Why does my scorpio gf do this?

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I'm about to break up with my scorpio girlfriend , I don't see her very excited about the relationship and we've been together for 2 years ,she is kind of cold , she says I love you only when i ask first and never come and hug me when we greet you know, she doesn't even answer her damn phone and never call back , but what I can''t understand is this : her friends always tell me that she talks about me all the time , they tell me that she is so in love with me , that she is crazy about me and stuff . Dear scorpio women , please tell me if this behavior is normal in scorpios , I mean why does she act so cold when we are alone but she talks about the "love " she has for me when they are with her friends?? I'm afraid she just wants to keep me until she finds someone else ..
She has the moon in Virgo and I'm virgo
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Posted by Koniucha
Virgo placements also aren't so mushy and touchy feely.

I have Venus in Virgo. But I do like to hug and cuddle.

She hugs me but she also expect to kiss her first when we greet you know she just stands there lol and sex sucks , she just lays there you know it is like having sex with a doll , boring ,tell me are you like this — I don't see this relationship going anywhere ....😢 do you think she will change??
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lolll lazy way ,need a lot of energy for that xD*
Yeah, I am a pretty low energy person myself.
Why do you think so ?
I have never been that way. I do like to run, but haven't in forever. I like doing stuff like gardening, riding my horse.

Astrologically, I have Mars conjunct Neptune. Neptune zaps the energy out of Mars.
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That's fine 🙂
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Virgo placements also aren't so mushy and touchy feely.

I have Venus in Virgo. But I do like to hug and cuddle.

She hugs me but she also expect to kiss her first when we greet you know she just stands there lol and sex sucks , she just lays there you know it is like having sex with a doll , boring ,tell me are you like this — I don't see this relationship going anywhere ....😢 do you think she will change??
You mean like a dead fish?

Are you sure she's not a Pisces?
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she is scorpio
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Virgo placements also aren't so mushy and touchy feely.

I have Venus in Virgo. But I do like to hug and cuddle.

She hugs me but she also expect to kiss her first when we greet you know she just stands there lol and sex sucks , she just lays there you know it is like having sex with a doll , boring ,tell me are you like this — I don't see this relationship going anywhere ....😢 do you think she will change??
You mean like a dead fish?

Are you sure she's not a Pisces?
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Heyyyyy, Pisces women are ANY and EVERYTHING but boring in bed. LMBO!!!
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I would talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel.

I talked to her but she looks somewhere else like she is thinking about it but doesn't tell me anything more
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Ok Jack....*sighs*. My Scorp boyfriend is almost JUST like this. lol I bring the fire and heat to the bedroom. He will admit out loud and in public that I have about two minutes to get mine before the whole act is over. Lol...now, sometimes over beer I negotiate for more time and once, I even set a timer and made sure that he didn't climax until I had me a good ole ride. lol ha ha ha ha ha

The difference is, I'm older though. All of this "calmness" and "settled" energy is GREAT as far as I'm concerned. He's around a lot and I even have to ask him to bring me to work sometimes and I don't drive. You would think he would just offer...nope. That Virgo energy is soooooo.....practical and kind of dry in ways. However, if you set it on fire it's like dry bush...it will burn, burn, burn, and burn some more. For us, this works, because I'm a firecracker of sorts and I just don't turn down....period.

Last night convo...him, wyd?...me, laying in bed drinking wine. Him, really?...Me, no, not really, I just lied to you. I have two naked guys in bed with me and both of them about 11 inches deep in my cookie box. lol....dude, what do you think I'm doing? I'm laying down in bed, drinking a glass of wine...Him, LMBO!!! I'm going to F you up.
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See...without my sarcasm and constant saying/doing shit off of the radar, we'd be a boring couple. He almost ran out of the office when it was full yesterday and I started introducing him to people. I don't see him changing anytime soon. I can see that he's just not the "I love you" type. Yet, he lets me know in other ways. Like, by inviting me to important trips and calling me when he's on his way to do something important or calling me on his way back from something major. Inclusiveness. Is your girlfriend inclusive? Sounds like she is since you have open access to her friends.
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I can't believe we made it all the way to the 5th page without someone mentioning this.

Figuring out your partners love language is very important, however I suggest she reads it too and then you two find a compromise.

Either way you two have a communication problem which is an even bigger threat so idk



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Before u break up
Read the 5 love languages. I think that's the issue. Her way of showing being different that yours

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Did you ask her??
yes but all she says is " I do love you" in a lazy way
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*sigh* discuss the difference you have noticed and ask her why she seems cold or indifferent when your together and talks about love with her friends. She may be one of those Scorps that expect you to just "know" she loves you and doesn't feel the need to say the words without prompting.
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Posted by Impulsv
Before u break up
Read the 5 love languages. I think that's the issue. Her way of showing being different that yours

5 love languages? what is that?
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Its a great book its about how people give and receive love and that were all different. You can google and downloadThe 5 love languages pdf and get the book. Highly recommend it .. helped me understand my scorp (whos love languages are touch and acts of service) more and helped me understand why he was saying i wasnt affectionate
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Did you ask her??
yes but all she says is " I do love you" in a lazy way
She may be one of those Scorps that expect you to just "know" she loves you and doesn't feel the need to say the words without prompting.

how is that type of scorpio? are you one of them? would you date one of those types in my situation?
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Wtf? Dude, this isn't a dating service where we are trying to get to know each other on a personal level. Why are you trying to be all up in my closet? How are these questions even relevant to this thread?

You received an answer to your dilemma. Talk to her or kick rocks already.

Smh.

Translation: I smell a troll.
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Because she's a Scorpio,that's why she acts that way,if she cold around you,were moody as hell for no damn reason,we don't like to show affection,damn sure not in public,we are private,so if she's telling her friends she must really like you,I'll date a man for years and never tell anyone,doesn't mean I don't like or love him,just means I am private and don't want anyone in my business,Sounds to me like your a bit of an attention whore though,like why break up with her,Scorpio's like space,they need space under her cool outside is a million emotions going on,maybe you stopped doing something,are you a challenge to her,we love a good challenge,maybe if you stop texting her so much,stalking her instagram,and lay off the I love you every 5 mins,maybe then she will,do the things you want,and also if she is social like you claim,how much do people really know about her,I know tons of people but only 2 people know me in life,like know my soul,instead of random facts about me.
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Was she a happy secure financially stable fulfilled individual prior to u guys' relationship?
And what grown person who's not a celebrity needs 1,000 let alone 3,000 "friends" on instagram?

If all u say is true about the lack of affection & her friends know more about her love for u then u hear it from her, sounds to me like she more in love with having a boyfriend to show off/ with validation/a void filled then she's actually in love with u.
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I am a scorpio born November 1st and i gotta say this has been me in a relatinship before. Sometimes i find it hard to get close to someone and can love them but if i feel slighest bit of untrust or annoyance, i will act like that. And I am not super affectionate to be saying i love you all time....my actions will show it.
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I'm about to break up with my scorpio girlfriend , I don't see her very excited about the relationship and we've been together for 2 years ,she is kind of cold , she says I love you only when i ask first and never come and hug me when we greet you know, she doesn't even answer her damn phone and never call back , but what I can''t understand is this : her friends always tell me that she talks about me all the time , they tell me that she is so in love with me , that she is crazy about me and stuff . Dear scorpio women , please tell me if this behavior is normal in scorpios , I mean why does she act so cold when we are alone but she talks about the "love " she has for me when they are with her friends?? I'm afraid she just wants to keep me until she finds someone else ..
She has the moon in Virgo and I'm virgo


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I would talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel.

I talked to her but she looks somewhere else like she is thinking about it but doesn't tell me anything more
Ok Jack....*sighs*. My Scorp boyfriend is almost JUST like this. lol I bring the fire and heat to the bedroom. He will admit out loud and in public that I have about two minutes to get mine before the whole act is over. Lol...now, sometimes over beer I negotiate for more time and once, I even set a timer and made sure that he didn't climax until I had me a good ole ride. lol ha ha ha ha ha

The difference is, I'm older though. All of this "calmness" and "settled" energy is GREAT as far as I'm concerned. He's around a lot and I even have to ask him to bring me to work sometimes and I don't drive. You would think he would just offer...nope. That Virgo energy is soooooo.....practical and kind of dry in ways. However, if you set it on fire it's like dry bush...it will burn, burn, burn, and burn some more. For us, this works, because I'm a firecracker of sorts and I just don't turn down....period.

Last night convo...him, wyd?...me, laying in bed drinking wine. Him, really?...Me, no, not really, I just lied to you. I have two naked guys in bed with me and both of them about 11 inches deep in my cookie box. lol....dude, what do you think I'm doing? I'm laying down in bed, drinking a glass of wine...Him, LMBO!!! I'm going to F you up.
Why do you talk about your sex life on the internet? I'm sure he'd leave you if he knew you were posting this. Or at least act like the OP's gf.
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Why does it bother you? That's a better question.
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I would talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel.

I talked to her but she looks somewhere else like she is thinking about it but doesn't tell me anything more
Ok Jack....*sighs*. My Scorp boyfriend is almost JUST like this. lol I bring the fire and heat to the bedroom. He will admit out loud and in public that I have about two minutes to get mine before the whole act is over. Lol...now, sometimes over beer I negotiate for more time and once, I even set a timer and made sure that he didn't climax until I had me a good ole ride. lol ha ha ha ha ha

The difference is, I'm older though. All of this "calmness" and "settled" energy is GREAT as far as I'm concerned. He's around a lot and I even have to ask him to bring me to work sometimes and I don't drive. You would think he would just offer...nope. That Virgo energy is soooooo.....practical and kind of dry in ways. However, if you set it on fire it's like dry bush...it will burn, burn, burn, and burn some more. For us, this works, because I'm a firecracker of sorts and I just don't turn down....period.

Last night convo...him, wyd?...me, laying in bed drinking wine. Him, really?...Me, no, not really, I just lied to you. I have two naked guys in bed with me and both of them about 11 inches deep in my cookie box. lol....dude, what do you think I'm doing? I'm laying down in bed, drinking a glass of wine...Him, LMBO!!! I'm going to F you up.
Why do you talk about your sex life on the internet? I'm sure he'd leave you if he knew you were posting this. Or at least act like the OP's gf.
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And no, he would not leave me. Lol...that's something reserved for people who are afraid of truth and expect other people to be JUST like them. People actually come here seeking these insights. Do as you please and don't provide them. You do you and let me do me. Please and thanks.