Scorpio test their potential mates?

I'm a female Virgo that has been dealing with a male Scorpio and I feel like he is CONSTANTLY testing me. Mabye it's all in my head...I dont know. Can anyone shed some light on this? I've heard someone mention this about Scorpio's before but never thought anything of it. We arent even in a relationship and havent been intimate yet. I dont know....like I said, it just seems like he is always testing me in little ways...

What are some examples of your testing Eldorado? And how will I be able to tell if he is becoming more committed as well? It's hard for me to be able to tell if he is even serious about me sometimes...

wow....It's stuff that I cant even put my finger on..... Up until recently, my problem with him was with him coming on super strong and then having no contact for about 3 weeks, only to repeat this over and over again for months. I finaly told him two weeks ago that I didnt like his inconsistency and it was sending me mixed signals and he agreed and is now in more frequent contact. When I was at his house the other day, we were just talking and joking and out of no where he asked me if I loved him. And I looked at him and smiled and before I could even say anything, he was like "I'm just playing". (Truth is...I am starting to fall for him, but I'm not ready to tell him this and give him the upper hand for rejection.) Like I said, it stuff that I cant quite pinpoint.

oh...I wrote about this in another post...we've known eachother for well over 6 months now and we have never been alone together. Everything we've done has been in group settings and outside of the house. (I told him I wasnt ready for one on one time with him yet) Anyhow, the very first time I finally agreed to come over (after him asking a few times), I called him to let him know that I was on my way and he didnt answer the phone, but an hour later he signed onto instant messenger online and saw me online and didnt say word to me. (knowing good and well that he asked me to come over that evening) and then sent me a text the next day apologizing saying that he had a minor concussion from being hit in the head while playing basketball. Of course I didnt believe that, but at the same time, I didnt even bother to call him out on it. (I choose my battles wisley)

ok, you're saying that you did this too? What kind of stuff did you do? What was the reason? And please understand that I'm not judging you, I'm just trying my hardest to understanding things from his perspective. Don't ever play games in what way? It's frustrating the mess out of me because I long for the day when I can really tell him how I feel and he keeps delaying that process by being inconsistent. It makes me pull back emotionally when he does that because like I said, I dont want to tell him how I feel and then get rejected. This is also the reason that I have not become intimate with him yet.

"You shouldn't assume he is lying from the start. He doesn't owe anything to you and he owes you no explaination. If he says he got hit by a basketball then he probably did."

yeah your right, but like I said, I didnt call him out on it because it could have very well have been true and that would have made me look inconsiderate. And I'm trying to give men a clean slate all together. That's why I made a conscious effort not to even say anything.

"I guess the secret would be to make him feel just a little guilty but by doing it the right way. All you have to do is tell him you want to take it to a higher level and by opening yourself up, he will have a very high respect for you and most deffinately give you a chance if he is a good person."

ok....I understand what my part is now. Thanks for shedding some light on my situation. If you think of anything else that I need to know please add it...lol....I could use the help. Well, I guess I'll go for it the next time I see him....DEEP BREATH

"I am positive he is just as emotional deep inside."

That is definately one thing that I picked up about him very early on. I can tell that he is VERY sensitive.

there is alot more to it probably. Sounds like calculating but this without your partner.

"Sounds like calculating but this without your partner."

Dont quite understand this? Care to expand?

testing i feel like crash puppet...so many times through that, is like to change your underpants....what to say.

Aries no but a Virgo with a 180 degree Saturn turn over 🙂

nice to meeting you El.

"Sounds like calculating but this without your partner."

Dont quite understand this? Care to expand?

whether i can trust my partner, whether he loves me, whether he would this for me...: several questions at the time when he/she does not expects not. Depending on the result you are out or in.
But what does your partner feel or trying to acomplishe does not count much. Unless is inline with the expectations or goals.
Result:
It is "calculating the life without your partner". Sounds like business. I would not hesitate to put it in diffrent words but i m a guest on this board.

This is taken from real life with scorp women over a long long period.

Do scorpios jugde their friends also??

more protective to friend where are expectations. Judging a friend when the friend gained something or favours done to her/him and not returned. Is something what did you give me what i gave you.

"But what does your partner feel or trying to acomplishe does not count much. Unless is inline with the expectations or goals.
Result:
It is "calculating the life without your partner". Sounds like business. I would not hesitate to put it in diffrent words but i m a guest on this board."

Tet are you basically saying talking about one person having their own agenda without taking into account the other person's agenda? Sorry, but it's kind of hard to follow your saying on here.

yes, the agenda is there from the very beginning.

"yes, the agenda is there from the very beginning."

Wouldn't it be fair to say that one's agenda can change after getting to know the person? I don't think that someone's agenda is necessarily set in stone. (even though at times, when i comes to guys, it could be set in stone.)

i think you have a key word hidden in btw. However it is the same end of the day.

are they happy? Maybe then when expirementing finds an end.

We're never happy with anything...always strive for more..

what's with the tests anyway?what's the objective and what's your mission?if you're trying to hust the one u love, then obviously you've achieved that.

the one thing i don't get about scorpios is the brooding period (hibernating), they can go without phone calls or emails for a long time, and then suddenly call you up like nothing happened and all is well again...what's up with that—

About the happiness i heard it.
strive for better, if i think in terms of "a family" can be good. This urge lets call it motivation would help to achieve things.
A STORY for MORE (actually this guy was reall), hard working and humble man about to die, before passing away asks his eldest to burry him in his socks and gives a letter - He says to open it when he can not find and answer to his problem. He dies and the son wants his last wish to be done. None of the cleriks (Muslim) agrees to it because it is not allowed. What to do, "he opens" the letter and reads. "You see my son i m rich very, very rich but still you cant" burry me with my socks.

"what's with the tests anyway?what's the objective and what's your mission?if you're trying to hust the one u love, then obviously you've achieved that.

the one thing i don't get about scorpios is the brooding period (hibernating), they can go without phone calls or emails for a long time, and then suddenly call you up like nothing happened and all is well again...what's up with that—"

And when your trying to get a relationship off the ground with a Scorpio, their "hibernating" period can make that almost impossible. Because I dont know about everyone else, but when a guy has no problem going 2 or 4 weeks without talking to me, then I am going to take that as seriously LOW interest (if any at all). The only way to build trust when your dating someone new is to be consistent. It's hard to NOT take their silence as disinterest.

u better ask the scorpio guys. I read once in Tantra, if something like this happens and over and over again " you should move on".

I've been dating a scorpio man for 3 months and he is a weird guy. He is great when we are together specially in the weekends. During the week he just text only, not very outspoken. That kills me cause, I'm a leo female and I love to communicate and this dude just does not get it. I like him very much and I just don't know what to do. I stay over on the weekend he shows me allot of affection but after the weekend it's just like we never had any sort of incounter. He does text me with nice word like "hi, sweetie missin u", "hi peaches" etc. I have no patience for this games. What should I do—

Oh, by the way I am happy and have been happy many times in my life. I give love freely to those that touch my heart, but then again I am an older and hopefully wiser Scorp.

Amen to that Pluto's Pride.

I guess Scorpio's just arent loving/loveable people, or atleast thats how people make it out to be.....i too have noticed the thing where they "talk to you like their best friend, and then dissapear for a long time" my ex does it to me all the time...its weird.

AB..you are so wrong. We love in the deep depths of our souls...with the right person.

candlz, yes i have heard that..but i dont know if i believe it. If they supposedly can "love someone so much it hurts" then why can they never trust anyone? I've heard countless Scorpio's say they never trusted anyone they love...if you love someone with the depth of your soul, you'd think you can atleast trust them. I dont know, in a way i really do understand Scorpio's, since Im a Pisces...and P/S click easily, and understand eachother, but at the same time i really feel as if their cold, and mean down deep inside. I dont know, maybe i'd just have to be a Scorpio to understand it lol.

Not cold and definitely not mean. Again, at least not with the right person. But it isn't so much not trusting anyone, it's being 'cautious'. We are a very cautious lot. It's difficult to explain. We keep testing to see if we get the same answer twice..type of thing. If so, it's easier to trust and we go on to the next thing, so to speak.

OK.....someone answer this.....With all the testing that male Scorpio does(to find out if they can really trust you or whatever...) How in the world do you know when you are actually making progress with him towards something meaningful?

"whether i can trust my partner, whether he loves me, whether he would this for me...: several questions at the time when he/she does not expects not. Depending on the result you are out or in.
But what does your partner feel or trying to acomplishe does not count much. Unless is inline with the expectations or goals.
Result:
It is "calculating the life without your partner". Sounds like business."

Wow, Tet .. that so got my attention. If my ex-Gem-husband had had this kind of awareness, I might never had left him.

p-Angel, i have a diffrent view of it and you certainly wont' like it. BTW how long you were married?

anotherscorp,

I think you just made a very good point that resonated with me. As noted in my other posts, I'm trying to understand what's going through a Scorp female I got to know recently.

I was trying to get the Scorp female to go out with me but she basically said her life was busy with work right now. Maybe it's just from my other experiences, but I read between the lines too much and thought maybe she wasn't interested or she was just trying to blow me off.

Instead, maybe I should have interpreted what she said very LITERALLY. The Scorp gal said, "I'm busy with work now" and that's exactly how she meant it.

I think a lot of times, people expect to "hear what THEY want to hear". When they don't, then people get bent out of shape.

Thanks for the lesson in "listening" better. 🙂

"p-Angel, i have a diffrent view of it and you certainly wont' like it. BTW how long you were married?"

Tet, I like everybody's view .. especially when I don't agree. It's what makes the world go around .. shoot.

I was with him for 8 years, only married for two.

I agree that .... my Scorp son is completely oblivious to his control-freak wife .. he thinks it's Lurv and it's because she can see what's best for him because she luvs him so much.

She's a fucking Aries .. it's CONTROL

what; a pic is urs? Lets meet.

Roxi he he he. We might like so much and turn GAY. 🙂

Taurusbabe, that description fits an Aries man to a T as well..lol...ah well, we are from the same planet afterall

Actually it's called man-nipple-ation. I mean manipulation. I do it all the time. 😉

TaurusBabe - he was talking about his recently deceased mom. Great job in making him feel bad, jerk.

"I did say he has become rude."

Yeah, English-rude but not actual rude. You know, the kind of rudeness that would make someone wait a couple of seconds after you sneezed before saying "bless you".

Awww does Satyrmind have a soft spot for our Deemi?....bless..sho shweet..

😛

Deemi is a gangster...init

(all mine of course)

Oh and I can pull off the cute and helpless look really well...then turn into a superbitch the next...its great having all these personalities...Another thing I often overhear people say is that I have a vacant expression on my face at times..and they guess that I am not listening to them at all but in a galaxy far far away...they are right, cos they've bored me half to death and i've lost interest time ago..

"As for Yum's explination, its......hmmmmm......"

Awe-inspiring? Brilliant? Somewhat odd?

"Isn't jerk a name reserved for the male species—?"

Well, I guess I apologize.

Yeah I don't do hugs well at all...I just freeze on the spot as if to say "what are you doing, you insane person, get the hell off me"...My pisces friend said to me once that she needs to teach me the art of receiving a heartfelt hug...I just gave her the raised eyebrow.

I hope you all know I named him Deemi..he's my creation...all mine...muahahahha...

Satyrmind..I was only kidding..well its not often you dish out hugs is it..especially to a Scorpio hun...

Taurusbabe...Helllooooooooooooooooo shweety!..Thank god the working day is over!

hun = man

"Rude is rude. There are shades of rudeness but it's still being rude."

Rude is indeed rude, usually, but sometimes being percieved as rude doesn't mean you are actually rude per se, not according to your own definition of rudeness, anyway, but that's where levels of rudeness comes into play, since it allows a slightly more objective discussion of rudeness.

Hah, 7 times, lets see you beat that!

TB: Odd is good...I like odd...I like geeks...I like all things strange..

Satyrmind..thats ok 🙂