurry to go anywhere afterwards and in fact, he wasn't dressed to see another woman for sure.
LMBO!!!!!
He did seem...subdued though. So, umm...I'm just keeping both eyes open. Not for long though, because honestly, I can't sustain this type of feeling that I have to look over someone's shoulder to keep them honest. I don't even micromanage my interns and direct reports. I cant or else I'll burn out.
Posted by ReincarnationI have to ruminate on this to figure out what makes me uncomfortable about expressing "jealousy" at this point. I hate relationship nuances. I'm more tuned into those than most people I know and it's difficult for me to let them go by me. I don't say much to my partner, but subtle changes are so noticeable to me. I was completely empathetic to my Aries ex, because he was the same way, except he expressed grief over every single little change that he saw either in me or our relationship dynamic. lol We're both Merc in Pi with an exact conjunct of 7 degrees.
Scorpio men appreciate jealousy. It shows you care.
Just tell him.
However, I heard you...eventually I'm going to have to express something to him. smh
I've been wondering all day how to form out this update. This has been the first crazy time between me and my Scorp guy. It's been weird. Lots of separation followed by insane connected sex and a few of what he has relegated to labeling "misunderstanding in communication". The FUCK! It's like he's preset with these automated responses to sticky situations. Hmmm....weird. I'm not trying to throw him off or do anything misleading/malicious to him or in regards to the relationship. What's going on is that he likes to do things together unplanned, which worked VERY well before and honestly, I think that's how we ended up spending almost every single day together. However, it's taken a toll on my ability to plan with other people in my life. Plus I work 40 hours AND have my own hbusiness, so when I need to relax by getting out...I just have to be able to depend on getting that break or working TOWARDS that break. Well, he's taken my need to plan things, which I've recently started doing with other people or just venturing out on my own as a means to pull away. You know...really, I'm not looking at that alone as a negative. It's just that now that I've ventured out or started venturing out with others when he's occupied or hasn't made a decision on what to do or when he would like for us to do whatever, he's pulling away which I don't find fair. Now he's brooding and wants to use that as an excuse to make it seem like I'm tripping and in my feelings, because he's gone non-communicative in this last instance last night. I mean we seem to be working through it and working it out. It's just...dang...I hate when relationships change.
So now we're caught up in this new cycle and so far for the past...mmmmm....5 days it's like wash, rinse, and repeat.
He refuses to plan or avoids planning time together and is just hanging by himself or with family (so he claims). These are the moments when we end up not seeing each other all day/night.
I go out and about either with a friend (all of them have been female so far) or by myself, because I NEED this to feel alive. I need to get out.
He gets quiet on me and so I continue my adventure, stay out/don't come home...and trust me...I can party/hang out ALLLL frickin day/night
He realizes that my attention is elsewhere and directly tells me to come home or indicates that he wants me in some way, shape or form
I don't interrupt my activities, but I cave in emotionally. I send him either a message or call him to let him know that I love him or something to that affect.
He gets UBER emotional or fakes some emo shit. I mean like, divulging how he feels and what's going on or making it seem like he all of the sudden wants to be transparent about his feelings towards me, what he's doing, who he's doing it with, and that he wants to make time for me IMMEDIATELY or he then makes plans for sometime in the near future.
I get frustrated, because I feel like he's trying to manipulate me into stopping what I'm doing. I don't stop, but as soon as I finish my activities, I turn to him and am available totally and completely to him like it was when I patiently/casually waited to see what he preferred for us to do or whether we were going to see each other.
Then it starts all over again...he goes off into his own la la land, which to me indicates that I can go off into my OWN la la land and have a blast doing EXACTLY what I want to do without his influence. Then here are some things that he's said recently that are crazy random.
"You're too pretty. You better not be seeing another guy or I'll kick your ass."
"How much do you love me?"
One of these mornings after time apart, he literally woke up and said, "Baby"...I was half awake myself and responded with, "Yes Dear"...which is usual. This guy is super strong so he basically (RIGHT after I responded) threw me underneath him and mounted me for sex. smh....don't get me wrong, the sex was great, but he's resorting to these surprise penetration attacks. WHYYYYYYYYYY!?!?!?!!?
Is this relationship pattern sustainable for a Scorpio?
He refuses to plan or avoids planning time together and is just hanging by himself or with family (so he claims). These are the moments when we end up not seeing each other all day/night.
I go out and about either with a friend (all of them have been female so far) or by myself, because I NEED this to feel alive. I need to get out.
He gets quiet on me and so I continue my adventure, stay out/don't come home...and trust me...I can party/hang out ALLLL frickin day/night
He realizes that my attention is elsewhere and directly tells me to come home or indicates that he wants me in some way, shape or form
I don't interrupt my activities, but I cave in emotionally. I send him either a message or call him to let him know that I love him or something to that affect.
He gets UBER emotional or fakes some emo shit. I mean like, divulging how he feels and what's going on or making it seem like he all of the sudden wants to be transparent about his feelings towards me, what he's doing, who he's doing it with, and that he wants to make time for me IMMEDIATELY or he then makes plans for sometime in the near future.
I get frustrated, because I feel like he's trying to manipulate me into stopping what I'm doing. I don't stop, but as soon as I finish my activities, I turn to him and am available totally and completely to him like it was when I patiently/casually waited to see what he preferred for us to do or whether we were going to see each other.
Then it starts all over again...he goes off into his own la la land, which to me indicates that I can go off into my OWN la la land and have a blast doing EXACTLY what I want to do without his influence. Then here are some things that he's said recently that are crazy random.
"You're too pretty. You better not be seeing another guy or I'll kick your ass."
"How much do you love me?"
One of these mornings after time apart, he literally woke up and said, "Baby"...I was half awake myself and responded with, "Yes Dear"...which is usual. This guy is super strong so he basically (RIGHT after I responded) threw me underneath him and mounted me for sex. smh....don't get me wrong, the sex was great, but he's resorting to these surprise penetration attacks. WHYYYYYYYYYY!?!?!?!!?
Is this relationship pattern sustainable for a Scorpio?
Posted by MsFiskOk Ladies. I know you're trying to help and I'm sure that someone else who is well versed in pop culture would understand these references. Don't get me wrong...I'm hood antiquated. I grew up in the hood, have a hood family, etc. However, I took a different path. I'm a geek. I mean, I can dance my ass off and I have the appearance of someone who is a "bad ass chick", but really...I'm just into fashion. My home looks like some shit straight out of a Martha Steward magazine and I keep shit like kale and tapenade in my fridge. I also keep grits in my cabinet though and one of my favorite meals is southern fried fish, with cheese grits, and scrambled eggs. However, I'm still extremely geekish and am DEEPLY rooted in business operations...basically making legal paper.
Are you dating Drake?
Basically, can y'all please break these inferences down, because trust me...they are relevant. Am I dating Drake...kind of. LMBO!!! Shit, I feel like it sometimes. He's a guy that most women...I mean they just fall the hell out for him. He has an escalade and a lexus. This dude is fancy as hell and while I can get with him in dressing match for match...these things aren't important to me. I look the part, but my values are elsewhere and my biggest assets are my brains and wise compassion rather than my bust size and my booty or pretty face.
Posted by exoskeletonI don't accept snarkiness as a helping hand and won't sit here and make light of your rudeness. I'll wait for more insightful feedback to come along. And if it doesn't...guess what?? I'll live. He'll live. I'm definitely not breaking up with him based on the feedback here. Just trying to understand from an astrological standpoint.
she only asked if you're dating drake. shit.
Okayyyyy!?!?!?!
Posted by MsFiskI think at this point "Are you dating Rein?" is the more appropriate question.
Are you dating Drake?
I feel Frosty had a whiskey or too...
two*
Posted by FrostAndBite..or that. I noticed the spelling errors.Posted by DamnataFive cups of coffee and a blank editing timeline actually...
I feel Frosty had a whiskey or too...
When you have a cut due and have scraped multiple versions and are creatively stuck... And it's due tomorrow afternoon.click to expand
Do a power nap. Enough to recharge.
Posted by Reincarnationlol @ being embarrassed. If you enjoyed yourself..all's good. Most artists are clever marketers nowadays...music takes a back seat.Posted by DamnataOh - what kind of similarities do I have to Drake or this Scorpio man?Posted by MsFiskI think at this point "Are you dating Rein?" is the more appropriate question.
Are you dating Drake?
And I am embarrassed to say that I saw Drake live. My college friends dragged me to come see him. Sigh - it wasn't that bad, actually.
As to why I mentioned you...a passage of hers sounds ripped straight from the pages of you and your Pisces' story:
Posted by MsTeeq1974^I think you mentioned something simillar in your approach with your gf. And it would be cool to have both people in a partnership on dxp so we can get both perspectives.
One of these mornings after time apart, he literally woke up and said, "Baby"...I was half awake myself and responded with, "Yes Dear"...which is usual. This guy is super strong so he basically (RIGHT after I responded) threw me underneath him and mounted me for sexclick to expand
Posted by MsFiskThank you for the break down of what you were referring to MsFisk in regards to Drake and for the well wishes. I don't necessarily MIND snark. I get it...it's even funny and while I really don't mind if others laugh/find it funny, it's not cute all of the time and so I won't feed into or make light of it. What I also won't do is what people typically do on these boards and that is feel intimidated/humiliated and end up sheepishly laughing along...knowing that they really didn't need it, certainly didn't ask for it. Really don't deserve it. But to each their own.
If you don't like snarkiness, you are in the wronnnnggg board. Wait til the Scorps tire of this. lol. But good luck to you.
It's excessive at times...that's all.
But yeah...he's a bit more emo than I ever suspected. He's starting to feel safe and therefore showing me a softer side, so it's all good. As long as he doesn't end up like my Aries ex (whining at 5am while getting ready for work, complaining that I don't care about him...I can't take that shit again). Increased trust is always a good thing. I've also followed a bit of Reincarnated's advice and have opened up a tiny bit about my concerns that there might be another woman in the picture. He's doing what he can to reassure me that there's not. I appreciate that.
Posted by PV&JellayThanks for trying to help. He's definitely not married or in a long term relationship. I've met his family and he's on the phone with me with his family that live out of town all of the time. He's already told me that he wants me to go back home (out of state) with him and he's going home with me in Sept. He lives 2 miles away from me and takes me to his house....he has roommates. I've already had him meet me for lunch in the middle of the day or asked him to come to my job at random times to see if there is ever that "Uh oh...I can't because I have another woman" vibe. Now, I'm not saying that he absolutely doesn't have other women, but if he does...I'm the main. Trust me on that one. lol I don't think that's ok, but until I have concrete proof...nothing I can do.
@OP Sounds like he's either married or in a long term relationship. You are the side piece, but he is lying and making you think you are the main to keep you from dumping him.
We go out too often, sleep together and wake up together too often for there to be a "main chick" besides me. I'm always in both vehicles and he's going to end up parking his Lexus here, because he doesn't want it parked on the street. His truck was parked in front of my house for about a month. Nah...no other main chick Hun.
Posted by ReincarnationThere's a reason why I made you my first fav. LMBO!!! Some things you can just pick up on with people...you know?Posted by MsTeeq1974I love geeks.Posted by MsFiskOk Ladies. I know you're trying to help and I'm sure that someone else who is well versed in pop culture would understand these references. Don't get me wrong...I'm hood antiquated. I grew up in the hood, have a hood family, etc. However, I took a different path. I'm a geek. I mean, I can dance my ass off and I have the appearance of someone who is a "bad ass chick", but really...I'm just into fashion. My home looks like some shit straight out of a Martha Steward magazine and I keep shit like kale and tapenade in my fridge. I also keep grits in my cabinet though and one of my favorite meals is southern fried fish, with cheese grits, and scrambled eggs. However, I'm still extremely geekish and am DEEPLY rooted in business operations...basically making legal paper.
Are you dating Drake?
Basically, can y'all please break these inferences down, because trust me...they are relevant. Am I dating Drake...kind of. LMBO!!! Shit, I feel like it sometimes. He's a guy that most women...I mean they just fall the hell out for him. He has an escalade and a lexus. This dude is fancy as hell and while I can get with him in dressing match for match...these things aren't important to me. I look the part, but my values are elsewhere and my biggest assets are my brains and wise compassion rather than my bust size and my booty or pretty face.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83I took a more strategic approach. I looked him deeply in his eyes during sensual foreplay where I was sitting on top of him, and we were just slowly caressing each other...tilted my head to one side and softly asked, "Are you cheating on me?" End result...he was a tiny bit butt hurt and so I blamed it on me being a flawed human being...and said, "remember, I told you we would have these moments...I'm not perfect...so, can I have a kiss?" And that's the end of that.Posted by ReincarnationMy scorp has dumped exes over jealousy.
Scorpio men appreciate jealousy. It shows you care.
Just tell him.
To each their own.click to expand
This morning after great sex and an hour of horse play before I went to work, I softly asked, "Babe...why do you turn your phone face down when I'm with you?" He went defensive and started telling me that he had an argument with a past partner about the same thing...yada yada yada...I waited and said, "But...I'm not arguing with you." We went into a practical convo about how you really won't know what's happening until you ask questions instead of just letting shit wander around in your head, etc. Shut that shit down.
Posted by ReincarnationTotally respectable. Sorry, didn't feel like going through all of the coding to chop the quotes. I had to work late tonight with catching up on activating cloud server resources for remote access to a GIS desktop and download a bunch of crap onto a new user's laptop.Posted by DamnataWell - I don't ask for permission if that's what you want to know.Posted by Reincarnationlol @ being embarrassed. If you enjoyed yourself..all's good. Most artists are clever marketers nowadays...music takes a back seat.Posted by DamnataOh - what kind of similarities do I have to Drake or this Scorpio man?Posted by MsFiskI think at this point "Are you dating Rein?" is the more appropriate question.
Are you dating Drake?
And I am embarrassed to say that I saw Drake live. My college friends dragged me to come see him. Sigh - it wasn't that bad, actually.
As to why I mentioned you...a passage of hers sounds ripped straight from the pages of you and your Pisces' story:
Posted by MsTeeq1974^I think you mentioned something simillar in your approach with your gf. And it would be cool to have both people in a partnership on dxp so we can get both perspectives.
One of these mornings after time apart, he literally woke up and said, "Baby"...I was half awake myself and responded with, "Yes Dear"...which is usual. This guy is super strong so he basically (RIGHT after I responded) threw me underneath him and mounted me for sex
I just throw her over my shoulder and do whatever I want. In the morning, I don't ask her if she's awake. I just start kissing her - especially since she's a deep sleeper and can easily rest for 11 hours.
But I'm not going to talk about my sex life in detail - sorry.click to expand
Posted by LetltBlmao you are very very stupid lol
Hey...by any chance did you go away last year on vacation and come back with a bruise on your thigh?
Posted by ReincarnationLove me some geeks...Posted by MsTeeq1974I love geeks.Posted by MsFiskOk Ladies. I know you're trying to help and I'm sure that someone else who is well versed in pop culture would understand these references. Don't get me wrong...I'm hood antiquated. I grew up in the hood, have a hood family, etc. However, I took a different path. I'm a geek. I mean, I can dance my ass off and I have the appearance of someone who is a "bad ass chick", but really...I'm just into fashion. My home looks like some shit straight out of a Martha Steward magazine and I keep shit like kale and tapenade in my fridge. I also keep grits in my cabinet though and one of my favorite meals is southern fried fish, with cheese grits, and scrambled eggs. However, I'm still extremely geekish and am DEEPLY rooted in business operations...basically making legal paper.
Are you dating Drake?
Basically, can y'all please break these inferences down, because trust me...they are relevant. Am I dating Drake...kind of. LMBO!!! Shit, I feel like it sometimes. He's a guy that most women...I mean they just fall the hell out for him. He has an escalade and a lexus. This dude is fancy as hell and while I can get with him in dressing match for match...these things aren't important to me. I look the part, but my values are elsewhere and my biggest assets are my brains and wise compassion rather than my bust size and my booty or pretty face.click to expand
Posted by PV&JellayThank you for clarifying and no worries. I wasn't offended. Just giving you insight on how I know he's not married or in a long term relationship. I definitely appreciate other's alternative translation on the situation....just that on these types of boards, it's impossible to spell everything out in detail.Posted by MsTeeq1974Posted by PV&JellayThanks for trying to help. He's definitely not married or in a long term relationship. I've met his family and he's on the phone with me with his family that live out of town all of the time. He's already told me that he wants me to go back home (out of state) with him and he's going home with me in Sept. He lives 2 miles away from me and takes me to his house....he has roommates. I've already had him meet me for lunch in the middle of the day or asked him to come to my job at random times to see if there is ever that "Uh oh...I can't because I have another woman" vibe. Now, I'm not saying that he absolutely doesn't have other women, but if he does...I'm the main. Trust me on that one. lol I don't think that's ok, but until I have concrete proof...nothing I can do.
@OP Sounds like he's either married or in a long term relationship. You are the side piece, but he is lying and making you think you are the main to keep you from dumping him.
We go out too often, sleep together and wake up together too often for there to be a "main chick" besides me. I'm always in both vehicles and he's going to end up parking his Lexus here, because he doesn't want it parked on the street. His truck was parked in front of my house for about a month. Nah...no other main chick Hun.
FYI I wasn't trying to offend you. The sneaking around to make phone calls, the pics with her mom, the flowers. It's suspicious. That's all I'm saying. Trust your instincts.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MsTeeq1974It wasn't meant to turn him on more...lol Besides, he's sex bombed me while IN the act, so I figured that's how he wants to communicate about these things. lol ha ha ha haPosted by Arielle83So your strategic approach is to ask if he's cheating while you're sitting on him naked?Posted by ReincarnationMy scorp has dumped exes over jealousy.
Scorpio men appreciate jealousy. It shows you care.
Just tell him.
To each their own.
Ummm no.
Buzz kill.click to expand
Anywho...yes, he did end up pouting and the mood was impacted...so what? It's not like I don't know how to get him back in the mood and if our relationship fell apart over a damn ruined sex mood....then it wasn't meant to be in the first place.
He ruined the mood last night with some BS stuff...call himself playing around. I wasn't mad, but I almost fell asleep on that ass. LMBO!!!! When you're full grown, sex moods are...let's just say that they don't matter as much. Other things are wayyyyy more important. Don't get me wrong, the sex and romantic moments have to be good, but you don't get all bent out of shape because a romantic night didn't pan out. smh lol
Posted by ReincarnationLMBO!!!! I feel her though. I just be like...you know what? Sleep is looking a whole lot better right now. Lol It's crazy, but me and my guy spend SOOOOOOO much time together and while we play around arguing all of the dang time, we've not had a serious argument yet. I'm kind of afraid that our first one will be a big blow out. Then again, we're both very level headed and even when we're joking around arguing, if/when I get quiet or look distracted, he looks at me dead in the eye and asks if everything is ok.
My gf does the same thing. She can very conveniently fall asleep on me if she doesn't want to do something. What an actress.
We don't argue much though. Usually it's me complaining about having to do the dishes or it's her yammering that I don't respect her position as a nurse enough.
Anywho...he's still as Scorpic as ever, but the sneaky phone calls, etc have halted. I noticed him sending a book long text at like midnight when we went out earlier last week and I didn't say a single word. I acted like I didn't care. Since like...IDK...earlier this week and I mean almost every single day, he's on this thing where he talked about how much he hates it when people act holier than thou. I'm thinking that this has EVERYTHING to do with the chick I think he was seeing, the one that goes to his church. He seems thoroughly disgusted. He's also been ranting about how he's ok with me spending time with friends. Finally, yesterday in fact, I stopped his ass and was like, "Shit...I get it. Do you HAVE to keep saying the same damn thing over and over again. I get it....you don't care when I spend time with other people...got it, but you don't have to keep drilling it in my head". He goes, "Ok, should I care then?" I was like, "No, but you don't have to keep TELLING me that you don't care. I don't care if you spend time with other people, but I don't say that to you all of the time." He got quiet...looked at me and said, "Ok". lol Then he goes, "What are you doing for the rest of the day then? If you're not doing anything, get dressed, finished your business stuff and I'll come back to get you." Then this morning, he said, "Why do I have a feeling that you're going to be out and about doing some thing with someone else by the time I hit you up later on today. We've also been spending more time with his family. In fact, we're planning to host them at my house in a couple of weeks and to go camping.
Reading all of these Scorp issues just remind me that in all likelihood this is going to be a constant roller coaster ride. I'd lose my shit on him if he ever did to me what I see happening to some of these people...I mean, I would LOSE MY S H I T on him...seriously.
And for those who might read too much into my observation skills...it's a natural thing. I was a VERY quiet child/person until I was about...hmmm...mid 30's. I didn't purposely make it this way, but I NOTICE EVERYTHING. When we went to this bar last week, I said something out loud about the guy sitting next to him talking his ear off. I said something like, "Hmmm....keep getting smart and I'll leave your ass sitting here at this bar chit chatting with Chester the Molester". His eyes got wide and later he was like, "Damn...you don't miss a THING do you—" LMBO!!!
Reading all of these Scorp issues just remind me that in all likelihood this is going to be a constant roller coaster ride. I'd lose my shit on him if he ever did to me what I see happening to some of these people...I mean, I would LOSE MY S H I T on him...seriously.
And for those who might read too much into my observation skills...it's a natural thing. I was a VERY quiet child/person until I was about...hmmm...mid 30's. I didn't purposely make it this way, but I NOTICE EVERYTHING. When we went to this bar last week, I said something out loud about the guy sitting next to him talking his ear off. I said something like, "Hmmm....keep getting smart and I'll leave your ass sitting here at this bar chit chatting with Chester the Molester". His eyes got wide and later he was like, "Damn...you don't miss a THING do you—" LMBO!!!
Posted by ReincarnationThat's awesome that you're considerate of her need to fall asleep or give you that signal to just leave her alone. I think this IS one of the things that Scorp men do very well. You guys aren't the pestering kind of partners. You check in on and will inquire about someone's well being, but that doesn't mean that the woman should take that as an invite to fall apart or lean on you. I think it's how you show that you care, even when you respect someone's right to be away from you.Posted by MsTeeq1974The interesting thing is she really does fall asleep. It's not fake.Posted by ReincarnationLMBO!!!! I feel her though. I just be like...you know what? Sleep is looking a whole lot better right now. Lol It's crazy, but me and my guy spend SOOOOOOO much time together and while we play around arguing all of the dang time, we've not had a serious argument yet. I'm kind of afraid that our first one will be a big blow out. Then again, we're both very level headed and even when we're joking around arguing, if/when I get quiet or look distracted, he looks at me dead in the eye and asks if everything is ok.
My gf does the same thing. She can very conveniently fall asleep on me if she doesn't want to do something. What an actress.
We don't argue much though. Usually it's me complaining about having to do the dishes or it's her yammering that I don't respect her position as a nurse enough.
She can fall asleep at will. On the airplane, she had no problem falling asleep within two minutes after take off. And - yes - she does it to me to avoid things she doesn't like.
I never wake her, of course - and she knows this.click to expand
Or rather to temporarily detach. Falling asleep in a close/committed partnership is one REALLY good way to detach and then wake up feeling refreshed, ready to go. You know? Perfect.
Posted by ReincarnationOh Scorpio, oh Scorpio. lol You'll ALWAYS get yours no matter what. lol ha ha ha haPosted by starloverWell - for that - I don't care if she's asleep.
...i guess the falling asleep is the new *i have a headache dear*
I just lie on top of her and start kissing and thrusting.click to expand
Posted by starloverIt means that where there is a will, there is generally a way. Scorpios more than any other zodiac sign usually have an iron will which means that you all most likely always find a way. Nothing nefarious meant by it. lol ha ha ha haPosted by MsTeeq1974*No matter what*Posted by ReincarnationOh Scorpio, oh Scorpio. lol You'll ALWAYS get yours no matter what. lol ha ha ha haPosted by starloverWell - for that - I don't care if she's asleep.
...i guess the falling asleep is the new *i have a headache dear*
I just lie on top of her and start kissing and thrusting.
What does that mean?click to expand
Posted by starloverHmmmm....I'm sitting here at my desk crying laughing and trying to figure out how to explain how something like that could be OK. I guess you could say that for some it is ok and for others...it's not. It's not ok by you...but if MY man did this to me...I'd probably make him the best breakfast in the world in the morning. lol In all likelihood, I wanted it anyways...with MY man, not a perfect stranger, not some guy who I'm just dating or casually involved with. True intimacy is something deeper than superficial acts that are polite and things that you can mention at a family get together. I think that what REALLY happens when you're intimate is not pretty or kind or polite. Of course you play nice for the most part, but that's what makes intimacy so great. It's brutal, it's intense, and leaves you feeling vulnerable, yet there is a enough trust that everything between both people, in each person, and the world will be just fine.
**Well - for that - I don't care if she's asleep.
I just lie on top of her and start kissing and thrusting**.
That ^^^ is just out of order
I respect the fact that it's not ok for you, but at the same time, it's totally within norm for this to be ok between two other people. You know?
Posted by TwodrinkminimumLol...you're very sweet. Thank you.
I like you msteeq. You're long winded ass shit and im gonna come back to finish this thread since I only made it to page 4 but...I like you.
I don't have "loose" boundaries. They are tight. What I choose to have tight boundaries about is different from what someone else might have boundaries about. It would be great if people could stop thinking that Pisces people are pushovers just because we don't get upset at things very easily or have this stringent expectations of human behavior.
There is this other side where respect is due, because of valuing what is intangible and not easily obtainable.
Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. And yes, I'm saying that I find your statement a tad bit disrespectful. Words like "loose boundaries" and "push them around" imply that someone is making themselves available as a doormat.
I am nobody's doormat.
There is this other side where respect is due, because of valuing what is intangible and not easily obtainable.
Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. And yes, I'm saying that I find your statement a tad bit disrespectful. Words like "loose boundaries" and "push them around" imply that someone is making themselves available as a doormat.
I am nobody's doormat.
He texted me something last night that makes me want to hide away for a couple of days. God, I hate when I feel like this and know that I have to confront things instead of hiding out. I've been super busy with work and my home business and that's not going to change until summer is over. I find time for myself, my friends, family, him and his needs, etc. I'm getting kind of tired. Yesterday I asked him if we could just go somewhere and leave all technology behind. This means that I won't be able to respond to my business inquiries, but that's ok. He's just now starting to re-engage into some side business things, so I know the getaway is not likely to happen.
Anywho, last night was the second night apart in a row and this time I got irritated when I couldn't reach him. He responded immediately which makes me think that he's playing games. smh...this is becoming a pattern where I have to express irritation to get a response. I don't get it. Anyways, we texted about it a little and when I just made it plain and simple where I was coming from, he texted me "I do that, but you make things so difficult boo".
Ugh! I went to sleep.
He called me this morning asking if I needed a ride to work. My ride was waiting outside. He was shocked. Then he asked me if I needed lunch. I told him that I cooked myself something while I was up early preparing things for my home business this morning before coming to work. He got quiet and told me to contact him at my lunch break anyways so that he can bring me something else to eat. I know what it is. It was supposed to be my dinner last night. I was busy prepping my home and cleaning, etc after working 8 hours so I thought he would just contact me like we planned. When he didn't, I contacted him with no response...that's why I was irritated.
Anywho, last night was the second night apart in a row and this time I got irritated when I couldn't reach him. He responded immediately which makes me think that he's playing games. smh...this is becoming a pattern where I have to express irritation to get a response. I don't get it. Anyways, we texted about it a little and when I just made it plain and simple where I was coming from, he texted me "I do that, but you make things so difficult boo".
Ugh! I went to sleep.
He called me this morning asking if I needed a ride to work. My ride was waiting outside. He was shocked. Then he asked me if I needed lunch. I told him that I cooked myself something while I was up early preparing things for my home business this morning before coming to work. He got quiet and told me to contact him at my lunch break anyways so that he can bring me something else to eat. I know what it is. It was supposed to be my dinner last night. I was busy prepping my home and cleaning, etc after working 8 hours so I thought he would just contact me like we planned. When he didn't, I contacted him with no response...that's why I was irritated.
And I want to hide, because I don't want my anger to overwhelm me...not out of fear. When I feel like I'm becoming a ticking time bomb...that's what makes me want to hide away for a couple of days. I don't want something to happen between us that would push me over the edge and I end up losing my shit completely on him...I don't mean like a normal shit losing fest. I mean like...just lose it and then not talk to him for days on end.
I'm very passionate about him. Today has just been...weird. He texted me earlier with this meme showing who is most compatible with Scorpio and of course the highest compatible were with Cancer, Scorp, and Pisces. Then he sent me the video of the presentation that I helped him with.
I cried...then I purposely skipped lunch, worked right through it and hit him up mid afternoon saying that I didn't have lunch, things were too busy, and that I'd call him after work. He basically said, "damn...ok"
He ignored my call and text after work, so I waited for over an hour, called back and left a VM ending with, "I miss you.". He called back and was all excited about some good news and I was fully engaged, but decided to end the convo after a minute of silence. Oh...he made it a point to tell me he'd been in the house all day. He was at his cousin's house when he called back and when I ended the convo he asked me to send him a selfie.
I cried...then I purposely skipped lunch, worked right through it and hit him up mid afternoon saying that I didn't have lunch, things were too busy, and that I'd call him after work. He basically said, "damn...ok"
He ignored my call and text after work, so I waited for over an hour, called back and left a VM ending with, "I miss you.". He called back and was all excited about some good news and I was fully engaged, but decided to end the convo after a minute of silence. Oh...he made it a point to tell me he'd been in the house all day. He was at his cousin's house when he called back and when I ended the convo he asked me to send him a selfie.
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I've felt like he's hiding me from this one female friend of his. After poking around...ok, so no...after investigating his FB page, this is the ONLY woman that he has a photo posted with. He's FB friends with her mom, regularly chit chats in comments on FB with them both and he goes to church with them. Apparently back on Valentine's Day, he also sent this woman flowers, which she couldn't help but mention in comment to a video where he was basically encouraging all of the single women not to feel lonely on that day. It was a VERY sentimental/inspiring message. While the others simply thanked him and were encouraged by his message, she just HAD to post, "Thank you for sending me the flowers". Really!?!?!
This is the thing...she called him the other day while we were figuring out what we were going to do for the day. He made a sarcastic remark as if she WASN'T important, rolling it to VM. We decided on what we were going to do within five minutes and then he goes, "OK, we can leave in 10 minutes." I was already ready and he came to my house already ready. I grabbed my purse seriously baffled and was like, "I'm ready, why can't we leave now?" He makes up this obvious bogus story about having to go outside and do something with his broken down truck which was parked outside my house and that it shouldn't take him more than 10 minutes. I didn't spy on him, but sent my older teen son to do so. He was actually on the phone. He came back in within a few minutes and was like, "Ok, we can go". THE HELL!?!?!?! I pouted a bit, but we ended up going and had fun actually.
I'm still both