Scorpios how far do you go to pull emotion out?

Well I have been involved with a scorpio for bout 2 months. i would almost spend the night every day. However, i wouldnt have sex with him but we would make out. things were going good; he took me to meet his family (thats a big deal right?) and we got along perfectly. His sister and I clicked (he says hes the closest to her). I wouldnt kiss him in front of his family because i am not [ his grlfriend ]. But in front of his friends & my friens we would kiss (but not wen we are out at the bars together) . His bday came around & his room mate & I threw 2gether a surprise party. we bought everything & invited mainly his family. this was the 1st time we made out in front of his family. EVERY1 saw bc they yelled [uh ohhhhhh]. i got so shy i ran in2 the kitchen & he came after me 2 continue kissing. later that nite i was talkin w| his cousin & he storms over "y u talking to me girl?" & walks away. the nite ended well. we went out to a diner den took pics ( he insisted on taking with us & his roommates ) .

Back off a bit. We love the chase and the mystery of what your doing will drive him nuts. Stay busy. Don't reach out to him. Let him come to you. Look your best whenever you may run into him. Be overly confident when your out and about. That will help. We want a lady in the streets. I wouldn't call this a test, I would say he is a little confused, about what he wants. But, when he sees you he wants you. I know some Gems can be pretty jealous at times. (I dated one off and on for 7 yrs). So you can be jealous if you are just don't him see it. Call a family member, call a girlfriend, before you let him see that side of you. Yet!

i've been seeing a cancerian for almost 3 months. at first i wouldn't acknowledge that i was seeing him because i was still getting over someone else and i didn't want to 'close the door' on him by making it known i was seeing the crab. i was honest about it though and he knew i was struggling to let go of the other guy but he didn't push me cos of it.

perhaps it's a slightly different situation in that the other guy wasn't worth me holding on to and we aren't even on speaking terms any more but the cancerian remained consistent in wanting to be with me no matter how many angst ridden spiels he had to hear from me about the other.

long story short, the crab won me over slowly but surely and now we are officially seeing eachother, lol.

the point i wanted to make was that although i liked the crab straight away, i was more concerned with the other guy and so i held everything back from the crab....unfairly. in most situations we were fine but if the other guy appeared when i was out with the crab my reaction would always be to go home straight away cos i can't bear to be in the same room as him. i didn't give a second thought to that behaviour upsetting the crab cos i was still in obsess mode over the other. it's like he existed when it suited me.

you've been told that your scorp has feelings still for this other girl and as a scorp, i am telling you that until those feelings subside, he will toy with you and string you along cos you're his backup plan.

the way the crab made me sit up and take notice was by him finally having enough of the way i behaved when seeing the other guy and so he more or less told me to fuck off. typically, when someone does that to you it kinda gets you re-thinking your connection with them.

what's his ex's situation? has she found someone else? if so, you could just be being used to make her jealous and if she's single, there's no way he will act all loved up or even remotely interested in you while she's around.

anyhow....like i said, unless those feelings for her subside, you're not really in the running imo.

freeze him out. you're being too available to him. do what the crabman did with me and REFUSE to play second fiddle. if he wants you after doing that, by god you'll know about it.

Posted by Impulsv
No test hell just walk all over You. Even though Ur not exclusive hes dating you And he shouldnt treat you like that in front of ex. He pretty much chose her. Why do u confuse his behavior with being a scorpio test. It's flat out disrespectful n frankly he chose to dis u in front of ex. And we'll u said make a choice but then cave. I think ur in your right to state were you stand. It might not be what you like to hear but do you want to be second fiddle while working on ex. Is he just passing time with u while he is working to get ex. Just cuz he hasn't said ur exclusive doesn't mean he can be disrespectful in front of u. Just my thought.

Thank you so much for your reply!!!
i was thinking it was a test because after i slept over i woke up and went out of town bc i was disgusted by my behavior and hurt by his. the ex was at the bar before & he didnt act the way he acted. when i left he texted me (after being silent on fb) & he knew i was out of town so he texted me after three days. then on sunday he asked me "are you staying in?" (bc we usually always go to the same bar for football. (did he miss me?) i am keeping my distance by not texting him & not going to bars were we usually see eachother. as he walked in i was walking out & he said "youre leaving?" "no im smoking" he took me home & then monday he drove by my house at 2am (saw the lights on) & said "are you still up?" i text him back and said "i am but falling asleep soon" (it cant be a booty call bc i have never had sex with him right? so he missed me?) i make sure i never text him. i try to show him im not too focused on him.

Posted by PP
Back off a bit. We love the chase and the mystery of what your doing will drive him nuts. Stay busy. Don't reach out to him. Let him come to you. Look your best whenever you may run into him. Be overly confident when your out and about. That will help. We want a lady in the streets. I wouldn't call this a test, I would say he is a little confused, about what he wants. But, when he sees you he wants you. I know some Gems can be pretty jealous at times. (I dated one off and on for 7 yrs). So you can be jealous if you are just don't him see it. Call a family member, call a girlfriend, before you let him see that side of you. Yet!

thank you!!!! your post helped a lot!

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s


what's his ex's situation? has she found someone else? .

thank u for sharing!!

he was never with her. he was just talking to her on & off but she treated him like her back up plan. she is single & has been single. one she found out he was talking to me she was pissed. (we have mutual friends) they never had sex but made out .

Posted by Let*It*Be
"there is more but can't type bc i wrote 2 much."


I'm just gonna take a poke here...did something more happen Sunday that you haven't shared?

thanks for your reply!
yes this pass sunday i texted him back after he asked "are you staying in" "No y" "bc i dont think anyone is going to the bar" "well i am here with my best friend & her bf (he knows them) & your cousin is here & your two friends." "O try. then I guess ill b dropping by" "indeed" i saw him when i was walking out to smoke & he said "youre leaving" "no just smoking"
once i walked in we didnt say hi right away. then i said "hey" "hey how are you?" "good just celebrating the win." we started talking about our football teams and then stopped talking. there were a group of girls he was talking to but i payed no mind. there wasnt much dialogue but then my friend that i came with had to leave & the scorpio lives two blocks from me i asked if he could drive me home and he said sure. when we were about to leave he said "hold on let me say bye to my friends (the girls)" i walked away and went to the door to wait. he came and as we were walking he said "why didnt you ask dave (one of his friends) a ride home." "i dont even know him like that plus u live closer to me" so he dropped me at my house and that was that until he texted me on monday after he drove by my house at 2am and saw my lights on.

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Posted by Let*It*Be
"there is more but can't type bc i wrote 2 much."


I'm just gonna take a poke here...did something more happen Sunday that you haven't shared?

thanks for your reply!
yes this pass sunday i texted him back after he asked "are you staying in" "No y" "bc i dont think anyone is going to the bar" "well i am here with my best friend & her bf (he knows them) & your cousin is here & your two friends." "O try. then I guess ill b dropping by" "indeed" i saw him when i was walking out to smoke & he said "youre leaving" "no just smoking"
once i walked in we didnt say hi right away. then i said "hey" "hey how are you?" "good just celebrating the win." we started talking about our football teams and then stopped talking. there were a group of girls he was talking to but i payed no mind. there wasnt much dialogue but then my friend that i came with had to leave & the scorpio lives two blocks from me i asked if he could drive me home and he said sure. when we were about to leave he said "hold on let me say bye to my friends (the girls)" i walked away and went to the door to wait. he came and as we were walking he said "why didnt you ask dave (one of his friends) a ride home." "i dont even know him like that plus u live closer to me" so he dropped me at my house and that was that until he texted me on monday after he drove by my house at 2am and saw my lights on.

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After that little bit of info. He is feeding you crumbs. I've done this b4. Make yourself less available to him.

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Posted by Let*It*Be
"there is more but can't type bc i wrote 2 much."


I'm just gonna take a poke here...did something more happen Sunday that you haven't shared?

thanks for your reply!
yes this pass sunday i texted him back after he asked "are you staying in" "No y" "bc i dont think anyone is going to the bar" "well i am here with my best friend & her bf (he knows them) & your cousin is here & your two friends." "O try. then I guess ill b dropping by" "indeed" i saw him when i was walking out to smoke & he said "youre leaving" "no just smoking"
once i walked in we didnt say hi right away. then i said "hey" "hey how are you?" "good just celebrating the win." we started talking about our football teams and then stopped talking. there were a group of girls he was talking to but i payed no mind. there wasnt much dialogue but then my friend that i came with had to leave & the scorpio lives two blocks from me i asked if he could drive me home and he said sure. when we were about to leave he said "hold on let me say bye to my friends (the girls)" i walked away and went to the door to wait. he came and as we were walking he said "why didnt you ask dave (one of his friends) a ride home." "i dont even know him like that plus u live closer to me" so he dropped me at my house and that was that until he texted me on monday after he drove by my house at 2am and saw my lights on.

After that little bit of info. He is feeding you crumbs. I've done this b4. Make yourself less available to him.

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Thank you again. i will ice him out. even ignore his texts sometimes? o no? because i know you scorpios dont like that & will do it even worst back.

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Posted by Let*It*Be
"there is more but can't type bc i wrote 2 much."


I'm just gonna take a poke here...did something more happen Sunday that you haven't shared?

thanks for your reply!
yes this pass sunday i texted him back after he asked "are you staying in" "No y" "bc i dont think anyone is going to the bar" "well i am here with my best friend & her bf (he knows them) & your cousin is here & your two friends." "O try. then I guess ill b dropping by" "indeed" i saw him when i was walking out to smoke & he said "youre leaving" "no just smoking"
once i walked in we didnt say hi right away. then i said "hey" "hey how are you?" "good just celebrating the win." we started talking about our football teams and then stopped talking. there were a group of girls he was talking to but i payed no mind. there wasnt much dialogue but then my friend that i came with had to leave & the scorpio lives two blocks from me i asked if he could drive me home and he said sure. when we were about to leave he said "hold on let me say bye to my friends (the girls)" i walked away and went to the door to wait. he came and as we were walking he said "why didnt you ask dave (one of his friends) a ride home." "i dont even know him like that plus u live closer to me" so he dropped me at my house and that was that until he texted me on monday after he drove by my house at 2am and saw my lights on.

After that little bit of info. He is feeding you crumbs. I've done this b4. Make yourself less available to him.

Thank you again. i will ice him out. even ignore his texts sometimes? o no? because i know you scorpios dont like that & will do it even worst back.

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Well my advice wouldn't be to ice him out,but to step back and watch what he does. Does he chase you more or disappear?. if you feel like you need to ice him out. By all means do what you feel is the right thing to do for yourself in this situation!

id have a field day with this dude. *cracks knuckles*

he does chase more when i disappear. when i was out of town for five days i didnt post anythin on Facebook & this was after he told me he doesnt have an emotional connection. he texted me after four days of zero contact

"how was ur trip" "I'm still here" "trillz. have anything to do with someone?" "lol no. how it back at home?" "uh..same as u left it lol" "i was thinking about going back tomorrow but my aunt got sick last night so i feel bad leaving her." "o yea that sucks. i have a stuffy nose too." (i took care of him after his surgery) "im sure u stocked up on your soup & hot sauce. lol" "lol i got mad rice" "rice? for a cold? i suppose it works 4 u. rice in soup is yummy, ever tried it?" "well i went shopping n forgot soup." "if we had an emotional connection i would of brought u soup lol but i no u didnt forget the garlic 🙂" "lol well played.." "i can play better than that batman o🙂" "I'm sure u can. My game wasnt so shabby." "i hope your sheets smell goos since you're sick. do they still smell clean? if u play ur cards right ur sheets could smell the same." "ahahaha how can i repay those actions" "be true" "i'm sry. can u elaborate. like just b me?" "are you tru?" "i am true. i dont think i have done anything to really make me not true. i do however have a feeling there are many things going on around me that i cant see. i dont like it but im not going to make a big deal." "If you are true and you say you dont have an emotional conn. w| me then thats the truth of how you're feeling. what would you do if you were me? If you think there are things going on you cant c maybe there not a big deal to u but bc i care they are a big deal to me. idk what else to say." "I'm just saying there are alot of ppl hatin on me rite now. talkin behind my back. things that went on between us, sure there was true emotion & meaning. none of that was fake. jst dont have my heart in the right place to make that choice." "if your heart isnt in that right place, then i guess thats the answer." "i see where ur going w. it. thats cool" "I'm only going where u are telling me u are. u know i have never been this open with you." (what do u take from this convo?) this is y i thought telling me theres no emotional connection was a test.

then no response until i toted "happy thanksgiving."

I'm a scorp. And a man. And I think this one is a jackass!!! Don't think the scorpio is what is making him act as he is. Its his johnson, and his desire for attention from females.I'll add that when I am with a lady, date or serious or friend. She is treated as a lady and gets my attenton. If I took a lady to a bar and there was an old flame there(its happened) the old flame got a head nod and nothing more. My point is if he really wanted you the way id expect him to if I were you then you'd so know about it. A scorp confesses all to the woman he loves! It wouldn't be a mystery at all. This is just young foolish high school bull shit. Move on to a gentleman, let the boy play in the sand box.

Posted by DMV
id have a field day with this dude. *cracks knuckles*

+1 ! Samehere...he wouldn't know what was right side up after I was thru.
...wanna play games?...ok!

Posted by shawnman79
I'm a scorp. And a man. And I think this one is a jackass!!! Don't think the scorpio is what is making him act as he is. Its his johnson, and his desire for attention from females.I'll add that when I am with a lady, date or serious or friend. She is treated as a lady and gets my attenton. If I took a lady to a bar and there was an old flame there(its happened) the old flame got a head nod and nothing more. My point is if he really wanted you the way id expect him to if I were you then you'd SO know about it. A scorp confesses all to the woman he loves! It wouldn't be a mystery at all. This is just young foolish high school bull shit. Move on to a gentleman, let the boy play in the sand box.

...Shawnman79 is right. Not only would he let YOU know..but the WHOLE world and even aliens with ears would hear about you.

I won't lie though..I liked how you MADE him give you a ride home... threw salt in his "game" with the ladies..lmao!!!
With me, That would have just been the beginning.

..let him be though. Unplug from the madness.