HELP ! Does this Taurus like me or is he using me?

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Lolo92
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Help me ladies, I have never been so in love.

It is a long story so hold on and sorry!

So first of all, don't judge me please. I ( Virgo) have been in a relationship on and off for 5 years. I moved to a different country for my job, ended up finding a lover and stayed there. Things were going not so well in my relationship and at this point I connected with a Taurus man on Facebook. He is from my hometown and we knew who we were but never talked. From the first few moments we had an instant connection and we started talking. Every day, from the morning until the evening! This went on for about 2 months.

After 2 months we finally met, 3 times in 1 week. He took me out to a restaurant, tried to impress me ( typical Taurus behavior). Our first date lasted 7 hours. 2 days later he invited me to a party at his, where a lot of his colleagues were and friends, he introduced me. After that I drove home with my bike and by surprise he was waiting there. We talked and kissed. I wanted to invite him in and he said no, Right after he got panic and told me he wasn't ready for a relationship as he has to work on himself. But he really likes me and he hopes we can just take it slow. I freaked out , I was already completely smitten by this guy .. I NEVER had that.

I was really upset, told him all that by text and with me it is all or nothing. his response was that he is also confused but he understands, he just sended a kiss and let me be. Of course I couldn't keep it up for very long and I apologized.

Agreeing to just be friends and take it slow. He admitted that it made him crazy when I didn't text anymore. He and I kept on texting and now even calling each other. He was so sweet and sometimes texts turned a little dirty. He said he really liked me, even a little more than just liking. I heard from friends he has been talking about me and asking about me! He even told his mom some things about me. After again 1,5 months I saw him again. He cooked for me, we watched a movie and we kissed again, we nearly had sex but as I was on my period it was not possible. He cuddled with me and than suggested I should not stay over because his brother was coming the next day and he was also talking about that it was fun and so. I found that a vey lame excuse to kick me out.

I got angry at him and felt very used. I thought he was getting feelings for me, so I confronted him with the fact that for me it was more than just fun. I start to develop feelings and sex was not going to happen just like that. He texted me back that he just doesn't see anyone in his life now and he really likes me and likes to hang out with me but he has no feelings for me. But he doesn't want to hurt me. I cried so hard, I texted him he was a jerk and he did hurt me. Why going for a girl with a relationship and that lives so far away just for sex? He did not reply to it, but 6 hours later tried sending me a funny picture and a text as if nothing happend. I ignored it. 3 days long he didn't text me anymore, because I also didn't. He was online the whole time though. Like every hour 5/6 times. I was sooo depressed, so I decided to text him and tell him that I really like him and it was okay to be friends, because he is a nice person. But that hurt me by doing games like that and he had to stop doing that. He said he was happy to hear that and he respects me a lot. He stopped texting completely. The last evening, I had a fight with the other guy and I was feeling so bad. So I just called the Taurus and asked him to pick me up. He did and he took me to his appartment , we had sex. Twice. Really good! Afterwards he held me in his arms stroke my back, listening to music for 3 hours before he drove me home. He asked me if I could see myself living at his place, I answered that I could and he didn't reply. The next day I had to fly back and I was so depressed. He texted me a little and he even texted a little movie of his and his friends at a party and asked me if I could enjoy a party like that. I replied I could and he didn't text me back. The next few days communication was way less, he would text me and I would answer and after a few times he would not reply anymore. until I texted him that I missed our daily texts. He answered that he missed them too and started to call me babe. he said that he would call me tomorrow, because he wanted to hear me. He did and we talked for nearly 2 hours, asking me when I would come back. After that he didn't text me anymore. He was not even online anymore. ( he hasn't been online a lot lately, which is very unusual for him. He is always checking his phone unless he is sleeping ) The next day, he texted me pretty early. He sended me a song. And all of a sudden out of the blue , he sended me a screenshot of facebook message : a girl that invited him over to go to the movies with him. She wrote him : ' I don't know if it is appropriate to ask you out since you told me about this girl you are building up something with, but I'm going to do it anyways. Do you want to go to the movies with me? '

I was very surprised and asked him if he wanted to and he started laughing and saying, no never! And that girl ? That was you btw that I talked about... He sended me another screenshot with his reply that he couldn't accept her offer. I was totally over the moon. He also said he respects me so much, that I'm an amazing woman. He started talking to me about the date he is planning for us. And he was very charming again. I'm so scared I will fall for this all over again and confess again that I really like him and that he will again blow me off. Why is he doing this? He obviously likes me... Is it just for the sex? He is still texting way less but it is getting more again. It is like he slightly offended that I didn't text him 3 days. Why would he make so much effort, I'm nearly never around so I can't be a bootycall. How do I win his heart over? Help me! I'm confused !
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Lolo92
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Oke i unterstand why everyone is so upset. I maybe should have mentioned it. My boyfriend, which I have been with for 5 years, has cheated on me. Multiple times. I was sick of it , but always came back to him. On / off relationship. The night I had sex with the guy was when I found out that he had someone on the side again. That is why I called him, of course totally stupid. I know and yes just judge me.
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Let go OP.

Cut off communication.

We Virgos are good at that, aren't we?

Also, to answer your question... He doesn't like you. At least, not in the way you want him too.
How would he supposed to behave in your

opinion so you will say 'he likes you'?
Wouldn't he be clear about his intentions and also be consistent in communication if he really liked her?

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Doesn't he seem consistent?
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Posted by Gemitati
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Why is it either or? You don't think it's possibly that he both likes you and is using you...?
Right! He likes her and takes all she is

offering. How is it punishable?

Curious about existing boyfriend though
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He likes her as a person and is sexually attracted to her, obviously. But why would he choose to enter into anything seriously with her?

She's proven to him from the very start how she treats her commitments. She's a cheater, he's knows this. Why would he offer her his loyalty when she's proven she has none to offer.

He'll continue to fuck her each time she spreads her legs until he finds a woman of integrity he wishes to enter into a relationship with.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Why is it either or? You don't think it's possibly that he both likes you and is using you...?
Right! He likes her and takes all she is

offering. How is it punishable?

Curious about existing boyfriend though
He likes her as a person and is sexually attracted to her, obviously. But why would he choose to enter into anything seriously with her?

She's proven to him from the very start how she treats her commitments. She's a cheater, he's knows this. Why would he offer her his loyalty when she's proven she has none to offer.

He'll continue to fuck her each time she spreads her legs until he finds a woman of integrity he wishes to enter into a relationship with.

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If men only married Saint women...

They deliberately looking for sluts!

My friend once said his head understands

but lower body don't! So he was suffering

but married to this no good lady.

Though she dumped him and he is now

married to a great woman.
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Why is it either or? You don't think it's possibly that he both likes you and is using you...?
Right! He likes her and takes all she is

offering. How is it punishable?

Curious about existing boyfriend though
He likes her as a person and is sexually attracted to her, obviously. But why would he choose to enter into anything seriously with her?

She's proven to him from the very start how she treats her commitments. She's a cheater, he's knows this. Why would he offer her his loyalty when she's proven she has none to offer.

He'll continue to fuck her each time she spreads her legs until he finds a woman of integrity he wishes to enter into a relationship with.


If men only married Saint women...

They deliberately looking for sluts!

My friend once said his head understands

but lower body don't! So he was suffering

but married to this no good lady.

Though she dumped him and he is now

married to a great woman.

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You can be slutty and then loyal when in a relationship.
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Posted by Lolo92
Oke i unterstand why everyone is so upset. I maybe should have mentioned it. My boyfriend, which I have been with for 5 years, has cheated on me. Multiple times. I was sick of it , but always came back to him. On / off relationship. The night I had sex with the guy was when I found out that he had someone on the side again. That is why I called him, of course totally stupid. I know and yes just judge me.
U are a stupid dumb ass. Just because your bf cheated on you, you validate having sex with the taurus because of this but yet you took your bf back every time he cheated.

U are a nasty bitch... The Taurus has you on his harem list. Why are you here?

You are a lame ass cheat. The Taurus will never have you as a gf.. Dumb low life...

Wasn't it your very own cousin who said, "He without sin, let him cast the 1st stone."

I don't think he'd approve of this message.

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Hey, that was Jesus Christ 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva
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Posted by yupvirgo
Let go OP.

Cut off communication.

We Virgos are good at that, aren't we?

Also, to answer your question... He doesn't like you. At least, not in the way you want him too.
How would he supposed to behave in your

opinion so you will say 'he likes you'?
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What?! Is that English? 😐

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by Lolo92
Oke i unterstand why everyone is so upset. I maybe should have mentioned it. My boyfriend, which I have been with for 5 years, has cheated on me. Multiple times. I was sick of it , but always came back to him. On / off relationship. The night I had sex with the guy was when I found out that he had someone on the side again. That is why I called him, of course totally stupid. I know and yes just judge me.
U are a stupid dumb ass. Just because your bf cheated on you, you validate having sex with the taurus because of this but yet you took your bf back every time he cheated.

U are a nasty bitch... The Taurus has you on his harem list. Why are you here?

You are a lame ass cheat. The Taurus will never have you as a gf.. Dumb low life...

Wasn't it your very own cousin who said, "He without sin, let him cast the 1st stone."

I don't think he'd approve of this message.


Hey, that was Jesus Christ 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva



Oh I know, just pointing out the irony of one's name compared to their statement. lol

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"Irony?" Like your birth name your parents gave you? Not the "same difference". 🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by EvatheDiva
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by yupvirgo
Let go OP.

Cut off communication.

We Virgos are good at that, aren't we?

Also, to answer your question... He doesn't like you. At least, not in the way you want him too.
How would he supposed to behave in your

opinion so you will say 'he likes you'?
What?! Is that English? 😐

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Why? You didn't understand?

You need to learn Englukrainish. 🙂
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by EvatheDiva
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by yupvirgo
Let go OP.

Cut off communication.

We Virgos are good at that, aren't we?

Also, to answer your question... He doesn't like you. At least, not in the way you want him too.
How would he supposed to behave in your

opinion so you will say 'he likes you'?
What?! Is that English? 😐

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva


Why? You didn't understand?

You need to learn Englukrainish. 🙂

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I know danish (muffin) 😆

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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I'm totally confused, mind you I had a couple of vodkas before I left the club where I work.

I thought the Taurus guy liked her, but she sort of over reacted to everything and got a bit paranoid, which is why the Taurus guy backed off a bit, she didn't state anywhere at the beginning of her thread that he pushed her for sex, now its is he just wanting me for sex??

OP barely mentioned this other guy she is supposedly with for 5 years, but cheats on her like its ok, and she allows it for some reason ??

Id say dump both, learn to enjoy life as a single for a while and learn to like everything positive about yourself, hobbies you like, pastimes you like, interests you like ect, find out who you are, and feel comfortable with you x