Scorpio's violent dad

I've got to know a scorpio (male). I've only recently met him. He's what a scorpio is all about. We started talking and after a while he told me that he went through a hard time when he was little. It seems that his dad often hit his mum, abused her and he had to witness it all. Scorpios are sensitive creatures and I wonder how this situation could have effected him? He was a little kid (7/8 years old) when it all happened and his dad left for Italy a few years later. He's a wonderful person! Calm, cautious, charming, intriguing, ... He also told me that he felt guilty because (regardless of what his father had done)he followed his dad around whenever wherever.

So how does this influence an adorable scorp and what's with the father figure-thing?

He's probably the one who cannot forgive people.

Hi Cancimini,

Well, I think the fact that he *told* you about it so early on, is very revealing. It means he wants to trust you, means he wants you to understand him...means that he wants to heal from it.

Children internalize everything about their parents. At some point, "your" Scorp will have to decide what it means to be a man. How will he handle anger? He probably has anger towards the mother too, for being the "victim", and this may flow out onto any woman he comes into contact with.

He may have way too many expectations of his partner. What he has to learn is how to love himself....nurture himself...deal with his own emotions. Actually this is what we all have to learn.

As notso said, it is difficult to break the cycle, but it can be done, or at least healed to a great extent, and if anyone is capable of doing it, it is a Scorpio.

Thanks eaglegirl 😉

He's got a lot of grace and he's calm and cool and that's why I thought he would be very confident, but apparently he's kind of insecure 🙂 I think it really hurt him that his father left too. I'm sure he regrets that he never had a (direct) "example".

I was surprised that he confided in me so quickly too. I really appreciate that

"It's all I can do to keep my mouth shut when I see his father manipulating him and taking advantage of him"


Thatz how most women see parent-son relationships.

I don't know a lot of scorpios. It's a shame cause I really like 'em and they are cool to talk to...

He's a sweetheart, but I can only guess what's going on inside... 🙂

the blind loyalty-thing is dangerous but very scorpio

Blind loyalty - The only spot where Scorpio acts foolish. Which sets me wondering why am I commenting ?

because you're the violent dad of a scorpio? 🙂

being a male, (I am a Virgo) I'd say that he probably wouldn't take to males too fast....he may even despise them; on the surface he might look cool, but he could be hiding some internal tension....I've seen some BAD stuff as well, as a kid; and I won't draw the spotlight to me but if he blames people for his shotcomings, you might be on the recieving end of some severe punishment....good luck cancimini....😉

There is good a bad in every human being....I just have to keep saying that enough so I believe it even when dealing with scorps....lol 😛

My dad's a Scorp.....and I'm sure all of DXP knows about our notorious battles......my dad accused me and my mother of boinking each other......he's really f**ked up....sick....I really despise the guy.

"he's really f**ked up....sick....I really despise the guy. "

Indeed. I am most appalled.

don't be Gaurav, it's only in his nature...I pitty him; remaining in a relationship to make the other party suffer....where's the strength in that?

You see by subjecting myself to the most depraved creature I could find, I further reinforced my ability to cope with even the most 'distasteful' of circumstances, and traumas; in short, he does nothing but make me stronger, and himself weaker....for him life will continue to be an endless, loveless, chain of memories becuase he is so distrustful....pitiful.....I don't know whether to laugh, or to cry for him....but NOW I'll laugh lol 😛

He's openly admitted he dosen't like me; and to which why I responed;

'So what? It's not as if I can MAKE you love me...I'm not a Scorp, so I won't even try....but as for the disliking me....now THAT I love'

he drew back, and every day TRIES to find someway to buy me back, becuase he was stuck in his emotions....what a fool....a Virgo cannot be bought, becuase we typically are logically detatched beings; what is a videogame going to compensate for? Hell you KNOW even in your heart you cannot win me back; It's over. I don't waste my mind and time on him; I said I will pray you find everything you desire in this realm, becuase in the realm of the heart, and mind, you are denyed access.....