Pursuing a divorcee

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Hi first post!

So I met my Taurus friend over 6 years ago. At the time I was casually dating a guy who would eventually become my husband. After 2 years my husband and I agreed to separate and officially divorce. Since then I reconnected with the Taurus and he has been an amazing friend and “lover” for atleast 2 years. He cooks for me, we go out occasionally, I’ve met several family members(not parents), and he wants to start traveling together soon. We talk everyday, but he’s never officially asked me to be anything more than what we’ve been. I know that Taurus men can take a while to commit but I’m starting to think it has more to do with the fact that I was already married. I fear that he could subconsciously view me as “damaged goods”. I’m not sure how I should move forward from this point. I would be devastated if all of this was for nothing even though I would be able to pull myself together. I think we compliment each other very well. Similar jobs, similar interests and even after we have pretty strong disagreements, we come back together eventually. What advice would u give
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Posted by jeane
i don't think that they take 2 years to commit. are you sure he is not committed already to you but you just haven't formalised it?
But wouldn’t he have made some official declaration? Maybe introduced me as gf? I don’t know. I don’t know how men over 30 claim relationships. It doesn’t help that he’s not very expressive. I know they SHOW their feelings but it would be helpful to be more direct.
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i don't think that they take 2 years to commit. are you sure he is not committed already to you but you just haven't formalised it?

But wouldn’t he have made some official declaration? Maybe introduced me as gf? I don’t know. I don’t know how men over 30 claim relationships. It doesn’t help that he’s not very expressive. I know they SHOW their feelings but it would be helpful to be more direct. click to expand
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it doesn't sound like you are being very direct either. maybe just ask him? some times things are not as complicated as we make them out to be.
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Few days ago rode an Uber. Driver was very talkative. Told me about being divorced and recently meeting a woman he liked.

After the party they’ve met at he wanted to contact her but ha said I was so long out of that dating stuff - I wasn’t sure how to approach her.

So he had been waiting until his sister asked how are them 2 doing and he said he doesn’t know what to do. Sister asked him if he has her number. He said actually she didn’t give it to me but she sent me a text at the party. Sister said....sooooo! YOU HAVE HER NUMBER! Call!

He did and now they are dating but he said he is analyzing everything. He likes her but it feels so new and strange so he is driving himself nuts with thinking!

And I was surprised because he is so social and seemed so nice...I would never believe this man wouldn’t just come out and say what’s in his mind! But apparently with her he is shy and insecure.

I think you have a beautiful thing going. Enjoy. Trust me it’s better to have it done than hear words and have no commitment! Good luck!
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Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.

When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand
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I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.



When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand

I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂 click to expand
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Are you planning to live your life according to mine? That’s smart!

Imagine if it happens and I don’t post and leave this place...will you sit there and wait for the signal? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.



When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand



I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂 click to expand

Are you planning to live your life according to mine? That’s smart!
Imagine if it happens and I don’t post and leave this place...will you sit there and wait for the signal? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand
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Yeah babe. The earth and all the planets revolve around you, not the sun.

If only the scorp would try a sip of this koolaid. Ah well.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.



When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand



I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂 click to expand



Are you planning to live your life according to mine? That’s smart!
Imagine if it happens and I don’t post and leave this place...will you sit there and wait for the signal? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand

Yeah babe. The earth and all the planets revolve around you, not the sun.

If only the scorp would try a sip of this koolaid. Ah well. click to expand
click to expand

As always when you have nothing to say - you just mumbling something like ‘koolaid’...
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Posted by Gemitati
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.



When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand



I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂 click to expand



Are you planning to live your life according to mine? That’s smart!
Imagine if it happens and I don’t post and leave this place...will you sit there and wait for the signal? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand



Yeah babe. The earth and all the planets revolve around you, not the sun.

If only the scorp would try a sip of this koolaid. Ah well. click to expand

As always when you have nothing to say - you just mumbling something like ‘koolaid’... click to expand
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Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?

And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand
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Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life.
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Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?



And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand

Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life. click to expand
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Did you give her a better answer?

No! You just fished for shit to say...’you weren’t divorced?’ And she was! Poor Nikki...biting your nails?
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?



And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand



Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life. click to expand

Did you give her a better answer?
No! You just fished for shit to say...’you weren’t divorced?’ And she was! Poor Nikki...biting your nails? click to expand
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You need a therapist. I didn't answer cause someone already stated what I would have. And I liked their comment.

But you're so wrapped up in your own shit, you get defensive about stupid shit. That or your going through menopause and having hot flashes. Or you're pmsing. Or you're just bored and causing shit.

Either way, shoo fly, don't bother me.
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?



And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand



Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life. click to expand



Did you give her a better answer?
No! You just fished for shit to say...’you weren’t divorced?’ And she was! Poor Nikki...biting your nails? click to expand

You need a therapist. I didn't answer cause someone already stated what I would have. And I liked their comment.

But you're so wrapped up in your own shit, you get defensive about stupid shit. That or your going through menopause and having hot flashes. Or you're pmsing. Or you're just bored and causing shit.

Either way, shoo fly, don't bother me. click to expand
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I knew you would be pissed off when she said she was as a matter a fact DIVORCES...and not whoring around! Lol

You are still pissed! And if this fly shit in you - you would be really sorry you called her a fly...lmao
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?



And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand



Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life. click to expand



Did you give her a better answer?
No! You just fished for shit to say...’you weren’t divorced?’ And she was! Poor Nikki...biting your nails? click to expand



You need a therapist. I didn't answer cause someone already stated what I would have. And I liked their comment.

But you're so wrapped up in your own shit, you get defensive about stupid shit. That or your going through menopause and having hot flashes. Or you're pmsing. Or you're just bored and causing shit.

Either way, shoo fly, don't bother me. click to expand

I knew you would be pissed off when she said she was as a matter a fact DIVORCES...and not whoring around! Lol
You are still pissed! And if this fly shit in you - you would be really sorry you called her a fly...lmao click to expand
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K.
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Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?



And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand



Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life. click to expand



Did you give her a better answer?
No! You just fished for shit to say...’you weren’t divorced?’ And she was! Poor Nikki...biting your nails? click to expand



You need a therapist. I didn't answer cause someone already stated what I would have. And I liked their comment.

But you're so wrapped up in your own shit, you get defensive about stupid shit. That or your going through menopause and having hot flashes. Or you're pmsing. Or you're just bored and causing shit.

Either way, shoo fly, don't bother me. click to expand



I knew you would be pissed off when she said she was as a matter a fact DIVORCES...and not whoring around! Lol
You are still pissed! And if this fly shit in you - you would be really sorry you called her a fly...lmao click to expand

K. click to expand
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Stop answering me!
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.



When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand



I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂 click to expand



Are you planning to live your life according to mine? That’s smart!
Imagine if it happens and I don’t post and leave this place...will you sit there and wait for the signal? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand



Yeah babe. The earth and all the planets revolve around you, not the sun.

If only the scorp would try a sip of this koolaid. Ah well. click to expand



As always when you have nothing to say - you just mumbling something like ‘koolaid’... click to expand

click to expand
click to expand

Yep! Stupid jokes usually fly by me...

But your dog driving...that was priceless! Lmao still...
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by nikkistar
Did you start dating the Taurus while you were still married and not separated?



And what difference does it make!
Her post is clear! You just have to try and find shit don’t you?
Ahhhhh....didn’t happen! She isn’t guilty....how sad for you...😭 click to expand



Shush stupid. I asked her that to give her a better answer. Jfc.

You're way to fucking sensitive about this shit because of your life. click to expand



Did you give her a better answer?
No! You just fished for shit to say...’you weren’t divorced?’ And she was! Poor Nikki...biting your nails? click to expand



You need a therapist. I didn't answer cause someone already stated what I would have. And I liked their comment.

But you're so wrapped up in your own shit, you get defensive about stupid shit. That or your going through menopause and having hot flashes. Or you're pmsing. Or you're just bored and causing shit.

Either way, shoo fly, don't bother me. click to expand



I knew you would be pissed off when she said she was as a matter a fact DIVORCES...and not whoring around! Lol
You are still pissed! And if this fly shit in you - you would be really sorry you called her a fly...lmao click to expand



K. click to expand

Stop answering me! click to expand
click to expand

K.
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by LadyNeptune
Best just to ask him what his intentions are, instead of relying on internet strangers.



When are you asking your imaginary bf if you are serious or he is just passing trough? click to expand



I will the day your Scorpio leaves his wife for you. Looks like it’ll be a bit of a wait. Better get comfy 😂😂 click to expand



Are you planning to live your life according to mine? That’s smart!
Imagine if it happens and I don’t post and leave this place...will you sit there and wait for the signal? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 click to expand



Yeah babe. The earth and all the planets revolve around you, not the sun.

If only the scorp would try a sip of this koolaid. Ah well. click to expand



As always when you have nothing to say - you just mumbling something like ‘koolaid’... click to expand



click to expand

Yep! Stupid jokes usually fly by me...
But your dog driving...that was priceless! Lmao still... click to expand
click to expand

Laugh at someone’s misfortune. Go ahead. Won’t change your sad life but if it makes you feel a little better go right ahead.
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Hi Capri_Pants,

Looking at your handle, I assume you are a Capricorn.

I have dated many Capricorn women and I am a Taurus, I know the relationship is just too good to be true. It's more like a Friendship than a relationship sometimes. So the question is, are you guys physically close? Did you let him get into your Capri Pants ?

If so, then how did he treat you after that? Is he still treating you the same? Then I say he is definitely into you

Also, he already knows that you are thinking about 'what is next', he is probably confused too about why you are not asking anything about it to him.

So don't be afraid to show him that you are afraid. He will probably love it and comfort you and open himself up to you about his plans.
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Posted by c0mrade
Hi Capri_Pants,

Looking at your handle, I assume you are a Capricorn.

I have dated many Capricorn women and I am a Taurus, I know the relationship is just too good to be true. It's more like a Friendship than a relationship sometimes. So the question is, are you guys physically close? Did you let him get into your Capri Pants ?

If so, then how did he treat you after that? Is he still treating you the same? Then I say he is definitely into you
Also, he already knows that you are thinking about 'what is next', he is probably confused too about why you are not asking anything about it to him.

So don't be afraid to show him that you are afraid. He will probably love it and comfort you and open himself up to you about his plans.

I like this advice.
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Posted by c0mrade
Hi Capri_Pants,

Looking at your handle, I assume you are a Capricorn.

I have dated many Capricorn women and I am a Taurus, I know the relationship is just too good to be true. It's more like a Friendship than a relationship sometimes. So the question is, are you guys physically close? Did you let him get into your Capri Pants ?

If so, then how did he treat you after that? Is he still treating you the same? Then I say he is definitely into you
Also, he already knows that you are thinking about 'what is next', he is probably confused too about why you are not asking anything about it to him.

So don't be afraid to show him that you are afraid. He will probably love it and comfort you and open himself up to you about his plans.

I do feel like it is much more friendly than previous relationships. It’s not particularly romantic but he has told me stories of how romantic he has been in the past. I know of some baggage concerning a verbally abusive ex of his but other than that I feel there’s a wall. I’m not sure if I’m putting it up or if he is. He has gotten into my Capri pants ha! He still communicates regularly. I will try to be more open to see where he would like to take this. My friends have told me in the past that I am blind to men’s feelings toward me. I never want to assume the wrong thing but it’s better to talk than stay in limbo