Scorsagian7
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Broke my own heart Dealing with a Tauras
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.. [con't] after we got intamate again and watched more movies while cuddling, laughing, and conversing with eachother. It was a blast.. He even set back a meeting so we can be together longer.. It felt like he didn't want me to go. But I told him I had dinner plans with my friend... When he dropped me home I made sure not to be awkward and mag'd him right away thanking him for the great time.. And for a few days after things were still chill... Then I noticed something was different and off about him.. He was distant as ever and he stopped flirting with me.. And when I mentioned about us ending up having sex.. He shushed me and told me "it didn't happen".. That's when I got annoyed. And bad.. I told him he was being strange and it was annoying me.. I also told him that I noticed him wanting me to open up but he never says anything about himself.. He then shared with me one of the saddest stories and told me that is why he is too messed up and doesn't want any complications..it got worse.. I know this may be an excuse to you all.. But for me this is mad truth.. I'm a very cool and straight forward person.. That works against me as my monthly hormones get messy. I turn to the opposite and become a fiery straight forward person.. One night I got fed up out of frustrstion (tried to chill with him.. Tried to get him to tell me if we will be intamate or just buddies again). With him shutting down and telling me it's too much to talk about.. I tripped on him pretty bad.. He tried to say sorry.. But I didn't know how to take it.. And being out I couldn't talk to him so said ttyl.. After a few hours when I got home I msg'd him and got no reply besides "that was too much"... I called to apologize and he right away wanted it to be fine it seems... It seemed okay and the next day as things were coolled down.. I asked him to tell me straight what is going on. He said "we can hang out, but that other stuff he wants to put on hold for now." It was cool and I didn't talk with him the rest of the night.. as I really calmed down further I became really embarrassed and thought about how my reaction had put me in that stupid situation with him and how I thought j was grown from that but not! It was hard to admit.. I then msg'd him and reallllyy apologized to him and told him the deal. And how he didn't deserve that.. He was cold as ice about it and felt the need to tell how we are just friend . He then asked me why I truly was emotional and why him? Because if it's a problem
[con't] because if it's a problem to fix he wanted to address it.. I told him truthfully.. Strong sexual attraction.. Rejection to sex.. And the lack of communication.. And how weird o felt he was making the situation.. He then kind of tripped on me.. Saying "I don't know what else to say. We already been through this.. We can be friend but nothing further.. And the I must stop this because it's not healthy". I was so hurt by it and confused because I thought I was just answering his question... I then asked if I gave mixed signals to him that put pressure on him?.. He said, "no actually when I think about it. It's me. I don't want to feel anything complicated." I asked " are you scared that you might feel for me?" Him "You're dissecting me now. Keep it simple." Me "I don't know what simple to you is.." Him "I don't either lol" I then said "it seems it would be best for you if I lost your #." Him "no, it's not that. We can be friends just don't get annoyed with me. I don't know how to handle that." Then "I have to go. This was an interesting conversation. Talk to you another time. Bye." At first I said bye... But as an afterthought I felt like I got very misunderstood. So I wrote him a last lenthy text explaining that I was just answering his question. Not trying to start the conversation about it up again and the rejection part is not him but my own feelings.. And I also requested back that we keep things fun and simple because talking about my past brought up my past feelings too much and reminds me why I don't open to people much.. I left the msg in a kind manor... But we have not spoken since.. What I didn't anticipate was the fact of how hurt my heart actually feels now... Not from him.. But from myself... I cared more then I could admit... He stopped checking my snaps like he used to.. Stopped msging and on my feed I saw he added someone new (girl).. I had to delete him because I would see him online at night... I think he's done with chatting with me because I became not fun... I'm sorry to you all for having to read this.. I guess I'm just letting my heart out... Truthfully I didn't know him long, but I miss him.. I guess my question is... If you were this Tauras guy.. Would you wish me never to msg you again... Or wish that ii'd take more effort to show I care by making the first msg again?. Please don't hesitate to be harsh.. As I love and appreciate pure truthfulness. ??thank you and sorry??
PS. I was more truthful to him then anyone before him. Never been so vulnerable too.. We both suffered a lot and hurt a lot. I know It's a part of my learning curve of growth.. But does that truly mean I must learn apart from him now? Is that better for us both?
@busyeyes Nono.. I missed out some parts.. I said that "i" like friends with benefits better.. He said just sex buddies.. He then told me he respected me too much.. And no I didnt pressure him.. He just started being weird. And I wanted to know what was up.. But he wouldn't open up to me.
@busy thank you for your input.. I thought as much.. And yes I am a Scorpio.. It's hard for me to let go.. i really didn't want to because when I do I do it for good. I felt that I made that mistake by letting my sexual needs come first.
@busy no mine is in Sag.
I see where you are coming from.. The thing is.. The way my friends describe it .. Is that it was as if I was a guy trying to get a girl to have sex with him and have fun with that.. And he was more the girl that wanted to pull back. Lol sounds stupid I know.
Ummm.. Yah, it was fun for me and I just enjoyed it.. In actually good friends with almost all the men I've slept with and I value friendship more then relationships because I have gotten run over too many times (I have a very open pool of care And effort that I keep giving to people).
He said after we had sex that he values me and I will know more about him as time goes on.. He mentioned the other stuff more so after I blew up at him.. Yah, I know. I messed that up.. Basically I let my sexual desires for him push my steering wheel.. The reason I feel messed up is because I feel guilty for not listening to his feelings more. He told me he has opened up to me more then he has anyone...
I see where you are coming from.. The thing is.. The way my friends describe it .. Is that it was as if I was a guy trying to get a girl to have sex with him and have fun with that.. And he was more the girl that wanted to pull back. Lol sounds stupid I know.
Ummm.. Yah, it was fun for me and I just enjoyed it.. In actually good friends with almost all the men I've slept with and I value friendship more then relationships because I have gotten run over too many times (I have a very open pool of care And effort that I keep giving to people).
He said after we had sex that he values me and I will know more about him as time goes on.. He mentioned the other stuff more so after I blew up at him.. Yah, I know. I messed that up.. Basically I let my sexual desires for him push my steering wheel.. The reason I feel messed up is because I feel guilty for not listening to his feelings more. He told me he has opened up to me more then he has anyone...
I dated a Scorpio lady once.....it was an intense attraction. At times we just knew what each others thoughts were, at times those thoughts were very dark since we both had Scorpio in our charts. Don't get me wrong Taurus can be a dark sign at times but some manage it well. Your Taurus guy knew what he wanted and he got it but in the end it got to complicated. Apparently at this time in his life he doesn't want any complications. Maybe he saved you a lot of heartache. You should maybe think about that.
Oh My Scorgian7, You and I have the same Birthday Nov.20.
I feel your pain. Next time be strong. Don't give in yourself right away and ended broken.
Learn from it. Let a man surrender himself first.
He said He valued you - this is a statement escaping his denial and he is guilty of having intimate with you. The truth is He didn't love you.
Taurus can have sex to anyone they attract and leave just like that. But if you know how to trick them they will end up chasing.
He might lose his interest when you spread your legs right away without dating him that long. .. Like I said next time even how much you
like the guy don't give in until he didn't have a plan to have a serious relationship with you. Assholes are just roaming around and looking
somebody to devour. Don't play a victim. Be victorious. Get up and dress up. Life still beautiful.
I feel your pain. Next time be strong. Don't give in yourself right away and ended broken.
Learn from it. Let a man surrender himself first.
He said He valued you - this is a statement escaping his denial and he is guilty of having intimate with you. The truth is He didn't love you.
Taurus can have sex to anyone they attract and leave just like that. But if you know how to trick them they will end up chasing.
He might lose his interest when you spread your legs right away without dating him that long. .. Like I said next time even how much you
like the guy don't give in until he didn't have a plan to have a serious relationship with you. Assholes are just roaming around and looking
somebody to devour. Don't play a victim. Be victorious. Get up and dress up. Life still beautiful.
Posted by Scorsagian7That's pretty much how I am in most relationships. I don't think its a feminine way to be; I think its a wiser way to be...I like and relate to a lot of what busy is saying about not taking the bond that occurs lightly....
@busy no mine is in Sag.
.. Is that it was as if I was a guy trying to get a girl to have sex with him and have fun with that.. And he was more the girl that wanted to pull back.
Posted by busyeyes88Hell yes to all this, except that last part. I have VinGem and have that exact view of the bonding that occurs with sex and take it so seriously. I see it as sacred even....Any person I've ever had sex with, once I finally decide to do that, I pretty much commit myself to them for life, like the decision to have sex with them is probably more important for me than getting married...I have no idea why I am like this but it is like innate; felt this way from a very young age....
@OP. Have a search on the Internet re venus in sag, they seem to have a lot of sexual partners and view sex very differently. Your taurus may have had a venus in pisces or Mars in pisces as I have and after first sleeping with you, he may have felt that he may lose control and become emotionally tied to you in the long run and with you having a venus in sag you may not have become affect but depending on his placements he probably felt he would have become emotionally affected had this continued between you. Taurus people don't usually see sex as just 'fun' depending on placements. I have a venus in pisces and I certainly don't see sex as just fun!! If a bull has a venus in gemini he may view sex as just and if bored go.off to greener pastures!!
Posted by M143not at all though....I am almost envy people who can, and have definitely had fantasies about being that way, but I have never used a woman for sex, had sex with a woman I didn't already love, etc.
Taurus can have sex to anyone they attract and leave just like that.
Your Taurus man was just particularly slutty, M.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioI bet he is, hahaha . You are adorable TLS - evolved taurus. I wish all bull men would think they same as you.Posted by M143not at all though....I am almost envy people who can, and have definitely had fantasies about being that way, but I have never used a woman for sex, had sex with a woman I didn't already love, etc.
Taurus can have sex to anyone they attract and leave just like that.
Your Taurus man was just particularly slutty, M.click to expand
@ALL you are all right.. I am actually Moon in Scorpio (forgot to change it because I just found out my time of birth). I checked our charts .. He's Venus in Aries.. So being two fire Venus.. I really thought we would have great fun together.. Which we did! Before having sex... I swear I was all Saggi. Till we did.. Then after my Scorpio sexual obsession kicked in. (Haven't had any in a while). I know it's impossible to believe.. But I believe in both @TLS.. I e only slept with one person I regret sleeping with.. And that because I will always have a weak spot for him now and he is not with it... Although I don't need commitment to have sex.. It does need to be someone that I want to respect and keep as someone special to me for life.. Being on the cusp. I fight myself with connection and freedom on the daily. It's tiring. @M maybe you being my birthday twin can help me with that. My Mars is in libra his Scorpio.. I tried to not let out my intensity. But he wouldn't stop prying me for answers till I did... I'm so ashamed.. And tried desperately to save the friendship after.. It seems it's too late. Damage done.. I tried to reach out to him today.. No reply.. Hence my Post ... Seems this is a lost friendship... I'm extremely sad.. Can't even though logically it makes sense to cut and let go.. My emotions hurt very deeply.. I wasn't even seeing or expecting anything but great times with him... But when he pulled alllll the way back.. It tripped me out. *sigh*
I just don't understand how people can invest time to know someone just to pretend they don't exist... I can't be like that.. Everyone is human.. everyone has a heart.. Even to the people I have no interest in or hate I would pick them up if ever I saw them down... It's so heartless and makes me wanna cry that there are so many out there like that...
Ps. Sorry for the typos! Typing very fast with my iPhone doesn't always work out very well. Lol
Oh no Scorgian7,
I am hurt as well. I know How deeply wounded you are... If you have a scorpio moon - this triggers a lot of your feelings.
Scorpio moon having a hard time to let go. Your Mars is a feminine type. Libra are harmonious people. But I am sure your sun sign should dominate
all of these placements. Scorpio are warriors. Don't be too attached with that feelings. Consider that Pain is temporary and you will be fine soon.
If that taurguy is not replying any of your messages then do the trick now. Swallow those pride of not contacting him even if it hurts. Give 2 weeks
without chasing him...do you own thing - sports, meeting friends and enjoy life until you know how to live without him. You will survive.
Remember you are the director of your life. You know when to stop. bend. and walk away. You just need to discipline of not doing what is not working.
arise from that ashes and let go of your hurts. If you really love him give him space. Don't be too selfish. He's not ready yet.
Be strong. There are bunch of people who will hurt you emotionally and pretend you don't exist. Take care of yourself and love it.
You don't deserve those hurts. You just need to grow and guard your heart. Aim high and dream high for yourself .
If others cannot give compassion - give it for them. It's not about them. It's all about you.
I once had broken - years passed by, I haven't encountered anyone to hurt me then. I let my brain rule my emotion. Not my emotion rule my brain.
Posted by Scorsagian7I feel for ya.....Hopefully you heal with time. Welcome to the joy of Taurus & Scorpio....Thank the gods for diagnosing you with the need to experience this karmic pairing of opposites, to teach you invaluable lessons 🙂....side effects may include chronic/episodic emotional torment, frequent euphoric delusions of reuniting with your opposite, often triggered by cheesy pop music on the radio. If you start experiencing intensely vivid dreams of your opposite, that seem more like your souls are visiting each other on the astral plane, or if you begin to a develop a strong sense of actually having a telepathic connection with your opposite, please consult a local psychiatrist.
... I'm extremely sad.. Can't even though logically it makes sense to cut and let go.. My emotions hurt very deeply.. I wasn't even seeing or expecting anything but great times with him...
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioOh. TLS you crack me up.Posted by Scorsagian7I feel for ya.....Hopefully you heal with time. Welcome to the joy of Taurus & Scorpio....Thank the gods for diagnosing you with the need to experience this karmic pairing of opposites, to teach you invaluable lessons 🙂....side effects may include chronic/episodic emotional torment, frequent euphoric delusions of reuniting with your opposite, often triggered by cheesy pop music on the radio. If you start experiencing intensely vivid dreams of your opposite, that seem more like your souls are visiting each other on the astral plane, or if you begin to a develop a strong sense of actually having a telepathic connection with your opposite, please consult a local psychiatrist.
... I'm extremely sad.. Can't even though logically it makes sense to cut and let go.. My emotions hurt very deeply.. I wasn't even seeing or expecting anything but great times with him...click to expand
If you are a scorpio at one point it's very likely to bump into the intensity of your opposite sign. It's life/soul changing.
Good news is you will get over the pain, I promise. Just don't keep em around or you'll drive yourself mad LOL. (like I do... take it from me!)
@M@Inf. thank you both for your words. It luts me back to why I'm on this journey to begin with.. And you're right. In the end it's not about him.. He had is own issues to deal with on his own time.. It's not up to me to fix those things in him when I have my own.. If anything it pin pointed the issues I have kept on the back burner till it came up again now. I will study myself to learn better..
@TLS LOL indeed it can feel pretty intense this dance that we Scorpio and Tauras do with each other.. Do you almost find it messed up.. How the two signs that hate game and dishonesty.. Seem to mess with each other the most somehow.. He and I were pure honesty with each other (it seemed) from the get go. Only to have our ugly truths truly forced out of us in a very uncomfortable and unnatural way. We push we pull and on goes the dance till someone gets tired of it. *sigh
It's interesting and makes me feel uplifted talking to fellow astrology lovers about this.. I am actually surrounded by many Taurus's. Most of my friends are as well as my coworkers.. We do keep a distance with each other though. Because we can definitely disagree strongly at times.. I do find myself having strong male Tauras's be drawn to me. Makes me feel soothed and at ease inside I can easily get carried away in them.. Therefore I'm more likely to freak out more around them.. When I mature enough and when I attract a mature Tauras.. I have a feeling I'll love the shit outta him! Cause only the Tauras male can make a Feminine woman out of a masculine Scorpio. My truth! Lol till then I'm not ready. I will let be what it must.
. @Inf. the Us of right now SHOULD live in the grey.. Where the outside of the box should be properly explored.. It is the black and white that hindrance us from letting our heart and head live as one.. My belief.. I don't sleep with my family eww. But I care for them with the same intensity.
@TLS LOL indeed it can feel pretty intense this dance that we Scorpio and Tauras do with each other.. Do you almost find it messed up.. How the two signs that hate game and dishonesty.. Seem to mess with each other the most somehow.. He and I were pure honesty with each other (it seemed) from the get go. Only to have our ugly truths truly forced out of us in a very uncomfortable and unnatural way. We push we pull and on goes the dance till someone gets tired of it. *sigh
It's interesting and makes me feel uplifted talking to fellow astrology lovers about this.. I am actually surrounded by many Taurus's. Most of my friends are as well as my coworkers.. We do keep a distance with each other though. Because we can definitely disagree strongly at times.. I do find myself having strong male Tauras's be drawn to me. Makes me feel soothed and at ease inside I can easily get carried away in them.. Therefore I'm more likely to freak out more around them.. When I mature enough and when I attract a mature Tauras.. I have a feeling I'll love the shit outta him! Cause only the Tauras male can make a Feminine woman out of a masculine Scorpio. My truth! Lol till then I'm not ready. I will let be what it must.
. @Inf. the Us of right now SHOULD live in the grey.. Where the outside of the box should be properly explored.. It is the black and white that hindrance us from letting our heart and head live as one.. My belief.. I don't sleep with my family eww. But I care for them with the same intensity.
The dream of every scorp moon is to release the intensity and have that intensity returned. This is Narnia to us.
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
The dream of every scorp moon is to release the intensity and have that intensity returned. This is Narnia to us.
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
The dream of every scorp moon is to release the intensity and have that intensity returned. This is Narnia to us.
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
test
The dream of every scorp moon is to release the intensity and have that intensity returned. This is Narnia to us.
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
The dream of every scorp moon is to release the intensity and have that intensity returned. This is Narnia to us.
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
So it sucks to been drawn in by somebody and then that person does nothing? Thats why you put them through the f'n ringer. Test their resolve.
#scorpmoon
I totally empathize with your story OP.
As a scorp moon, my greatest desire is to let loose the intensity and have it given back to me. That is the burning desire.
Alas, men are really good at showing you what you want to see so they get the panties. then ghost. They talk ya up and then deliver nothing. Call you crazy and shit.
Next time, sweetly put these mofos through some test. Your sanity will thank you.
As a scorp moon, my greatest desire is to let loose the intensity and have it given back to me. That is the burning desire.
Alas, men are really good at showing you what you want to see so they get the panties. then ghost. They talk ya up and then deliver nothing. Call you crazy and shit.
Next time, sweetly put these mofos through some test. Your sanity will thank you.
Posted by Scorsagian7The old saying "When a man tells u who he is...believe him". I would venture to say ur constant need to state ur feelings about it all is a bit too much for him at the moment and allow him room to "breathe" w/out having to feel like you two "must" talk. In general, the more any man, not just Taurus men, feel like this is forced, the more they tend to back away. So to answer ur original question...allow time & space between u two...and try not contacting him. Sooner or later us women realize real quick that unlike men....our heart strings are inextricably tied to our "goodies" string and to be extremely "mindful" (typical Virgo) of this fact. As one commenter stated so wisely earlier....learn from this...and keep it moving whether he decides to deal with u or not...
I guess my question is... If you were this Tauras guy.. Would you wish me never to msg you again... Or wish that ii'd take more effort to show I care by making the first msg again?. Please don't hesitate to be harsh.. As I love and appreciate pure truthfulness. ??thank you and sorry??
I have a Scorpio niece in her 30s (my oldest sister oldest daughter) that I haven't spoke with in over 6 months (too much drama in her life) that still to this day on a weekly basis still texts me and calls me leaving vms as if we're still communicating, however, she's talking to herself cuz I never text back or call her back...smh @ Scorps sometimes! And I thought us Virgos got a bad rap for the need to communicate....lol!
@Aries @infinite what Aries says is 100% truth in me. I have the hardest time letting go of any friendship. Even when the person is running over me. I take relationships as a friendship as well. If I'm disrespected as a friend I take it very harsh.. I also heard Aries is about the conquest! Once they get it they move on? I have two close Aries friends. Polar opposites. One is dedicated and loves commitment with his women...he will not date unless she is worth it. The other plays the field but doesn't commit to anyone... Well there is another story with him as well.. That's for a different topic.
@M that quote is very true as well.
@DMV yes.. Well for me I sometimes wish someone gets my intensity. Which my Scorpio friend does, and my Scorpio friend knows how to calm me swiftly and afficiently. We are not that close though. He has a woman and the intensity between us can become too much. So we keep a distance... Another story for a different forum lol.
@busy I love that you are like that.. I believe that he did mean well. Cause when he freaked out that night and said sorry.. He was stating that this is the last thing he wanted.. But given some time.. He said that the feelings I brought out of him that night were feelings he spent YRS trying to not feel anymore.. And I'm guessing because I was able to do that to him.. He saw me as a threat to his well being...
You see in the beginning of chatting he said he "recently" got out of a bad relationship... Little did I know that "recently" to Tauras was 3yrs ago.. Oh boy. And in our last conversation he seemed just done with talking with me in general.. Hence.. He was very blunt and cold and straight to the point. Knowing my feelings now... He has more then enough potential to reallllly hurt me.. So for now I will take this silent treatment as a good thing.. No point moving forward still if it's gonna be a constant battle of friends or lovers. And I do see him not checking snaps and the last msg I wrote him was a simple quote.. He saw and didn't interact with it.. I'm just.. Cut. Which is to be expected I suppose.
@love you're right. That is all I can do.. There is only so much I will try before I have to look out for my own pride. I let him know that I'm still thinking of him. I'm sure he gets that. And that is all I could do now.
@M that quote is very true as well.
@DMV yes.. Well for me I sometimes wish someone gets my intensity. Which my Scorpio friend does, and my Scorpio friend knows how to calm me swiftly and afficiently. We are not that close though. He has a woman and the intensity between us can become too much. So we keep a distance... Another story for a different forum lol.
@busy I love that you are like that.. I believe that he did mean well. Cause when he freaked out that night and said sorry.. He was stating that this is the last thing he wanted.. But given some time.. He said that the feelings I brought out of him that night were feelings he spent YRS trying to not feel anymore.. And I'm guessing because I was able to do that to him.. He saw me as a threat to his well being...
You see in the beginning of chatting he said he "recently" got out of a bad relationship... Little did I know that "recently" to Tauras was 3yrs ago.. Oh boy. And in our last conversation he seemed just done with talking with me in general.. Hence.. He was very blunt and cold and straight to the point. Knowing my feelings now... He has more then enough potential to reallllly hurt me.. So for now I will take this silent treatment as a good thing.. No point moving forward still if it's gonna be a constant battle of friends or lovers. And I do see him not checking snaps and the last msg I wrote him was a simple quote.. He saw and didn't interact with it.. I'm just.. Cut. Which is to be expected I suppose.
@love you're right. That is all I can do.. There is only so much I will try before I have to look out for my own pride. I let him know that I'm still thinking of him. I'm sure he gets that. And that is all I could do now.
Posted by LovelyisisPosted by Scorsagian7I think its hard for them to find people they can really trust, confide in, and open up to, so when they do find that in you, yes they value that extremely and want to communicate a lot, be very close, etc. I like that though. But also when I've gone through severe trials, I"ve found Scorps will be there for you during those times where you also need a lot of communication/closeness, more so than any other sign. If a Scorp feels ignored though, usually they will mirror you and ignore you right back, no matter how much it hurts them. And I do think it hurts them worse than it hurts most.
I have a Scorpio niece in her 30s (my oldest sister oldest daughter) that I haven't spoke with in over 6 months (too much drama in her life) that still to this day on a weekly basis still texts me and calls me leaving vms as if we're still communicating, however, she's talking to herself cuz I never text back or call her back...smh @ Scorps sometimes! And I thought us Virgos got a bad rap for the need to communicate....lol!click to expand
You should call your niece back...lol. She may not have too many people that will really listen and be there for her, and its your plight as a Virgo to sacrifice your life for everyone else anyway....hahahaha.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by LovelyisisLol TLS! This is the 2nd time I've had to cut my Scorp niece off at the kneecaps because she is just sooooo freakin disrespectful to other elderly people....and I mean downright NASTY! Just an example....she's told her kid father's mother that she hope she dies so she can spit on her grave!...then was laughing to me about it!!! I won't even repeat the other stuff she's said to other grown people who have done nothing to deserve that kind of mouthy treatment. So I went sideways on my niece giving her a piece of my mind!....haven't answered any calls/texts from her since....but that never stops her Scorp stalkerish behind from reaching out to me weekly still...Lol! I just cannot & absolutely refuse to have that kind of energy in my life....family or not...I am the best at loving someone from a distance & w/out communication. I will immediately default to "robot status"....LOL!Posted by Scorsagian7I think its hard for them to find people they can really trust, confide in, and open up to, so when they do find that in you, yes they value that extremely and want to communicate a lot, be very close, etc. I like that though. But also when I've gone through severe trials, I"ve found Scorps will be there for you during those times where you also need a lot of communication/closeness, more so than any other sign. If a Scorp feels ignored though, usually they will mirror you and ignore you right back, no matter how much it hurts them. And I do think it hurts them worse than it hurts most.
I have a Scorpio niece in her 30s (my oldest sister oldest daughter) that I haven't spoke with in over 6 months (too much drama in her life) that still to this day on a weekly basis still texts me and calls me leaving vms as if we're still communicating, however, she's talking to herself cuz I never text back or call her back...smh @ Scorps sometimes! And I thought us Virgos got a bad rap for the need to communicate....lol!
You should call your niece back...lol. She may not have too many people that will really listen and be there for her, and its your plight as a Virgo to sacrifice your life for everyone else anyway....hahahaha.click to expand
Posted by LovelyisisScorp evolution?...lol.
Lol TLS! This is the 2nd time I've had to cut my Scorp niece off at the kneecaps because she is just sooooo freakin disrespectful to other elderly people....and I mean downright NASTY! Just an example....she's told her kid father's mother that she hope she dies so she can spit on her grave!...then was laughing to me about it!!! I won't even repeat the other stuff she's said to other grown people who have done nothing to deserve that kind of mouthy treatment. So I went sideways on my niece giving her a piece of my mind!....haven't answered any calls/texts from her since....but that never stops her Scorp stalkerish behind from reaching out to me weekly still...Lol! I just cannot & absolutely refuse to have that kind of energy in my life....family or not...I am the best at loving someone from a distance & w/out communication. I will immediately default to "robot status"....LOL!
Just dont stop giving the intensity. Somewhere there is someone yearning for it as well.
Posted by DMVI think of course you need to be with someone who accepts and can deal with who you really are. But I also think its better to wait a while before you unleash a lot of your intensity. Just one example where I think OP would agree now, would be the sexual intensity/desire....Giving into that with a man too early, even if he's seducing you, particularly a Taurus, can have all sorts of negative consequences. You can be bonded to someone in emotional ways too strongly, before you even know if they are truly in love with you, truly compatible with you, etc. It can also work against the perception of value a man has of you, the perception of strength of will, the power dynamic in the relationship, etc.
Just dont stop giving the intensity. Somewhere there is someone yearning for it as well.
And really it seems that a lot of the reason for your unleashing some of that overload of emotional intensity, is due to negative consequences of giving the sexual intensity too early.
Its wise IMO, on many levels, to wait, take your time, let friendship, communication, trust, and understanding develop naturally in a relationship, especially with an earth sign. You have to take into account that our emotions and bonds, which can be just as powerful, often do take longer to form, and often form in different ways through different circumstances. Some Scorps have a sort of built-in detector for "the one", or at least think they do, and even if a Bull is feeling something like that, we're usually going to really wait and explore that feeling to make sure we aren't being deceived by our emotions. And jumping to conclusions just because a person is not where you are emotionally, bc you are feeling more "intensity" or moving at a faster pace than they are, doesn't necessarily mean you're not compatible. Even in this instance, it seems like you are going to extremes and assuming its all over, etc. bc he is going for space. We move at a slower pace and I agree with the others who have said he will probably reach out, or be receptive to contact once a little time/space is given. You're just freaking emotionally so want feedback and answers now.
I hate to say it but "suffering in SILENCE" really is the best medicine in times like this. It's like the nasty medicine all moms try to give their babies/kids who try to spit it out as soon as they taste it, but mom always know that the medicine will help cure the ill in the longrun. All medicine don't taste good...but it's not about the taste...it's the cure that counts!
lovelyisis
Posted by M143LOL M143! I love her...she's my niece, she's just bat-*ish crazy and that mouth of hers is unreal alot of times, so I just don't talk to her. Another example, her younger sister, an Aries, just went home for college break to visit her and their other sisters (my other nieces). The Scorp niece & Aries niece get into a discussion about religion, and by the end of that discussion the Aries was a b**** and the Scorp calls the police telling them the Aries (her younger much smaller sister) was being a disturbance & puts her out her house....mind u the reason for that lashing was because the Aries told her that just because she's older doesn't make her right all the time. The Scorp took that as she was calling her "old" and all hell broke loose with her mouth and the Aries tried telling her to never disrespect her like that over a religion conversation and to each her own...geebies! However, my Aries niece called me the day after and told me what happened. My Scorp niece also texts me the next day about a Charlie Brown movie that's coming out in a few months like nothing is wrong.....of course I still don't respond...I just smdh like "this child here!!!"...LOL! My Scorp niece is a MESS and acknowledges she has an anger problem....she just refuses to do anything about it. And until she does, she will still be on the "waiting list" with me...LOL!
lovelyisis
Oh how I literally feel your pain. I am a Scorp who had a parallel experience with a Taurus man as you. Every Taurus I have ever known has been this way. Tauruses who dated my friends were not loyal. My male Taurus coworker also was not loyal to his gf of FIVE years...cheated on her with another coworker of ours. Their sign is supposed to represent loyalty. I'm sure it has to do with their specific placements (Venus etc), but every Taurus man I have met has seemed to flee from the thought of loyalty. The women seem to be more put together, but again this is most likely due to other placements. It pains me to see your struggle, as I suffered the same. I can tell you, once he has made up his mind it will not change. You are nothing but a sex object to him. I don't even think they see us as human. You are a means to an end. A negative trait of Taurus is selfishness. He will use you until you draw the line. Don't let it go further. There will be no change. He does and says kind things as a form of manipulation, nothing more nothing less. It is 100% not genuine. I wish you luck. It is painful I know but don't subject yourself to being the pawn of his game. I can almost assure you (but not definitely)...you are not the only pawn in his game, as I was not with my Taurus.
degenerate, OP seduced a dude who was forthright about not being ready for a committed relationship. this has nothing to do with disloyalty....is her situation really parallel to your situation or did you just need to vent?
@all thank you for your continual advice....
I'm starting to feel a very negative turn to my thread is starting to happen.. And I ask that it be stopped please.
First, To be VERY clear I was not auditing him. He seduced me, and did it well.
Second, it was not from the start.. It was a few months after.. And when he did I such the idea down, from that to just saying he likes teasing to saying he respects me and likes me to saying he just wanted to cuddle with me... ALL of which I did back the same way What happened that night was not expected.. And even though I'm a woman I'm still a human.. And if any of you are human too.. Then you understand that even we women have our weaknesses with lust as well.
Third, anyone has the right to their own opinion and story. No one should be shot down for having it on this thread! So I thank everyone for your input!!
Fourth, I excuse nothing of what I did and allowed, but please don't assume what it was I did. You just have to ask for more details because I know there are holes in my writing because I wanted to just get the main parts out.
Fifth, what made it complicated was that we had a mutual understanding that if we became physical it would be an ongoing thing.. In what way was not properly discussed so we never did it... Until it happened.. Then things got complicated after.. Because he freaked out about getting closer to me after. And shut down physically.. And me being an idiot felt reflected and had a tantrum.. Then I talked about it more and got to the bottom of things the next day.. He said he wants to hang out with me but wants to hold of the other stuff.. Then I felt embarrassed and didn't talk to him for a few days.. When I did. I properly apologized/ explained myself... But he got confrontational over miscommunication. I then wrote him a last note to clear things up, and to explain my issues with my feelings of rejection.. And that we should keep things light..now he isn't talking to me, ignoring me, and I think he's just moved on to talking to someone else that is fun and doesn't make him feel pressured to feel emotions that he isn't ready to feel.
The point of this all is to help me understand how to get over the pain I caused myself.. Because I think about him all the time. And don't think he will ever be talking to me again. I cared more then I thought and I'm just hurt.
Please keep any opinion coming.. But also be warm to eachothers stories and opinions as well. Even if it doesn't suite yo
I'm starting to feel a very negative turn to my thread is starting to happen.. And I ask that it be stopped please.
First, To be VERY clear I was not auditing him. He seduced me, and did it well.
Second, it was not from the start.. It was a few months after.. And when he did I such the idea down, from that to just saying he likes teasing to saying he respects me and likes me to saying he just wanted to cuddle with me... ALL of which I did back the same way What happened that night was not expected.. And even though I'm a woman I'm still a human.. And if any of you are human too.. Then you understand that even we women have our weaknesses with lust as well.
Third, anyone has the right to their own opinion and story. No one should be shot down for having it on this thread! So I thank everyone for your input!!
Fourth, I excuse nothing of what I did and allowed, but please don't assume what it was I did. You just have to ask for more details because I know there are holes in my writing because I wanted to just get the main parts out.
Fifth, what made it complicated was that we had a mutual understanding that if we became physical it would be an ongoing thing.. In what way was not properly discussed so we never did it... Until it happened.. Then things got complicated after.. Because he freaked out about getting closer to me after. And shut down physically.. And me being an idiot felt reflected and had a tantrum.. Then I talked about it more and got to the bottom of things the next day.. He said he wants to hang out with me but wants to hold of the other stuff.. Then I felt embarrassed and didn't talk to him for a few days.. When I did. I properly apologized/ explained myself... But he got confrontational over miscommunication. I then wrote him a last note to clear things up, and to explain my issues with my feelings of rejection.. And that we should keep things light..now he isn't talking to me, ignoring me, and I think he's just moved on to talking to someone else that is fun and doesn't make him feel pressured to feel emotions that he isn't ready to feel.
The point of this all is to help me understand how to get over the pain I caused myself.. Because I think about him all the time. And don't think he will ever be talking to me again. I cared more then I thought and I'm just hurt.
Please keep any opinion coming.. But also be warm to eachothers stories and opinions as well. Even if it doesn't suite yo
*auditing= seducing him ??I was not seducing him
Ah no.. I did not read the entire thread (still haven't). I suppose you're right though. It was kind of a vent but also a slight truth. At least from those who I have known. If there was seduction involved then no the situation is not parallel to my own. mine was more of a game of manipulation. Sorry to be such a venter! The wounds are quite fresh still. The anger is still there though I try to not show it. I saw this post and from what I did read the anger came back. I should know not all Taurus are the same🙂 I'm a bit of a different Scorpio myself with lots of air influence so I am not one to judge. It wasn't meant to be an attack at the whole but an attack at those who are that game-playing way. But if he was clear at the beginning...then sadly you can't expect him to change. That's just the reality. So you should try to heal yourself while you can...
Ah no.. I did not read the entire thread (still haven't). I suppose you're right though. It was kind of a vent but also a slight truth. At least from those who I have known. If there was seduction involved then no the situation is not parallel to my own. mine was more of a game of manipulation. Sorry to be such a venter! The wounds are quite fresh still. The anger is still there though I try to not show it. I saw this post and from what I did read the anger came back. I should know not all Taurus are the same🙂 I'm a bit of a different Scorpio myself with lots of air influence so I am not one to judge. It wasn't meant to be an attack at the whole but an attack at those who are that game-playing way. But if he was clear at the beginning...then sadly you can't expect him to change. That's just the reality. So you should try to heal yourself while you can...
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioThe thing is, with my scorp moon, I have 2 modes...on and off. Patience iPosted by DMVI think of course you need to be with someone who accepts and can deal with who you really are. But I also think its better to wait a while before you unleash a lot of your intensity. Just one example where I think OP would agree now, would be the sexual intensity/desire....Giving into that with a man too early, even if he's seducing you, particularly a Taurus, can have all sorts of negative consequences. You can be bonded to someone in emotional ways too strongly, before you even know if they are truly in love with you, truly compatible with you, etc. It can also work against the perception of value a man has of you, the perception of strength of will, the power dynamic in the relationship, etc.
Just dont stop giving the intensity. Somewhere there is someone yearning for it as well.
And really it seems that a lot of the reason for your unleashing some of that overload of emotional intensity, is due to negative consequences of giving the sexual intensity too early.
Its wise IMO, on many levels, to wait, take your time, let friendship, communication, trust, and understanding develop naturally in a relationship, especially with an earth sign. You have to take into account that our emotions and bonds, which can be just as powerful, often do take longer to form, and often form in different ways through different circumstances. Some Scorps have a sort of built-in detector for "the one", or at least think they do, and even if a Bull is feeling something like that, we're usually going to really wait and explore that feeling to make sure we aren't being deceived by our emotions. And jumping to conclusions just because a person is not where you are emotionally, bc you are feeling more "intensity" or moving at a faster pace than they are, doesn't necessarily mean you're not compatible. Even in this instance, it seems like you are going to extremes and assuming its all over, etc. bc he is going for space. We move at a slower pace and I agree with the others who have said he will probably reach out, or be receptive to contact once a little time/space is given. You're just freaking emotionally so want feedback and answers now.click to expand
Patience is the key and having plenty of activities.
It's part of life, getting hurt or hurting others whether you want to or not is part of the universal cycle. It has nothing to do with your astrological sign. There's 2 roads you can take in your life and those are being good or being evil. The choice is yours. Heartache from love happens to everyone, weather your single or married. Even when your at your happiest there will be heartache......it's the nature of the beast.
Posted by degenerate_ingenueI'll say this one last time. I didn't expect him to "change". I expected him to care for a friendship. That I thought all those hours and days on end of taking deeply about life was doing! I'm hurt over that!
Ah no.. I did not read the entire thread (still haven't). I suppose you're right though. It was kind of a vent but also a slight truth. At least from those who I have known. If there was seduction involved then no the situation is not parallel to my own. mine was more of a game of manipulation. Sorry to be such a venter! The wounds are quite fresh still. The anger is still there though I try to not show it. I saw this post and from what I did read the anger came back. I should know not all Taurus are the same🙂 I'm a bit of a different Scorpio myself with lots of air influence so I am not one to judge. It wasn't meant to be an attack at the whole but an attack at those who are that game-playing way. But if he was clear at the beginning...then sadly you can't expect him to change. That's just the reality. So you should try to heal yourself while you can...
*talking
@busy I'm not making excuses for him or myself. That is what he said to me.. So I don't have any real substance to go by then what came out from his mouth.
I didn't want him to be with me.. I thought he cared enough to stick to a friendship with me. That is now clearly not the case. So that's on me for assuming that I made myself important.
I didn't want him to be with me.. I thought he cared enough to stick to a friendship with me. That is now clearly not the case. So that's on me for assuming that I made myself important.
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