DEAR DIARY: CAN THE BULL EVER BE SUPPORTIVE IN TIME OF STRESS?

Im a sag, and I think I am exactly that of what sag represent. Im supportive, motivating, optimistic, encouraging, always there when someone needs me to be there.

im going through a lot right now. I have a home I owned with my ex, I don't sell the house because A. my ex is an addict and don't want to feed his addiction with giving him that much money if we sold it B. I rent the house and make a pretty nice profit which in turn helps me save to keep the house good incase something breaks and also helps provides me "ChildSupport" I take money from the profit to help me pay for things regarding my son whom I share with my ex since he does not support him, like childcare and karate stuff like that.

well after I moved out of the home for my own fresh start and happiness I rented it out. and its been a struggle like everyone warned because renters can be late or be MIA, will it finally happened and my renterns stopped paying the bills, such has electricity and did not pay me rent. so im in the process of getting the house back to a good place so I can rent it out again. I don't have that much money saved up for the house because its only been about 9 months since I started renting. the people that lived there left it a mess and a lot of stuff behind. I don't have a truck and my circle of friends is really small because I don't trust people a lot so I don't really have a good support team of super heros that will come and stand by me and offer there helping hands and support.

I really don't have anyone checking in on me ever



SAG SUN DATING TAURUS SUN/MOON.

well I submitted this prematurely. but hell, Im just feeling very in over my head, destined to fail.

I also don't trust anyone like I trust him and I just really need someone to be like me, TRUTH,

tell me not to worry.

tell me everything will be ok

tell me one step at a time

and tell me that I don't have to do this alone.

I would never ask for someone to break their back for me, or come out of pocket for me, or make my issues theirs but I just want some positive support. and right now it seems like he is unable to ask or mention or even respond to me when I say " im actually so stressed out right now " "my life is a mess right now"

I'm a bull w/a sag. I've been with women who need constant help, support - material, emotional, etc., need me to tip-toe around consant mood swings, etc. She is not one of those women. Super low maintenance, all she needs is sex and quality time really....Always has her shit together and its rare that she even has a low mood, let alone an off day. Love this about her, but because I'm used to that, I know my first response to times when she does finally hit her limit, is probably not so attentive. I guess I just assume it will blow over. What I've learned is that, because its so rare for her to be going through it, its more of a crisis to her for that very reason. She is like ready to end it all if she feels a slight twinge of pessimism. You should just be very direct and state your needs. Seems unfair, especially bc you are probalby often of service to others, but it just isn't likely that people will constantly look in on someone who rarely ever needs help.

clarify - the ex is the bull or your SO now is the bull ? don't sell, just keep planning and plugging and get someone good back in there to rent asap to get you back on track - it is a mess when the train runs off the track and well, if he's not being supportive, then it's up to you and your other good friends - you can't worry about everything right now - fuck him - just take care of what you need to take care of - it does seem a bit selfish of a SO if that is the case not to help you physically do what you need to do

landlord's insurance. it's a wonderful thing.

btw, my bull is very attentive (even when i don't think i want him to be. i blame his cancer mars).

i agree with the others. sounds like you might have to teach him to give you what you need.

Get a management company to take care of it. My sister does that for her properties and its no stress.

Also if your house is located in a prime area consider air b n b. You could potentially make 2xs in rent off 40/50% occupancy per month.

Posted by RooSagicorn

Why not sell it? It’s not your place to control what the ex does with his half of the proceeds.

No idea on Taurus though except what are you upset about? No support or checking onyou not being Prince charming?

my house and not selling it is my choice. I don't want to feed my ex addiction while he is trying to get clean. I really need him to be in my sons life. my son loves his dad and I don't want my son to lose his dad to drugs. and my ex understands that and we are on really good terms because he knows in time he will get his money just like ill get mine. im not greedy and its not to be that way it with the best intentions fot the sake of my son and his modern family dynamic.

also yes. I just feel like my Taurus can really break down sometimes when he is stressed or feeling down and im always there for him for support, to have him talk it out, help him game plan, offer positive affermations. remind him he is strong and smart and that I have his back and he isn't alone. I have been this for him so many times and he has always showed appreciation. me - I don't break easily, but when I do I need what I offer and I just don't think he gets it or worse I don't think he wants to touch that subject because he A. doesn't care, B. only focuses on himself or C. doesn't recognize the obvious.?

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

We can sometimes be a bit dense on picking up hints. I think you have to ask for exactly what you want. So if you want help moving furniture then ask.

I also think we like to be self-reliant so we sometimes project that on others.

agreed -

the struggle of sag with bull - I don't know how to ask for help, and he doesn't recognize the hints of need.

but im very self-reliant, im a do better all by my self type of person but not all the like this, and if im telling you "my day could have been better" or im saying " im stressed out" those are obvious signs because most of the time in times of stress im still able to appear happy and capable.

I just feel very in over my head right now, and I know I got to do what I got to do but I feel very overhelmed and it leads me to feel like a failure and to think negative and then im sad and depressed and I allow it all to consume me to the believe im a failure in my present situation.

lol I hate that I said that, its so embarrassing but ill say it and leave it because its how I keel feeling about it all.

Posted by tiziani

Have you asked for support?

not yet. but knowing me im going to spewwww it out.

its just hard for me because its not like me to lay my negative out like this but its eating me and I need the support.

I just want him say that he believe in me. but literally he has been gone all week on a trip with his boys and that's when everything went down for me. so I never mentioned it while he has been gone. but Tuesday he asked how I was and I let him know all that has been happening with me since he has been gone and literally he said nothing, he focused all his attention to other things and there was like 2 minutes of silent until he said, that chick (the tenant) "is bat shit crazy" - convo over, then he asks me last night how my say was and I told him "im just so stressed out and I started opening up about all that is stressing and then someone interrupted us and the next thing I know he is talking about something new - obviously that makes me feel as if he does not care to hear anything about that - and then this morning he says "I hope you have a wonderful day" all the while im here a work just kinds in and out of my emotions and tears.....stressing and trying to figure my shit out and I respond. "cant I just come home to you, im really stressed about all the crap going on right now (sad face) - he didn't reply back it it.

im obviously all over in my emotions right now. that might be hard for men but that's not like me to be this way

right now im just feeling very much ALONE, very much under valued and I question so much because of it.

im just in a really weird moment in my life where im being challenged and I just emotionally need support, and am not getting it.

Posted by Metatron

I'm a bull w/a sag. I've been with women who need constant help, support - material, emotional, etc., need me to tip-toe around consant mood swings, etc. She is not one of those women. Super low maintenance, all she needs is sex and quality time really....Always has her shit together and its rare that she even has a low mood, let alone an off day. Love this about her, but because I'm used to that, I know my first response to times when she does finally hit her limit, is probably not so attentive. I guess I just assume it will blow over. What I've learned is that, because its so rare for her to be going through it, its more of a crisis to her for that very reason. She is like ready to end it all if she feels a slight twinge of pessimism. You should just be very direct and state your needs. Seems unfair, especially bc you are probalby often of service to others, but it just isn't likely that people will constantly look in on someone who rarely ever needs help.

omg yes.

I am in crisis mode right now.

ugh I just hate feeling this weak, and to ask for help or emotional support makes me feel even weaker.

but at the same time I want it so bad. treat like a damsel because I need some emotional support

Posted by tctaap

clarify - the ex is the bull or your SO now is the bull ? don't sell, just keep planning and plugging and get someone good back in there to rent asap to get you back on track - it is a mess when the train runs off the track and well, if he's not being supportive, then it's up to you and your other good friends - you can't worry about everything right now - fuck him - just take care of what you need to take care of - it does seem a bit selfish of a SO if that is the case not to help you physically do what you need to do

The Ex is NOT the bull

thank you for the push.

I just think im in over my head, I had to get this house back and im not a handy girl, I have to paint and new HOME DEPOT stuff and its sooooooo not my thing.

Taurus are so lame lol.

Feel better saggy!