What do Scorpio chicks desire in a relationship?

So there's an extremely long complicated story that prompted this question but I realized it was too much to write so simply put:

What is more likely?

(a) that you would not date someone you have feelings for because they are very pure and you don't want to be the reason they start doing all the "naughty" stuff you do

OR

(b) that you would not date someone because you had lost feelings for them because they weren't as naughty as you thought they'd be

OR

(c) that you would not date someone because you already know they like you and you have total control over them so why bother because they're not a challenge anymore and you could get with them anytime you wanted anyways

I'm really just trying to get an understanding of how a scorpio chick's mind works as far as what attracts her and why and what is it that they really desire?

Answer: B.

I say Leo cause of his SN!

@ellessque - wrong
@Xin - correct
@exoskeleton - what kind of "naughty" do you like? 😉
@Moimeme - thank you for actually answering the question.

I have a friend who's a scorpio dude and he loves his girl whole-heartedly, no doubt. Like, his world revolves around her it seems. But the scorpio chick i have feelings for just seems like a manipulative power whore, who at first i thought of as a strong person, but now realize is more like a leach or a vampire who just draws a dude in and lives off of until a better prospect comes along and then drops him. Recently, the last guy she was with kinda fooled her and she was all "why didn't he say he was leaving?" actually a bit teary eyed and i just straight up told her i felt no empathy for her and chewed her out for it cause she fucked me over. I just told her karma's caught up with you.

You can only weave so many webs before you get caught in one.

Now I've turned the tides and been extremely cold to her and she's definitely hating it. The strange thing is, I like to fuck with her. Cause her pain. It's like I didn't understand why scorpios got off on control until I started messing with her and now, idk. Getting revenge with her might become an obsession. The closest people in my life are scorps. I feel like I'm drawn to them cause they're the only sign I find interesting. A challenge. Leos and Scorps actually think very alike they just have different values and look at things from the opposite angle. Like they complete each others thoughts. My best friend is a scorp. He's the only one I can talk to about deep things. Emotional, philosophical, and psychological things. Spiritual stuff.

I guess I'm just on here cause idk if she could ever love me or if her past scars that turned her into this brick-wall-never-share-true-feelings-with-anyone lonely little girl will just be cold forever. I could just completely give up on her and concentrate on someone more compatible. More affectionate. More honest. More loving. But...

it just wouldn't be as interesting.

none of them...
(d) I would NOT go out with someone for these reasons:
1. simply not attracted to them
2. too simple-minded (I like a challenge, but I don't want to leave them hanging like what option (c) does)
3. gives only 'blanket truths' (surface data) and/or lies
4. insensitivity
5. completely emotionally detached

@ellessque - sure.
@everevolvingepithet - "the people they're talking about". huh?
@ScorpTorch - well, if those were the only reasons scorpios didn't date, her and i would be together. thanks though, i'll keep those in mind.

well then... hello. 😉

Hum in my opinion I don't think Scorpio's and Leo's go well together at all. There HAS to be a power struggle. Because I definitely see the similarities, just a tad bit different Leo with the ego and Scorpio with the power trip. I am sure you have guy friends that are Scorpio's but again for me males/females are completely different when it comes to signs for me. I have had only one Scorpio female in my presence before and now one male that is driving me bonkers (IE: my myriad of posts regarding him).

This Scorpio female though was in a group of my friends a while back and she and I got along famously. We had a Cancer, Gemini (me), Scorpio and a Libra in our group. Now eventually I saw her dark side come out and one night she roughed up (pretty badly too) the Cancer when I wasn't there. Cancer called me hysterical and I am like wow wtf is going on? I told her to leave Scorpio alone but NOOOOO. So they got into a physical altercation. Never have I seen such vengeance. Not sure where it came from but I believe from just a sheer jealousy streak from the Scorp and it was building up for a long, long time. Most of the girls in our group were jealous of the Cancer. Well needless to say the Scorpio ended up having two kids from some random drug dealer who is now locked up. The more I think about it the more I realized how into the dark side she was.

The strange thing is that I am still friends with the Cancer after 18 years. Just she and I.

Anyways. I wouldn't recommend getting caught in Scorpio's lair. You know what you are doing and I think you are playing with the poor bug. Leo paws swatting at the Scorpion and it gets riled the hell up. You do understand when your paw gets stung you will slink off and lick your wounds. I think it's the challenge and nothing more for you Leo's, you are playing with danger and that's just how you like it 🙂

@NovLady - "If this is the case...then Scorpios are similar to Leos because its all about the ego...and, not in the "grandiose Leo helping others shine or Scorpios helping people reach their personal power" sense."

In my personal experience, I've found that Scorpios have larger egos than Leos. My best friend, who I've known since the third grade is a Scorp and we will joke and brag to each other sometimes. I'll say something egotistical and we'll laugh but in the back of my mind, I know that I'm not as amazing as the thing I said about myself would lead others to believe. The funny thing is, when he says something boastfully, it's funny but it's no joke. He really thinks he's as cool as he says he is. And it's arrogant as hell. It would probably bother someone else a lot but I have no problems with it because he's my friend and he takes a good deal of my advice to heart.

Also, like the girl I like (yes, I do have feelings for her. If I didn't, I wouldn't spend free time on a forum talking to total strangers about her. hahah.)

I can see the ample confidence within her, in how she walks, her posture, how her head is slightly tilted up with her chin out like some snotty spoiled rich girl that's just too good for everyone else. Now there's an attractive Leo girl that also works where I do and although she has a confident stride as most Leos do, it's apparent in her body language that she isn't nearly as cocky.

"I can understand how being slighted may make you feel some sort of satisfaction at her getting her 'just desserts'. But, you seem to have feelings for her. What kind? Are you seeking her affection as validation at being slighted? Or are you truly into her because of her character. I would say figure that part out first before you try to 'penetrate' her psyche...or else, you get tangled up in the web, too."

This may sound like too simple an answer but I'm into her because I've never had someone look at me so intimately. It's the emotional depth and intensity that I like. As a Leo and as a Christian I value love above all virtues. And I feel like it would almost be surreal to be in an intimate relationship with her because she's so walled up. So guarded. And to take it all down for me would mean so much because I know how much it would take from her. I guess it's like, when someone puts so much emphasis on power and control and staying calm and collected and holding it all in and then they find someone who they trust and can just...

...let it all go in front of. It's a beautiful thing. And I think I wanna be that for her. Not just from a how it makes me feel standpoint though, like, I know she must feel lonely.

I guess the thing is, I don't want to put everything in and have her just take advantage of me and discard me.

So, as far as how I've been treating her lately, it's because I guess I just hate the fact that she thinks she can run everything and get whatever she wants. It's not even the act of doing it, it's the attitude that bothers me. I felt like I needed to humble her. And part of it's because if she thinks she's above everyone, how can she ever look up to me as her man? How can she respect me, admire me, with such a cocky attitude?

Sorry for yourself? That sounds much more like Cancers 😄

@Thunderpants

Anyways I don't know I think you are reading way too into it here. Scorpio's have a dark place where all people fear to tread. To me right now it doesn't sound like she's that serious about you at all. If she was you would know. From a few paragraphs before it's like the both of you are playing this stupid emotional game shit. Oh let me ignore her and she will love it, probably maybe because some Scorpio's are emotional masochists?

^^^^^^

That's what I just said! Ha! YES! I'm starting to learn about you Scorpios! Yes points for me! Oh yeah oh yeah *dance*

I agree though with the lions are cubs. You know how little kittens will see their reflection in the mirror and puff up and walk sideways hissing at themselves? Same thing

@Xin - "Hum in my opinion I don't think Scorpio's and Leo's go well together at all. There HAS to be a power struggle. Because I definitely see the similarities, just a tad bit different Leo with the ego and Scorpio with the power trip. I am sure you have guy friends that are Scorpio's but again for me males/females are completely different when it comes to signs for me. I have had only one Scorpio female in my presence before and now one male that is driving me bonkers (IE: my myriad of posts regarding him)."

Ha! Well, as I said my best friend is a Scorpio but we're both males. But like you're saying the sex of a sign and the fact that this is a romantic relationship and not a friendship makes it a whole other ball game.

"Anyways. I wouldn't recommend getting caught in Scorpio's lair. You know what you are doing and I think you are playing with the poor bug. Leo paws swatting at the Scorpion and it gets riled the hell up. You do understand when your paw gets stung you will slink off and lick your wounds. I think it's the challenge and nothing more for you Leo's, you are playing with danger and that's just how you like it"

It's true. There is a part of me that likes danger. That likes the challenge. Everyone says "don't mess with a Scorpio!" And then they all bend over and take it in the ass. I think that's a reason for why they get away with so much. Their reputation precedes them. But I feel like I'm too capable of a person to just submit to her like everyone else does. That's the thing though that I wonder about. Will she respect me more for being the one person who won't take her shit or will she just class me as an enemy that she has to conquer?

But I'm not just doing this for the thrill. I do like her. I just like her too much let her go on thinking she can always have it her way. I've already been stung. And it may not have been a full dose but I feel it's acted as a vaccine. I've taken a bit of the poison and now I'm becoming more immune. I know I'm playing with fire and I don't underestimate her at all. It's just I feel if I just go with the flow of how she wants me to act, she'll just move on.

Control. 😉

Well what I would like to know is why Thunderpants is even considering this girl that hurt him again. People don't change. This is definitely a power struggle here. I also believe that you want her to see you as the victor because well she pretty much shit all over you and now you are retaliating by being "cold". Too many games going on here.

I would suggest finding someone who doesn't mind brushing your mane everyday 🙂

I know but this time we have no idea what kind of Scorpion she is. She could be an Emperor scorpion which is the most docile( (yes I am aware that what I just said is a complete oxymoron) or she could be the most vicious and venomous which is the Death Stalker. Thank god I am a Gemini and I can watch from the flower tops as they grumble and toil away building their buggy fortress of buggyness 😄

hahah. Whoa. just realized how when I'm not logged in words like "cocky" are replaced with "chickeny" and "fucked" with "treetrunked". I was like "the hell, I did not use these fruity substitutes!"

Anyways...

@IntriguedScorp - Don't take it personally. Maybe you have a fine, dignified, noble walk. I'm just saying. I sees what I sees and as a Leo there's a natural ability to act and thus a close attention to body language and a knack for it's interpretation.

And another thing, yes. We are mushy. We are cubs. A great date with a girl in my mind would consist of rolling around in a meadow full of flowers on a beautiful sunny day, wrestling, tickling, and calling each other the myriad of cutsie-tootsie names like butter cup. And the fact that every Scorp who reads this is probably puking would signify that her and I wouldn't work.

@Let*It*Be - Why thank you 🙂

@ellessque - ha. honestly, I didn't know what you were talking about the first time you said "charts" but after being on the forum a little longer, I do. Idk, how to figure mine out though. I mean, my birthday is August 10th. Idk if that's all you need but I'm sure that must help. My mother is a Libra and my father is a Sag. There's probably a little form you fill out on your profile and it just spits out the charts, isn't there? w/e. I'll figure it out...

You're right. My not-wanting-to-ever-take-anyone's-bullshit-so-I-act-overly-aggressive-and-sometimes-hostile attitude is probably a reflection of my frustration with life. with myself. And she can bring that out in me. Cause I like her. Or liked her. I think, as of late, I just fucked it up beyond repair anyways so her walls are probably forever up now.

@Xin - It's true. She's not that into me. But she used to be. I was talking to my Scorp friend and he said he has certain criteria for dating women and he could like them. A lot. But if they don't meet his criteria it's "oh, well" despite being attracted to them both physically and personality wise. And it's not "oh, let me ignore her and she'll love it" it's "I'm ignoring her and she hates it so even when she said she didn't like me, I knew it wasn't entirely true especially when she still flirts with me"

I wrote the whole story out in a message to scorpplady in the most condensed way I possibly could. Dn't read if you don't want to but this might make things clearer for those interested.

@IntriguedScorp - Ha. It's this warm side to Scorp chicks that I like... time and place 😉

@NovLady - You're right. I'm in a rush to go somewhere she isn't ready to and honestly I'm not ready to either. #cursesoffiresigns

I posted mine. It's in my images. They are subject to change slightly though. My mom said I was born 1:15ish so it might not be totally accurate but it should be pretty close.

uh. thanks. ha. idk how to read these at all...

hers is posted too.

I should kindly ask Seraph to tell me what all this natal chart stuff means. He seems wise and knowledgeable. I wish I'd have had his advice about Leo an Scorp ego meshing a lot sooner.

@ellessque - ha. wow. what you said seems so spot on and makes so much sense with how everything went down. she totally has a big ego, she didn't (and sadly still doesn't) realize how she hurt me, and (this isn't in the abridged part of the story) the time I confronted her about what she was thinking when she dropped me she said "It's not you, it's me." Which is horrifically cliche and even though I thought that could possibly be the case, another part of me thought she could be bullshitting so I said "I don't believe you." Simply for the fact that you can NEVER let someone drop that line on you and think that you actually believed it. I'd just look stupid. And when we were in the car she said something about how she hated her last boyfriend cause he judged everything she did. Ironically, I feel like because we're not together, I've been waaaay more judgmental with her. And one of the things you said before how in her shoes you'd feel "intimidated" and so react in a bad ass I just don't like you fashion. That makes sense too because despite our attraction I feel she's always trying to avoid one-on-one confrontation with me.

And thank you. It's sweet of you to say such niceties. It's just crazy that the one girl I'm attracted to might just be pushing me away because she doesn't think she has as much to offer. Cause I "deserve" better. Huh...

Thank you so much for figuring all this out for me. 🙂

But you know, being that you are so knowledgeable on the topic, what can you tell me about myself? What do my charts say about me?

@DazedScorp - "But even without reading it, and just looking at her chart, that thing can damage souls."
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Got that right.

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"I'm willing to bet that her Venus in Libra makes a pretty tight aspect with her Mars in Aries, meaning: She isn't sure waht she wants, especially in romantic relationships. And as a result, her love life may be troubled by arguements, unhappiness, and tension."
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Also makes sense.

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"Merc in Scorp vs her Aqua Moon: Highly sensitive to criticism"
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Yep.

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"Moon vs Mars: Emotionally intense, impatient, and quick to anger. She lets others know how she feels and isn't alwasy diplomatic about it."
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A-huh.

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"And I'm assuming she has Pluto in Scorpio... most likely being a hard aspect with her Moon. Manipulative and power struggles out the ass.

Sooo... Basically me in a womans body. =/


All in all, She needs that ego ripped out from under her... and whoever does it, will likely be castrated in the process."
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Yes, she's very manipulative.
And I honestly think no one as of late has done more to rip her ego out than me. Especially with the stuff I said to her via facebook. I knew humbling her would be a near impossible excursion but I know I've done a phenomenal job compared to everyone else in her life. Haha! At times I do fear castration. ha. but I feel like someone has to do it.

Came in really late, but for me, A. I wouldn't date someone I felt id be corrupting. Would feel shitty about it.

@seraph -

...you're right.
She isn't worth it.
It is time to move on.
It's not healthy nor worth the time and effort.
I'm well aware she hasn't spent nearly a fraction of the amount of time or effort I have.

I don't regret it though.
I'm glad I came here.
I'm glad I got to meet you guys.
I didn't even know what a "natal chart" was before I got here.
I'm glad I know now.
This place has good people in it.
Wise and intelligent.
Full of good advice.
And I'm taking yours.
Thank you.

@ellessque -
Thanks again. I'll do that.

@NovLady - I'll do that. And you're right. I don't want to be a paranoid compulsive perfectionist.

@Skykomish - ha. lol.

Posted by sexifulscorpio
one place i need to be completely satisified in is the bed, scorpios are insatiable lovers... but it doesnt start in the bedroom, theres alot to get us turned on, we need our minds turned on too.... it starts at hello... lol

absolutely.

haha. thanks guys. 🙂

Ha. Wow. Nostalgic dxp.

People laugh? When did you quote me?