Silent Scorpio

Is there even a way to snap a Scorpio out of silent treatment? We're not talking days here - we're talking months, and it's the first time they ever did this, at least to me. I have literally no idea what I have done, and no one else seems to know either.

You really can't. It's not any game actually. You may not even be the reason.

Thanks for the replies. My friend has had some mental issues for the past years, but we've been very close for a long time and I thought I would at least get an answer as to what I have done wrong.

I'm basically drawing the conclusion that this friendship didn't matter as much to my friend as I thought since they can't even be bothered to give me chance to apologize or explain myself, for whatever I did.

This friend has done this to other people before but they would at least know what they did to some extent. I'm completely left in the dark for some reason.

How do you know he has mental issues? Do you know what they are if he does? I don't think this is a scorpio problem just a problem with anyone suffering for mental illness really.

If you honestly have no idea what you did then it probably has nothing to do with you? Best to give him space and leave it at that. Maybe send 1 email just saying that your their for them if they are truly going through some mental illness issues and leave it at that.

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

Posted by superScorpio
How do you know he has mental issues? Do you know what they are if he does? I don't think this is a scorpio problem just a problem with anyone suffering for mental illness really.

If you honestly have no idea what you did then it probably has nothing to do with you? Best to give him space and leave it at that. Maybe send 1 email just saying that your their for them if they are truly going through some mental illness issues and leave it at that.

We've known each other for a long time, and been through hardships together and supported each other. I think some of that stuff hit my friend a lot harder than me and my friend has had difficulties getting through those ordeals. It's been some sort of mental collapse/nervous breakdown a while back, but I'd rather not get into any more details surrounding that.

Yeah, I sent a message like that today when it was obvious it's only me being shut out right now, basically just said I was hurt by it but that whatever I did, I want to offer sincere apologies if possible. No reply.

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

Yeah, my friend has done this before to people but unlike you, my friend always sort of forgave them in the end, cooled down sort of. The thing is, there has been no major conflict or argument whatsoever. I've been through every single message, can't find anything, and none of the mutual friends know why either :/

Oh well, best move on, I guess.

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Posted by jpx
Thanks for the replies. My friend has had some mental issues for the past years, but we've been very close for a long time and I thought I would at least get an answer as to what I have done wrong.

I'm basically drawing the conclusion that this friendship didn't matter as much to my friend as I thought since they can't even be bothered to give me chance to apologize or explain myself, for whatever I did.

This friend has done this to other people before but they would at least know what they did to some extent. I'm completely left in the dark for some reason.

What kind of mental issues?

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Nervous breakdown, severe anxiety.. rather not get into detail about it, but there has been some traumatic events in the past years as well that I don't think my friend really dealt with either. I hope they will now, I'm just sad that our friendship had to end like this.

Posted by leowww
Months? And you don't know why? 😐

At this point maybe it's best you stop trying to understand why. Let it go?

Yeah, at first I guess they just wanted space, so I gave them space. My friend has sort of been living sheltered away for a while, but now seems to be in touch with most old friends except me, which I guess hurt a lot since we've been there for each other our entire lives. A sad way to go, but yeah, I've sent two messages about this now and I can't really do anything more now.

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Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

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I'm really trying to understand what I did, but I cannot for the life of me see what it is. Maybe it will come out, sooner or later, but as for now, I'm going to let it go. It's my friends decision, and like you said, probably thinks I deserve it for some reason.

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Whatever the reason may be you gonna have to accept him the way he is cause he's not going to change.

Yeah, though, when I've seen my friend do this to other people, they have given an explanation. It's quite rare to be this silent. But you're right, not much else I can do but move on at this point. Thanks.

Posted by feby
Is there a chance you were talking about them and they found out?

I don't think so, we've known each other for a great deal of time and been through a lot of difficult things together and been pretty honest up until this point, the things I say about my friend are thing I could say to their face as well. Then again, my friend has a lot of trust issues so the only thing I can imagine is that something got twisted along the way.

@jpx

It sounds like you've done what you can to encourage your friend to contact you and work things out, if there was anything like a misunderstanding going on. Leaving it be does seem best. If he decides to finally come forward and explain his side of things, you can take it from there.

I've known a few people with emotional problems who increasingly didn't make good decisions in their relationships - they cut people off who hadn't done anything wrong in some cases. I don't know what's going on with your friend, of course, I'm just sharing my experience.

I had one person disappear on me then later, when I wrote to ask if anything had happened between us that had been a problem (I couldn't think of anything at all, but I wanted to ask in case) he wrote back apologizing and confessed that he was developing romantic feelings for me. He knew that the relationship wasn't going to be more than friends. That was true about where the relationship had to stay, and our correspondence had to end because it was too hard for him. Again, I'm not saying that's what's going on with your friend, just sharing.

Posted by CopperDove
@jpx

It sounds like you've done what you can to encourage your friend to contact you and work things out, if there was anything like a misunderstanding going on. Leaving it be does seem best. If he decides to finally come forward and explain his side of things, you can take it from there.

I've known a few people with emotional problems who increasingly didn't make good decisions in their relationships - they cut people off who hadn't done anything wrong in some cases. I don't know what's going on with your friend, of course, I'm just sharing my experience.

I had one person disappear on me then later, when I wrote to ask if anything had happened between us that had been a problem (I couldn't think of anything at all, but I wanted to ask in case) he wrote back apologizing and confessed that he was developing romantic feelings for me. He knew that the relationship wasn't going to be more than friends. That was true about where the relationship had to stay, and our correspondence had to end because it was too hard for him. Again, I'm not saying that's what's going on with your friend, just sharing.

Yeah, I've seen my friend cut off people for things he just created in his own head really, but he's always come around in the end. We'll see what happens, like you said, I can't really do much more now.

I know my friend has been through some horrible years and crisis, we went through one traumatic event together, and I don't think he has worked through these issues.. so I'm just going to give him space and the time he needs to sort this and himself out.

Mutual friends have offered to mediate but I doubt it will be appreciated?

Posted by PootyButt
Is this a friend or a "friend"?

Just a friend! 🙂

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@jpx

It sounds like you've done what you can to encourage your friend to contact you and work things out, if there was anything like a misunderstanding going on. Leaving it be does seem best. If he decides to finally come forward and explain his side of things, you can take it from there.

I've known a few people with emotional problems who increasingly didn't make good decisions in their relationships - they cut people off who hadn't done anything wrong in some cases. I don't know what's going on with your friend, of course, I'm just sharing my experience.

I had one person disappear on me then later, when I wrote to ask if anything had happened between us that had been a problem (I couldn't think of anything at all, but I wanted to ask in case) he wrote back apologizing and confessed that he was developing romantic feelings for me. He knew that the relationship wasn't going to be more than friends. That was true about where the relationship had to stay, and our correspondence had to end because it was too hard for him. Again, I'm not saying that's what's going on with your friend, just sharing.

Yeah, I've seen my friend cut off people for things he just created in his own head really, but he's always come around in the end. We'll see what happens, like you said, I can't really do much more now.

I know my friend has been through some horrible years and crisis, we went through one traumatic event together, and I don't think he has worked through these issues.. so I'm just going to give him space and the time he needs to sort this and himself out.

Mutual friends have offered to mediate but I doubt it will be appreciated?

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Definitely if he still has to work out some things after trauma, it's best that he do that. Ideally he'd explain that to you, so you'd know. Hopefully one day he'll be able to articulate things to people instead of disappearing on them w/o them knowing why. Extreme things aside, I think that when ending an association, or taking a long break, it's good to let the person know why. It doesn't take many words to do so.

Mediation is a tricky thing. It can be good sometimes but in this situation, hard to say. If your friends generally have good judgement about people, and they're all offering that because they think it might help, it could be worth considering.

Sorry ladies and gents but I don't feel like reading comments over multiple pages. Here is my input: so there's a girl, supposed to be my bestie... Sis in law, pretended to be the sister I never had or whatever... Anyway.. all of a sudden, she ices me out, cuts me off. Blocks me every which way

Fast forward I show up at her son (my nephew's) bday party... She pulls me aside and tells me that someone told one of her secrets. (Not me, btw) and she didn't know who to trust... (I know who told, but she sure as heck didn't amputate THAT PERSON) either way, I DESERVE to know wtf I did right? Grow up and stand up for yourself! anyways... My father died and stepmom takes all... She texts me "sorry to hear about your father, and how they're treating you, if you need me, you know here I am!" after months of having me blocked and no contact out of nowhere.... So what do I do? Ignore. She is scorp. I am sag.

I tell another scorp guy friend about it and how dumb it I think it is and why...He seems to understand that I need to know if I mess up. Tell me. Show me. Put me in my place, if you want an apology or repentance.

Sometimes people don't mean to mess up, because what bugs you doesn't bug them. Man up. Own your feelings and be honest. It's really the only way to have a lasting relationship of any kind.

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Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

I'm really trying to understand what I did, but I cannot for the life of me see what it is. Maybe it will come out, sooner or later, but as for now, I'm going to let it go. It's my friends decision, and like you said, probably thinks I deserve it for some reason.

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Yea, Idk if your friend will tell you or not.. & we don't do it because we're trying to maliciously hurt ppl close to us. You've done something wrong and it's just the way we handle it. Again I only do it for a long period of time when I truly feel disrespected...

My best friend, Pisces, was having one of her "moments" (lets just call it that) & she was apparently "jealous" of me because I had started modeling and she wanted to also.. She was talking to my new interest at the time about me.. BEHIND MY BACK.. saying rude shit.. Then she lied and said that my interest went to her school (high school, he did) But she said they were really close (LIE) .. It was too much back to back disrespect.... So I ghosted her.. She tried hard to speak to me.. Even texted and called friends of mine (not hers) asking them to figure out what was wrong and to tell me to call her.. I told them "NO!".. I wasn't reaching out.. It's more detail then what I can write here... but she hurt me and I didn't like it. We are still friends til this day.. I finally got over it and we talked it over.. but obviously it took me a while to come around.. She just acted like she didn't know what she did wrong.. Talking shit and lying to your best friend is WRONG!

Posted by Atcrossroads
Sorry ladies and gents but I don't feel like reading comments over multiple pages. Here is my input: so there's a girl, supposed to be my bestie... Sis in law, pretended to be the sister I never had or whatever... Anyway.. all of a sudden, she ices me out, cuts me off. Blocks me every which way

Fast forward I show up at her son (my nephew's) bday party... She pulls me aside and tells me that someone told one of her secrets. (Not me, btw) and she didn't know who to trust... (I know who told, but she sure as heck didn't amputate THAT PERSON) either way, I DESERVE to know wtf I did right? Grow up and stand up for yourself! anyways... My father died and stepmom takes all... She texts me "sorry to hear about your father, and how they're treating you, if you need me, you know here I am!" after months of having me blocked and no contact out of nowhere.... So what do I do? Ignore. She is scorp. I am sag.

I tell another scorp guy friend about it and how dumb it I think it is and why...He seems to understand that I need to know if I mess up. Tell me. Show me. Put me in my place, if you want an apology or repentance.

Sometimes people don't mean to mess up, because what bugs you doesn't bug them. Man up. Own your feelings and be honest. It's really the only way to have a lasting relationship of any kind.

It's not even about "manning up"... I have a Sag venus so I speak my mind regardless... I'm not a push over, BY ANY MEANS... It's the ppl closest to us that get iced and that may sound wrong.. but how would you feel if ppl you trusted the MOST did you wrong?? & they know how you are.. and you've already had disputes before.. It's not too many times that we're gonna keep accepting your BS...

In your case, your scorp friend had a secret that was told.. WE ARE SECRETIVE ppl.. I don't tell shit that ppl tell me in secret.. It's the scorp code.. SO if I tell you something.. Only a few know.. & if it gets out I know EXACTLY who told it.. I cut off a friend who was telling my biz..Just how we handle it..

The only way you get a Scorpio to take you out of the freezer is if they are going to offer you a way into forgiveness by bartering a good favor now for the crap they are holding on to. Unless you are needed, they may never ask you for that favor. It's beyond pride, it's the death of the old ushering in the new, the new with new rules, higher standards and harsher penalties.

If you don't genuinely know what you did, it's probably nothing you did. If you were negligent with the relationship then it happened, but telling them you don't know what you did but you're sorry will only push them farther away. It's not a defensible position to take, if they are angry they might attack it and if they are simply wanting to be alone, then you simply showed both of you the way out.

Nope..i get that way too

I usually give the silent treatment when someone says something behind my back. I always find out what they have been saying behind my back. Or it's not about you and they just need some space. Just give them a hug and say You don't have to tell me what your going through just now I'm here for you and that no matter what happens you'll make it through. Long warm hug.....

hope this helps

it takes months to years. for me personally, i hold grudges so it takes me a long time to be ready to confront the issue. i had a fall out with my best friend a month or 2 ago. i thought about her but totally am not ready to talk to her again just yet.

Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

At that point, who is hurting us more? Us or them?

Posted by -Flo-
No, at that point move on. It's a mind game.

Yes, scorpios are insane, dont give them attention.

Posted by Shaun1994
Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

At that point, who is hurting us more? Us or them?

Well, depends, can be unsettling to know someone hates your guts, for many years, while your life has peacefully moved on.

Unsettling, yes. But that doesn't take into account the effect it has on the person holding the grudge.

Of course, I'm only speaking for myself and my point of view on something so subjective.

Anyways, I'll continue. While they have been living life peacefully, the one holding the grudge has not. That is time that will never be given back; time that could have been spent on finding new joys, watching the sun set and learning from our pain on a spiritual level.

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No, at that point move on. It's a mind game.

Yes, scorpios are insane, dont give them attention.

I just think they're good at manipulation if the opportunity is given to them.

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They're very good...l avoid em like the plague...can't stand an ounce of their evilness.?

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No, at that point move on. It's a mind game.

Yes, scorpios are insane, dont give them attention.

I just think they're good at manipulation if the opportunity is given to them.

They're very good...l avoid em like the plague...can't stand an ounce of their evilness.?

I don't think they're evil, just misunderstood. Personally, I find Aquariuses a lot more cold and selfish than a Scorpio. We literally could give a rats ass...

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Both equally cold then ❄️

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Posted by Shaun1994
Unsettling, yes. But that doesn't take into account the effect it has on the person holding the grudge.

Of course, I'm only speaking for myself and my point of view on something so subjective.

Anyways, I'll continue. While they have been living life peacefully, the one holding the grudge has not. That is time that will never be given back; time that could have been spent on finding new joys, watching the sun set and learning from our pain on a spiritual level.

That's rich coming from a cancer. Cancers hold grudges and it eats you from the inside out....and typically shows in the way you interact with everyone. You end up with a stench of bitter.

Scorps cut off the limb so it doesnt get infected....and learn to live with one arm.

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Not every Cancer--not every Scorpio. Attributing ways of dealing with things to zodiac signs as a whole is an easy way to deal with something complex, deep, and utterly subjective.

I heal my limbs, and they grow stronger--like building an immunity that doesn't stop that limb from knowing love again. To cut them off would be too easy. Not only that, I would end up cutting off limb after limb after limb until I am a numb torso that knows only survival. A torso that can't reach for joy in fear that they would destroy themselves.

I've been there, and it has hurt me more than any have hurt me.

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Unsettling, yes. But that doesn't take into account the effect it has on the person holding the grudge.

Of course, I'm only speaking for myself and my point of view on something so subjective.

Anyways, I'll continue. While they have been living life peacefully, the one holding the grudge has not. That is time that will never be given back; time that could have been spent on finding new joys, watching the sun set and learning from our pain on a spiritual level.

That's rich coming from a cancer. Cancers hold grudges and it eats you from the inside out....and typically shows in the way you interact with everyone. You end up with a stench of bitter.

Scorps cut off the limb so it doesnt get infected....and learn to live with one arm.

Not every Cancer--not every Scorpio. Attributing ways of dealing with things to zodiac signs as a whole is an easy way to deal with something complex, deep, and utterly subjective.

I heal my limbs, and they grow stronger--like building an immunity that doesn't stop that limb from knowing love again. To cut them off would be too easy. Not only that, I would end up cutting off limb after limb after limb until I am a numb torso that knows only survival. A torso that can't reach for joy in fear that they would destroy themselves.

I've been there, and it has hurt me more than any have hurt me.

You are not understanding.....there is no 'healing' when someone is set free. There is nothing. Only indifference

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The path to freedom is different for everyone. For some, it is indifference. For others, it is turning pain into growth. You speak solely from your experience, which I am doing as well. But, the difference here is that you believe your current approach is the objective method. That simply isn't so; energy is dealt with differently within each individual. My method is not better than yours, as what is "better" differs per individual as well.

We do not need our methods to be the "right" way for them to be certain. They are how we deal with things currently. The wisest person does not grow wiser, the smartest does not grow smarter, and the strongest does not grow stronger.

I understand your viewpoint. To cut the limb is to stop the infection--but you also stop whatever that limb could have possibly experienced.

Like a favourite food, eating nothing else ensures that that remains your favourite food--and we love that food. But, what if while loving and enjoying that food, we pass up an opportunity to taste something we may enjoy more for fear of tasting something nasty?

We cannot numb selectively. Or, at least, I can't.

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Posted by jpx
Is there even a way to snap a Scorpio out of silent treatment? We're not talking days here - we're talking months, and it's the first time they ever did this, at least to me. I have literally no idea what I have done, and no one else seems to know either.

A silent Scorpio is either 1. You did something stupid 2. He's got personal issues and need space 3. Might be mental issues.

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I've done something stupid a few times.

And I had received call with...so! what ya heck was that?

And it always ended in laughing it off!

So maybe silent

Treatment isn't always that 3?

Just thought I'd update and say that the day after this, I got a reply... saying he wasn't mad "anymore" but he needed time away from me and others.

I replied to let him take all the time he needs and to let me know when he wants to talk again.

I still have no clue what I did wrong, but his answer made me feel a lot better about the situation, at least. I've been in this situation myself and cut myself off, but I sort of tell people right away that I want to be left alone.

Posted by jpx
Just thought I'd update and say that the day after this, I got a reply... saying he wasn't mad "anymore" but he needed time away from me and others.

I replied to let him take all the time he needs and to let me know when he wants to talk again.

I still have no clue what I did wrong, but his answer made me feel a lot better about the situation, at least. I've been in this situation myself and cut myself off, but I sort of tell people right away that I want to be left alone.

Everyone deals with things differently. The key is to be patient and open-minded

Posted by jpx
Thanks for the replies. My friend has had some mental issues for the past years, but we've been very close for a long time and I thought I would at least get an answer as to what I have done wrong.

I'm basically drawing the conclusion that this friendship didn't matter as much to my friend as I thought since they can't even be bothered to give me chance to apologize or explain myself, for whatever I did.

This friend has done this to other people before but they would at least know what they did to some extent. I'm completely left in the dark for some reason.

Im virgo sun scorpio moon too and sadly we have the tendency to do this too. our scorp moons i guess. it is mind games but i know communication would work for me. try communicating and saying how you really feel. if he dont feel the same then its better you know now than later.

Thank god I "studied" scorpio behavior . I called him out on his silent treatment and the fact he was amputating a relationship for something so foolish . He did respond and said " I'll talk to you when I'm ready " . I said " take your time etc etc " . But for real I'm like , fuck it , I'm not going to spend time on this if he wants to keep being childish , hold grudges when he was the one who got angry that's his problems . I am moving on .

They're gone.

If I don't speak with someone for a month or so, it means I'm gone. I can easily go a week or two. More than two, there's something up. The times I've gone for more than a month, I never came back.

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Posted by jpx
Thanks for the replies. My friend has had some mental issues for the past years, but we've been very close for a long time and I thought I would at least get an answer as to what I have done wrong.

I'm basically drawing the conclusion that this friendship didn't matter as much to my friend as I thought since they can't even be bothered to give me chance to apologize or explain myself, for whatever I did.

This friend has done this to other people before but they would at least know what they did to some extent. I'm completely left in the dark for some reason.

Im virgo sun scorpio moon too and sadly we have the tendency to do this too. our scorp moons i guess. it is mind games but i know communication would work for me. try communicating and saying how you really feel. if he dont feel the same then its better you know now than later.

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Yeah. I have Scorpio Moon and Venus but I don't completely block out people, not even relationships I try to cut off. I just minimize contact and keep it casual, really. I feel like I'm being punished, more or less..

Posted by Already-use
Thank god I "studied" scorpio behavior . I called him out on his silent treatment and the fact he was amputating a relationship for something so foolish . He did respond and said " I'll talk to you when I'm ready " . I said " take your time etc etc " . But for real I'm like , fuck it , I'm not going to spend time on this if he wants to keep being childish , hold grudges when he was the one who got angry that's his problems . I am moving on .

Yeah, I got that "positive" reply as well but now I've been blocked everywhere even though I have not put any pressure on him at all. I feel the same as you at this point, I did what I could do at this point. Seems it is time to move on indeed.

Posted by TrueBlessings
They're gone.

If I don't speak with someone for a month or so, it means I'm gone. I can easily go a week or two. More than two, there's something up. The times I've gone for more than a month, I never came back.

The Scorp I knew always came back. Last time he was gone for 2 months but kept "checking up" on me. Infuriating behavior. It's clearly a ploy to keep someone on the back burner for those lonely times, etc...

Whatever.

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Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

I'm like this and have now completely cut off a Pisces.... But I have to work with her so I just use polite professionalism where it is needed. Just business as usual attitude....

No explanation given. I have amputated 4 friendships in this exact same way... I am a Taurus sun but have Neptune in scorp and 6 other placements in the 8th house including mercury, Venus and Saturn.

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That's gotta be a bit uncomfortable.. NO? I usually don't even wanna see the person if I ice them.. lol. I just hate their existence at the moment.. lol

Yea, I've let go of many friendships because of issues. I just don't have time for the constant bs. NEXT!

You have a whole lot of Scorpio in your chart! O_O

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

I'm like this and have now completely cut off a Pisces.... But I have to work with her so I just use polite professionalism where it is needed. Just business as usual attitude....

No explanation given. I have amputated 4 friendships in this exact same way... I am a Taurus sun but have Neptune in scorp and 6 other placements in the 8th house including mercury, Venus and Saturn.

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Oh you sound like a lovely person to be friends with —?

Posted by Peny2016

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

I'm like this and have now completely cut off a Pisces.... But I have to work with her so I just use polite professionalism where it is needed. Just business as usual attitude....

No explanation given. I have amputated 4 friendships in this exact same way... I am a Taurus sun but have Neptune in scorp and 6 other placements in the 8th house including mercury, Venus and Saturn.

Oh you sound like a lovely person to be friends with —?

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And he prides himself on this cough cough 'dysfunctional'

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100

Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Anytime I've iced somebody out its usually for a good reason.. Betrayal or disrespect of some sort. If they don't add to my life I start subtracting. Meaning if they take away from my happiness or stress me out or bring drama then ties are cut.

I usually don't think twice about it or care to ever reconnect or explain why I did it, but it doesn't happen often.

This!

Above is the reason I give ppl silent treatment.. & most times I don't look back.. My best friend for years got iced for a whole year.. She disrespected me and I don't take too kind to that.. best friend or not.. Shit, my own gma got the silent treatment for disrespecting me.. You gotta do something major for me to walk away.. and it honestly doesn't matter who you are..If you upset me... You'll feel it.. & Sometimes you wanna apologize or wanna know what you did exactly.... in our minds, you know exactly what you did.. You don't deserve anything as far as an explanation etc. Scorps are Great, loyal ppl but don't rub us the wrong way...

I'm like this and have now completely cut off a Pisces.... But I have to work with her so I just use polite professionalism where it is needed. Just business as usual attitude....

No explanation given. I have amputated 4 friendships in this exact same way... I am a Taurus sun but have Neptune in scorp and 6 other placements in the 8th house including mercury, Venus and Saturn.

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Ok, yeah, maybe he was just polite in responding to me as well, but.. we don't work together and don't have to see each other like that, so why even respond to my message? I mean, no reply is an answer in itself, I would have gotten that hint.

Not really good at confrontation. I had a Scorpio BFF she was histrionic super needy. Spoiled, Self absorbed but we had an understanding. I guess I just got sick of it one day. Didn't call to wish her merry xmas--- felt very guilty about it. Too guilty to call the next day or the day after and since she didn't I didn't. And we did not talk again for 5 years. Ran into her at a Cigar bar and we talked for 2 hours... It really hurt her and she needed closure. I was happy to talk about it and we had an understanding. I'm sad I didn't realize it and thought if it meant that much to her she would have called. We're both stubborn. Still friends but from a distance. The bond is still there.

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Not really good at confrontation. I had a Scorpio BFF she was histrionic super needy. Spoiled, Self absorbed but we had an understanding. I guess I just got sick of it one day. Didn't call to wish her merry xmas--- felt very guilty about it. Too guilty to call the next day or the day after and since she didn't I didn't. And we did not talk again for 5 years. Ran into her at a Cigar bar and we talked for 2 hours... It really hurt her and she needed closure. I was happy to talk about it and we had an understanding. I'm sad I didn't realize it and thought if it meant that much to her she would have called. We're both stubborn. Still friends but from a distance. The bond is still there.

I understand completely. I think the same will happen here, keep being friends but from a distance. I hope to find out sometime what I did, but I know my friend has a hard time forgetting or forgiving people, even the small things.. to me, this seems very destructive, but.. everyone's different. I doubt our bond will disappear though, that's the thing that's hurting me in this case, we've been extremely close.

So the Scorpio and me are going to the same party soon - still no contact from his side, and he is now keeping me blocked on all social media. I feel a lump in my stomach from going to this party, I don't know what I have done wrong and I would like to settle it before the party, but being blocked feels like a passive aggressive action toward me to stay away, obviously.

I don't understand how he expects to act during this party, or how he wants me to act? :/

Bruh, it's been a month. Why the fuck should it bother you what he does anymore? You looking crazy as all hell right now, still obsessing about this.

Stop using girl logic, and say "fuck it". You gonna let some dude you haven't talked to in a month dictate how you act just because you are going to the same party? Fuck that.

Look as hot as possible, and ignore him back.

yep as a scorpio i could go for a months and months. its strange.

he blocked you?

hmm that's odd why would he do that? are you sure that there's nothing wrong between the two of you