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Guy doing this? (9)
IME aquas can be retarded like that (and I mean that... SLOW as all hell, not picking up on those cues to make a move FFS), and still be really into you. It's counterintuitive.
I prefer to be pursued generally, but I am telling you girl, with my aqua ex I had to do everything. And the physical/sexual tension and buildup got to be too much, to where I'm like... I can't do this anymore, I literally have to have you right now 🤣🤣🤣 God knows how long they can wait. Forever probably. It's fucking torture. But their level of self control is kind of hot tbh
Edit: sorry I thought this was on the aqua forum and not the man cave. Not that it matters
he almost slept over my place tonight (2nd time) but his aunt nagged him to go home. we watched this movie i can't even remember what it's called coz i'm trying to analyze this but he teared up (movie ends with this time travelling guy going back in time to reunite with his first love, they dance to some old timey music and kiss). i finally thought 'hey, maybe this movie's not so bad. he might be inspired to'... but now i'm just 300% sure he's a virgin (and this being the main reason why i'm not bulldozing my way, such pressure to be somebody's first) but no sexual curiosity at all? he just buys me stuff and expect nothing? maybe i'd bulldoze through this if he wasn't a virgin but i get this feeling i'd have to play the waiting game.
and my level of self-control looks amazing only on the outside where it matters.
He has a feminine and maybe shy Mars...
IME aquas can be retarded like that (and I mean that... SLOW as all hell, not picking up on those cues to make a move FFS), and still be really into you. It's counterintuitive.
I prefer to be pursued generally, but I am telling you girl, with my aqua ex I had to do everything. And the physical/sexual tension and buildup got to be too much, to where I'm like... I can't do this anymore, I literally have to have you right now 🤣🤣🤣 God knows how long they can wait. Forever probably. It's fucking torture. But their level of self control is kind of hot tbh
Edit: sorry I thought this was on the aqua forum and not the man cave. Not that it matters
he almost slept over my place tonight (2nd time) but his aunt nagged him to go home. we watched this movie i can't even remember what it's called coz i'm trying to analyze this but he teared up (movie ends with this time travelling guy going back in time to reunite with his first love, they dance to some old timey music and kiss). i finally thought 'hey, maybe this movie's not so bad. he might be inspired to'... but now i'm just 300% sure he's a virgin (and this being the main reason why i'm not bulldozing my way, such pressure to be somebody's first) but no sexual curiosity at all? he just buys me stuff and expect nothing? maybe i'd bulldoze through this if he wasn't a virgin but i get this feeling i'd have to play the waiting game.
and my level of self-control looks amazing only on the outside where it matters.
This guy I was with definitely wasn't a virgin unless he lied to me, but he was inexperienced. As was I. He could not last long. I don't know what it was about him or me or us, but we were having sex like rabbits. I mean really, 7x a day, and it was NOT ENOUGH for me. Oh to be in your early twenties again.
What makes you so sure that your guy is a virgin? I know several aquarius men who come off that way. I think they seem so, because they can be so incredibly awkward. Is this the one who you talked about before, who was disabled?
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sometimes i entertain the thought that maybe he's closet gay. maybe this is some hetero experiment he's doing, exploring whatever then couple of years from now i'll get kris jennerd.
he just turned 20 this february. i have no idea how i lasted over a month with him not putting out. we never ONCE talked about sex. never came up. i tried to push shit by talking about other men but he acts like he didn't hear me say anything about that. after the movie he asks me if i cried and inside i'm like: 'is this dude for real?' and he's so religious. but i only ever attract hypocrites who act pious but fuck like hoes. but this guy might actually be the real deal.
i hate that i like him given that:
a.) he's a virgin
b.) he's religious (with glossy eyes that cult members usually have when talking about their faith)
c.) cries easily
d.) his aunt rules his life
tried my best not to like him but i failed. thought it'd be easy to discard him coz we're so different. but so weird we like the same food, movies, places, similar goals. our personalities though..... blows my mind how this works. and how i'm actually on board with this.
haha no the disabled one was a pisces sun/libra moon.
I would ask him about his exes
i'm the first girl EVER that he seriously dated.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
What’s wrong with you making the first move anyway? If he’s got no experience you will be doing him a favour.
i KNOW i will make the first move but he's a virgin, don't wanna push him away by forcing sex on him. this is only a matter of WHEN.
man i remember 3-4 threads with stories of guys who buy trinkets and for some reason it never ends well.
what does men giving trinkets mean?
Just make the first move...why be shy now? If he is a virgin...he's gonna be nervous as hell and probably cum in 2 secs...so keep that in mind or you might traumatize him for life.
Just make the first move...why be shy now? If he is a virgin...he's gonna be nervous as hell and probably cum in 2 secs...so keep that in mind or you might traumatize him for life.
8pm strikes and his aunt calls him home. he's worse than Cinderella. i feel like i'm the bad boy in an 80s romcom trying to get a chick to put out. like i need to climb through a window and hide from the dad. maybe i'll even brag about taking his virginity someday. i'm planning to ask him about his first kiss (hopefully this month). and i bet my whole ass he hasn't even had one. i might be his first everything.
there was this Aqua girl who sounds like this guy who dated a Leo boy who she told me suddenly exposed himself when they were watching a movie. she got spooked and broke up with him.
is this my future?
Just make the first move...why be shy now? If he is a virgin...he's gonna be nervous as hell and probably cum in 2 secs...so keep that in mind or you might traumatize him for life.
8pm strikes and his aunt calls him home. he's worst than Cinderella. i feel like i'm the bad boy in an 80s romcom trying to get a chick to put out. like i need to climb through a window and hide from the dad. maybe i'll even brag about taking his virginity someday. i'm planning to ask him about his first kiss (hopefully this month). and i bet my whole ass he hasn't even had one. i might be his first everything.
there was thi Aqua girl who sounds like this guy who dated a Leo boy who she told me suddenly exposed himself when they were watching a movie. she got spooked and broke up with him.
is this my future?
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😂😂 @ the aqua girl/Leo boy story
Well if he pulls that move..at least you know he's ready lol
Just make the first move...why be shy now? If he is a virgin...he's gonna be nervous as hell and probably cum in 2 secs...so keep that in mind or you might traumatize him for life.
8pm strikes and his aunt calls him home. he's worst than Cinderella. i feel like i'm the bad boy in an 80s romcom trying to get a chick to put out. like i need to climb through a window and hide from the dad. maybe i'll even brag about taking his virginity someday. i'm planning to ask him about his first kiss (hopefully this month). and i bet my whole ass he hasn't even had one. i might be his first everything.
there was thi Aqua girl who sounds like this guy who dated a Leo boy who she told me suddenly exposed himself when they were watching a movie. she got spooked and broke up with him.
is this my future?
😂😂 @ the aqua girl/Leo boy story
Well if he pulls that move..at least you know he's ready lol
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BUT i'm the Leo boy in this story haha coz i know for sure i'm gonna be making the first move here. i just need for him to send me some sexual signal. just give me a sign, know what i mean?
since you came here you mostly talk about big dicks and you fell for a religious virgin boy with controlling aunt. LOL u
god has a sense of humor.
all he's got is jokes.
Just make the first move...why be shy now? If he is a virgin...he's gonna be nervous as hell and probably cum in 2 secs...so keep that in mind or you might traumatize him for life.
8pm strikes and his aunt calls him home. he's worst than Cinderella. i feel like i'm the bad boy in an 80s romcom trying to get a chick to put out. like i need to climb through a window and hide from the dad. maybe i'll even brag about taking his virginity someday. i'm planning to ask him about his first kiss (hopefully this month). and i bet my whole ass he hasn't even had one. i might be his first everything.
there was this Aqua girl who sounds like this guy who dated a Leo boy who she told me suddenly exposed himself when they were watching a movie. she got spooked and broke up with him.
is this my future?
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lmbo
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
Doesn't it turn you off that he's a mommy's boy to his aunt?
That may never change
And 8pm.....really? Most 20 yr old adults stay out all night.....that's normal. What's up with his aunt......weirdo. 😕
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
Haha we both used the word weirdo
She's very weird
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
gonna be blunt with you. felt a bit disgusted and annoyed. how can you just let somebody control your life? he is bigger and taller than most men i've been with (except the Scorpio). and he can't even sleepover too long in my place? he laughably asked: 'what does she think about me (his aunt), that i'm gonna rape you?'
shit is hilarious coz i'm the more sexual one.
Just make the first move...why be shy now? If he is a virgin...he's gonna be nervous as hell and probably cum in 2 secs...so keep that in mind or you might traumatize him for life.
8pm strikes and his aunt calls him home. he's worst than Cinderella. i feel like i'm the bad boy in an 80s romcom trying to get a chick to put out. like i need to climb through a window and hide from the dad. maybe i'll even brag about taking his virginity someday. i'm planning to ask him about his first kiss (hopefully this month). and i bet my whole ass he hasn't even had one. i might be his first everything.
there was thi Aqua girl who sounds like this guy who dated a Leo boy who she told me suddenly exposed himself when they were watching a movie. she got spooked and broke up with him.
is this my future?
😂😂 @ the aqua girl/Leo boy story
Well if he pulls that move..at least you know he's ready lol
BUT i'm the Leo boy in this story haha coz i know for sure i'm gonna be making the first move here. i just need for him to send me some sexual signal. just give me a sign, know what i mean?
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You're a Virgo...you know what to do 😉
IME aquas can be retarded like that (and I mean that... SLOW as all hell, not picking up on those cues to make a move FFS), and still be really into you. It's counterintuitive.
I prefer to be pursued generally, but I am telling you girl, with my aqua ex I had to do everything. And the physical/sexual tension and buildup got to be too much, to where I'm like... I can't do this anymore, I literally have to have you right now 🤣🤣🤣 God knows how long they can wait. Forever probably. It's fucking torture. But their level of self control is kind of hot tbh
Edit: sorry I thought this was on the aqua forum and not the man cave. Not that it matters
he almost slept over my place tonight (2nd time) but his aunt nagged him to go home. we watched this movie i can't even remember what it's called coz i'm trying to analyze this but he teared up (movie ends with this time travelling guy going back in time to reunite with his first love, they dance to some old timey music and kiss). i finally thought 'hey, maybe this movie's not so bad. he might be inspired to'... but now i'm just 300% sure he's a virgin (and this being the main reason why i'm not bulldozing my way, such pressure to be somebody's first) but no sexual curiosity at all? he just buys me stuff and expect nothing? maybe i'd bulldoze through this if he wasn't a virgin but i get this feeling i'd have to play the waiting game.
and my level of self-control looks amazing only on the outside where it matters.
This guy I was with definitely wasn't a virgin unless he lied to me, but he was inexperienced. As was I. He could not last long. I don't know what it was about him or me or us, but we were having sex like rabbits. I mean really, 7x a day, and it was NOT ENOUGH for me. Oh to be in your early twenties again.
What makes you so sure that your guy is a virgin? I know several aquarius men who come off that way. I think they seem so, because they can be so incredibly awkward. Is this the one who you talked about before, who was disabled?
sometimes i entertain the thought that maybe he's closet gay. maybe this is some hetero experiment he's doing, exploring whatever then couple of years from now i'll get kris jennerd.
he just turned 20 this february. i have no idea how i lasted over a month with him not putting out. we never ONCE talked about sex. never came up. i tried to push shit by talking about other men but he acts like he didn't hear me say anything about that. after the movie he asks me if i cried and inside i'm like: 'is this dude for real?' and he's so religious. but i only ever attract hypocrites who act pious but fuck like hoes. but this guy might actually be the real deal.
i hate that i like him given that:
a.) he's a virgin
b.) he's religious (with glossy eyes that cult members usually have when talking about their faith)
c.) cries easily
d.) his aunt rules his life
tried my best not to like him but i failed. thought it'd be easy to discard him coz we're so different. but so weird we like the same food, movies, places, similar goals. our personalities though..... blows my mind how this works. and how i'm actually on board with this.
haha no the disabled one was a pisces sun/libra moon.
Okay then he has this kind of creepy and unnatural relationship with his aunt. My ex had that with his mother, in that she was doing the same shit. Calling him and telling him he needs to come home now and spend time with her. Even in the middle of dates. I put up with 5 years of this middle aged woman's jealously and for me going forward, that is a HUGE dealbreaker for me. You will always be in competition with this aunt and you will never be good enough for her precious baby boy
I wonder if these moms/aunts know they are actually destroying these men by acting this way? I doubt it.
I say run run run
I have a feeling you want to deflower him though
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not gonna lie, i wanna be his first. what? do people think only MEN think this way? i am in a state of constant lust, seeing as how i'm not getting my way. guys are usually hoes but this one is soooo different.
she's worried about him being in the capital coz he's a country boy. an innocent little bumpkin who happens to look like a mini giant. what i really find weird is how his own mother (he lives with her sisters) enrolls him in fighting classes (MMA and now she wants him to get into boxing). thought that he wanted those things for himself but THEY (these controlling women) set his path for him. part of me wants to save him from that, make him realize that just coz they said that it's 'bad,' doesn't make it a 'sin.'
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
gonna be blunt with you. felt a bit disgusted and annoyed. how can you just let somebody control your life? he is bigger and taller than most men i've been with (except the Scorpio). and he can't even sleepover too long in my place? he laughably asked: 'what does she think about me (his aunt), that i'm gonna rape you?'
shit is hilarious coz i'm the more sexual one.
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That's what I'm saying. It looks like she's slowly but effectively ruining a young man's psyche. He may laugh about it, but it is far from being funny (and I think he knows that, just covers it with humour). The auntie could be quite dangerous for your boy's mental health (which, of course, influences physical performance). It is not easy to talk about that with him, who knows how much damage has already been done.
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
Haha we both used the word weirdo
She's very weird
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Weirdo+weirdo=definitely a weirdo
I feel sorry for the girl...it's a neverending battle, fighting the demons in the family...
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I wonder if these moms/aunts know they are actually destroying these men by acting this way? I doubt it.
They don’t care, the son/family member is like a surrogate husband so they get some attention. Willing to bet she isn’t in a relationship.
Maybe being harsh on the guy though. We don’t know the full situation. Did she bring him up? He may feel obligated to her.
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last time he saw his mom was back in 2013. and you know what she said to him, the only reason she'd come back home? is that only when he finally gets a job after studying. he tells me how excited he is to start working so he can repay her for everything she's done.
what kind of shit is that to say to your kid? 'coming home when you finally get a job.'
shit my scorpio moon dad forces money on me. showers me materially while these women burdens him with expectations.
i just keep my mouth shut about it.
and YES she can't find a man coz apparently she's a 'career woman.' dude i have a job too. big deal.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
he just turned 20 this february. i have no idea how i lasted over a month with him not putting out. we never ONCE talked about sex. never came up. i tried to push shit by talking about other men but he acts like he didn't hear me say anything about that.
He has no experience, you’re gonna have to show him. Other thought is religious = no sex before marriage?
If you brought this ‘other men’ shit with me I’d assume you were playing games with me and consider making you a much lower priority / dropping you. It wouldn’t make me think ‘better bang her now’.
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he is so CLEAN. no sexual experience, no vices and so what if i brought up how i'm attracted to other men? he thinks i'm innocent, that i'm a virgin even hahah.
can't blame him. i have wayyyy too many Virgo placements. over the internet i can be vulgar but looking at me, it's the LAST thing you'll ever think about me. this is something he doesn't know about me.
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
Haha we both used the word weirdo
She's very weird
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Yeah...this word has never been used at Dxp before. 😂😂😂
What is his cultural background?
This kinda sounds like your typical control to 'push the kid to a better future' common in some cultures.
You've said before he's enrolled in culinary school, hows the rest of his family? Wealthy, educated? Are they professionals? Or are they pushing him to do better than they have? Maybe he just doesn't want to stay from the path he's on?
traditional and religious. he was raised by his mother, aunts and grandmother. only male grandchild to his family. for a 20 yr old, he sure buys me fancy things. all i know is that they own a big piece of land worth big money. i'm not gonna be that hoe who asks about family fortunes but from what i know, the women have average jobs that pay well but the grandparents are loaded. the grandfather is the only male figure in his life.
we're even coz my grandparents are loaded too.
and these aunts are really smart. like you can't deflower and give him drugs during the day.
hahah
His aunt sounds suspicious. Forcing him to come back home after watching a movie with you? Religious aunties are covered up weirdos...I feel she has a negative influence on him
Haha we both used the word weirdo
She's very weird
Weirdo+weirdo=definitely a weirdo
I feel sorry for the girl...it's a neverending battle, fighting the demons in the family...
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Oh i have been there with more than one man.....never again, i find it a turn off...
Then i married a guy who had no relationship with his mother....that isn't good either but at least she never interfered in our lives, she was far too indifferent for that. They both have Aqua moons haha
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
I wonder if these moms/aunts know they are actually destroying these men by acting this way? I doubt it.
They don’t care, the son/family member is like a surrogate husband so they get some attention. Willing to bet she isn’t in a relationship.
Maybe being harsh on the guy though. We don’t know the full situation. Did she bring him up? He may feel obligated to her.
When you put it like that 🤢
Still, I know a guy who is trapped and manipulated into being a "husband" to his aunt, and while she has MS, it has stopped him from getting a job, having a gf, getting his own place. Essentially this unhealthy relationship with his aunt makes it so that he can't even live his life.
I don't feel any obligation to a family member should come at the expense of someone else living their life. The guy I know DESPISES his aunt and resents her so much, but she makes him feel that obligation because she is his last remaining family member. She needs to be in hospice care, and knowing their situation, I know she could get the kind of care she needs paid through disability, but she rejects it because she wants her NEPHEW to do it all for her.
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many people live their whole lives under obligation/service to other people. as a Virgo, i know how that feels but you can't always keep choosing duty to your own detriment. after all the talks we've had, i sincerely believe that there's a secret part of him that wants to break free. he kept bringing up moving in together, even leaving for another country where he doesn't have to be bound by culture. and this might not sound right coz i'm so possessive (got Taurus moon), but no matter what i'd always root for him even without me in the picture. i got so deep in the friendzone that i'm okay with this now.
Maybe thats his love language-giving gifts
What is his cultural background?
This kinda sounds like your typical control to 'push the kid to a better future' common in some cultures.
You've said before he's enrolled in culinary school, hows the rest of his family? Wealthy, educated? Are they professionals? Or are they pushing him to do better than they have? Maybe he just doesn't want to stay from the path he's on?
traditional and religious. he was raised by his mother, aunts and grandmother. only male grandchild to his family. for a 20 yr old, he sure buys me fancy things. all i know is that they own a big piece of land worth big money. i'm not gonna be that hoe who asks about family fortunes but from what i know, the women have average jobs that pay well but the grandparents are loaded. the grandfather is the only male figure in his life.
we're even coz my grandparents are loaded too.
Are they educated?
How they make their money makes a big difference also. My family is similar - one side owned thousands of acres and were humble, the other side owned several large businesses and more flashy. My mother still talkes about their first date being spent at the bottom of my father's driveway staring at their house.
You said before he mentioned after he gets a job he planned on getting you guys a hotel room. When does he graduate?
I still think he's practicing discipline until he graduates. Everything you've mentioned just makes me think mental determination on a goal. Which IMO is a good thing.
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not as educated as my family. but his is more ambitious. he's very materialistic judging from how he keeps buying me things. i'm appreciative but i don't want him to keep using this as a form of affection coz then it will start to look like obligation to me. sucks all the romance out of this whole thing. and there's something about him, similar to those country boys who turn to politics- he's got this ambition. he wants a lot of things. my theory is coz deep down he feels deprived of control/power. at 25 i realized, i'm attracted to hungry men. and religious men are always hungry.
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if a guy buys you all kinds of things, from little trinkets to jewelry (you are just as generous to him in return) but he hasn't kissed you or tried to make any kind of physical/sexual move (a little over a month), then what does that mean?
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