Translate this scorpios hidden agenda...

So the scorpio I had been dating text me tonight saying "hey, how have you been?"

Apparently he's on his way to a concert in another city. He was telling me about this ps3 he had mentioned back when we were dating and that we should play it sometime together.

He kept using a lot of exclamation marks and used a smiley at one point. I pretty much kept it brief.

Now before I get my hopes up (cus I'm pretty calms at this point) can someone give me some insight as to why he's messaging me when we haven't talked since NYE? Remember he had put up a status on fb about realizing he was wrong...

I thought about it and since he doesn't like to talk about anything serious over text he may be trying to get back on my good side then when I go hang with him he might end up wanting to start something up again since he could talk to me in person... I'm afraid to think this tho.. I'd thought of it before but dismissed the idea.

Please someone tell me what your interpretation of this is...

ps3 game*

I say there is still some interest there and he is testing the waters with you.
Keep doing what you're doing ...respond to his contacts, be friendly but brief, and don't initiate. I would also never text back right away but wait a while before responding.
If he suggests getting together ... don't respond to that until he flat-out asks you. Then I would say, "that does sound like fun but, you know I'm trying to get over you and that wouldn't help."
I'm not suggesting you play games but if he's not sure of his own feelings and you are over-eager, it could backfire. Keeping your distance will most likely make him want you more. And, dammit, he broke it off! If he wants you back, he's gotta work for it 🙂

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Do you know what concert it is?

Andy Mckee

Why?

Posted by AutumnalChick
I say there is still some interest there and he is testing the waters with you.
Keep doing what you're doing ...respond to his contacts, be friendly but brief, and don't initiate. I would also never text back right away but wait a while before responding.
If he suggests getting together ... don't respond to that until he flat-out asks you. Then I would say, "that does sound like fun but, you know I'm trying to get over you and that wouldn't help."
I'm not suggesting you play games but if he's not sure of his own feelings and you are over-eager, it could backfire. Keeping your distance will most likely make him want you more. And, dammit, he broke it off! If he wants you back, he's gotta work for it 🙂

Yeah true. My response to him about the game was "sounds fun" so I think I kept it pretty brief.

Obviously he's not gna flat out ask me this weekend since he'll be in KC, but who knows if he'll even mention it again later. Idk, just thought he randomly msging me was weird and had some hidden agenda. And I do agree he is probably testing the waters a bit. Psh, what a hoe 😛

Total hoe. 😛
Meanwhile keep updating your Facebook ...post lighthearted funny shit ...interact with other people a lot ... you want to convey IM HAVING SO MUCH FUN IM SO LOVED MY LIFE IS AMAAAAAAZING!

Posted by AutumnalChick
Total hoe. 😛
Meanwhile keep updating your Facebook ...post lighthearted funny shit ...interact with other people a lot ... you want to convey IM HAVING SO MUCH FUN IM SO LOVED MY LIFE IS AMAAAAAAZING!

Lol already posting up a video of some guys dancing in our dorm hall tonight ;P

Oh lol. No, he doesn't do drugs as far as I know. He's pretty much against them (weed included).

We're still texting and now he's wanting to know what happened to the girl my bff was dating.

Just to give a little back story scorpio has met my bff (male taurus) so he knows him. He also knows taurus pretty much loves me and has loved me since high school.

hmm...

...and the game begins.Im not surprised....but A Chick gave great advice. Keep the texting to a minimum. Less is more.

Keep us updated. 🙂

He sounds interested! good luck if that is what you want kits!

Kept the minimal texts into consideration. That being said we ended up texting till 2 am until he had to go to bed then we said good night.

Thanks sag, I would like to have him back, but only if he worked for it. There was nothing I ever really hated about him, but if he were to want something I'd want him to be patient with me on the things he didn't like and accept that I am still working on myself.

I'll keep you guys updated. Who knows, maybe this can be helpful to others in the future if things do go well.

two thumbs up 😉

No real update, but I just wanted to say this...

He hasn't contacted me since the night he text me (friday). I have no intention of contacting him first and I don't appreciate him contacting me if he's not going to be consistent about it...what is he thinking? seriously..

I've made up my mind that when and if he invites me to play that game and we do talk face to face that if he doesn't want more than friendship then I will tell him I'd appreciate it if he didn't contact me again. I need time to move on and when I'm ready to be friends again with him I will contact him myself.

Otherwise I just can't deal with the feelings I've been having lately due to him contacting me suddenly. I've been anxious and agitated. It just makes me so annoyed because I'd rather he'd never contacted me in the first place. I don't like to get my hopes up and him contacting me did just that, even if it was just a little bit.

Gah! Just felt like I needed to vent. Any words of encouragement, stories, etc are much appreciated

Hey girl...I KNOW your feelings of agitation. And of getting hopes up. And of frustrating inconsistency. I know it all!

What does he want? WTF knows! But, the only way to find out and minimize all your negative feelings is to be direct and ask him IF he contacts you again. Dont do this up all night txting. There is a pink elephant inthe room and unless you discuss it, that elephant will shit all over your heart.

To be fair to him, he may not be sure if he wants to come back, given his hesitation with the issues he had with you. BUT, you can show your self confidence and self love by saying crisply and clearly that he need state his intentions/feelings...and if they are not inline with yours, then you need him to stay away so you can heal. The *not knowing* is like a hook that will keep you hanging on and unable to cut the thread, grieve and move on. You're a dynamite girl and you are the one in control of your happiness. Good luck, keep moving and living....!

Glad there are people here in which I can relate to. Makes me feel like I'm not alone in this.
You're right I should be direct about all of it. The only thing is he doesn't like discussing heavy stuff over text so I was waiting till we hung out. I've left the elephant in the room before tho and the results were horrible so I know what you mean there. I'm going to try to get this to a non-anxious point as soon as possible.

I was also thinking that too...he had his reasons for backing out in the first place. Whether I thought they were good or not is going to be irrelevant at this point cus he thinks he was right..or did. Who knows.

I've actually considered contacting him in about a week, if I still feel horrible and if we still haven't hung out, and just straightening stuff out and then if it's still not what I want then ending contact. I've been in situations very similar where someone indecisiveness has driven me insane. I didn't last long before I contacted them and cut them off. I feel that in order for me to finally think clearly and without anxiety I will need to get a straight answer and decide where to go from there. Thank you for the encouraging words BGP!

he thinks you have a very pretty face, send him this avatar you have on

::::: shakes head :::::




Heaven forbide a woman let things run their course

Posted by happykitsune

I've made up my mind that when and if he invites me to play that game and we do talk face to face that if he doesn't want more than friendship then I will tell him I'd appreciate it if he didn't contact me again. I need time to move on and when I'm ready to be friends again with him I will contact him myself.

I think this is exactly the right way to handle it. Also what BGP said about being direct with him is right on. You do not need the aggravation of being jerked around... even if he doesn't see it as jerking you around ...that is the effect it's having on you.

I know what you mean by his texts giving you hope, it sucks, and I've found after a tough breakup that no contact for a long time is the best, fastest and most peaceful way to move on.

hey kits, I know how you feel.

Like I'm waiting for ex scorp to contact me on when he can bring up my box spring up so I don't have to come and get it.

When I really think about it, I probably shouldn't of even asked him at all but I thought it would be easier than me going down there AGAIN.


But after that there is no reason for us to really talk anymore.


It's really hard to be friends with an ex. I think sometimes you think you want that but than see the reality of it and sometimes it's just easier to move on.


I don't know!

*****"where someone indecisiveness has driven me insane"*****

Story of my freaking life with el ex-scorpio. The eggshells have ripped holes in my feet and heart and I am NOT willing to ever do that again. Keep us updated. Your guy is a good guy, but may be indecisve out of his own fear, not intentially meant to hurt you, but it does hurt.

Hopefully it will come to a resolution soon.

Thanks guys, you are all very encouraging and helpful.

I told my libra friend that when she contacts her scorpio guy friend in a week I'd do the same with her. Only he's with another girl unlike mine (As far as I know) and she won't quit asking me if she should contact him...it's seriously the most annoying thing cus I'm dealing with it too and she's not helping me stay silent for a week. Only making me more agitated. She found another guy tho so hopefully that'll keep her mind occupied for at least a little while.

Pfft, libras. I feel like she likes at least 5 guys at any given time...

Posted by Sag89
hey kits, I know how you feel.

Like I'm waiting for ex scorp to contact me on when he can bring up my box spring up so I don't have to come and get it.

When I really think about it, I probably shouldn't of even asked him at all but I thought it would be easier than me going down there AGAIN.


But after that there is no reason for us to really talk anymore.


It's really hard to be friends with an ex. I think sometimes you think you want that but than see the reality of it and sometimes it's just easier to move on.


I don't know!

You know we were never official so I wouldn't even call him an ex..still hurts like one tho. I really do like to be around him cus we communicate very well (prob cus he's very agreeable), but not if it's going to hurt me everytime. I've already tried it once and while I was able to numb the pain it just wasn't worth it in the end cus it took years for me to move on. I want to move on asap so I can get rid of these bad feelings...you guys know the ones :/

Well damn, tell us HER story too. The boards have been dead here and Im bored. What happ with the libra friend and her scorp?

I swear, Kits, if you contact him, I will hunt you down and cut off your dialing/txting fingers. He has come out of his shell,,,,make him dance for you!! Just look at my situation to encourage you to do it differently! No contact is self-valuing!!

Lastly, PLEASE change your avatar pics..its soooo awfullllll....you're toopretty to be all stretched out.

Posted by happykitsune

Posted by Sag89
hey kits, I know how you feel.

Like I'm waiting for ex scorp to contact me on when he can bring up my box spring up so I don't have to come and get it.

When I really think about it, I probably shouldn't of even asked him at all but I thought it would be easier than me going down there AGAIN.


But after that there is no reason for us to really talk anymore.


It's really hard to be friends with an ex. I think sometimes you think you want that but than see the reality of it and sometimes it's just easier to move on.


I don't know!

You know we were never official so I wouldn't even call him an ex..still hurts like one tho. I really do like to be around him cus we communicate very well (prob cus he's very agreeable), but not if it's going to hurt me everytime. I've already tried it once and while I was able to numb the pain it just wasn't worth it in the end cus it took years for me to move on. I want to move on asap so I can get rid of these bad feelings...you guys know the ones :/

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I totally freaked on mine tonight. Out of now where I was just like " so you never should of pretened you wanted an actually friendship with me. All you ever do is talk about yourself and be cold when I talk to you. Your as bad of a friend as you are a boyfriend. "


I feel like an idiot 😢

But there was some truth in that.

Sometimes I feel like it's easier if they just hate me

Well I posted about it a while back. She had dated him on and off for a few months, but it ended because she was indecisive and he kept calling/texting her and it really freaked her out. Was ended on really bad terms. Finally she decides to send him a long msg on fb saying she was sorry for how things ended and that she still wanted to be friends. He responded immediately and they texted till the wee hrs of the night. He told her he has a gf and that he's living back in their (the libra and his) home town. So he wanted her to meet up sometime when she came back home. While she's not wanting to get back with him she still tends to obsess over guys..

She wanted to know if she should contact him and I told her that it would be best if she did so after a week or so cus he needs time to at least process things since he really liked her...just wouldn't be fair to him and she needs to make sure he's totally over her.

Posted by BigGirlPanties


I swear, Kits, if you contact him, I will hunt you down and cut off your dialing/txting fingers. He has come out of his shell,,,,make him dance for you!! Just look at my situation to encourage you to do it differently! No contact is self-valuing!!

Lastly, PLEASE change your avatar pics..its soooo awfullllll....you're toopretty to be all stretched out.

Haha take it easy. He actually just texted me...it almost seemed like a dream when I saw it. He's asking how my weekend went.

hahaha ok fine I'll change it for you. Just give me a min to find something...um prettier 😛

Posted by Sag89


I totally freaked on mine tonight. Out of now where I was just like " so you never should of pretened you wanted an actually friendship with me. All you ever do is talk about yourself and be cold when I talk to you. Your as bad of a friend as you are a boyfriend. "


I feel like an idiot 😢

But there was some truth in that.

Sometimes I feel like it's easier if they just hate me

I agree about the last part. Sometimes I wish they just hated me so it was easier to move on. So much harder when they're nice or indifferent

Want it on the record, I predicted it happy!!! huh? haha

Psh I know. You totally called it. Now to see what he wants.

Not sure how, but I need to get him to hang out somehow.....without just straight up asking

watch this video BEFORE YOU reply...

The No Contact Rule After Being Dumped - Here Are 3 Things That Will Win Him Back

PS like the pic!! you are cute!!

Seriously, he is back on you....you gotta keep being *scarce*. watch the video...look for the *diamond* analogy. Im telling you, dont make it too easy on him. he will be wishy-washy. Believe me, I know how tempting it is. I shouldve taken this route (inthe vid) myself. Maybe I wouldnt be where I am now. Alone, eating Doritos on the sofa, pining over a 50 year old Jewish mama's boy 😢

Posted by BigGirlPanties
PS like the pic!! you are cute!!

Seriously, he is back on you....you gotta keep being *scarce*. watch the video...look for the *diamond* analogy. Im telling you, dont make it too easy on him. he will be wishy-washy. Believe me, I know how tempting it is. I shouldve taken this route (inthe vid) myself. Maybe I wouldnt be where I am now. Alone, eating Doritos on the sofa, pining over a 50 year old Jewish mama's boy 😢

Thanks! I watched the video. Funny cus my dad used the exactly diamond analogy when he was telling me to not contact the scorpio. This is what he's been telling me for years and I've really just now started listening to him.

I'm trying to carry on with this scarcity/vagueness without sounding like I'm just a boring person. I've done good so far tho. Just gotta remember to end the conversation before 12 when he goes to bed.

I'm also trying to keep the times I reply very sporadic.

It's seriously really hard to do this cus at times I feel rude :/

No people pleasing!! You are in charge of who and how you communicate. You care for YOUR needs first, not his feelings of you maybe being rude.

Aloof...scarcity...self value...whatever you want to call it. I call it self love, self respect and when you treat yourself like the Hope diamond...so will he! I use to do that to my scorp...worry that if I cut off the convo, Id be rude..he'd be mad. that was MY insecurity talking. Let me tell you, if this scorp fuck ever contacts me again, I will be doing things sooooo much different. He will come to see me AND TREAT ME as the most expensice piece of plantium & diamond encrusted pussy ever known to man kind.

Ok, thats gross, but you know what I mean. Dont forget, that since he left you, you have been living a happy and joyful life...with out him. RIGHT—

PSS...dont forget how badly you felt when he stopped texting back and you didnt know what he wanted. if he does it again, you will feel worse.

"If we do what we did, we get what we got. If we do something different, we GET something different". Point blank ask him WHY he is contacting you and WHAT does he want. The more you continue, the more attached you are getting and the next round of letting go with hurt like a mudder trucker.

Just ask me. Thats where I am. And its called Sucksville.

I want to ask...but he doesn't like to discuss heavy stuff over the phone... that's why I was going to entice him to hang out...I just don't know how :/

Well it depends on her hopes. If she hopes it's going to work, then no she can't point out ask him at this point. It's too new and delicate right now. She'll have to make the decision in her head how she wants to proceed. They agreed to friendship, so he's not doing anything different than what friends would be doing. She can't blast him for being an asshole for contacting her, because in reality he's doing nothing wrong as a friend.

This is true and I've thought about this. I'm not going to get mad at him for this, but I'd like to know where he's coming from so that if he does just want friendship I can tell him I'd like it if he didn't contact me and gave me time to move on

Well,in a way you can move on without telling him that. If you are hoping you two are going to work it out, if you say anything now, is more than likely going to scare him back. If you want to move on, then put yourself in that mind frame and mind set that he is nothing more than a friend and you're moving on. You don't need his permission or for him to know either for that matter haha

Wasn't his venus or mars in libra? and add his aqua moon? he's chilling and assessing. Frustrating as hell for sure for you! ha :S On the other hand, don't make it so easy for him or convenient that he feels like he's got you where he wants you. Just do you. Don't be predictable and at the same time, don't be so unpredictable you seem unsteady or unstable where he'll feel like you're a lose cannon and make him feel insecure about you as a woman.

Ocean Deep is speaking from a calm, serene mind. Me, on the other hand, ain't 😉

So, take a little bit from each of us...bottom line...protect yourself. He is a good guy but your feelings and emotional well being is important.

If ya like, you can send me his number and me and my Leo mouth, broken hearted venus cancer and smarmy scorp moon will give him a call and find out what's what...😛

Posted by OceanDeep
, don't make it so easy for him or convenient that he feels like he's got you where he wants you. Just do you. Don't be predictable and at the same time, don't be so unpredictable you seem unsteady or unstable where he'll feel like you're a lose cannon and make him feel insecure about you as a woman.

THIS is what I like. Here here here ^^^^^

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Ocean Deep is speaking from a calm, serene mind. Me, on the other hand, ain't 😉

So, take a little bit from each of us...bottom line...protect yourself. He is a good guy but your feelings and emotional well being is important.

If ya like, you can send me his number and me and my Leo mouth, broken hearted venus cancer and smarmy scorp moon will give him a call and find out what's what...😛

Can I give you Scorp/Scorps (A's) number? Ask wth is up, and give him the what fors? Remain anonymous, but be the boys with the bats for me. His number is tatooed on my brain if you need it, I can say it in 17 differnet language, including sign. 😛

*sigh* It's about 10 something here my time. I went ahead and ended the conversation saying I was gna go to bed. Knowing him he's probably in band practice right now so I prob get a late response or none at all. Took a sleeping pill so I can go to sleep without thinking so much about this

Was a good idea, kits. Hope you slept well. I guess we, or at least me, just wants to make sure you dont get hurt the way I did. Not pussy footing around would have saved me a lot of pain. Hind sight is so clear. I do hope it works out for you as you deserve.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Was a good idea, kits. Hope you slept well. I guess we, or at least me, just wants to make sure you dont get hurt the way I did. Not pussy footing around would have saved me a lot of pain. Hind sight is so clear. I do hope it works out for you as you deserve.

Thank you. I hope so too.

I woke up to a text from him this morning so so far so good.

well tell us what it says....LOL

"You too! Sorry I didn't respond. We just finished practice"

Pretty basic. The "sorry" is a nice touch. And he keeps using those dang "!" like he wants me to get excited

Posted by happykitsune
"You too! Sorry I didn't respond. We just finished practice"

Pretty basic. The "sorry" is a nice touch. And he keeps using those dang "!" like he wants me to get excited

Yey!

Haha, the "!" was typical of Scorp/Aqua too, especially when I was being aloof or indifferent with him, and especially after the whole FB thing is when he really started using them. How funny is that lol

Yes, his sorry keeps him the good guy and showing care. Always the good guy, never the bad. Remember that as his moto, and how he wants to be perceived.

Nice touch was he was letting you know why he couldnt respond right away 🙂


BTW, where was his libra placement again or did I confuse that with another Scorp story on here?

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
Ocean Deep is speaking from a calm, serene mind. Me, on the other hand, ain't 😉

So, take a little bit from each of us...bottom line...protect yourself. He is a good guy but your feelings and emotional well being is important.

If ya like, you can send me his number and me and my Leo mouth, broken hearted venus cancer and smarmy scorp moon will give him a call and find out what's what...😛

Can I give you Scorp/Scorps (A's) number? Ask wth is up, and give him the what fors? Remain anonymous, but be the boys with the bats for me. His number is tatooed on my brain if you need it, I can say it in 17 differnet language, including sign. 😛

Hahahaha, Oh Ocean! 😄

Yes, can I enlist this lovely lioness's aid as well?

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Well I cant speak for BGP but I think she would.... and could do the job very nicely, discreetly, and to the point quite effortlessly, don't you agree? 🙂 Wasnt there a fish you wanted cooked? 🙂

I think it's all good signs kits.

My ex never once asked how I was and I could never dream of him asking how my weekend was. That is why I will no longer talk to him ever again and hope he dies.


Good luck to you!