Taurus men outwardly masculine, inwardly feminine

So I have posted about this Taurus man I've been talking to for a couple of months now. He seems very masculine on the outside. For example, he shows very little emotion, he likes to be the provider (pay for things,do things for me), he is very active and works really hard.....but he has some characteristics that don't match his masculinity. For example, I find that I am the one intiating most of the time. Like I'll call him and ask to visit him or to go on a date and he gladly complies and treats me like a princess when we are together, but he does tend to beat around the bush concerning us. Perfect example, I texted him last night and he told me that he was driving into town for his mom's bday (we live in different cities). He let me know how long he would be here, but didn't ask to see me....

I have a feeling that if I were to text him and ask to see him he would say yes, but it's like he NEVER is the aggressor and NEVER initiates. Help ©

It could be he just doesn't really care that much. In my experience Taurus men DO initiate when they really want you. So I'd have some questions about his commitment to this relationship.

Been wondering about his commitment myself too season....especially since he's a Aries moon and Aries Venus seems like he would have no prob initiating....being an Aries Venus I have no prob cutting his butt off either if I feel a lack of attention...and that's probably where it's heading too

... doesn't seem like he feels the same way, he's just being nice. Taurus men always take the initiative. Their feelings for people are so blatantly obvious, the other person wouldn't even question it.

He probably sees you as a friend and you're just looking way too deeply into things.

Not an expert on the matter but my boyfriend of five months is Taurus Sun with Aries Venus (Aries Merc, Cap Mars, Leo Moon and Rising). He pursued me and initiated from day one and he still does now. He's usually the one to ask me 'when am I seeing you next?' He knows what he wants too. He's 45 so maybe it might have something to do with it.

What I would say though is the spontaneity and ideas come from me. I'm more of the instigator and driver in deciding what it is we actually do when we meet up. If it was up to him then we would probably do very little each time we saw each other. It would focus around food and/or film or cinema, and bedtime antics obviously. However, if I suggest cooking something together or to go to a different place to eat or to go to see a show he's exceptionally easy going and receptive to it. He's not much of a planner whereas I've always got plans on the go weeks in advance so I think that makes a difference.

He is also very masculine, he often pays, he has fixed loads of stuff in my house too which is much appreciated by me. He does have a passive side but this is mainly in the bedroom department.

I know my boyfriend is not as confident as he'd like to be and I think that plays a big part in not initiating as much which sounds daft as he still continued to pursue me even thought he thought there would be no chance. It's in his own head!

Perhaps your guy is just made that way?
Perhaps he's not confident with you?
Perhaps he's not 100% about you or what kind of relationship you're in together?
I think if he wasn't interested he wouldn't bother with you.

I think the driving to see his mum and not seeing you is just him being a bloke.

I'd suggest being more clear on what you want with him and from him. It doesn't sound like you know what you're in with him. Is it dating, sex, long term, none of the above??

Posted by BadGrlCapi
... doesn't seem like he feels the same way, he's just being nice. Taurus men always take the initiative. Their feelings for people are so blatantly obvious, the other person wouldn't even question it.

He probably sees you as a friend and you're just looking way too deeply into things.

This is true. My bloke always made his intentions clear from day one. He knew what he wanted. I think this could apply to all guys who aren't fucking about. Not just Taurus.

OP, perhaps stop initiating and see what he does. If days, weeks, months go by and you don't hear from him then you have your answer.

Posted by Mermaiddreams
So I have posted about this Taurus man I've been talking to for a couple of months now. He seems very masculine on the outside. For example, he shows very little emotion, he likes to be the provider (pay for things,do things for me), he is very active and works really hard.....but he has some characteristics that don't match his masculinity. For example, I find that I am the one intiating most of the time. Like I'll call him and ask to visit him or to go on a date and he gladly complies and treats me like a princess when we are together, but he does tend to beat around the bush concerning us. Perfect example, I texted him last night and he told me that he was driving into town for his mom's bday (we live in different cities). He let me know how long he would be here, but didn't ask to see me....

I have a feeling that if I were to text him and ask to see him he would say yes, but it's like he NEVER is the aggressor and NEVER initiates. Help ©

Taurus men when they like you that much. They give give give (text, time, etc) no need to guess.
They initiate...not the way around.

Congrats AgentP.

You found a good one. No more guessing games. lol

And dd this is what I don't want to happen....I have a Taurus moon myself so I'm pretty domesticated and have a high boredom threshold myself.

the taurus men I know, I know they can be very lazy, I imagine if you're the one initiating, they'll gladly let you, and even try to entrap you in that routine.

With Taurus females it's quite the opposite (outwardly feminine, inwardly masculine). You'll have to comprise and find a way to wear the pants by turn - while in a relationship with a Taurus women. Also, it's quite helpful to learn some defensive moves - cause some of them sure know how to throw a punch (don't get fool by their soft hands - their knuckles hurt like crowbars). 🙈

Posted by M143

Congrats AgentP.

You found a good one. No more guessing games. lol

Yeah he's a genuinely nice bloke. Decent upbringing, good set of morals, a definite keeper. Looks like all that previous Taurus research paid off!

Well, I found out the truth this weekend he was playing me y'all. He told me he was coming in town Thursday night, did not speak to me all day on Friday (I did not initiate either), he texted me on Saturday and asked me if I was off of work yet and I replied yes...and he never texted me back. So I decided to go out downtown with my girlfriend. When I'm at my girlfriend's house getting ready he texted me "hey" around 11pm, I ignored him bc he never texted me back earlier that day.

Y'all won't believe this......

So after getting ready, my girlfriend and I go downtown. As we are walking downtown guess who I see? You guessed it...its Mr. Taurus. He sees me too and he stops in front of me, expecting me to stop and acknowledge him, but I look him in the face and walk right past him.

He's nothing but a joke.

Sorry to hear@Op. What you going to do now?

And what did you learn from this all?